1 Corinthians 10:1-13 · Warnings From Israel’s History
Grumblers Among God's People
1 Corinthians 10:1-13
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by King Duncan
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At a certain popular resort there are hot springs and cold springs side by side. Local people washed clothes in the hot spring and then rinsed them in the cold. A tourist, watching the procedure, said to one of the natives, "How bountiful of nature to supply these springs." "Not so bountiful," said the native. "You'll notice there's no soap."

A new pastor was full of enthusiasm on his first Sunday. He mentioned the thrill of accepting the call of the congregation, particularly since it had been a unanimous vote. After the service, the Chair of the Pastor Nominating Committee said, "I told you it was NEARLY a unanimous vote. I never actually said it was unanimous." The pastor asked, "What do you mean, nearly unanimous." The Chair explained that it was practically a unanimous vote. The Pastor questioned further, "What was the vote?" The Chair answered, "It was 96 to 2."

That first year the young pastor used most of his energy determining who those two people were. When he figured it out, he invested most of his second year wooing them to become his supporters. At the end of the second year the congregation voted on whether to renew the contract with the pastor. The vote was 2 in favor, 96 against.(1)

St. Paul was warning the early church about the sins that hindered the people of Israel in the time of Moses from being what God wanted them to be. Paul writes, "Do not be idolaters, as some of them were; as it is written: ˜The people sat down to eat and drink and got up to indulge in pagan revelry.' We should not commit sexual immorality, as some of them did and in one day twentythree thousand of them died. We should not test the Lord, as some of them did and were killed by snakes. And do not grumble, as some of them did and were killed by the destroying angel." Do not grumble? You mean grumbling is a sin? Yes, according to St. Paul, grumbling is a sin. And, since grumbling is such a prevalent theme in Paul's writings and throughout the book of Exodus, it would be appropriate for us to give a few moments thought to it this day.

No sooner did Israel gather into a congregation than they began to have grumblers. Those of you who have had small children in your family know about grumbling. Sometimes they will complain with whiney voices, "We're starving!" We can be patient with such ageappropriate behavior among small children. The problem with grumblers, however, is that they continue such irritating behavior as adults. Thus, we read in Exodus 16 that the people began to complain and murmur against Moses and Aaron, "We're starving! You just brought us out here to watch us die of hunger." (Exodus 16:13)

FIRST WE NEED TO DEFINE A GRUMBLER. Just being discontent is not enough to be labeled a grumbler. All of us, at some time or another, are probably discontent with something in the church. We may be unhappy about a position taken by our denomination or with the leadership of this church. Perhaps, we cannot support a particular view of our pastor. That's normal. Disagreeing with church leadership doesn't automatically make a person a grumbler.

A grumbler is a person who doesn't know how to handle the unhappiness which naturally occurs when parties disagree. Grumblers are people who do not know appropriate ways to express their disagreements with leadership. Rather than finding appropriate ways to show their discontent, grumblers stir up unhealthy conflict. That's what makes a person a grumbler. Sadly, these are frequently people who have good intentions. Yet the results of their grumbling are disastrous to the church. One recent writer compared grumblers to termites. They slowly chew away at the foundation of confidence and vision of the people of God. (2) Grumblers simply don't seem to know appropriate ways to have healthy conflict in their lives. They don't know how to talk about their discontentment in ways that are honest. Thus, they become grumblers. Here are some common factors that might help us to identify potential grumblers.

FIRST, MOST GRUMBLERS WANT TO REMAIN ANONYMOUS. I guess we could form an organization called Grumblers Anonymous. The problem is it would be a silly name since it would be redundant. Grumbling and anonymity go hand in hand. Since grumblers have difficulty being honest about their disagreement or unhappiness, they tend to send messages of discontent by indirect means.

A common style of grumblers is the unsigned note. One pastor says he is afraid to walk into his office on Monday mornings. He knows he will find an anonymous note. No signature, just an anonymous criticism of his church or of himself. Sometimes the content is serious. Most of the time the notes are concerned with petty complaints. One Saturday before Easter, there was a letter in the mail. It was an unsigned note that said, "Sunrise on Easter morning is at 6:05 a.m. not 6:30." The pastor wondered if the author of the letter understood that the purpose of a sunrise service is not to identify the actual moment of sunrise so much as to celebrate the resurrection of Jesus. Grumblers like anonymity.

Rev. Henry Ward Beecher one Sunday morning found an anonymous note with just one word written on it FOOL. That morning he held up the note to his congregation and said, "I have known many an instance of a man writing a letter and forgetting to sign his name, but this is the only instance I have ever known of a man signing his name and forgetting to write the letter." (3)

A SECOND THING ABOUT GRUMBLERS IS THAT THEY HAVE DIFFICULTY EXPRESSING THEIR DISSATISFACTION IN SPECIFICS. They talk in innuendoes. They hint without saying what they really mean. Leaders can't figure out what they're unhappy about. Subtle innuendoes, rumors and suggestions cannot be pinned down, leaving the leaders little to which they can respond. Sometimes it shows up in phrases like "I'm just not being fed." What does that mean? The grumblers don't even know what it means. They know they are spiritually unhealthy, but they do not know why. They know they are not happy and the only thing they know to do is grumble. Grumblers sound like the serpent questioning Eve, "Did God really say you can't eat that fruit?" It was just an innuendo. Yet, it was enough that Eve began to wonder, "Maybe God is holding back on us. Maybe God wasn't completely honest with us." Eventually her trust in God was undercut. All it took was an innuendo, a subtle suggestion.

THE THIRD THING ABOUT GRUMBLERS IS THAT THEY TEND TO BE PEOPLE WHO TALK A LOT ABOUT PROBLEMS, WITHOUT OFFERING ANY SOLUTIONS. They're great at criticizing what's wrong, but in unhelpful ways.

In one church there was an 85yearold Elder named George. Two or three times a year George would make a speech to the congregation. Sometimes the speech was given in the Sunday morning worship service during the time for announcements. Other times he chose the annual congregational meeting to give his tirade. This was his speech: "We're not doing enough for the youth. There aren't enough youth in our church. The youth are the future of the church. Why aren't we doing something for young people? We need to be doing more for young people. If we don't get the young people in here, our church is going to die, since the young people are the future of the church." It was a great speech. However, George never once invited the young people over to his home. He never offered a scholarship so a young person could go to camp. He did nothing for young people. He just gave his speech. That's the sign of a grumbler. Lots of problems, no solutions. These aren't bad people. Most of these are sincere folks who love the Lord. They think they're helping their church. They just don't realize how destructive they are.

One book about grumblers is called WELLINTENTIONED DRAGONS. The thesis of the book is that these people sincerely think they are helping. Nevertheless, they breathe fire and swing a tail, like a dragon, so that fellow church members get hurt. These wellintentioned dragons don't even realize what they're doing to everybody else. They just don't know how to handle conflict. They don't know appropriate ways to express their discontent. What do we do about grumblers? Moses had grumblers. They complained, "You just brought us out here to starve us. We're going to die out here." We can learn from his experience as well as from our New Testament faith.

THE FIRST THING MOSES LEARNED WAS LEADERS HAVE TO BE TOUGH. A pastor was addressing this issue once and said, "Let's face it. We pastor types are all codependent personalities. We want everybody to like us. The truth is, we can't please everybody." And we can't and neither can any of you who have leadership responsibilities. Sometimes we just have to toughen up. That is the counsel God gave to Moses. Toughen up Moses, taking criticism is part of the job. You're never going to please everybody. And, if you take criticism personally, you only make things worse.

Dr. Bruce Humprey tells a good story about his wife's grandfather. Once, when her grandfather was a young man, he pulled into a gas station to fill up and let the six children go to the bathroom. A few minutes later he pulled away, not realizing that one of the girls was still in the bathroom. The other five children whined, "You forgot Peggy!" Instead of listening to them, he drove on angrily demanding that they be quiet and stop whining. After having driven for nearly an hour, he calmed down enough to realize the mistake. When he turned around to go back he said, "Why didn't someone tell me!?"

Leaders who are oversensitive tend to get defensive and fail to listen to the legitimate concerns of grumblers. Sometimes the concern is legitimate, it is just the manner which the grumbler uses to convey which is inappropriate. Leaders who have broad shoulders and tough skins will be able to hear the legitimate concern while instructing the grumbler in a healthier style of expressing dissatisfaction.

And that brings us to our second lesson: THERE IS AN APPROPRIATE WAY TO EXPRESS DISSATISFACTION. Jesus taught us in Matthew 18:15 that we are to go directly to the person with whom we disagree in order to express our concerns face to face. It is not helpful to carry messages on behalf of others. We need to remind each other to keep our disagreements honest and forthright.

And one final lesson: THE BEST REMEDY FOR GRUMBLING IS WORKING TOGETHER TOWARD A COMMON GOAL. As one author has put it, "The best way to prevent weeds is not to attack them individually . . . The best way to handle weeds is a thick, healthy lawn, which keeps them from springing up in the first place."(4) The goal of a church is to be so healthy as a congregation that the grumblers can't be destructive. A healthy congregation encourages its members to find the right ways to handle conflict.

One of the most common causes for grumbling is lack of involvement. Most grumblers are people who are underemployed or unemployed for the church. They haven't found a place in God's kingdom where they feel important. The result is that they complain about what is going on in the church. The goal of a healthy church is to be a full employment church where everybody is needed.

A woman came to her pastor and said, "Our church has a fellowship group for the older members, retirement age, and there is a fellowship group for the younger members of our congregation, for Baby Boomers and young families. Some of us in between, in our 50s would like a fellowship group." That person could have become a grumbler. There was the opportunity to complain. Instead, she said, "Can I get something started?" The pastor said, "Go for it!" She did. And a most successful fellowship group was born. It happened because somebody, instead of grumbling, got to work.

Some women said to their pastor, "Why do other churches have women's retreats and we don't? We're getting big enough now that we could have our own women's retreat." They could have grumbled, but instead they said, "Let's do it. Let's organize a retreat." And that September their church sponsored their first women's retreat.

That is the difference between healthy people and grumblers. Healthy people are like Isaiah. When they see a problem, they say, "Here I am, Lord, use me." And that's the best way to eliminate grumbling. It's to act first and grumble later. "And do not grumble . . ." says St. Paul. That's a good word for us all.


1. Adapted from a sermon by Dr. Fred Craddock.

2. John White, "Breaking the Grumblers' Grip," LEADERSHIP (Spring, 1993), p. 98.

3. Bob Phillips, THE BEST OF GOOD CLEAN JOKES (Eugene: Harvest House, 1989), p. 93.

4. Marshall Shelley, WELLINTENTIONED DRAGONS (Waco: Word Books, 1985), p. 83.

Dynamic Preaching, Collected Sermons, by King Duncan