John 3:1-21 · Jesus Teaches Nicodemus
Close! But No Cigar!
John 3:1-17
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by King Duncan & Angela Akers
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Have you ever gotten an unexpected visitor? Maybe you’ve just settled into your easy chair for the evening. Your only plan is to turn off your mind and relax a while. And then the doorbell rings. There go your plans. Who knows what needs are on the other side of that door? All you know is your plans for the evening just got put on hold.

You may remember a story that made international news back in 1982. Very early in the morning of July 9, 1982, a young man named Michael Fagan broke into Buckingham Palace and entered Queen Elizabeth’s bedroom. The Queen was still asleep. Can you imagine her surprise when she realized the man standing over her bed was not a member of her staff? Fagan reassured her that he wasn’t there to hurt her, that he just wanted to talk to her.

It amazes me that the Queen kept her cool. She sat up and listened to Fagan as he told her about how hard it was to support his four children after his wife had left him. Amazingly, Fagan’s break-in had set off numerous Palace alarms, but the security staff ignored them because no one had ever successfully broken in before. Eventually, a member of the household staff came and escorted Michael Fagan out of the Queen’s bedroom. Soon the police arrived to arrest him. (1)

This story makes me wonder, do you think it set off any alarms in Jesus’ mind when Nicodemus, a leader of the Pharisees, came to see him at night? Bible scholars speculate that maybe Nicodemus didn’t want to be seen talking to Jesus. He had his reputation and position to protect.

It reminds me of a funny quote I read: “You know you’re into middle age when you realize that caution is the only thing you care to exercise.” (2) Nicodemus was a respected elder in his community. Maybe he was just being cautious by visiting Jesus at night.

Today marks the second Sunday in the season of Lent, a period of 40 days set aside specifically for Christians to reflect on the events leading up to the death of Jesus. For the month of March, we will be studying four people and their encounters with Jesus. Each person came to him with a different need. Each person came to him with a different question. To each person, Jesus revealed some part of his mission as the Messiah, the Savior of the world. And each person walked away with a second chance at life, a chance to live a new life because they had met God face-to-face. I pray that in this season leading up to Easter every single person here will also get a second chance at a new life.

Our first encounter is with Nicodemus, a leader among the Pharisees. I do wonder why Nicodemus came to Jesus at night, but I also wonder why Nicodemus came to Jesus at all. What was he expecting from this encounter?

Pastor Jim Mohr shares that people of African descent in the U.S. have a special appreciation for the story of Nicodemus. During the days of slavery in America, enslaved people were only allowed to gather for worship at night, after they had completed all their work. As Pastor Mohr writes, “The slaves saw in Nicodemus’s night visit proof that it was possible to come to Jesus even when those in power forbade it.”

Of course, the enslaved people were making a tremendous sacrifice in gathering to worship at night. Some of them risked their lives to do so. That’s a measure of their courage to live out their faith no matter what. In our Bible passage today, we see that Nicodemus doesn’t even really know who Jesus is. He’s just curious, not committed. And the only thing he’s risking is his reputation. (3)

In fact, Nicodemus doesn’t seem to have a big question or need that he’s bringing to Jesus. At least, not at first. Their conversation begins with Nicodemus saying, “Rabbi, we know that you are a teacher who has come from God. For no one could perform the signs you are doing if God were not with him.”

And Jesus responds, “Very truly I tell you, no one can see the kingdom of God unless they are born again.[a]” Why did he say that? Because God and the working out of God’s kingdom is staring Nicodemus in the face. Even though Nicodemus has heard his teaching and seen his miracles, he doesn’t know who Jesus is.

Back in the 1920s, the saying, “Close! But no cigar!” became popular across the United States. In those days, one of the most popular forms of entertainment in small towns across the country was traveling fairs or carnivals. Back then carnival games were created to appeal to men because they were the ones with the pocket change to attend entertainment outside the home. These days most of the games at fairs and carnivals are geared to children. But in the early days of the carnivals, men were the primary audience. And cigars were a popular prize with men. So the carnival game stalls were filled with displays of nice cigars to entice the men into forking over a few pennies for a game.

However, many of the carnival games were rigged ever-so-slightly to make it nearly impossible to win. When a customer almost hit the target, carnival barkers would announce, “Close! But no cigar!” As carnivals traveled the country, this phrase became popular from East to West. It became slang for, “You almost got it right, but not quite.” (4)

Nicodemus knew about God. He had dedicated his life to honoring God through his study of and observance of God’s laws. But now he was face-to-face with God incarnate, and he didn’t recognize him. He was close, but no cigar. And so he asked, “How can someone be born when they are old?” I can relate to his confusion. But I think what he’s really asking is, can you show me who God is? What have I been missing all my life?

And that brings us to the first thing we learn from today’s Bible passage: There’s a world of difference between knowing about God and knowing God.

A man from Syria, who chose to remain anonymous for fear of persecution, shared how the knowledge of Jesus changed his life. He was devout and disciplined in the practice of his country’s religion. He had been studying their holy book since childhood, but he knew he was missing something vital in his life. As he said, “. . . religion only filled my days, not my heart.” He begged God to show him the truth, but his study of religion left him feeling empty. He said, “It felt as if something great was surrounding me and waiting for me to run to it, but what could it be?”

I think that quote from the Syrian man may well describe why Nicodemus came to Jesus that night. He saw something great in Jesus’ teaching and in his life, and he wanted to run toward that greatness, but he didn’t know what it was. He didn’t understand that through Jesus, he could know God and have a relationship with God.

So the Syrian man cried out to God. He wanted to know if God was real, if his faith was in vain. One day he heard a radio program about Jesus, and it filled him with joy. He went in secret to a nearby Christian church and spoke with the pastor there. And in that conversation, he discovered a God who chose to make Himself known, a God whose love for us compelled Him to enter into our human experience and take on our weakness and relate to us face-to-face. The Syrian man left there with a new life. He had been born again. As he said, “That day, joy filled my heart, and it felt as if the bells of the church chimed in harmony with the beats of my heart.” (5)

And that brings us to the second insight we learn from this passage: once we’ve heard Jesus’ words, we have to make a decision. No one can remain neutral. Even walking away, as Nicodemus did, is a decision.

Dr. Francis Collins is the former director of the National Human Genome Research Institute. Under his leadership, researchers at the Institute worked to decode the 3 billion DNA letters that make up the human genome. He grew up as an atheist and was quite comfortable in this belief. But before he was the director of one of our nation’s most prestigious scientific institutes, he was a medical doctor. And his witnessing how his patients’ faith in God gave them great comfort in the face of suffering and death caused him to question his beliefs.

He visited a local Methodist minister with the intention of questioning him and “shooting down” his arguments for God. Instead, the minister suggested he read some books by C.S. Lewis and come back to discuss them. In those books, Francis Collins found logical, reasoned evidence for the existence of God.

As he said in an interview with PBS, “I didn't want this conclusion. I was very happy with the idea that God didn't exist, and had no interest in me. And yet at the same time, I could not turn away. . . You can argue yourself, on the basis of pure intellect, right up to the precipice of belief, but then you have to decide. I don't believe intellectual argument alone will push someone across that gap . . . This is supernatural truth. And in that regard, the spirit enters into this, not just the mind.” (6)

And that brings us to the final insight we learn from today’s Bible story: we can’t have the life God offers us until we die to our current life. That’s one of the hardest things any follower of Jesus will face. Nicodemus, like many of us, wasn’t ready for this truth. He walked away that day with no indication that he believed Jesus’ words. He missed the greatest opportunity in the world, to know God and to live a new life empowered by the Spirit of God.

In verse 5, Jesus says, “Very truly I tell you, no one can enter the kingdom of God unless they are born of water and the Spirit.” Water refers to the act of baptism, which symbolizes dying to our old lives and being raised again to new life. And not just a second chance at the same life. To be born again means to live our new life with God’s Spirit aligning our mind and heart with the mind and heart of God. It’s a life that has been transformed.

Many years ago, a ten-year-old boy named Christopher Carrier was kidnapped and almost murdered by a stranger. The man took Christopher out into a remote area of the Florida Everglades, stabbed and shot the boy in the head, and left him for dead near an alligator-infested swamp.

Amazingly, Christopher survived the attack, although he lost his vision in one eye. But the fear of his attacker haunted him, even though he remained under police protection. Three years after the attack, Christopher attended a church youth event. And at this event, he learned about the new life he could find by trusting Jesus as Lord of his life. He became a Christian that night, and this started a process of emotional healing in his life.

In 1996, a man named David McAllister confessed to the kidnapping and attempted murder of Christopher Carrier. McAllister had been an employee of Chris’ father. When Mr. Carrier caught McAllister drinking on the job, he fired him. The vicious attack on young Christopher was revenge for the firing. McAllister was now a frail old man in a local nursing home.

Chris began visiting David McAllister in the nursing home. At first, McAllister denied his crime. He couldn’t admit to his victim what he had done. But Christopher, who had become a Christian speaker, told McAllister, “What you meant for evil, God has turned into a wonderful blessing.” And McAllister finally apologized to Chris for the hurt he had caused him.

The Carrier family began visiting David McAllister regularly in his nursing home.   And one day Chris asked McAllister, “Do you want to know the Lord?” McAllister said yes. They prayed together and David McAllister asked Jesus to be Lord of his life. He died to his old life and was born again into a life aligned with the Spirit of God. A few days later, David McAllister died peacefully in his sleep.

As Christopher Carrier said, “I saw the Lord give that man back his life, and so much more. I can’t wait to see him again someday—in heaven.” (7)

So many of us go through life knowing about God but not knowing God. We spend our lives trying to be good enough to earn God’s love. We study the Bible or do good works in our community. And those are all good and God-honoring things. But we will never work our way to knowing God or earning salvation. And that’s a good thing. God already did the work on our behalf. As John writes in vs. 16-17:  For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.”

We only have to make the decision. Do we believe this? If so, can we give up our own life and exchange it for the transformed life God offers us? That is my hope and prayer for you this Lenten season. God is offering you a new life. Will you accept it?


1. “Who Is Michael Fagan, the Man Who Broke Into Queen Elizabeth's Bedroom?” By Lauren Hubbard Town and Country Magazine November 16, 2020.

2. Mikey's Funnies (funnies-owner@lists.MikeysFunnies.com).

3. “All Through the Night” Pastor Jim Mohr, United Church of Christ in Neillsville

4. “What Does the Saying 'Close, but No Cigar' Really Mean?” by Morgan Cutolo RD.com November 30, 2021. https://www.rd.com/article/close-but-no-cigar-origin/.

5. “A Salvation Story” https://www.twr.org/news/a-salvation-story-ndash-a-story-of-hope-3060/.

6. PBS https://www.pbs.org/wgbh/questionofgod/voices/collins.html.

7. From a sermon by Paul Decker on Matthew 6:5-15 THE LINES OF COMMUNICATION ARE OPEN, www.sermoncentral.com.

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