Matthew 6:5-15 · Prayer
The Home Under God
Matthew 6:5-15
Sermon
by T. A. Kantonen
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In the present century the churches in America have developed the practice of observing Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, and Children’s Day. The most recent trend is to combine all three into a Festival of the Christian Home. Without indulging in the kind of shallow sentimentality which has too often been associated with these celebrations, especially Mother’s Day, it is certainly appropriate for the church to call attention at least once a year to the importance of the Christian home. It is in keeping both with the word of God and with the heritage of the Reformation. Luther placed particular emphasis upon the home as a place for training in Christian character and exercise of Christian virtues. He said that it was a thousand times better suited to this purpose than were the monasteries. His Small Catechism was written with this end in view. Parents who teach their children the word of God are priests and pristesses of God.

The scripture texts before us place the Christian home in the perspective of the gospel. They focus our minds upon what our Lord himself has to say about fathers, about mothers, and about children.

"Our Father in heaven." Is it not significant that our Lord portrays the highest of all relationships, the relation between man and God, in terms of the parental relation? The greatest honor and the greatest responsibility that could come to parents came when the Savior of mankind, in revealing to us the God "in whom we live and move and have our being," told us that his name is not primarily creator, king, or judge, but "Father." Christ thus places an imperishable halo upon parenthood. Observe a loyal and devoted father in his relation to his children, he implies, and you have the best clue into the nature of God. Listen to the heart throbs of a father’s love and you will understand how God feels toward us.

What are characteristics of fatherhood that help us to know God? The first is a deep sense of responsibility for the child. If you are a father, in looking at your boy you catch yourself thinking: of all the good things in the world that I am able to procure, I would like to give my boy the best. You would do everything in your power to protect him from life’s evil and danger. And when evil has taken hold of your boy, as it took hold of and destroyed Absalom, the son of King David, then the father’s heart prompts him to say, "O Absalom, Absalom, my son, if only I could have taken your place." You would like to make your boy’s path a bit smoother than the one you had to travel. His happiness is your happiness, his suffering is your suffering. God, says Christ, is like that. "If you ... know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven ..." (Matthew 7:11). God takes upon himself full responsibility for his children. He takes our burdens upon himself. He does not wriggle out from under responsibility any more than any good father would do. His heartstrings become more and more entangled in our affairs, and he is drawn deeper and deeper into our destinies. He has invested so much in us that he cannot be indifferent toward us. We are in his hands for all eternity. Nothing is too great, no sacrifice too much for him to make, when the welfare of his children is in question. For God is our Father.

The second characteristic of fatherhood is faith and hope in the child to the very last. Even when the wonderful dreams that the father has dreamed for his son have turned out to be illusions, even nightmares, when the boy has brought sorrow and disgrace instead of joy and recognition, the father’s heart still keeps trusting and praying, still hoping for the best. The parental feeling is not a transitory and flickering emotion. It is strong and sturdy, and often the father’s faith in the son who has failed has made him exert every ounce of his strength to make good. God, says Christ, is like that.

"No earthly father loves like thee,
No mother, e’er so mild
Bears and forbears as thou hast done
With me, thy sinful child."

We have betrayed him and disgraced his name, yet he continues to trust us and to give us new opportunities. He knows our worst and still believes in our best. Many of the dark things in life, the trials and sufferings that come to us, serve his fatherly purpose of bringing us to our senses. We learn to realize that our godless ideas of success and pleasure are a cruel mirage and that free from his will we are free only to destroy ourselves.

The third main characteristic of fatherhood is forgiving love. This is what our Lord particularly stressed. He asks us to be merciful as the heavenly Father is merciful. It is true that a father has to enforce discipline if the child is to achieve wholesome maturity. Yet to let yourself into the business of being a father is to be prepared to forgive, not seven times, but seventy times seven. To be a father is to have a heart, a heart that understands and pardons with constant patience the frailties and mistakes of the child. No one has understood so thoroughly and portrayed so beautifully the forgiving love of a father as our Lord in his parable of the prodigal son. The father loves back into decency the wayward son who has wasted his substance in riotous living. While human fatherhood is here a clue to the nature of God, our Lord presents such a glorious revelation of the heart of the Heavenly Father that we are forced to say, "The love of God is broader than the measures of man’s mind." It encompasses the sinner in the midst of his sin and generates life and hope where there was only death and despair. Here the meaning of parenthood receives its sublimest expression.

Turning now to mothers, we must affirm that the marks of parenthood, responsibility, faith and hope, and forgiving love, apply to mothers as well as fathers. In the patriarchal society in which Jesus lived, woman had the low status of mere domestic drudge. Jesus elevated her to a position of equality and opened to her the highest privileges of discipleship. Truly the daughters of Zion, the wives and mothers of mankind, have reason to sing Hosannah to the Son of Mary, for wherever his advent has arrived and the power of his gospel has been released, there woman has been lifted from degradation and given new dignity and opportunity. Nor did Jesus share the old rabbinical idea that childbirth contaminates and that motherhood is something inherently sinful. On the contrary, he looks with sympathetic understanding deep into the heart of a mother as she forgets all the anxiety and anguish of labor in clasping her newborn baby to her bosom. "When a woman is about to give birth to a child she is sad, because her hour of suffering has come; but when the child is born she forgets her suffering, because she is happy that a baby has been born into the world."

Appreciation of motherhood is thus a sound Christian attitude, and we do well to designate a special day for according mothers the recognition which they deserve. Mother’s Day has a tenderness all its own. It is fitting to celebrate it with flowers, for mothers do their work in just that way. As quietly as a flower, or as the sunshine that calls it into being, mother love sheds its fragrance and its life-giving warmth. As Christians, however, we do not worship mother love as such. Mothers too are sinful human beings who need to be trained by the Master to fulfill their mission. It is for Christian mothers that we thank God. Before we were born they prayed for us. In childhood they watched over us and led us to God. They wove their consecration into the fabric of our lives. Their faith in us has kept us near God. And even after they are gone, when we wear a white flower instead of a red one, they continue to bless us. Their memory is still a guiding star that leads us in the right way.

Let us turn, finally, to our Lord’s teaching on children. It was appropriate that when Jesus came riding into Jerusalem in the parade of palms, children lifted up their voices to praise him, for in him the children of mankind have found their best friend and defender. He to whom human nature was an open book showed a remarkably clear understanding of the mind of the child, a remarkably high appreciation of the child’s spiritual potentialities, and a remarkably deep concern that these potentialities be actualized. We recall at once his words, "Let the children come to me, and do not hinder them; for to such belongs the kingdom of God" (Luke 18:16). In a still more dramatic occasion Jesus places a little child before the disciples, who are quarreling about priority rights in the kingdom, and says, "unless you change and become like children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven" (Matthew 18:3).

What does our Lord see in the little child that makes him an example for adults? He is certainly not commending mere childishness, smallness, ignorance, a low or arrested level of development. He used a child, not a dwarf, as his example. What Jesus commended, above all, is the sensitive open-minded receptivity that marks a normal child. As he teaches in the beatitudes, he makes such receptivity the essential prerequisite for entrance into his kingdom. The child receives in order that he may grow, he is willing to learn, ready to be helped. When we allow ourselves to get into a rut and become complacent or indifferent, our Lord sends us to the little child to recover the most essential of spiritual attitudes.

True childlikeness has other traits which Jesus considers normative. The child has single-mindedness. While we dabble a little here and a little there, the child puts his whole heart into his object of interest. He has candid seriousness, utter intensity and devotion. He has not learned to camouflage his feelings, to pretend and to flatter, as we do. If he does not like you, he will let you know, like a little dog that barks at strangers. His yea is yea, and his nay is nay. That is what Jesus wants.

The child has an appreciation of personal values, while we appraise in terms of such impersonal standards as money. A little girl will turn from an expensive new doll to hug the old rag doll with its face almost kissed away. The child has the loyalty that makes for true worship. Did you ever overhear a little boy insisting in no uncertain terms how much better his daddy is than anyone else’s daddy? And the child has the feeling of awe and wonder which is the very soul of religion. As we grow older, the wonder goes out of life. We even take for granted the amazing story that God was born in a stable. The mysteries of life, as Wordsworth would say, "stir us not, for the world is too much with us," while "heaven lies about us in our infancy."

Recognizing the spiritual potentialities in the child and the childlike attitude, Jesus is deeply concerned with actualizing, instead of thwarting and frustrating, these potentialities. Having said that we must become like children, he proceeds at once to say, "Whoever receives one such child in my name receives me," and to pronounce dire judgment upon those who cause "one of these little ones who believes in me to sin," who exert the wrong influence, who by neglect or indifference stunt the spiritual growth of children. Parents cannot pass on to the church the responsibility for cultivating the faith of their children. If the six days at home pull in an opposite direction from the one day at church, then it is a losing battle that we are waging.

When President Calvin Coolidge was asked to define America’s greatest need, he said, "The greatest need of America is religion, the religion that centers in the home." The home is indeed the cornerstone of our whole social structure. It is the oldest and most solidly established of our social institutions, best protected by state and church. For the children it is the whole setting of the formative years in which the contours of personality are determined. Health, character, education, religion - all have their roots here. It is the daily starting point and background of all our activities. For the man, as well as for the woman, it is the real job in life, for the money-making job is only a means for carrying on the home.

Since the home is all this and since the home today is threatened by the rise of non-Christian attitudes and behavior, we must have clearly before us the Christian home, the home under God, and strive earnestly with God’s help to build and maintain it. This home is beautifully described by the poet John Oxenham:

"The cornerstone in Truth is laid,
The guardian walls of Honor made,
The roof of Faith is built above,
The fire upon the hearth is Love.
Though rains descend and loud winds call,
This happy home shall never fall."

CSS Publishing Co., Inc., Good News For All Seasons, by T. A. Kantonen