1 Timothy 2:1-15 · Instructions on Worship
Sitting at the Big People Table
1 Thessalonians 5:16-18, 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18, 1 Timothy 2:1-7
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by Billy D. Strayhorn
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Psalms 100
[1] Make a joyful noise to the LORD, all the earth.
[2] Worship the LORD with gladness; come into his presence with singing.
[3] Know that the LORD is God. It is he that made us, and we are his; we are his people, and the sheep of his pasture.
[4] Enter his gates with thanksgiving, and his courts with praise. Give thanks to him, bless his name.
[5] For the LORD is good; his steadfast love endures forever, and his faithfulness to all generations.

1 Tim. 2:1-7
[1] First of all, then, I urge that supplications, prayers, intercessions, and thanksgivings be made for everyone,
[2] for kings and all who are in high positions, so that we may lead a quiet and peaceable life in all godliness and dignity.
[3] This is right and is acceptable in the sight of God our Savior,
[4] who desires everyone to be saved and to come to the knowledge of the truth.
[5] For there is one God; there is also one mediator between God and humankind, Christ Jesus, himself human,
[6] who gave himself a ransom for all this was attested at the right time.
[7] For this I was appointed a herald and an apostle (I am telling the truth, I am not lying), a teacher of the Gentiles in faith and truth.

Johnny Carson, in describing Thanksgiving, once said: "Thanksgiving is an emotional holiday. People travel thousands of miles to be with people they only see once a year. And then discover once a year is way too often."

I don't know about you and your family but that isn't true about my family. Growing up, Thanksgiving and Christmas dinner were two of the most important occasions in our family. Our family celebrated Christmas and Thanksgiving together. Mom and her sister alternated years and holidays. We celebrated Thanksgiving at our house and Christmas at theirs. Then the next year it would be Thanksgiving at their house and Christmas at ours.

And those were special times. There was food and laughter and food and fun and food and football and food. I remember pumpkin, pecan and cherry pie. And all the trimmings. Our family will never forget the year there was no giblet gravy. There was stuffing, cranberry sauce, deviled eggs, pumpkin pie, Waldorf salad, that Jello thingy with shredded carrots and mixed fruit, mashed potatoes, sweet potatoes, rolls, but no giblet gravy. Oh, there was a turkey, too. But it was inedible.

Aunt Billie kept complaining that when she got home with the turkey, there weren't any giblets. She searched the cavity of the turkey but couldn't find any. So, there wasn't going to be any giblet gravy. Like a fog horn signaling the ships in the night, she announced this to everyone who entered the house that year. And by the third or fourth time she announced this, everybody picked up the cue and we would all announce it to one another. We repeated it over and over again like some bad naval movie where the captain's message is passed from man to man. "No giblet gravy. No giblet gravy. No giblet gravy." Of course we all did it to annoy Aunt Billie. Besides, we knew we could all live without that giblet gravy, as long as we had turkey.

And there it was. The Turkey. Oh, it was beautiful. It had to weigh in at twenty pounds, minimum. And you needed one that big for our family. Between us there were three growing teenage boys. And the minute that turkey came out of the oven, we all started drooling.

Uncle Ace had the honors. He let it cool and then started carving. And it's a good thing he was one of those who had to taste as he carved, because he spared everyone else his fate. He sliced a couple of slices and laid them on the platter. And then with an impish look in his eyes, because he knew we were all watching, he took a bite of that turkey. And when he did, his face started turning all kinds of shades of red and purple. His eyes started to bulge. He dropped the knife and ran to the kitchen sink. At first we thought he had cut himself but then we heard retching and spitting noises. He turned around wiping off his tongue and proclaimed: "That has to be the worst turkey I have ever tasted. Where did you buy this thing. It tastes like melted plastic."

Well, of course Aunt Billie was upset, she was almost in tears. She tasted it and made the same kinds of faces Uncle Ace had. So, us teenage boys had to see what they were talking about. Let's face, teenage boys are like goats, they can and they will eat almost anything.

We tasted it and sure enough, it was awful. The dog wouldn't even eat it. Uncle Ace got to digging around trying to figure out what went wrong. And he did. And in the process he found the missing giblets. They were still in a plastic bag. Which of course had been cooked and seasoned the rest of the turkey.

That year we had pirogis, stuffed cabbage, bologna and salami along with the rest of our thanksgiving feast. If I remember right, bologna and stuffing wasn't too bad. But I was a hungry teen boy back then. And that might have colored my taste buds a bit.

One of the things I remember most about those meals was the kids' table. There were five of us boys. And by the time my cousins Bruce and Danny and I got to be 11 or 12, we wanted to sit at the big people's table. We didn't want to sit with our stinky, monkey faced little brothers. We wanted to be in with the big people. They sounded like they were having so much fun.

Remember that? Remember wanting to sit at the big people table? We all wanted to sit at the big people table didn't we? At least until we were about 14 and up until we were about 18. During those mid to late teen years we didn't want to have anything to do with our stinky little brothers or our totally uncool parents. And the only reason we sat at the big people table at all, was that we didn't want to go back to the little kid's table.

My wife Mary gave me a poem which perfectly describes the experience of sitting at the little kid's table and the longing we had for the big people table. The title of the poem is "Good-bye, Pumpkin Pie!" and it was written by Howard D. Fencl.

"Good-bye, Pumpkin Pie!"

Year after year after year
I go crazy!
Every Thanksgiving
I sit with the babies!

It's the little kids' table;
The table for tots,
Where my mom makes me sit
If I like it or not.

The table for grown-ups
Is fit for a king,
With goblets
And giblets
And gold napkin rings,

And bread rolls and salad
And dressing with drippings,
One glass just for drinking,
And one just for sipping!

But here all the kids
Drink from Styrofoam cups,
We eat small turkey bits
That our moms have cut up.

Our plates are red plastic
And so are the spoons,
And we eat by ourselves
In a small dining room.

I have dozens of cousins
Age one and age two
Whose Thanksgiving feast
Is a greenish-brown goo.

They slop up their faces
With vegetable mashes
And after they drink
They all have
Milk mustaches.

They urp,
And they burp,
And they belch
And they gulp;
Oh, why can't I sit
At the feast for adults?

All the mooshing
And mashing
And smooshing
And gnashing!
I put down my fork
And I thought about fasting!

I'd never eat turkey
Again in my life!
Never pick up a fork!
Never pick up a knife!

I'd fast like a mountain-top
Indian swami;
I wouldn't touch mustard
Or bread
Or salami!

"I'll never eat mushrooms
"Or green beans
"Or squid!
"And I NEVER will eat
"At the table for kids!"

"What's wrong?" asked my mom,
She was pouring some drinks;
"You haven't touched dinner…
"Not one single thing!"

She straightened the napkin
Tucked under my chin,
She gave me a hug
As she pushed my chair in,

She cut up my turkey bits
Two sizes smaller,
She held up my glass,
"Have a sip of some water!"

She dished up a spoon
Of potatoes and gravy;
My mom tried to feed me
Like I was a baby!

Well, my face turned as red
As the rhubarb pie filling!
I quick turned away,
And my cup went a-spilling!

BOOSH!
Water splashed on
Mom's face and her hair,
And it looked like some gravy
Was mixed up in there,

Because polka dots spotted
My mom's bright white dress!
Her Thanksgiving suit
Was a gravy-brown mess!

I should've said "Sorry!"
I should've said "Oops!"
I should've helped mom
Wipe the gravy-brown goop.

What happened instead
Is a mystery, my friends.
But there's one thing for sure- - -
I won't do it again!

I opened my mouth- - -
Do you know what I did?
I sassed my mom back
Like a spoiled snotty kid.

"I can use my own fork!
"I can use my own knife!
"And I don't want to sit
"At the table for tikes!"

"I can't stand all the gunk!
"I can't stand all the gak!
"I won't watch little Timothy
"Eating like that!"

"He's got yams in his hair,
"He's got yams North and South,
"And there's food everywhere
"But inside of his mouth!"

"Then there's Sarah and Icky
"And Jimmy and Franz
"Mixing peas in their milk!
"Eating with their bare hands!"

"This is NOT what the Pilgrims
"And Indians did,
"I DON'T WANT TO SIT HERE
"AT THE TABLE FOR KIDS!!"

Then mom said,
"I think your Thanksgiving's all through,
"And I think that it's time
"You go up to your room."

"In my ROOM?!" my brain thought,
This just couldn't be true!
In my ROOM?!
Why,
WHY,
WHY??
What on earth did I do??

My tummy got grumbly,
My feet both felt stumbly,
I wanted to shout,
But my mouth was all mumbly.

I walked past the turkey,
The dressing and trimmings,
My feast was now ending
Before its beginning.

"Good-bye, pumpkin pie!"
I said, as I walked by it,
"So long, green bean bake!"
Though I never would try it,

"Farewell, acorn squash,
"And potatoes au gratin!
"Ta-ta, apple tart
"With your whip-creamy topping!"

I sat all alone
On my bed feeling hungry.
It felt like I had
A stone knot in my tummy.

I could still hear
The forks and the knives and the spoons
Clacking and clinking
And scraping up food;

My sniffer sniffed smells
Drifting up from afar,
And on Thanksgiving Day
I was sure I would starve!

So I played with my toys
Then I sang a few numbers,
I stood on my head
To get rid of this hunger,

Then somersaults,
Push-ups,
I played tiddly-winks,
But Thanksgiving turkey
Was all I could think!

My belly growled out
Like a great grizzly bear,
And I knew,
Pretty soon,
I'd need something down there!

Anything,
ANYTHING!
Liver, or beets!
Even heaps of
Hungarian pickled pigs' feet!

"I'll eat wood like a termite!
"Or flies like a frog!
"I'll chew catnip like kitties!
"Or shoes like a dog!"

I was just about ready
To snack on my hat,
When I heard someone knocking,
RAT-TAT-A-TAT-TAT!

It was mom with a plate
Piled high with a feast,
And it didn't seem that she was mad
In the least.

She set up a TV tray
Right by my bed,
And she gave me a kiss
On the top of my head.

"You're growing up fast,"
She said, hiding a tear,
"Won't you join the adults
"For Thanksgiving next year?" (1)

I sure was glad the year I graduated to the big people table. But you know something, I was even more thankful when, just like all of you, I accepted the invitation to sit at God's Table and became one of God's children. I found out just how much God loved me. I found out the lengths to which God went to make sure I knew how much God loved me. And I also found out how much it cost God to show me that love.

Every time I look at the cross I am reminded of that love and the sacrifice made for me. And I'm glad we've been invited to feast at God's Table, the banquet of His Salvation. It's there that we taste the true Bread of Life. And it's there at God's Table, that we find out what Thanksgiving and Giving Thanks are really all about.

At God's Table we learn that we need to have a gratitude attitude. We need to give thanks in all things and we don't have to wait until Thanksgiving to give thanks. We can give thanks today or any day.

I. A Gratitude Attitude

A. The first thing we need is a GRATITUDE ATTITUDE. Will Rogers said, "In the days of our founders, they were willing to give thanks for mighty little, for mighty little was all they expected. But now, neither government nor nature can give enough but what we think it's too little. Those old boys in the fall of the year, if they could gather in a few pumpkins, potatoes and some corn for the winter, they were in a thanking mood. But if we can't gather in a new Buick, a new radio, a tuxedo and some government relief, why, we feel like the world is against us." (2)

It's hard to admit that sometimes we're just like that. Modern Americans seldom pause to give thanks for the simple blessings of life even though most of us have more than we could ever give thanks for right now. One reason is that we're used to having so much. And when we have so much, we falsely assume that we'll have all the good stuff all the time.

We also have a tendency to focus on the wrong thing. We tend to focus on what we don't have instead of the blessings we do have.

Another reason we balk at THE GRATITUDE ATTITUDE is that, for some reason, it hurts our pride to be grateful. The great enemy of the faith, pride, gets in the way. We do not want to admit that God is the Provider. We earned it and we bought it all. Being thankful requires humility and faith in God. Being thankful means we're not in charge and we don't like giving up being in charge at all.

We balk but we all need THE GRATITUDE ATTITUDE. We all need that deep spirit of thankfulness. Thankfulness is the opposite of selfishness. The selfish person says, "I deserve what comes to me!" Thankfulness realizes that life is a gift from God, and that the blessings of life come from God.

Some tribal languages have no words to express the idea of 'thank you.' Can you imagine that: no word or no way in which to say thanks. That's sad, because we all have a need to say thank you. Cicero said, "A thankful heart is not only the greatest virtue, but the parent of all other virtues." (3)

John Henry Jowett agreed and wrote: "Life without thankfulness is devoid of love and passion. Hope without thankfulness is lacking in fine perception. Faith without thankfulness lacks strength and fortitude. Every virtue divorced from thankfulness is maimed and limps along the spiritual road." (4)

Sitting at the big people table and sitting at God's Table, we learn about THE GRATITUDE ATTITUDE and we develop a Thankful Heart. And when we are truly thankful, we remember and affirm our faith in God. When we are thankful, we live out God's intent for us. And when we are thankful, then we are being faithful

II. Give Thanks In All Things

We're also called to GIVE THANKS IN ALL THINGS.

In 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 Paul writes: "Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you."

Now, I'll be honest, that's hard to do sometimes. But it IS possible. It just takes a thankful heart, a thankful spirit. One that recognizes that life and faith are dependent upon a loving and caring God who provides all our needs.

Bible commentator Matthew Henry was once robbed. Later he told his family he was thankful and they wanted to know for what. He said, "I'm thankful: Because I was never robbed before. Because although they took my wallet they didn't take my life. Because although they took my all, it wasn't very much. And I'm thankful that it was I who was robbed and not I who did the robbing." (5)

There's always something to be thankful for. If you can't pay your bills, you can be thankful you're not one of your creditors;

You can be thankful that only you and God know the real you.

You can be thankful for doors of opportunity and for friends who oil the hinges.

If you think you're getting too much government, then you can be thankful you're not getting as much as you're paying for.

If you don't have everything you want, then be thankful for the things you don't have that you don't want.

Be thankful that there aren't twice as many Congressman and only half as many doctors.

Be thankful that civil servants aren't less civil.

Be thankful that our teenagers will ultimately have children of their own who will grow up to become teenagers.

Be thankful that you're not a turkey this week.

Be thankful that hugs and kisses, the real kind not the Hershey's Chocolate kind, don't add weight or cause cancer.

And at the end of one of those days when the kids have driven you up the wall, and you've wanted to kill them, you can be thankful you didn't and that they are finally in bed.

You CAN be thankful in all circumstances; it just depends on how you look at the situation.

Sitting at the big people table and sitting at the Lord's Table teaches us to GIVE THANKS IN ALL THINGS

III. Give Thanks Today

A. Paul says "give thanks in all circumstances." That means we don't have to wait until Thanksgiving to give thanks. We can GIVE THANKS TODAY or any day.

It's easy to give thanks. I'm thankful for: my family, my health, my Church, my friends and colleagues in ministry. I'm thankful for music, food, for this great country we live in. I'm thankful for my wife and her teaching skills and how God is fulfilling her calling and her life through her profession. I'm thankful for my little brother and the relationship we have. For both of my sons. For my daughter in law. For my grandson who is 2 ½ months old (I've got pictures if you want to see him). And even for my dog, Midnight the Wonder Dog.

B. What are you thankful for? Each of us can be thankful for at least 100 things. Think not? You might try writing these down.

10 Gifts from the garden.
10 Meaningful memories.
10 Favorite meals.
10 Handy tools or appliances.
10 Loving people.
10 Influential books, stories or movies.
10 Spiritual Leaders.
10 Favorite places.
10 Medical Miracles.
10 World Leaders who have made a difference.

C. You see, we can be thankful. Especially for the one person who holds us all together, who fills our hearts and souls with the knowledge that we are loved and forgiven. And of course that's Jesus, the Christ, the Son of God. He gave us the greatest gift of all. Himself.

He chose us over life. He chose to die for our sakes, so that we would know the deep joy of living a forgiven and thankful life.

I'm thankful that we don't have to wait until Thanksgiving to give thanks. We can GIVE THANKS TODAY or any day.

Conclusion

Moving up to the big people table and moving up to God's table teaches us about giving thanks. At God's Table we experience a real feast. And there's nothing that can compare to the real feast put out for us by Christ Jesus. There is nothing that will ever compare, especially after living off of the slop of the world. And the world sure can feed us some slop can't it?

But once we've tasted the Bread of Life, once we've had a deep drink from the well of Living Water, once we've broken bread with Jesus nothing the world offers will ever taste the same. It will be dull and bland at the very least. And in most cases will probably taste as bad, if not worse, than that turkey my Aunt fixed.

It might look good. It might dazzle the eye and the mind, it might smell so inviting that it's almost intoxicating but one bite and we know it was a mistake. It's nothing but empty calories. And were we to try to live off the offal of the world's table, we would waste away to nothing; slowly starving to death while thinking we were filling ourselves.

That's why Giving Thanks is so important. It keeps us focused on God. It keeps us focused on what Christ has done for us.

An unthankful heart is just as distasteful to God as that Turkey my Aunt cooked. But with A GRATITUDE ATTITUDE we can GIVE THANKS IN ALL THINGS and GIVE THANKS TODAY or any day.


1. An original Thanksgiving tale to be read aloud to kids from www.dads.com, © 1992 Howard D. Fencl

2. Parson Bible Illustrator For Windows

3. The AutoIllustrator: Preaching Magazine, Vol. 2, #3. (Preaching Resources, Jackson, TN)

4. The AutoIllustrator: Preaching Magazine, Vol. 1, #3. (Preaching Resources, Jackson, TN)

5. The Pastor's Story File (Saratoga Press, P.O. Box 8, Platteville, CO, 80651; 970-785-2990), November 1985

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