Luke 7:36-50 · Jesus Anointed by a Sinful Woman
On Eating Peas With A Knife
Luke 7:36-50
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by King Duncan
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There is an ancient verse by an unknown poet that goes something like this:

I eat peas with honey,
Been doin' it all my life;
It tastes kind of funny,
But it keeps the peas on my knife.

Most of us have never known anyone who eats peas with a knife. It sounds like quite a feat. I suspect I would scatter those little green varmints all around the dining room if I tried it. And yet I understand that there was a time when some people practiced that quaint custom. I thought about this when I read a story that appeared in GUIDEPOSTS recently. It was by a lady named Cori Connors. Cori tells the story of her mother, who, to this day, is teased for eating peas with a knife, instead of a fork. But there's a wonderful story behind this strange custom.

Cori's mom grew up during the Depression. Her family was poor, like much of the rest of the country, but they had a vegetable garden that kept them from starving. Strangers passing through town in search of work were welcome at their table. They never turned anyone away hungry. One day, her father brought home a man named Henry. Henry didn't know much English, but his gestures of gratitude toward the family were easy to understand. At dinner that evening, the family waited to let Henry start his meal first. Eagerly, he grabbed up his knife and dug into his peas. The children in the family were astonished. Henry had an amazing ability to balance all the peas on his knife perfectly. The children began to giggle at this strange eating habit. But the father of the family, giving his children a silencing look, picked up his own knife and began eating his peas. Although he had much less success than Henry, he kept at it and eventually captured every last pea. That day, Cori's mother saw a concrete example of acceptance, of treating people with dignity, in spite of our differences. And now, years later, that message has been passed down to her children and her grandchildren. Who knows how many generations will learn from the example of a father's acceptance of a man who ate peas with his knife? (1)

Go with me now to our Scripture for the day. A Pharisee invited Jesus to come to his home for lunch. Jesus accepted. As they sat down to eat, a woman who had led a sinful life heard Jesus was there and brought an exquisite flask filled with expensive perfume. Now, a party in those days was a public event. Homes had open courts, and the uninvited could stand around and observe the guests and the festivities. This woman knelt behind Jesus weeping, with her tears falling upon his feet. In those days it was forbidden to unbind your hair and only loose women did so, and yet this woman not only unbound her hair, but she used her hair to wipe her tears off of Jesus' feet. Then she kissed Jesus' feet and poured the perfume on them. Now understand, religious leaders such as the Pharisee and Jesus weren't even supposed to touch a woman if possible. Doing so would pollute them. When Jesus' host saw what was happening, he thought to himself, "This proves that this man is no prophet, for if God had really sent him, he would know what kind of woman this one is!"

Then Jesus answered Simon's thoughts with a parable. He said, "A man loaned money to two people$5,000 to one and $500 to the other. But neither of them could pay him back, so he kindly forgave them both, letting them keep the money! Which do you suppose loved him most after that?" Simon answered, "I suppose the one who had owed him the most." "Correct," Jesus said. Then he turned to the woman and said to Simon, "Look! See this woman kneeling here! When I entered your home, you didn't bother to offer me water to wash the dust from my feet, but she has washed them with her tears and wiped them with her hair. You refused me the customary kiss of greeting, but she has kissed my feet again and again from the time I first came in. You neglected the usual courtesy of olive oil to anoint my head, but she has covered my feet with rare perfume. Therefore her sins--and they are many--are forgiven, for she loved me much; but one who is forgiven little, shows little love." And he said to her, "Your sins are forgiven." (The Living Bible)

Let's begin here: THE GREATEST NEED SOME PEOPLE HAVE IS FOR ACCEPTANCE. You know that. Remember when you were small, how it felt to be shut out. We never really get over that, do we? The greatest need that some people have is acceptance.

Dudley Moore, the successful movie actor, has that need. As a youngster, Dudley was born with a clubfoot. He was smaller than the other children and one of his legs was shorter than the other. Kids laughed at him and called him Hopalong. Dudley felt humiliated. "I felt unworthy of anything," says Dudley, "a little runt with a twisted foot." His parents felt guilty about his defect, so Dudley felt that he had done something wrong. His home lacked love, and his parents seemed characterized by fear and anxiety.

When he was six or seven, Dudley spent a lot of time in hospitals. One night, a nurse named Pat gave him a goodnight kiss. Forty years later, Dudley says, "I almost spin when I think about it. She was truly an angel of mercy, and that kiss was probably the first taste of real, unqualified, uncomplicated affection I had ever had. In many ways my entire life is based on recapturing that single moment of affection." (2)

How did Dudley Moore deal with his need for acceptance? He learned to make his classmates laugh. He became the class clown. And the rest, as they say, is history.

We all have a need to be accepted. Some people will do far worse than become the class clown to be accepted. How many young people take their first drink, or smoke their first joint, in a bid to be accepted? How many have their first sexual experience for the same reason? The drive for acceptance is a powerful one. For some people, it is their greatest need.

HERE IS THE SECOND THING WE NEED TO SEE: ACCEPTANCE HAS BEEN KNOWN TO CHANGE PEOPLE. There are people who are decent, responsible citizens today because someone, somewhere along the way gave them the acceptance they craved.

A child psychologist told about a boy who was brought to him who was labeled "incorrigible." The child was supposed to be "uncontrollable." He was moody, and at first wouldn't even talk to the psychologist. There simply seemed to be no "handle" with which to take hold of him. The boy's own father, said, "This is the only child I've ever seen who doesn't have a single likeable trait, not a single one." The psychologist realized this was his starting point. He started looking for some one thing he could approve. He found several. The boy liked to carve and he did it well. At home he had carved up the furniture and been punished for it. The psychologist bought him a carving set, a set of carving knives, and some soft wood. He also gave him some suggestions about how to use them, and didn't hold back his approval. "You know, Jimmy," he said, "you can carve out things better than any boy I ever knew." To make a long story short, the psychologist soon found other things he could approve, and one day Jimmy surprised everyone by cleaning up his own room without being asked. When the psychologist asked him why he did it, Jimmy answered, "I thought you would like that." (3)

Acceptance changes lives. You and I have seen it happen in other situations with adults as well as young people. This is the strength of groups like Alcoholics Anonymous and other support groups. When people feel accepted, they find the power to change.

This was one of the secrets of Jesus' ministry. He accepted people just as they were and he changed their lives. You see, the Pharisees were the best people on earth but there is no evidence that they ever changed anybody. Their approach was one of avoidance of those people with problems, not acceptance. But Jesus reached out to those in need. Jesus said, "It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick." (Mat 9:12) Jesus knew that the greatest need some people have is for acceptance. Jesus also knew that acceptance changes lives.

HERE IS THE LAST THING WE NEED TO SEE: THE CHURCH IS CALLED TO BE AN ACCEPTING COMMUNITY. This is who we are and what we are called to be. We are not an exclusive club. We are not a representative sample of the best people in town who gather each week to congratulate one another on our virtues. We are those who know we have been accepted and, having been accepted, pass on that acceptance to others.

Writer Philip Yancey tells a disturbing story in his book, WHAT'S SO AMAZING ABOUT GRACE? He heard it from a friend who works with the down-and-out in Chicago. His friend said on one occasion, "A prostitute came to me in wretched straits, homeless, sick, unable to buy food for her two-year-old daughter. Through sobs and tears, she told me she had been renting out her daughter, two-years-old to men interested in kinky sex. She made more renting out her daughter for an hour than she could earn on her own in a night. She had to do it, she said, to support her own drug habit. I could hardly bear hearing her sordid story. For one thing, it made me legally liable. I'm required to report cases of child abuse. I had no idea what to say to this woman. At last I asked if she had ever thought of going to a church for help. I will never forget the look of pure, naive shock that crossed her face. ˜Church!' she cried. ˜Why would I ever go there? I was already feeling terrible about myself. They'd just make me feel worse.' What struck me about my friend's story," says Philip Yancey, "is that women much like this prostitute fled toward Jesus, not away from him. The worse a person felt about herself, the more likely she saw Jesus as a refuge. Has the church lost that gift?" Yancey asks. "Evidently the down-and-out, who flocked to Jesus when he lived on earth, no longer feel welcome among his followers. What has happened?" (4)

What has happened? A prostitute who rents out her two-year-old daughter? It would be hard to fall any farther than that. Could you accept her? Forgive her? This is when the Christian faith gets difficult, isn't it? Sometimes it is easier for many of us to relate to Simon the Pharisee than to Jesus the Christ. The only way we can have that kind of accepting heart is to ponder our own acceptance. You and I have fallen short of the glory of God, too, but we have received grace upon grace.

As Paul Tillich put it so eloquently: "Grace strikes us when we are in great pain and restlessness . . . It strikes us when our disgust for our own being, our weakness, our hostility, and our lack of direction and composure have become intolerable to us. It strikes us when, year after year, the longed for perfection of life does not appear, when the old compulsions reign with us as they have for decades . . . Sometimes at that moment a wave of light breaks into our darkness, and it is as though a voice were saying: " ˜You are accepted. . . .'" (5)

We are accepted. Now we must accept others. The greatest need some people have is to be accepted. Acceptance changes lives. Let's you and I work together to make this house of worship known as a place where people can discover the acceptance of God and of the Christian community.


1. "On the Cutting Edge," by Cori Connors, GUIDEPOSTS, March 1997, p.36.

2. Gerald Clarke, "Cuddly Dudley, The Wee Wonder," TIME, February 21, 1983, p. 70. Cited in Rusty Wright & Linda Raney Wright, 500 CLEAN JOKES AND HUMOROUS STORIES (Uhrichsville, OH: Barbour and Company).

3. The source of this illustration is unknown.

4. (Grand Rapids, Michigan: Zondervan Publishing House, 1997), 11.

5. THE SHAKING OF THE FOUNDATIONS.

Dynamic Preaching, Collected Sermons, by King Duncan