Luke 7:36-50 · Jesus Anointed by a Sinful Woman
The Necessity Of Forgiveness
Luke 7:36-50
Sermon
by Harold Warlick
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I speak to you tonight about forgiveness. We all need to forgive more. People who do not learn how to forgive do not enjoy life. The world hands us many irritating people. Some of them frustrate us to no end. If we embrace resentment instead of forgiveness, our relationships and our careers don't get very far. If you want to be a success in the world - major in forgiveness.

A newspaper carried the story of a man who bought a new Cadillac. Every time the car hit a slight bump there was an awful thumping. Twice he took the car to be examined. But they never could find the cause. Always there was the thumping. Finally, the servicemen narrowed the problem to one door of the car. When they took the door apart, they found a coke bottle inside. In the bottle was a note which read: "So you finally found me, you wealthy (blankety-blank)." You see, a worker was so filled with resentment he thought he could destroy the satisfaction of the person who had enough money to buy a Cadillac. Actually, the worker's grudges and resentments had infested his own mind and his everyday job. The satisfaction being destroyed was his own.1 Thus he made his work-life a slave to his perceived enemies.

Our greatest danger in resentment lies not in the wrong done to us but in the wrong we can do to ourselves if we let ourselves become inwardly hardened. Can you imagine having to work in a job which stirs up a vindictive response in you? Who has the reward? You or your enemy?

How impossible Jesus' ideal seems at first - "love your enemies and pray for them that persecute you." But it is not impossible. In fact, on second glance it seems to be the most practical and rational rule for daily living that could be laid down. The only rewards in life come through working through relationships. There is no reward in having a small circle of like-minded friends.

Doris Donnelly in her incisive book, Learning to Forgive,2 tells about a family she knew. They were very proficient in the use of resentment. They couldn't forgive anyone, nothing was ever their fault. The family consisted of two parents and their three daughters. The friends of each family member were under constant scrutiny to determine whether or not they belonged to their group. The family socialized together, sat together in church, and participated in the community, all as a small group. Failing to include the three sisters in a birthday celebration, or not greeting a member of the group with beaming smiles and deferential courtesy, resulted in ostracism. The family lived to be stroked by others. One year the parents gave the same Christmas gift to each of the daughters' teachers, to the pastor of the church and to the principal of the school. Anyone who did not respond immediately with profuse gratitude was eliminated from the list for the next time. The family took every delay as a personal slap in the face. And everyone scissored out of their lives knew there was little hope of being sewn into their lives again.

The mother of the family died suddenly. The father and the daughters naturally expected large crowds to gather for the final farewells. They enlisted the aid of the local police to handle traffic on the morning of the funeral. Phone calls were made to neighbors and to their "friends." Announcements were sent via telegram to people who had moved away. The local motels were alerted to save a few rooms for out-of-town guests who might appear at the last minute and need accommodations. Exactly 10 people showed up for the funeral. The husband, the daughters, their husbands, one grandchild and two members of their small circle of friends attended the services. It was truly embarrassing. The town laughed about it for years afterward.

People who scissor others from relationships think they are cutting people out of their lives. In reality they are cutting themselves out of the larger human family. They not only die alone, but whether they know it or not, they live alone as well.

It is a fact of existence that small circles of mutual resentments are not easily broken. You can take a group of goldfish that have been swimming for their lifetime in a small fish bowl out to the lake. You can turn them loose in the lake, but they will continue to swim in small circles, the dimension of their former bowl, for quite a while without accepting the massive freedom awaiting them. Jesus called the phenomenon "saluting only your brethren." And he told it straight - "what reward is there in that?" It creates an attitude of smallness which is destructive to career, family and self.

During the ministry in the villages of Galilee, Jesus preached passionately about forgiveness. It was a strange doctrine to most of the disciples. Peter wanted to be legal and statistical about it. But Jesus stated there is no limit to forgiveness. It's a matter of forgiveness becoming a part of the habit of your life. You can't forgive people 490 times without it becoming a permanent attitude. You cannot serve two masters. Either you will bow before the altar of revenge and scissor people out of your life; or you will bow before the altar of forgiveness and sew yourself to the wider fabric of humanity, as imperfect and impulsive as it is.

Peter had not realized the greatness of forgiveness. You cannot forgive someone and pray for them, even if they persecute you, without becoming a person of love. Forgiveness creates a loving spirit. Jesus told Peter, "You must forgive from your heart." The key word is kardia which is translated "heart." But the Greek word means more than the organ of the body. It means the seat of the inner person. Forgiveness is more than an act we do; it is an expression of who we are.

Look at how it worked in the lives of those around Jesus. In the example of the woman who received forgiveness from Jesus, the main object of the teaching is Simon Peter (Luke7:36-50). Simon Peter was not a loving person to begin with. Jesus contrasts the conduct of the woman with that of Simon. The woman was loving and kind. She loved Jesus very much. And she had many sins to be forgiven for. But her actions, her deeds, indicated that she had become a new person. Simon was, of course, quite satisfied with his righteousness. He had experienced no forgiveness which might have made real for him the personal mercy of God. In his personal relationship with people, then, he exhibited little or no love. Simon didn't even extend the little customary courtesies to Jesus when he entered Simon's house. So Jesus blatantly stated, "The person who is forgiven little, who is self-righteous and proud, scissoring out those who are less righteous, loves little."

Apparently, though, Jesus' life of forgiveness wore off on Peter. Perhaps it was Jesus' forgiveness in Peter's presence of the soldier who came to arrest Jesus and experienced Peter's cutting his ear off. Perhaps it was the frightful experience of hearing those words of forgiveness uttered by Jesus toward his enemies as he painfully died on the cross. Whatever precipitated it, Peter apparently grasped the greatness of forgiveness. Following Christ's death, Peter wrote a letter to Christians in the northern part of Asia Minor. We know it as the Book of First Peter. Peter began the second chapter with these words: "... strip away all malice and all guile and insincerity and envy and all slander ... for you have tasted the kindness of the Lord (1 Peter 2:1, 3)."

What an incredible power forgiveness turns loose. It is an expansive spirit. A person who has done his or her best and seen others walk off with what he wanted, who has planned and missed, aspired and failed, but can still walk through life with an unenvious and forgiving heart, being happy in his own best self, is a person who has won a great victory. That person is a slave to no one. Life itself becomes his or her ally instead of enemy.

The central thesis in Jesus' assertion about the kingdom of God was that small circles of people would become increasingly larger circles of people through winning over and including their perceived enemies. That is the acid test of Christianity. Virtually every other group in society can do everything else Christians can do.

Christians have programs. So does every other group. Christians recite creeds - so do sororities, fraternities and 1,000 other groups. Christians sing songs. So does every group, from "99 bottles of beer on the wall" to The National Anthem. Christians raise money. So does everyone else.

Frankly, friends, we are revealed only by the way we forgive other people, especially our enemies.

The greatness of Christianity lies not in its development of small pockets of congenial intimacies. The greatness of Christianity is in its expansive spirit that overthrows resentments, takes in enemies, embraces rivals and seeks the good in all sorts of people across all barriers that class and race can erect.

Everyone in this room belongs to a group - whether the Board of Stewards, a sorority, a faculty, a church, a club, a class. What can your group do that other groups can't do? What can you as an individual do that really makes you stand out and feel good about yourself. The answer is simple - forgiveness.


1. See His Hands: Resources for Lent and Easter, ed. Jon L. Joyce (Lima, Ohio: C.S.S. Publishing Co., 1977), p. 64.

2. Doris Donnelly, Learning to Forgive (New York: Macmillan, 1979), pp. 24-25.

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