James 3:1-12 · Taming the Tongue
Don't Let Your Tongue Bite You
James 3:1-12
Sermon
by Eric Ritz
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The ability to communicate correctly with each other is one of the greatest challenges of our time. Our inability to communicate is sometimes at the heart of many of our greatest and most serious problems. We mis-communicate with each other when we don''t say or don''t hear what we really need to say or hear.

 I''m reminded of the story of the older couple who lived in the mountains. One evening the old gentleman was feeling rather romantic, and he complimented his wife and said, "I''m proud of you, Ma." She was only half listening and replied, "I''m tired of you too, Pa."

 All of us make mistakes at times in communications. But words are not the only way we communicate. We sometimes communicate with actions. You've often heard someone say, "Your actions speak so loudly, I can''t hear what you are saying." And if what we do doesn't match what we say, we confuse people in our communications. Indeed, I have heard people say, "You send me mixed signals. You say one thing, but you do another, and I''m confused by the way you communicate." (1)

 On a windswept hill in an English country churchyard stands a drab, gray slate tombstone. Bleak and unpretentious, it leans slightly to one side, beaten slick and thin by the blaze of time. The quaint stone bears an epitaph not easily seen unless you stoop over and look closely. The faint etchings read:

Beneath this stone, a lump of clay,
Lies Arabella Young,
Who, on the twenty-fourth of May
Began to hold her tongue.

 The tongue--what a study in contrasts! To the physician it''s merely a two-ounce slab of mucous membrane enclosing a complex array of muscles and nerves that enable our bodies to chew, taste, and swallow. How helpful! Equally significant, it is the major organ of communication that enables us to articulate distinct sounds so we can understand each other. How essential! (2)

 A certain woman told a judge she wanted a divorce. The judge asked, "Do you have a grudge?" The woman answered, "No, I get up before he does." "Then why do you want a divorce?" the judge erupted. The woman said, "Because we don''t seem to ever properly communicate."

 We have opened God''s word today and read those revealing words from James 3:1-12 in which we see that the problems of the tongue and communicating properly are not new problems--but ancient problems that demand daily attention and action. It needs control.

 I can vividly remember as a child going to the doctor with a sore throat or with allergies. The first thing the doctor would say: "Let me see your tongue." Then the doctor would take a tongue depressor, which always tasted terrible, and nearly choke me to death peering down my throat. The doctor would always say, "It was important to examine the tongue." The tongue was a great help to determine our physical health and illnesses.

 The writer James declares the same principle is at work in our spiritual life and maturity as a follower of the Lord Jesus Christ.

 If we spend our time at church only criticizing each other and other Christians who may differ from us in our beliefs, then we are not mature in Faith. Our commission is not to be shepherds and sheep--but to lead them to green pastures.

 We can use the tongue to do so much harm.:

  •  To verbally abuse a spouse.
  •  To verbally spank a child.
  •  To ridicule a classmate, colleague or workmate.
  •  To destroy a disciple.
  •  To put down another race of people.
  •  We can also use the tongue to share:
  •  To tell a spouse--I love you.
  •  To tell a child--I am proud of you.
  •  To tell a workmate--Can I help you?
  •  To hold a fellow Christian''s hand--Can we pray together?
  •  To knock on a neighbor''s door--Welcome to our neighborhood.

 It has been said, "We know metals by their tinkling, and men by their talking." James states that though the tongue is small it has great influence and power over the rest of the body. This is demonstrated when the tongue in verse 3 is compared to a bit in the mouth of a horse. In verse 4 it is compared to a rudder on a large ship. In verse 5 it is demonstrated how just a spark can set the whole forest burning.

 Perhaps the greatest insight that James shares is that without the constraining and controlling power of the Holy Spirit it is impossible to tame the tongue from its natural tendency to hurt and harm. Only when the "tongue is under the power of the Holy Spirit--can it be used to heal not hurt." In our own strength, we are incapable of overcoming the power of evil and the devil, which really is at the center of the problem of the tongue.

 I realize today that in our church family we would be evenly divided over whether or not Buddy Ryan should have been terminated as the Head Coach of the Philadelphia Eagles Football team. However, the reason he was fired was not his talent as a coach--but the inability to control his tongue and tame it. His tongue became careless and carefree. His words, often about other players and coaches were discouraging, degrading and destructive. We also at times use our tongues to win arguments rather than demonstrate integrity. Remember the Apostle Paul gave a great insight when he declared: "Even though I can speak in the tongues of men and angels, if I have not loved I have gained nothing." Our tongue, if used for harm, leaves a great stain in the fabric of life. That, unfortunately, is not a winsome witness for our Lord.

 As I studied and researched and gathered material and illustrations for this sermon, I could remember an insight learned from childhood days in Sunday School Class: The good Lord gave us two ears--but only one tongue. We should try to listen twice as much as we speak.

 Today, our world is on the brink of war in the Persian Gulf--and there isn''t one of us who won''t be or hasn''t already been affected by this. We are praying fervently for a peaceful solution.

 One of the reasons war could begin is our inability to come up with the right words on our tongues to allow everybody to back out gracefully of this dilemma. There are no winners in war--only survivors and casualties.

 Today, I want to share three ways we can use our tongues that will empower us to be authentic witnesses for our Lord Jesus Christ in 1992.

 First, all of the words from our tongues should bless--rather than blast or burn another human being.

 There is a country church in a small village in Croatia. One day near the beginning of the 20th century, an altar boy named Josip Broz served the priest at Sunday Mass. The boy accidentally dropped the glass cruet of wine. It smashed to pieces. The village priest struck the altar boy sharply on the cheek and in a gruff voice shouted: "Leave the altar and don''t come back."

 He never did come back to the Church. That boy became Tito, the Communist leader of Yugoslavia after World War II.

 About the same time an altar boy named Peter John served at Mass in St. Mary''s Cathedral, Peoria, Illinois. This altar boy, too, dropped the wine cruet. In later life, that boy wrote: "There is no atomic explosion that can equal in intensity of decibels the noise and explosive force of a wine cruet falling on the marble floor of a cathedral in the presence of a bishop. I was frightened to death."

 The celebrant at Mass that morning was Bishop John Spalding. With a warm twinkle in his eye, the bishop gently whispered: "Someday you will be just what I am."

 That boy grew up to become Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen, one of the Church''s most eloquent spokesmen for Christ. He wrote more than fifty books. During the 1950s, he became widely known as a television personality. He spoke on Tuesday evenings in a series of programs called "Life is Worth Living." As a boy, he dropped his first name "Peter" and used, instead, his mother''s maiden name, "Fulton." (3)

 One set of words shared in anger started a fire of destruction in the life of Josip Broz, that eventually led to his placing his faith in an "ism" rather than Christ.

 Another set of words started a fire of faith that still illuminates truth to a darkened world. Proverbs 12:18 says, "Thoughtless words can wound as deeply as any sword--but wisely spoken words can heal."

 Secondly, we can use our tongues to praise God--rather than poison life and people.

 A young lady named Sally and her mother had a violent shouting match about the dent she put in her mother''s car. After the confrontation, the father tried to console her. "What did your mother say about the dent in the car?" he asked. "Dad, do you want me to leave out the swear words?" "Please," he replied. Sally said, "Then she didn''t say anything."

 The mother failed to realize that words also can leave "dents" in people--but more than that they can poison the soil of a relationship. Dents can be hammered out of a car--they are much more difficult in human beings.

 The decade of the 1660s in England was filled with disaster. The plague in 1665 made its way through the City of London leaving 70,000 dead. A year later a fire destroyed much of that city. The prophets of doom and gloom predicted that London and England would never recover.

 During all of this a godly Christian man--Bishop Thomas Ken--kept encouraging the people that he could still see the Light of God''s purpose and presence even in tough times.

 He felt inspired one night to write a song to testify to his convictions, that God was still sovereign and worthy of praise. The Church still sings that song today:

Praise God from whom all blessings flow,
Praise Him all creatures here below,
Praise him above ye Heavenly Host.
Praise Father, Son and Holy Ghost. (4)

Thirdly, may the words from our tongue be a voice through which Christ can speak words of encouragement.

Almost every Sunday in every pulpit around the world, the preacher pauses to pray what I prayed together. "Let the words of my mouth and the meditations of all our hearts be acceptable in thy sight, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer." Our words--not only the preachers--need to be dedicated to God.

 I think we can all agree that from the moment we awake to the moment our heads touch the pillow again we talk a lot--words are used frequently.

I talk to my wife in the morning. (Really, I mumble a lot.)

I listen to my children getting ready for school. (I try to get a word in.)

I talk and share with our church secretaries.

I talk on the telephone.

I meet people for lunch.

I have appointments to talk--I pray.

Simply put: we all talk a lot. Now you can see why God is concerned about it--and desires us to consecrate it to Him.

I am told that two kinds of birds fly over our nation''s deserts: the hummingbird and the vulture. The vulture sees nothing but rotting meat because that is what the vulture looks for. They thrive on a diet of dead and decaying things. The hummingbird flies over the same desert and past the same dead carcasses and sees instead the tiny blossoms of the cactus flower. They buzz around until they find the colorful blooms hidden from view by the rocks.

Each bird finds what it is looking for. We all do. The same can be said for our words and the destination and purpose we have for them. Don''t let your tongue bite you--or anyone else. Use it for the Glory of God.

 Amen and Amen.

Dynamic Preaching, The Ritz Collection, by Eric Ritz