Hebrews 4:14-5:10 · Jesus the Great High Priest
How To Deal With Suffering
Hebrews 4:14-5:10
Sermon
by Erskine White
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Although He was a Son, He learned obedience through what He suffered. (Hebrews 5:8)

Note: This sermon was preached in the midst of a long summer heat wave which afflicted much of the nation.

In the early 1960s in the deep South, when the backlash against the civil rights movement got especially severe and the violence of white racists got especially brutal, Martin Luther King, Jr. spoke to a packed church one night and said, "We have entered into a season of suffering." Scripture says that "To everything there is a season" (Eccleasiastes 3:1), and sometimes it is true in life that the season is one for suffering.

I've often thought of Dr. King's phrase during the summertime, not in terms of injustice or persecution, but in terms of the weather! Doesn't it seem in recent years that summers have become a season for suffering?

If you are like me, with no air conditioning in your home, you don't sleep very well for two months during the summertime. But then, for some people, the summer heat is more than a matter of comfort; it can be a matter of life and death if you are elderly or suffering from respiratory problems. In the midst of winter snows and flu bugs, when everyone is pining for July and August, do we remember how the summer can become a season of suffering as well?

There are going to be seasons of suffering in everyone's life, in ways that may go far beyond the weather. There can be an illness or a physical condition which brings pain and suffering. There can be the emotional pain of losing a loved one, losing a job, or any of the other slings and arrows of outrageous fortune which life can rain down on us at any time.

Yes, there are going to be seasons of suffering in everyone's life, so the question we have to answer is: how do we deal with it? How do we deal with suffering, no matter what kind it is? Over the years, people have found many different ways.

One very popular way of coping with suffering is to take it out on someone else. Be nasty with other people because "misery loves company." If you are suffering, try to make yourself feel better by making someone else feel worse.

A friend cheerfully asks you how you are doing today and you really let her have it! You ask your friend if she has twenty minutes and before she can say "no," you tell her in excruciating detail just how miserable you actually are.

Before too long, your friend's happy expression is gone. All she wanted was a smile and an "I'm doing fine," and now she's really depressed. Suddenly she looks at her watch and remembers that she has to go. The public library is offering a free lecture on the history of eyeglasses and she doesn't want to miss it.

You've won! You have succeeded in making someone else miserable and now she's gone. Now you can go on feeling sorry for yourself. But be careful not to win too many of those kinds of victories because if you do, you'll drive everyone away, and sooner or later, you'll be left all alone in your misery.

Churches should know better, but some of them don't deal with suffering very well, either. In some churches, where all they preach is a "happytalk" gospel of blessings and prosperity, suffering is ignored altogether. Suffering and unhappiness do not exist. They don't want to see any sad faces, no broken hearts in these churches! Distress is considered out of place because believers are supposed to be full of joy and good cheer.

Then there are churches which treat suffering only as something to be gotten rid of - right away. The message in these churches is that suffering must be healed, and if you aren't healed, there is something wrong with your faith.

Now, let me make clear that I believe in the gift of healing. I believe in physical as well as spiritual healing. But I also know that many healers are frauds and even sincere healers can give the wrong message to Christian people.

I remember a time when I was living in a small downtown apartment next door to a storefront, "healing" church. The pastor of this little church had a long, white Cadillac, and I used to sit on my porch and watch him drive up to the church for the healing services on Sunday night.

Well, one night, the pastor was already in the church with the rest of his congregation and I wondered why his car wasn't there. In a few minutes, the answer came. After the service had started, I saw two men drive up in the pastor's car. One of the men pulled a wheelchair out of the trunk. Then the other man walked over to the wheelchair, sat down in it and was wheeled inside the church to be "healed."

Now, the problem here wasn't just the pastor, who was disgracing the name of Jesus Christ by being a fraud and taking His people for fools. The problem was also with the people inside. They didn't have a Christian understanding of suffering.

You see: suffering isn't something you inflict on other people to make yourself feel better; it isn't something to be ignored; and it isn't necessarily something to be healed right away, as if it were an alien, immoral or unnatural part of life. The Bible teaches that suffering is a part of life and it teaches us how to deal with suffering in a Christian way.

There are some clues for us right here in our text from Hebrews. Paul says that Jesus "offered up prayers and supplications, with loud cries and tears." He is referring to the night Jesus was betrayed in Gethsemane, where His suffering was so deep that His sweat was like drops of blood falling down (Luke 22:44).

Jesus did not deny His sorrow, or jump up and sing, "O Happy Day." Instead, He was filled with agony. He didn't avoid His suffering, He didn't cover it up and He didn't blame God for it. He contended with it and finally, He accepted it for what it was.

So, this is the first thing to be said about how Christians deal with suffering. They accept it for what it is and seek no excuses or reasons for it. They accept suffering as part of life, just as they accept the joys and pleasures of life as well.

We might also remember something else Jesus did that night: He comforted His disciples. They were frightened and despondent on the eve of His death, but Jesus said to them, "In the world you have tribulation, but be of good cheer, for I have overcome the world" (John 16:33). Jesus did something for someone else. In His own moment of need, He ministered to the needs of others.

There's another marvelous example of this from the life of Paul. It happened that Paul and Silas were unjustly arrested, beaten by a mob and then thrown into prison. After they were released, the Scripture says this: they "entered into the house of Lydia; and when they had seen the brothers and sisters, they comforted them and departed" (Acts 16:40).

Think of what Paul and Silas could have done. They could have walked into Lydia's house with downcast faces. They could have received pampering and sympathy for the terrible ordeal they had just been through. Instead, they comforted everyone else!

Besides accepting suffering as a fact of life, and besides reaching out in suffering to help someone else, there is one more thing to be said about dealing with suffering in a Christian way. Listen to this intriguing line from our text in Hebrews: "[Jesus] learned obedience through what He suffered." In other words, Christians find in suffering an opportunity to learn - to learn discipline and obedience, grace and faith, just as Jesus learned.

If you think about it, we learn by suffering all our lives. One of my young children learned to believe his parents when they told him the stove was hot. He learned by burning his finger and now he never touches the stove without asking, "Is it hot?" You can imagine how he learned not to run down the stairs! Even as children, we can learn something from our suffering.

As we get older, the things we learn from suffering are more fundamental, more subtle and more spiritual. When I think back on the bitter blows and tragic losses I've endured in my own life, I can't say I liked any of it, but looking back on it now, I think my suffering has made me a better minister and a better person. I'll bet each of you could say the same thing.

The Bible certainly says as much, especially in the New Testament. Paul says in Romans, "Suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not disappoint us" (5:3-5). 1 Peter says, "If any of you suffers as a Christian, do not be ashamed, but under that name, let him glorify God" (4:16). And Paul, again, from his letter to the Hebrews: "Because [Christ] Himself has suffered and been tempted, He is able to help us when we are tempted" (2:18).

Think of how you suffer in the summer's heat and use that as a metaphor for all the other ways you have suffered in life. What are we supposed to learn from our suffering?

Can any of us make it cooler by complaining about the heat? Why should we complain about something we cannot change? Everyone knows it's hot and it will stay hot until the temperature goes down! It's as simple as that. We should learn to accept the things we suffer that we cannot change, for this is the first step toward overcoming them in a Christian way.

And even as we are suffering, why should we think only of ourselves? Why should we retreat into the small houses of our own self-pity and not notice the needs of our neighbors? When we are suffering, that is precisely the time to be offering ourselves to others, for this is the second step toward overcoming our trials and tribulations in life.

And finally, there is the greatest opportunity of all - the opportunity in our suffering to identify with our Lord, Jesus Christ. He Himself learned obedience through His sufferings and that is why He can help us through our own today.

Let Him be your shade from the summer sun. Let Him be your oasis, your cool, refreshing spring when the desert is hot and dry. A season of suffering is really a season to shine, a chance to draw closer to Christ in obedience to His will.

So, even in the haze and heat of life's most uncomfortable seasons, when spirits are frazzled and the suffering sets in, let Christ shine within You. Let Him bring out the best in you so that you can give it to others and you can be a blessing when everyone else is burdened. In Jesus' name. Amen

Pastoral Prayer

Gracious God, whose love and mercy are without end, even when we least deserve them, we give You thanks for our many blessings, which are too numerous to count. We thank You for the blessings of home and family, the blessings of nation and the greater blessing of Your church, which welcomes us all as disciples in Jesus' name. Help us never to lose sight of all we can be thankful for; don't ever let us be ungrateful to our God.

And Heavenly God, who knows that the summer heat is a burden to the just and the unjust alike, make us more obedient when we enter a season of suffering in our lives. When others would expect us to be beaten, help us to show more clearly the victory we have won in faith. When others would expect us to weaken, make us stronger and more joyful than before. Bring out the best in us, O Lord, when life seems to be at its worst, so that others may give glory to you by what they see in us. In Jesus' name we pray. Amen.

C.S.S. Publishing Company, TOGETHER IN CHRIST, by Erskine White