Luke 7:36-50 · Jesus Anointed by a Sinful Woman
Dinner Parties With A Difference
Luke 7:36-50
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by Maurice A. Fetty
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Religious leaders have had varying attitudes regarding dinner parties. Take John the Baptist, for instance. It is unlikely you would ever have gotten him inside a fine house around a beautiful table of exquisite crystal and china and gourmet food. That rustic, ascetic outdoorsman probably would have thought it a waste of time and money, an unnecessary frill to the essentials of life.

Many men today call themselves "meat and potatoes" men. No fancy foods for them. Just the basics. Forget all the fuss and bother. They just like a good steak, salad and potato. Let's sit down and eat and get it over with. But John the Baptist was even more rigid than that. Locusts and wild honey were his daily fare. No fine cuts of meat. No good dairy products. No wine touched his lips. Fasting and prayer and preaching were his daily regimen. He couldn't waste time with the frills and pleasures of a dinner party.

Jesus was different; so different in fact, he had the religious people of his day chattering about his behavior. Aside from the time of his wilderness temptation experiences, Jesus apparently avoided the ascetic way of life. Unlike John who scorned polite society, Jesus seemed to enjoy being with people on a wide variety of social occasions. He turned the water into wine at the wedding feast in Cana. He dined often with friends like Mary, Martha and Lazarus. Matthew and Zacchaeus each had a large feast with Jesus as an honored guest. Today's scripture describes him at yet another dinner party.

Consequently, rumors began to fly. People were wondering just how religious Jesus was. The followers of John the Baptist were inquiring about Jesus' behavior, wondering why he didn't fast more frequently. It looked to them as though he were enjoying life far too much. Jesus attended dinner parties so often, his enemies even accused him of being a glutton and drunkard.

I must confess I much prefer Jesus' behavior to John's, although I believe occasional fasting and much prayer to be good for the soul. I must also confess that many church people prefer their minister to behave more like John than Jesus. It is true, of course, that I probably could make people feel much more guilty if I were thinner, my face more austere and my eyes squintier. Any minister who looks as though he enjoys this life a lot has a hard time convincing his flock to prepare for the next life.

More than once I have been enjoying myself at dinner parties only to have people look at me quizzically as if to say, "You're a minister. Don't you know any better? You're not supposed to be having such a good time." On other occasions I have been seated at a feast with people of perhaps questionable reputation, only to have others wonder why I would be associating with that crowd. I myself sometimes have wondered that. Nevertheless, I'm usually willing to go about anywhere to grab someone for the kingdom of God, hoping in the meantime they don't grab me.

Jesus loved dinner parties. In fact, the early Christians had lots of them after Jesus' ascension. As they met together in the evening for their love feasts, their fellowship suppers, they broke their bread together in thanksgiving and memory of Jesus. And as they lifted the cup of wine, they thanked God for Jesus' life-blood, and remembered how his life literally had been poured out for them.

These early Christians were not being irreverent. Rather they were fulfilling Jesus' request that they remember him at their dinner parties. Communion is a remnant of those early feasts. We have only token amounts of bread and wine. But it's Jesus' dinner party nevertheless, and his table. He is the host; we are the guests. However, unlike the feast at Simon's house, Jesus' feast is a dinner party with a difference.

Jesus' dinner party is different because he includes people who do not seem to be his own kind.

The Pharisee had invited Jesus on the belief that he was a prophet, but that idea was dispelled when Jesus failed to discern that the woman touching him was a prostitute. The customary understanding of a prophet was tinged with the Pharisee's idea of separatism, of holiness touching no unclean thing. Thus, if Jesus were a holy prophet, he surely would not have let this intimate touching proceed.

When we gather around Jesus' table, his supper, his spiritual feast, it is surprising how many people gather at his table with an attitude more like that of Simon the Pharisee, than that of Jesus. Simon wanted at his table only those who were as pure and as good as he conceived himself to be. He was insulted Jesus would besmirch his high quality feast with apparent acceptance and recognition of such a low quality woman.

Today, many followers of Jesus regrettably have switched to the mentality of Simon. They believe only persons of the highest quality and most sanctified holiness are welcome at the table. Simon and his friends believed they had earned the right to associate together to celebrate their status and goodness. And indeed they had. They were good people. They gave alms, prayed every day, fasted twice a week, and supported temple and synagogue with the tithe, which meant ten percent before taxes. Furthermore, they kept up to date on their religious teachings, even to the minutest detail of their religious law. If anyone had earned the right to belong to an exclusive dinner party, they had. Without dispute, they were good men.

The prostitute had led quite a different life. Somewhere in her past, she may have been sexually abused, or she may have lacked love, or may have fallen into self-loathing, and then desperately sought some kind of warmth or affection. Or it might be she was trying, in her own way, to conquer a male-chauvinist, double-standard society. If she had been widowed or divorced, she might have turned to the only means of livelihood open to her in those days.

We can assume she gave few alms. Fasting would not be good for her profession. Attendance at religious services was rare. She might have sent a holiday gift to the temple or synagogue as a kind of guilt offering. But she was not the kind of person priests and rabbis could count on for solid support of their religious institutions. Mothers attempted to shield their daughters from this woman's influence. Wives hoped their husbands never would fall into her seductive traps. But even the priests and rabbis had to acknowledge that somewhere out there, men were giving her business, perhaps even good men.

Are there any good men here today? Are there any bad women here today? Who then is welcome at Jesus' table?

Christians with Pharisaic attitudes like those of Simon believe only the good people should gather at the table, that only the worthy should come to Christ's dinner party. His feast, they claim, is only for those who have "arrived" religiously. Those of lesser religious and moral status politely should excuse themselves.

Not so, says Jesus. Untrue. Unlike dinner parties which are called to enhance our mutual admiration society, my dinner party is different, says Jesus. So long as you come openly with faith and repentance as did this woman, you are welcome. I accept you. I want to include you among my friends. I will forgive you if you are willing to give up your phoniness, to lay it straight, to come clean, admitting your wrongs.

I realize, says Jesus, that you may feel as though you are not up to my standards, that you feel you may not know how to behave in my circle of friends. But that really doesn't matter. In fact, it's that kind of feeling that qualifies you more than anything else. The truth is, my people are not really all that good. They're sinners just like you, and they know it and confess it. They came to my feast to receive my acceptance and the encouragement of my other followers. Surprisingly, the way to be admitted is to admit you are not worthy. True humility gets you everywhere.

There is another difference in the dinner party of Jesus. It encourages genuine interest in the other person.

I read once of a super salesman going to lunch at the fashionable Delmonico's in New York's Wall Street district. As he entered the busy restaurant and walked across the crowded dining room behind the maitre'd, he purposely knocked a glass-laden tray out of a waiter's hand. Within a split second every executive eye in the place was on the super salesman who drank in the attention, hoping he would never be forgotten. Other salesmen by the hundreds came and went to Delmonico's unnoticed, but not this man. He wanted to call attention to himself, to gain recognition and thus potential customers.

Most of us enter fashionable restaurants more modestly, if not more timidly, than that salesman. Nevertheless, as we gather with friends and acquaintances, our egos may be just as large and starved as his. Some people go to dinner parties to impress rather than be impressed, to talk rather than to listen, to be confirmed in their prejudices rather than to be changed.

Notice the difference between Simon and the prostitute. Simon was cold and calculating, the prostitute warm and receptive. Simon, in his self-centeredness, unforgivably had forgotten the common courtesies of mid-eastern hospitality of washing guests' feet and greeting them with an embrace and kiss. The prostitute washed Jesus' feet with her tears, dried them with her hair, and rubbed costly ointment on them. Simon, in a position to be generous, was selfish and censorious. The poor woman, in a position to be selfish, was generous and loving. Simon was thinking of himself. The woman was thinking of Jesus.

The most exciting dinner parties I have attended are those where people genuinely are interested in one another. The most disappointing are those where everyone is playing one-upmanship, or where people are blase and really not open to one another.

Writing in Harper's magazine, Peter Marin once suggested our country is characterized by the latter mentality more than the former. There is a new narcissism in the land, says Marin. Self-love has been elevated to the ultimate. Genuine human community and reciprocity are lacking. It is so easy for the self to replace a sense of community or genuine relationship with others or with God. Thus we lose any sense of the real presence of another self, and with it, our sense of identity and reciprocal relationship. There is no give and take, only take.

Do you see what was happening with the prostitute? For the first time in her life she truly was loving somebody. Until recently she had been exploiting men in the name of love. In reality it was a vicious circle of exploitation and hate, each person using the other for his or her selfish gratification. The startling thing about Jesus was that he looked at her in a way no other man looked. He looked beyond her body to her soul, beyond her external glamour to her interior heart. He was not looking for bargain basement love. Rather he was looking at a self in need of genuine human feeling and acceptance and forgiveness.

Simon, on the other hand, was really in the exploitative frame of mind. He had Jesus over to dinner more or less to test his credentials to see if he might "fit in" or if he might possibly be used for the Pharisees' cause. He cared little for Jesus as a person, except as he might enhance or threaten the Pharisees' position. No real community took place between Jesus and Simon. Simon wasn't open. His was the old narcissism, closed off from one another and disinterested.

The joy of true community took place between Jesus and the woman because they were thinking of each other. They focused on each other's needs and thus genuinely were fulfilled. Look at that picture again. Can you imagine yourself washing Jesus' feet and kissing them? Or drying them with your hair? Who of us would humble ourselves to do that for anybody?

So often we come to take from Jesus, not to give. We want peace of mind, strength for living, success in business, support for our latest cause. But first we must come to give -- to give him our love, our honor, our allegiance, our need for forgiveness. Then when we know that we have been forgiven much, perhaps we can love much, and his dinner party will indeed be different from any we have experienced.

CSS Publishing, Lima, Ohio, The Divine Advocacy, by Maurice A. Fetty