Mark 6:1-6 · A Prophet Without Honor
Rejected at Home
Mark 6:1-6
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by King Duncan
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Steven was a young man who felt the call of God on his life. He came from a really close family. He finished college and then went off to seminary.  After finishing seminary he came back home before going to his first church. He visited with all of his relatives for about a week. He stopped by the church and talked to his hometown pastor. The pastor asked him if he would like to preach that upcoming  Sunday. Steven felt honored and took the pastor up on the invitation.  Sunday morning came and after hours, yes, even days, of preparation he stepped up behind the pulpit, looked out at the congregation of friends and relatives and started to expound the knowledge that he had learned. 

Well, he had hardly begun, when his young niece, Kathleen, about six years old, stepped out into the aisle and put her hands on her hips, her left foot out in front of the other, her head cocked to one side. Then she said in a very loud and clear voice for her age, "Uncle Steven, you don't know what you are talking about!" (1)  I don't know how Uncle Steven finished that message. But undoubtedly it was an experience he will never forget. 

It's hard to impress the people at home, isn't it? The whole world may be singing your praises, but at home, folks see you as the shy kid with two left feet. Or as the wild and crazy guy who was always in trouble. 

Jesus was enjoying unparalleled success all around Galilee. Large crowds were coming to hear him teach and to experience his healing power. But it was time for a little R & R. So he headed back to his hometown of Nazareth, accompanied by his disciples. When the Sabbath came, he began to teach in the synagogue, and many who heard him were amazed. "Where did this man get these things?" they asked. "What's this wisdom that has been given him, that he even does miracles! Isn't this the carpenter? Isn't this Mary's son and the brother of James, Joseph, Judas and Simon? Aren't his sisters here with us?" And, Mark tells us, "they took offense at him." Jesus said to them, "Only in his hometown, among his relatives and in his own house is a prophet without honor." He could not do any miracles there, Mark continues, "except lay his hands on a few sick people and heal them. And he was amazed at their lack of faith." 

Who was it who said, "You can't go home again"? I believe it was Thomas Wolfe. Wolfe, by the way, grew up in a large, sprawling house at 48 Spruce Street in Asheville, NC. He wrote about his growing up years there in a novel which he called Look Homeward, Angel.  So frank and realistic were his reminiscences that Look Homeward, Angel was banned from Asheville's public library for over seven years. Today he is a favorite son, but for many years he was an embarrassment to many of the residents of that lovely, Southern city. 

Jesus was an embarrassment not only to his hometown, but also to his own family. Earlier in Mark's Gospel we read these mystifying words, "Then Jesus entered a house, and again a crowd gathered, so that he and his disciples were not even able to eat. When his family heard about this, they went to take charge of him, for they said, 'He is out of his mind.'" (3:20-21) 

Think your family doesn't appreciate you? Welcome to the club. Jesus wasn't appreciated either. His own family thought he was out of his mind. After his death and resurrection Jesus' mother and brothers were very active in the leadership of the church, but when Jesus first began his ministry, they were not what you would term "supportive."  I believe this fact may resonate with a few of you. Maybe you don't feel appreciated either. Maybe you don't feel appreciated at home. People there don't treat you with much respect. Or, maybe it's at school that you feel you don't get much respect. Or at work. Maybe even here at the church. Someone else gets to sing all the solos. Someone else gets all the recognition. It happens.

Comedian Rodney Dangerfield made a career out of not getting any respect--from his wife, from his kids, from his parents. He said, "I don't get any respect. My father carries around the picture of the kid who came with his wallet."  It happens in families, in communities, in the workplace, in churches. No respect. 

James S. Hewett once gave an apt example of people not getting the respect they deserve. Especially young people. He tells about his son, who was using one of those super-adhesive glues on a model airplane he was building. "In less than three minutes," says James Hewett, "his right index finger was bonded to a shiny blue wing of his DC-10. He tried to free it. He tugged it, pulled it, waved it frantically, but he couldn't budge his finger free." Soon, they located a solvent that did the job and ended their moment of crisis.  Then James Hewitt writes this: "Last night I remembered that scene when I visited a new family in our neighborhood. The father of the family introduced his children: 'This is Pete. He's the clumsy one of the lot.'  'That's Kathy coming in with mud on her shoes. She's the sloppy one.' 'As always, Mike is last. He'll be late for his own funeral, I promise you.'" 

James Hewett goes on to say, "The dad did a thorough job of gluing his children to their faults and mistakes. People do it to us all the time. They remind us of our failures, our errors, our sins, and they won't let us live them down. Like my son trying frantically to free his finger from the plane, there are people who try, sometimes desperately, to free themselves from their past. They would love a chance to begin again. When we don't let people forget their past, when we don't forgive, we glue them to their mistakes and refuse to see them as more than something they have done. However, when we forgive, we gently pry the doer of the hurtful deed from the deed itself, and we say that the past is just that--the past--over and done with . . ." (2) 

Jesus obviously didn't have anything that needed forgiving. But the people in his community would not let him forget that he was the carpenter's son. In their minds he was still one of the neighborhood brats--not somebody to be taken seriously. 

We understand that, don't we? What is it they say? An expert is someone who's fifty miles from home. The interesting thing is that Jesus could not do any miracles there, Mark continues, "except lay his hands on a few sick people and heal them." 

He could not do any miracles! Does that mean that when we do not take people seriously, when we do not give them the respect they deserve, we may cripple their effectiveness?  Of course it does.

Some of you may remember the romantic story of Johnny Lingo. It was made into a motion picture years ago.  Johnny Lingo lived in the South Pacific. The islanders all spoke highly of Johnny Lingo. He was strong, good-looking, and very intelligent. But when it came time for him to find a wife, people shook their heads in disbelief.  The woman Johnny chose was plain, skinny, and walked with her shoulders hunched and her head down. She was very hesitant and shy. She was also a bit older than the other married women in the village, which did nothing for her value. 

But Johnny Lingo loved her. What surprised everyone most was Johnny's offer. In order to obtain a wife, you paid for her by giving her father cows. Four to six cows was considered a high price. The other villagers thought he might pay two or even three cows for his new bride, at the most. But he gave eight cows for her! Everyone chuckled about it, since they believed his father-in-law put one over on him. Some thought it was a mistake.  Several months after the wedding, a visitor from the United States came to the Islands to trade and heard the story of Johnny Lingo and his eight-cow wife.  Upon meeting Johnny and his wife the visitor was totally taken aback, since this wasn't a shy, plain, and hesitant woman at all, but one who was beautiful, poised, and confident. The visitor asked about this transformation. Johnny Lingo's response was very simple. "I wanted an eight-cow woman, and when I paid that for her and treated her in that fashion, she began to believe that she was an eight-cow woman. She discovered she was worth more than any other woman in the islands. And what matters most is what a woman thinks of herself." (3) 

I wonder what might happen if more men started treating their wives like eight-cow wives. Marcus Buckingham, senior vice president of the Gallup Organization and author of Now, Discover Your Strengths, says that the number one sign of a healthy marriage is that spouses see each other more positively than other people do. And anytime a partner esteems his or her spouse lower than outsiders do, it's a sign that there is trouble in the relationship. (4) 

I wonder what might happen if more parents started treating their teenagers like eight-cow teenagers. If more employers started treating their employees like eight-cow employees. Even Jesus was affected by how the folks at home treated him. If that is true of Jesus, how much more is that true of the people we interact with each day? The people around us crave to be treated with respect, dignity, love.  I see families that are torn apart unnecessarily. All that is required is for family members to offer one another a little respect, to take one another seriously, to listen and show appreciation. 

If you are one of these people who don't get much respect, remember Jesus. His own family and his own town could not see who he was. But, of course, that did not keep Him from achieving His purpose in life.  He "was amazed at their lack of faith," but it did not slow him down. He knew who he was. He knew why he was here--to serve God--and he gave himself completely to the task at hand. 

Automobile pioneer Henry Ford once said something quite encouraging to those of us who may not feel appreciated. He was speaking of his car, the Model-T, all of which came in the same color and style. His words still ring true. He said, "All Fords are exactly alike, but no two [people] are just alike. Every new life is a new thing under the sun; there has never been anything just like it before, and never will be again. A young [person] ought to get that idea about himself; he should look for the single spark of individuality that makes him different from other folks, and develop that for all he's worth. Society and schools may try to iron it out of him; their tendency is to put us all in the same mold, but I say, 'Don't let that spark be lost; it's your only real claim to importance.'" 

That's a good word for us all. We may not be getting the positive strokes at home that we feel we deserve, but that need not keep us from being all we can be. There's a man hanging on a cross who was rejected by his own family, his own town, his own nation. But he saved the world. And he says to us, "Keep the faith. You are a unique creation of the living God. Let no one tell you that you are of little worth. You are of ultimate value to my Father. You are so valuable that I died to save you." 

Let me tell you about a young man named Michael. Michael had real trouble accepting himself. He didn't get the respect he needed at home. He never fit in with any particular group.  He had trouble making friends.  His self-esteem was in the basement.  One day in high school, Michael recalls, he looked in the mirror and realized that he hated himself.  He writes, "That day, I made a decision to just exist in this life, to get through it, and to spend the rest of my time dreaming about a place where I was happy, popular, and influential." 

Michael's insecurity and emptiness stayed with him as he entered adulthood.  But his whole life changed in a very short period of time when he attended a Billy Graham Conference in Amsterdam.  At the conference, Michael gained a new image of God, God as a loving Father, as a Creator who intended good for God's children.  After Michael gave his life to Jesus, he experienced the kind of love he'd been hearing about.  As Michael grew in his faith, he also learned to like and accept himself.  He made friends more easily.  Now that his self-esteem was firmly rooted in his identity as a child of God, Michael became more confident and happier. (5) 

Here is where true self respect begins. It is when we realize that we are a child of God. It begins when we realize that Christ died in our behalf. It begins when we hear the Master, who didn't receive any respect from his own people, say to us, "Your sense of identity comes from me. I respect you. I appreciate you. I died for you. I believe in you. I have a purpose for you. Believe in me and never question your self-worth again." Here is where it all begins. Like Michael, our lives can be turned around, by trusting ourselves to Jesus.


1. Roy Fowler in "Can We Limit God?"

2. Illustrations Unlimited.

3. Christian Voices. Cited witandwisdom-on@lists.tagnet.org

4. John C. Maxwell, Winning with People (Nashville: Nelson Books, 2004).

5. Michael in My God Story, compiled by Bob Coy (Fort Lauderdale, FL: Calvary Chapel Church, Inc., 2001), pp. 32-36.   

Dynamic Preaching, Collected Sermons, by King Duncan