John 16:5-16 · The Work of the Holy Spirit
A Hall of Fame Dad
John 16:12-15
Sermon
by King Duncan
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Robert Lewis in his book Real Family Values tells a fascinating story about a remarkable, heartwarming discovery workers at the Baseball Hall of Fame in Cooperstown, Ohio, made in the winter of 1993.

While renovating a section of the museum, they found a photograph that had been hidden in a crevice underneath a display case. The man in the picture had a bat resting on his shoulder; he was wearing a uniform with the words “Sinclair Oil” printed across his chest; his demeanor was gentle and friendly.

Stapled to the picture was a note, scribbled in pen by an adoring fan. The note read: “You were never too tired to play ball. On your days off, you helped build the Little League Field. You always came to watch me play. You were a Hall of Fame Dad. I wish I could share this moment with you. -- Your Son, Pete.”

Isn’t that beautiful? A son named Pete found a creative way to put his dad into the Baseball Hall of Fame. (1)

This morning I would like to talk about what it takes to be a Hall of Fame Dad, or for that matter Mom . . . or Aunt or Uncle or Grandparent.

Now I know that our church calendar says that this is “Trinity Sunday.” And I know that many of you came to worship today yearning for a deep, theological treatise on the meaning of the Trinity. You were, weren’t you? But doesn’t the doctrine of the Trinity say to us among other things that the first Hall of Fame Dad was God? After all, the first two persons of the Trinity in traditional religious language are the Father and the Son.

[I can see why women would feel left out whenever we use that language. I hope you know that I know that God is Spirit and not flesh and therefore has no gender. But change is slow in an institution like ours. Please bear with me.]

Today we salute our fathers. Dad, we love you. The role of a Christian father is more important in today’s world than ever before. Being a Dad is a different role than in earlier generations. In most households today Dad is called upon to play more of a nurturing role in caring for children. If Mom works outside the home, Dad must take a more active role, an equal role, in doing household chores.

The most common image that Jesus used in describing God was that of “Father.” It makes me think that Joseph must have been a very special kind of dad. We center much of our attention on his mother, Mary, but Joseph surely combined those very special qualities of strength and gentleness that we associate with Jesus.

Jesus had a very keen knowledge of the Old Testament Scriptures. In the Jewish home it was the father who had the primary responsibility for his son’s religious instruction. Of course we know that Jesus had a unique relationship with God. Still, I have to believe that Joseph, though barely mentioned in the Gospel narrative, was probably an influential role model for Jesus. Why else would Jesus have chosen the imagery of “Father” to portray God? Why would he also have taught us to address God as “Abba”--“Daddy”? My guess is that Jesus had a wonderful relationship with both his earthly father and his Heavenly Father--the same kind of wonderful relationship he had with his mother.

Now someone is going to say, “Well, Joseph was not his real father.” As far as I’m concerned, there are many Dads who are not biological Dads, who function more as a real Dad than many biological Dads. Today we honor all the men in our congregation who put in the time, love and instruction to be a Dad to a young person regardless of whether they have a blood relationship or not. The same thing is true of our women. Some of the greatest moms in the world are not biologically related to the children they love and influence. Some may be a grandmother or aunt or step-mom or whatever. These Mom substitutes are the child’s real Mom just as some men who are not biologically related are their children’s real Dad. So, we ask the question: what does it take to be a Hall of Fame father?

Let’s begin with the most difficult attribute of a Hall of Fame Dad—time.

Years ago, Dr. Charlie Shedd held a contest called “One Neat Dad.” He asked contestants to send in letters recommending their dad for this great honor. The number one attribute that young people put at the top of their list about what they appreciate about their Dad was, “He takes time for me.” Interesting!  Other qualities which these young people appreciated were: “He listens to me.” “He plays with me.” “He invites me to go places with him.” “He lets me help him.” Here’s a biggie: “He treats my mother well.” “He lets me say what I think.” “He is nice to my friends.” “He only punishes me when I deserve it.” And number 10: “He is not afraid to admit when he is wrong.” (2)

How did you do on that pop quiz . . . uh, Pop? Especially on the first one--time?

Dr. Seymour Diamond did some research on family problems and he came up with conclusions that provide a glimpse of the problem in many homes. He claims that today’s average American father gives undivided attention to his children only thirty-eight seconds a day--thirty-eight seconds a day! That’s scary!  He does give them partial attention for an additional twenty minutes while he is otherwise engaged, watching TV or working on some project.

That is a problem for both our sons and daughters, but perhaps more so for our sons. Many people believe there is confusion among young men today about what it means to actually be a man. In his book Healing the Masculine Soul, Gordon Dalbey suggests a reason for this. He says that too many of these young men grew up in a masculine vacuum. “They grew up with fathers who were non-nurturing, uncommunicative, or absent most of the time. This left them in a literal no-man’s land of confusion about how to express authentic maleness.” (3)

Think of how many single moms there are today struggling to bring up their son without an appropriate role model. Surely there is a way that the church can step in and help with this situation. But that is the first attribute for a Hall of Fame Dad: he makes time for his children.

Here’s the second--he makes certain that his children know the difference between right and wrong.  Am I the only person concerned about the moral downward slide of our society? I know, I’m a pastor. I’m supposed to be concerned about such things. But we are very quickly becoming an “anything goes” society, particularly with regard to sexual morality--and we wonder why our families are coming apart?

I know that there are many influential people in our society who no longer believe that there are any absolute values--which is absurd! I’ll bet you would become a convert to absolute standards of conduct if someone stole your car, bullied one of your children, ran off with your spouse. You would feel that something sacred had been violated--and you would be right!

Notice what it says in our scripture for the day. Jesus is talking to his disciples about the Holy Spirit that is to come upon his disciples. Listen to what he says:  “I have much more to say to you, more than you can now bear. But when he, the Spirit of truth, comes, he will guide you into all the truth . . .”

Isn’t this a primary characteristic of a Hall of Fame Dad? He leads his children into truth?  But what if Dad is confused about what is true and what is false--particularly when there is so much false information nowadays?

Three brothers, ages 12, 8 and 4, were playing outside, a distance from the house. Dad had a special call when it was time to come in. Supper time came and dad called. The busy boys weren’t ready to come in and kept playing. Later, Dad called a second time and the boys still wouldn’t come. They were busy playing. The third time Dad called in a “huff,” his voice indicated he meant business.

The boys came running into the house. When the four-year-old passed Dad, he said, “Daddy, we didn’t hear you the first two times you called.” (4)

Nothing like that happens in your home, does it? Of course, they heard Dad or Mom the first two times. And, of course, you are not going to make a big deal about such a small transgression. But in today’s world especially, it is important that we bring up our children as people of character and honor, people who know the difference between right and wrong, people who tell the truth. We’re not going to get role models for such upright behavior out of Hollywood or Washington, D.C., are we? If they don’t see models of character and morality in their own home, then heaven help them.

There was an interesting story on television’s “60 Minutes” a few years ago. The park rangers at a South African wildlife preserve were concerned about the slaughter of 39 rare white rhinos in their park. It turned out that the rhinos were killed not by poachers but rather by juvenile delinquents--teen-aged elephants.

The story began a decade before when the park could no longer sustain the increasing population of elephants. They decided to kill many of the adult elephants whose young were old enough to survive without them. And so, the young elephants grew up fatherless.

As time went on, many of these young elephants roamed together in gangs and began to do things elephants normally don’t do. They threw sticks and water at rhinos and acted like neighborhood bullies. Without dominant males, the young bulls became sexually active, producing excessive testosterone and exhibiting aggressive behavior. A few young males grew especially violent, knocking down rhinos and stepping or kneeling on them, crushing the life out of them. An elephant named Mafuto, the gang leader eventually had to be killed.

The park rangers theorized that these young teen-aged elephants were acting badly because they lacked role models. The solution was to bring in a large male to lead them and to counteract their bully behaviors. Soon the new male established dominance and put the young bulls in their places. The killing stopped. The young males were mentored--and saved. (5)

Does that sound familiar to anybody? Do human gangs ever display such behavior? Now, please, don’t blame their Moms. Single moms have a tough enough row to hoe as it is without being made to feel guilty about their situation which they may not be able to help at all. But if we ever needed Christian Dads willing to take time for their children and to help our boys and girls to understand the difference between right and wrong, it is now.

Finally we need Dads who will show their children how much they love them. I love to see a young father who is able to express his love physically for his children. Fathers in our parents and grandparents’ generation often were not able to do that.

Comedian Ray Romano, who starred for so many years in the popular sitcom Everybody Loves Raymond, was asked in an interview if his parents were funny people. He remarked that his mother was very creative, but his father was more eccentric. Ray’s father loved him, he said, but he did not express that love very easily. As Ray remarked, “I used to say that if my father had hugged me once, I would be an accountant. I wouldn’t need to do comedy.” (6) Of course, some of these fathers of earlier generations expressed their love in other ways.

When famed baseball player Hank Aaron was just a boy, he learned a powerful lesson about love and sacrifice from his father. Every day, Hank’s father would give him a quarter to buy his lunch at school. Hank knew that his father skipped lunch each day so that he could give his son that quarter. If he ever doubted his father’s love for him, that daily quarter reminded him of how far his father would go to provide for him. (7)

There are many ways a father can communicate his love for his children. I hope those of you who are fathers are exploring every one of them. I wish we could put up a Hall of Fame in our church for fathers and mothers and grandfathers and grandmothers and aunts and uncles and foster parents and step parents and all those adults young and old who are involved in having a positive influence on our young people. I know your names are written in the Book of Life.

We are facing some real problems in our society . . . and I don’t know anyone who can make a big enough dent in those problems except those who are raising our children. Can we count on you to be a Hall of Fame Dad or a Hall of Fame Mom by giving your time, by teaching your children the difference between right and wrong, and by showing them the love of Jesus Christ who showed us how much His Father loves him and how much His Father loves each of us?


1. (Gresham, OR: Vision House, 1995).

2. Ted Kyle and John Todd, A Treasury of Bible Illustrations, AMG Publishers, Chattanooga, TN., 1995, p. 147.

3. Bill Hybels, Honest to God? (Grand Rapids: Zondervan Publishing House, 1992).

4. We are grateful to Billy P. Duncan, Oberlin, Kansas for this piece of humor.

5. Ken Sowers, Prince of Peace Church, Mentor, Ohio. Cited by Kenneth Morris, https://sermons.faithlife.com/sermons/93906-the-model-father.

6. “Alpha Ray,” by Sara Davidson, Reader’s Digest, February 2004, p. 115.

7. Zig Ziglar, Zig Ziglar’s Life Lifters (Nashville: Broadman & Holman, 2003), p. 10.

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