To learn how Americans feel about prayer, Life magazine once interviewed dozens of people. One person they talked to was a prostitute, age twenty-four, in White Pine County, Nevada.
“I don’t think about my feelings a lot,” she said. “Instead I lie in my bed and think [about God]. I meditate because sometimes my words don’t come out right. But he can find me. He can find what’s inside of me just by listening to my thoughts. I ask him to help me and keep me going. A lot of people think working girls don’t have any morals, any religion. But I do. I don’t steal. I don’t lie. The way I look at it, I’m not sinning. He’s not going to judge me. I don’t think God judges anybody.” (1)
That’s an interesting take on God, don’t you think? God doesn’t judge anybody. It is an attitude that many people today find appealing. The last thing we want is a God who judges. Some people say that prostitution is a victimless crime. It is an argument advanced by those who would legalize what is called “the world’s oldest profession.” If it is true that prostitution is a victimless crime, why then do police reports show that the suicide rate of prostitutes is at least 45 times greater than for non-prostitutes? (2)
If prostitution is not harmful to its clients, who are at least in danger of contracting sexually transmitted diseases, it is certainly harmful spiritually and emotionally to the women who practice it. It is no coincidence that so many prostitutes come from backgrounds in which they were abused as children or youths. Something is broken within many of these women, something that deserves our compassion more than our condemnation. That was certainly true of the woman in our lesson for today.
Jesus was dining at the home of a Pharisee named Simon. They were reclining at Simon’s table for the evening meal. They were not seated in straight back chairs as we might do. They were probably reclining on their side on something like short sofas, probably elevated at one end, with their elbow propping up their head.
There was a woman, a resident of their community, who was there uninvited. The Bible doesn’t say that she was a prostitute, though it is generally assumed that she was. Luke simply tells us she “lived a sinful life.” Prostitution was a common occupation in biblical times for women. There weren’t many ways for an unmarried woman to survive financially. Some turned to prostitution. It may have been an act of dire circumstance that forced this woman to earn her living as she did. That did not keep the profession from inflicting great damage on her soul.
When she learned that Jesus was eating at the house of Simon the Pharisee, she decided to crash the party. Evidently Jesus’ reputation for compassion preceded him. Why else would this desperate woman have sought him out? She came bearing an alabaster jar of perfume. She stood behind Jesus at his feet and she was weeping. Her weeping was so profuse that her tears were falling on Jesus’ feet. She bent down and wiped Jesus’ feet with her hair, then she kissed his feet and poured perfume on them.
This was more than the host, Simon the Pharisee, could bear. With a silent sneer he said to himself, “If this man were a prophet, he would know who is touching him and what kind of woman she is that she is a sinner.”
Jesus knew exactly what Simon was thinking. He said, “Simon, I have something to tell you.”
“Tell me, teacher,” Simon said.
And so Jesus proceeded to tell Simon a parable. “Two people owed money to a certain moneylender. One owed him five hundred pieces of silver, the other fifty. Neither of them had the money to pay him back, so he forgave the debts of both. Now,” asked Jesus, “which of them will love him more?”
Simon replied, “I suppose the one who had the bigger debt forgiven.”
“You have judged correctly,” Jesus said. Then he turned toward the woman and said to Simon, “Do you see this woman? I came into your house. You didn’t give me any water for my feet, but she wet my feet with her tears and wiped them with her hair. You didn’t give me a kiss, but this woman, from the time I entered, has not stopped kissing my feet. You didn’t put oil on my head, but she has poured perfume on my feet. Therefore, I tell you, her many sins have been forgiven as her great love has shown.”
Then Jesus came to the punch line: “Whoever has been forgiven little loves little.” Think about that little gem for a moment: “Whoever has been forgiven little loves little.”
Could that be why many of us are so tepid in our love for god? We have never really thought of ourselves as sinners. We have never hungered for forgiveness. “Whoever has been forgiven little loves little.” We may love the song but we have never felt the emotion: “Amazing Grace, how sweet the sound that saved a wretch like me; I once was lost but now am found, was blind but now I see.” When did we ever feel ourselves to be a wretch? When did we ever feel we were lost or blind?
A Presbyterian pastor was in his first year at a certain congregation. The congregation had traditionally had a Confession of Sin as part of their worship liturgy. This pastor’s predecessor had eliminated this prayer of confession from the service. He tried to reinstate it. But resistance to the proposed change was fierce. Some members thought that a confession of sin was too morbid a thing to do in church, where one’s spirits were supposed to be lifted up. During the heat of the debate, one woman an elder in the church exclaimed, “But I don’t need to apologize to God for anything!”
The pastor was dumbfounded. “My seminary training hadn’t prepared me for this,” he said. “I thought everyone knew we had to confess our sin.” (3)
Here’s the problem: what if you have no consciousness of sin? What if pride has blinded you to your need for God’s forgiveness and grace? That was the situation of Simon the Pharisee. He was blind to his need for God. And because he did not feel a need for God even though he was quite religious, he would never know the joy of being bathed in God’s love. To see this, notice what happens next in our story.
Jesus says to the woman, “Your sins are forgiven.”
Then, Luke tells us, the other guests in Simon’s house began to say among themselves, “Who is this who even forgives sins?”
This is quite telling. The other guests, and probably Simon himself, missed the whole point of Jesus’ parable. They were hung up on the fact that Jesus professed to forgive sins. That is probably because these guests were also Pharisees, as Simon was, or they were at least pharisaical in their attitudes. When Jesus gave his punch line, “whoever has been forgiven little loves little,” he wasn’t talking about the woman. He was talking about Simon, and everyone who is like Simon. We don’t feel as much love for God that the forgiven prostitute feels, because we have never felt the need she felt.
There were at least two sinners involved in Jesus’ parable the woman and Simon the Pharisee. And in Jesus’ eyes it was easier to forgive a prostitute who mourned in her heart that she had sinned than it was to forgive this Pharisee who thought he was so superior and didn’t really need to be forgiven. She at least recognized her need, while he was oblivious to his shortcomings. This is the constant temptation of church people this feeling that we are somehow superior to other people.
A young pastor was visiting in a very humble home in the mountains of East Tennessee. The home was really not much more than a shack. A layman was with this pastor. This layman was a pillar of the church, a middle-aged man of some means. They had come to the home to deliver a Christmas basket which was obviously much needed. There were several children in the family. They obviously were on welfare. Their home showed much neglect both inside and out.
The young pastor tried in every way to show the love of Christ to this family, to show acceptance and to epitomize the Christmas spirit. But just before he and his layman left this home, the layman showed how he really felt about this family by walking over to the television set and drawing his finger across the top of that set and displaying to all in the home the layer of dust that was on his finger. Then he shook his head somberly in disapproval. The young pastor wanted to sink through the floor. All the good intentions he had for showing the grace of Jesus Christ was completely undone by his ungracious layman.
We need to understand that there were two sinners at Simon’s table that night, one a prostitute and the other a Pharisee. It is easy to recognize the prostitute’s sin. She was selling her body and deadening her soul. The body is intended to be the temple of the Holy Spirit. Any use of the body that degrades the spirit is repulsive in God’s sight. Jesus was not in any way condoning the prostitute’s behavior. Even more reprehensible, however, in Christ’s eyes was the smug, self-righteous spirit of the Pharisee. There was very little hope for him because he saw no need for change. The prostitute knew she was missing the mark; Simon was blind to the entire target. Even worse was his attitude toward this woman. Instead of having compassion for her, he turned up his nose at her.
Some of us like to play judge and jury when it comes to the behavior of others. That is what Simon was doing. “If this man were a prophet,” he sneered, “he would know who is touching him and what kind of woman she is that she is a sinner.” Yes, she was a sinner, but that was not for Simon to decide. That was for God alone to decide.
The great evangelist and author F.B. Meyer once said that when we see a brother or sister in sin, there are two things we do not know: First, we do not know how hard he or she tried not to sin. And second, we do not know the power of the forces that assailed him or her. But there is another thing we do not really know: We don’t know what we would have done in the same circumstances. (4)
Indeed, Christ seems to be indicating there was more hope for the woman than there was for Simon. Christ tells her that her sins are forgiven. Nowhere does he say that Simon’s sin is forgiven and that should trouble us.
Some of us come from comfortable situations where we have been loved, and from the beginning have been taught right from wrong. That is not true of everybody. Most of us have had a strong support system. We have had role models. We have had a Christian family and Christian friends and Christian teachers who have helped mold our behavior. Do we not realize that many people have not been as fortunate as we are?
Remember Ann Richards, the colorful Texas politician who suggested of a prominent political candidate that he had been born on third base and thought he had hit a triple? She was talking about many of us, at least spiritually. Do you really think that God judges us by the same standards He uses to judge those who were raised under less desirable circumstances? If God grades on a curve, as I suspect He does, we had better learn to be grateful for God’s grace because you and I are in big trouble otherwise. “To whom much is given,” says the Master, “much is expected” (Lk. 12:48).
This is to say that it is our job to love people and to leave judging to God. This is how we best witness for Christ by reaching out to others in the same way Christ reached out to us. “While we were yet sinners Christ died for us . . .” writes St. Paul (Romans 5:8). And that is the same attitude we should have in our relationships with others, loving them and not judging them. Simon felt no need to show compassion toward this woman or to help her to a better life. His only attitude toward her was one of cold condemnation. And Jesus hated that.
Dr. Robert Dunham tells a story that he heard on NPR sometime back. It was about a 31-year-old New York City social worker named Julio Diaz. Diaz customarily followed the same routine each evening. He got off the subway to the Bronx one stop early, just so he could eat at his favorite diner. But one night as Diaz stepped off the No. 6 train and onto a nearly empty platform, his evening took an unexpected turn.
He was walking toward the stairs when a teenage boy approached and pulled out a knife and asked for his money. So Diaz gave the boy his wallet. As his assailant began to walk away, Diaz said, “Hey, wait a minute. You forgot something. If you’re going to be robbing people all night, you might as well take my coat to keep you warm.”
The young man looked at him like he was crazy, and asked, “Why are you doing this?”
Diaz replied, “Well, if you’re willing to risk your freedom for a few dollars, then I guess you must really need the money. I mean, all I wanted to do was get dinner . . . and if you want to join me . . . hey, you’re more than welcome.”
“I just felt maybe he really [needed] help,” Diaz said later. Remarkably, the boy agreed, and the unlikely pair walked into the diner and sat in a booth.
Shortly the manager came by, the dishwasher came by, the waiters came by to greet Diaz. “The kid was like, ‘You know everybody here. Do you own this place?’”
“No,” Diaz replied, “I just eat here a lot.”
The boy responded, “But you’re even nice to the dishwasher.”
“Well, haven’t you been taught that you should be nice to everybody?” Diaz asked.
“Yeah, but I didn’t think people actually behaved that way,” the boy said.
The social worker saw an opening. He asked the boy what he wanted out of life. “He just had almost a sad face,” Diaz said. He couldn’t answer or he didn’t want to.
When the bill arrived, Diaz told the teen, “Look, I guess you’re going to have to pay for this bill ’cause you have my money and I can’t pay for it. But if you give me my wallet back, I’ll gladly treat you.”
The teen “didn’t even think about it” and handed over the wallet. Diaz gave him $20 . . . he figured maybe it would help him. But Diaz asked for something in return, and the boy gave it to him. It was the knife which the boy had used to rob him. (5)
Two sinners were present at Simon’s house when Jesus went to Simon’s house for dinner. One was a woman who had lived a sinful life. The other was a Pharisee, one of the most respectable men in his community. Only one found salvation that evening. The other only marinated in his own smug self-righteousness. I hope God’s grace will be sufficient for Simon on the Last Day when all of us will stand before the judgment seat of God, because there’s too much of Simon in me . . . and probably in you. God’s grace is our only hope unless we pray this day that God will help us to love other people without reservation and leave the judging to Him.
1. Craig Brian Larson, ed., Contemporary Illustrations for Preachers, Teachers, & Writers (Grand Rapids: Baker Books, 1996), p. 123.
2. The Houston Post, 1/10/94, p. A-10. Cited in In other Words.
3. Miroslav Volf, “Is It God’s Business?” The Christian Century. Cited by Brian K. Jensen, http://www.meadvillefpc.org/2005_sermons_august_‑_december.htm.
4. Stephen Brown, Christianity Today, April 5, 1993, p. 17.
5. As reported by Michael Garofalo on Morning Edition, March 28, 2008. Cited by Dr. Robert Dunham, http://day1.org/1759-which_comes_first_grace_or_repentance.