2 Samuel 11:1-27 · David and Bathsheba
The Public Effect Of Private Living
2 Samuel 11:1-27
Sermon
by Robert Allen
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It happens so often that it seems almost routine to our modern world. We read or listen to certain stories with interest and then we make little jokes about how the private morality of people becomes public information. A U.S. Congressman is found guilty of having sex with a 16-year-old and the story becomes headline news. Jim Wright becomes the first speaker of the U.S. House of Representatives ever to resign his office over ethic violations. He was charged with 69 violations of House rules. The public effect of these alleged ethical violations mesmerized the nation and led to his resignation. John Tower was considered by many to be the ideal candidate to be the Secretary of Defense, but when the revelation of his private conduct involving excessive drinking and womanizing became public knowledge, he was tarnished and discredited so severely that he could not get Senate confirmation. A prominent minister with a bright future in the church becomes a major topic of conversation when his wife files for divorce and rumors that he has been involved with another woman begin to circulate throughout the community.

The point is that the private lives of public figures becomes the topic of conversation with many people. The way that people live their lives in private is often made public and reported to the last embarrassing detail. Just as there are public figures that make the headlines, there are others who make the gossip headlines at the local coffee shop, or the beauty parlor, or the office luncheon. The private lives of individuals becomes public knowledge. It can be a national personality whose name is known by everyone. It can be a respected business leader who plays around with his secretary. It can be a housewife who makes it known that she is available to others besides her husband. It can be high school or college students who find themselves either prematurely married or fearfully making a trip to the abortion clinic.

We gossip and crack our jokes and we know deep inside our souls that the way we live our lives privately has a public effect. Sometimes, we shake our heads and say that we don’t know what our modern world is coming to, as if this modern world were the first to find itself flailing through a moral thicket.

The Bible makes it clear that the ethical floundering in private morals is not a recent invention. Some passages of the Bible date back several thousand years and the treatment of biblical heroes makes it clear that their private morality was not covered up in order to spare or protect their reputations. No recorded history, either sacred or secular, is so blunt in its handling of the weaknesses of its heroes as is the Bible. The reason is that the Bible is concerned about teaching people about the goodness of God and not in trying to cover-up the weaknesses of any human being, regardless of his title or fame.

There are very few lives which show more clearly the public effect of private living than the story of David. He steps into history when he defeats the Philistine giant, Goliath. He rises from a position of simple shepherd to King of Israel. He had everything it took to rise to power. He had good looks, he was courageous in battle, he had a charisma which identified him as a leader, he had a deep love of God. The Bible, speaking of David, said, “The spirit of the Lord came mightily upon him.”

To all outward appearances, David had it made. But, his private morality brought headaches to him and his household. It was a humid and hot summer evening in Jerusalem. David walked out on the terrace of his palace. A movement on a rooftop near the palace caught David’s eye in the moonlight. A woman, Bathsheba, had apparently found it too hot to sleep and was taking a bath. David became a Peeping Tom and stood in the shadows and watched as she poured water which ran in rivulets over her breasts and down her thighs.

As David stood in the shadows of the darkness and watched Bathsheba, he wanted her. A king can have anything he wants if he is willing to pay the price. David knew her husband, Uriah, was away in battle. He sent for Bathsheba and the Bible reports in flat, emotionless terms: “… and she came in unto him, and he lay with her…”

David thought his private sin was hidden, but it wasn’t. The news spread by the gossip grapevine and one day Nathan, the prophet came to David and said: “… you have sinned in secret…”

Just as David learned that private immorality had a public effect, we need to understand that our personal acts of wrongdoing do not take place in a vacuum. Whether we like it, there is a public effect to private living. Today, I want to suggest why our private lives cannot be hidden.

I. There Is A Public Effect To Private Living Because We Choose Between Good And Evil.

David had a choice that night he stood on the veranda of his palace and watched Bathsheba bathing in the moonlight. He had a choice between good and evil. He could have sent for one of his wives -- for he had many. Instead, David chose to do that which he knew to be wrong and ordered that Bathsheba be brought to his room. David knew what was right and what was wrong and he chose to do that which he knew to be wrong.

The Bible knows and emphasizes the hard demand of choosing between good and evil. One of the Psalms says:

Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers.

We all know the difference between good and evil or right and wrong. And every day we must choose. There is no once and for all time choice. Life itself is a matter of choice and every day of our lives we are confronted with choices between good and evil. There is no aspect of life where a sense of control and purpose is more clearly demanded than in a person’s moral character. The choosing between right and wrong is vitally important in our lives.

One young man told me about a vacation trip that he and his wife took to Las Vegas. One evening they had gone to see the Wayne Newton show and arrived back at their hotel at 1:30 a.m. His wife went on up to their room and he went into the casino for a while.

Later, when he started to get on the elevator and go up to his room, an attractive young woman stepped in the elevator with him. He punched the button for the 18th floor and asked her which floor she wanted. In a seductive voice she said, “I’ll go to 18 too if you’re looking for a good time.”

He politely declined the invitation of this “Lady of the Evening.” As he told the story, he said, “That was an easy choice with my wife waiting upstairs in our room. But, I’ve wondered if the choice would have been that easy if my wife had not been with me.”

Life comes to us as a choice every day. We choose between good and evil, we choose between right and wrong, and, we must choose every day.

Choosing that which is right gives us a certain inner strength. However, when we choose that which we know to be wrong, we find ourselves on the road to moral destruction because there is a terrible progression about choosing that which is wrong. Sir Walter Scott once said:

A horse rider can be up to his saddle girth in mud in no time if he ignores the first signs of soft earth.

When we choose that which is wrong once, it is so easy to choose the wrong again and again and again. It is so easy to be trapped in the terrible progression of wrong that we need to be careful or we will find ourselves on the path to moral bankruptcy.

II. There Is A Public Effect Of Private Living Because All Of Life Is Related.

Albert Einstein, in his Theory of Relativity, stated that all of creation is inter-related. There is a mysterious link with all of creation. A poet expressed this inter-relatedness when he wrote: “Disturb a flower and trouble a star.” All of creation is linked together and one thing effects another.

David found this to be true in life. The results of that hot, restless night when he took Bathsheba in his arms lived on long past the pleasures of the moment. The story is really tragic. Bathsheba becomes pregnant with David’s child. Uriah is called home from battle but refuses to go home to his wife. David arranges for Uriah to die in battle. The child of that illicit affair is born, but soon dies. David’s eldest son, Amnon, learns from his father to take what he wants and rapes his half-sister, Tamar. This leads to another son, Absalom, to murder Amnon for the shame he brought to Tamar. Later, Absalom led a rebellion against David and Absalom is killed in the battle.

There is no soap opera on television that is filled with more intrigue and tragedy. There is no story which could point more conclusively to the fact that all of life is related. The choices which we make between right and wrong have an influence for good or evil in the lives of others.

I know of a woman who moved to a small town with a teenage daughter who was a senior in high school. The girl was attractive and had a likeable personality. Although she was new in town and new to her high school, she was popular enough to be elected president of her senior class. One thing which you noticed about this girl was that she never had a date. Several boys asked her out, but she always said that she just wasn’t interested in dating.

However, if you knew the family situation, you knew the real story. Her parents had recently divorced. One day her father, a very successful man in his profession, came home and told his wife that he was getting a divorce and marrying one of the women who worked in his office.

This not only broke up their home, but it shattered the inner stability of this teenage girl’s life. She refused to go out on dates because she was unwilling to put herself in a position where she could be hurt again by someone walking out of her life like her father did.

We can’t escape the fact that all of life is related. Every choice that we make has an influence for good or evil in the lives of others. The Apostle Paul said: “No man lives to himself, no man dies to himself.” There is a public effect to private living because the choices you make touch the lives of others. What influence are you having in the lives of others with the choices you are making?

III. The Public Effect Of Private Living Points To The Need Of Repentance And Forgiveness.

I sometimes wonder if David thought he got away with his little scheme. Or, was David torn by the inner guilt of his actions? The Bible doesn’t say. David simply went on with his duties as king until one day Nathan, the prophet, appeared in David’s court. Nathan told a pathetic little story about a rich man with many flocks of sheep who steals a poor man’s pet lamb. This story made David so angry that he says: “I swear by the living Lord that the man who did this ought to die.”

Silence hangs over the court and all eyes are fixed on the prophet. Then Nathan slowly points his finger in the face of the king and says: “You are that man, David! You are that man. You have killed Uriah and taken his wife as your own…”

The court was in stunned silence. You could have heard a pin drop. These charges had been rumored throughout the city. These charges had been whispered about in the palace. These charges had been gossiped about in small groups. But no one had dared to speak about these charges to the face of the king. What would David do? He had killed once for Bathsheba. Would he now kill the prophet?

One look at David and you knew the answer. His face was drained of color, his body shook with emotion, his voice trembled with shame as he fell to his knees and confessed, “I have sinned against the Lord.” Nathan quietly answers, “And the Lord forgives you…”

And that is the way it happened. David repented of his sin and forgiveness was granted. I like to think that it was after this great sin in his life that David wrote those beautiful words in Psalm 51:

Be merciful to me, O God,because of your constant love.Because of your great mercywipe away my sins!Wash away all my eviland make me clean from my sin!

No matter how low we have sunk in our private lives, there is hope for each of us through confession of our sin. As soon as we confess our sins, God stands ready to forgive.

God is never through with any of us. God continued to use David. It was through the lineage of David that God chose to slip down the staircase of heaven and reveal his eternal love in Jesus Christ.

There is hope for all of us who sin. This hope is found in a God who calls us, and forgives us, and restores us. You may have made wrong choices in your life. Your private life may have become a public scandal. Your private life may be hidden from others. But there is hope because confession, forgiveness, and God’s restoring grace is available if you will claim it. Will you claim the new life of promise that is yours through Jesus Christ?

Prayer: O God, help us to realize that the way we live our lives in private has an influence on others. Grant that we may live in such a way that others may see the love and presence of Jesus Christ in our lives. In his name, Amen.

C.S.S. Publishing Company, Into the Whirlwind, by Robert Allen