Psalm 35:1-28 · Psalm 35
When God Is Silent
Psalm 35:1-28
Sermon
by Erskine White
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But [Jesus] did not answer her a word. (Matthew 15:23a)

The Canaanite woman came to Jesus for the best of reasons, asking for His mercy; she was praying that Jesus would heal her afflicted daughter. She was determined and who wouldn't be in that same situation? Who among us wouldn't move heaven and earth to reach someone who could cure our ailing child?

She came to Jesus begging for help, but at first, He did not reply. Our text says that "He did not answer her a word." Have you ever had that experience, where God seems absent as you pray? We've all heard the expression: "God answers prayers, but sometimes the answer is 'no.' "Well, that's only half true. Sometimes when we pray, there is no answer at all.

Sometimes, it seems that the prayers of the whole world are going unheeded. Helmut Thielicke, a well-known German pastor, preached to his congregation all during the Second World War. One Sunday, he preached on this same text at the darkest hour of the war, when it seemed there was no light at the end of the night. The title of that sermon was most expressive; he called it "The Silence of God."1 In the midst of all that death and destruction - at a time when the whole world seemed to have gone mad - where was God's voice? Where was His answer to the desperate prayers of millions? "The Silence of God," indeed.

Many Christians deny altogether that God is ever silent. In fact, for many Christians, God is a real chatterbox. God tells them what clothes to put on in the morning, or which birthday card to buy a friend. These Christians claim a special closeness to God by claiming that God directs everything they do and they give you the impression that God can't keep His mouth shut!

Do not be misled or intimidated by frivolous Christians. When your faith is more mature, you realize that during the course of our spiritual lives, God can be silent even when we pray to Him most fervently and when we most want Him to speak.

Scripture says as much, so we know it is true. The prophet Jeremiah complains to God in his Lamentations: "Thou hast wrapped Thyself with a cloud, so that no prayer can pass through" (3:44). The prophet Habakkuk cries out in despair, "O Lord, how long shall I cry for help, and Thou wilt not hear?" (1:2). The Psalmist also knows the silence of God: "O my God, I cry by day, but Thou dost not answer; and by night, but find no rest" (22:2). Even Jesus felt that God was absent as He hung on the cross to die: "My God, my God, why hast Thou forsaken Me?" (Mark 15:34).

So, too, have great Christians through the ages testified from their own experience that God is sometimes silent and absent from them when they pray.

John Wesley, the founder of the Methodist Church, had a famous conversion experience at a place called Aldersgate. He said that he felt his heart "strangely warmed," and that his sins were forgiven. He had a deep and personal experience of God.

But less than one year later, this same John Wesley wrote in his Journal, "I know that I am not a Christian, because I do not feel that I love God and His Son Jesus Christ as my Savior." Sometimes, God seemed as close to John Wesley as flesh to bone and sometimes God seemed silent and far away.

In more recent times, another famous Christian, Martin Luther King, Jr., also knew the peaks and valleys of the inner life. In fact, his own spiritual experience was so common that millions of people can readily identify with it.

It seems that Dr. King went for months on end without hearing the voice of God in his life. He still had his convictions about faith to keep him going, but in terms of a continuing personal communion with God, it often seemed that God was silent.

There were times when Dr. King got so discouraged, so tired and frightened, that he felt he couldn't go on. He wanted to quit what he was doing. That's when God would speak to him, in a voice that he could hear and tell him to keep going. "Lo, I am with you always," God would say, "even to the end of the age."

Maybe you've also known those moments where God has spoken when you most needed to hear His voice, when you most needed to know that He was there and that He cared. Those are the moments which sustain you through the absences and the silences of God.

In fact, the Christian's spiritual life may be compared to a journey through the desert. You endure long walks in the dryness and heat, where God is silent. Then you come to an oasis, where you are refreshed by the waters of His spoken Word. You drink your fill, that you may survive the dry desert sands once again.

Think of your own life and your own relationship to God. Do you feel intimately close to God at every moment of every day? Does God answer your petitions every time you ask? Do you always feel His presence when you pray, or do you travel the desert from time to time, waiting to hear a Word that does not come?

The Canaanite woman experienced this silence when she came to Jesus, so we can learn from her story today. In fact, there are four things she did - four qualities she showed -that can help us when we experience the silence of God in our own lives.

The first is that she had to overcome many barriers to get to Jesus. She was a woman, and women weren't supposed to speak to rabbis in public, so that was one barrier. She was also a Canaanite, and Canaanites were separated from Jews by the widest chasms of racial hatred. That was a second barrier.

Related to that was a third barrier: the fear of rejection and humiliation. To expose your need to someone in public and then to be turned away is one thing, but to be publicly rejected solely because of your race or sex is something else again. It is a deep hurt which many people cannot comprehend. The Canaanite woman risked a lot in coming to Jesus.

So, too, must we overcome many obstacles when God seems far away. For example, the pressures of events in our lives can create spiritual barriers. Our minds are too distracted to pray and our ears are too full of noise to hear God when He speaks. Sometimes the barrier we face is our own worldliness, the sheer weight of our worldly cares and concerns.

Other barriers to God can be of our own making. I mean: we can't constantly be doing evil things or thinking evil thoughts and then suddenly turn to hear God's voice in prayer. Communion with God is not something we can turn on and off like a water faucet. "Blessed are the pure in heart," said Jesus, "for they shall see God" (Matthew 5:8).

Another barrier we face, as the Canaanite woman did, is the fear of rejection. We have to come to God in prayer "not knowing whether we will be disillusioned" (Helmut Thielicke). So, with all these obstacles before us, the first lesson from the Canaanite woman is that in drawing near to God, we must be willing to overcome any barrier which might stand in the way.

Second, this woman was patient. She was willing to wait. Many of us aren't like that today.

We live in a culture which prides itself on instant gratification. We want instant answers to our problems. We want instant coffee in the perculator and instant food in the microwave. We buy things with credit cards so we can get them instantly, rather than waiting until we can afford them. Even when we pray, most of us are like the man who said, "Lord, give me patience, and I want it right now!"

But the Canaanite woman was patient with Jesus, even through His silence. That's hard for some people. When a conversation falls silent for a moment, some people just have to jump in and say something, whether it is intelligent or not! But this woman wasn't like that. She waited through Jesus' silence for Him to speak.

Charles Allen tells how some engineers were faced with the problem of lifting a very heavy section of a bridge which crossed an ocean bay. None of their cranes were big enough to do the job. They tried everything and nothing worked.

Finally, they lashed giant pontoons under the bridge and waited for the tide to come in. Sure enough, the tide lifted the bridge up to where it needed to be. So, too, must we be patient in our prayer life when God seems silent or far away. Like the Canaanite woman before Jesus, sometimes we need to be patient and wait for the tide to come in.2

The third lesson is persistence. This woman was persistent! When the disciples tried to send her away, she stayed. When Jesus seemed to put her off, she hung in there and didn't give up.

That kind of persistence is recommended everywhere in the Bible. You may remember how Jacob wrestled with an angel all through the night to the breaking of the day. "I will not let go of you until you bless me," he said to the angel (Genesis 32:26). So, too, did Jesus tell the story of the widow who came to a judge repeatedly, asking for relief against an adversary. The judge kept putting her off, but the widow kept coming. Finally, he relented and gave her what she needed, because, he said, "she will wear me out by her continual coming to me" (Luke 18:1-5).

This is how we must be in prayer. When God seems absent, we need to keep coming at Him with our prayers. We need to be persistent and never give up! When God is silent, keep beating a path to His door, and one day, you will hear Him answer.

Finally, the Canaanite woman made no claim for herself as she spoke to Jesus. When He told her it wasn't right to throw good food to the dogs, all she said was, "Yes, but even dogs eat the crumbs that fall from the master's table." She didn't try to justify herself, or tell Jesus why He had to help her.

Again, this is something many people don't understand today. Many Christians act as if God is obligated to them! The Bible says, "Ask, and it will be given you" (Luke 11:9), so they figure that God owes them now. They figure that God has to speak to them whenever they want Him to and some people actually think that God owes them whatever material things they ask Him for!

But even Jesus did not grant every request that was asked of him (cf. Mark 10:35-45) and even early Christians had to be told, in the letter of James, "You ask and do not receive, because you ask wrongly, to spend it on your pleasures" (4:3).

If we truly love God, if we truly respect His sovereign Name, we won't treat Him as a waiter, ready to serve us at the snap of our fingers. God is God, and who are you to tell Him what to do!

God is free to speak to us and free to be silent ... free to be near to us or far away. As the old saying goes, "Humanity proposes but God disposes," and that's how it is when we come to God in prayer. "Blessed are the poor in spirit" (Matthew 5:3). Blessed are those who come before God just as they are without one plea.

There we have four lessons from the Canaanite woman, four things to do when God seems silent and distant. Be ready to overcome any barrier to go where God is. Be patient to wait for His reply. Be persistent in your prayers. And don't claim anything for yourself, thinking that God is obligated to answer you just because you have asked.

The larger message of this sermon is that we ought not be discouraged or dismayed by the silences of God. When God is silent, it is no cause for alarm or despair! It doesn't mean that God doesn't exist, or that God has abandoned you and does not care about you, or that you don't really have faith.

Silence is part of the nature of God and part of the rhythm of His communication with us. Silence can be the opening God needs to bring you into His fellowship and redemption. Do not be afraid of the silence of God. Let God use His silences to bring you back unto Himself.

Remember the Canaanite woman. She suffered the silence of God, but then she heard Him say, "O woman, great is your faith! Be it done for you as you desire."

I offer in closing these words of silence. As you read them, you might hear in your minds the melody of a favorite Christmas carol, for this is a verse from "O Little Town of Bethlehem:"

How silently, how silently, the wondrous gift is given!So God imparts to human hearts the blessings of His heaven.No ear may hear His coming, but in this world of sin;Where meek souls will receive Him still,the dear Christ enters in.(Rev. Phillips Brooks)

Amen

Pastoral Prayer: O God, who speaks in the thunder of great events and the lightning of the signs of the times and who speaks in the still, small voice which only the deepest heart can hear: we confess that sometimes we seek to make You speak as we would have You speak. We do not hear You in Your way; we do not trust Your presence in the silence you bring. Teach us to know You in Your silence, even as we know You in Your audible Word. Teach us to trust that You are there, even when we wonder. Teach us to rejoice in all Your gifts, even the ones which seem like burdens. Make us grateful children of Your kingdom, worthy to receive the inheritance of faith, through Jesus Christ, our Lord. Amen


1. Helmut Thielicke, The Silence of God, (William B. Eerdmans Publishing Company, Grand Rapids, Michigan, 1962).

2. Charles Allen and Helen Steiner Rice, The Prayerful Heart, (Fleming H. Revell Company, Old Tappan, New Jersey, 1982), pp. 58-59.

C.S.S. Publishing Company, TOGETHER IN CHRIST, by Erskine White