1 Kings 2:1-12 · David’s Charge to Solomon
Putting Mom in Heartbreak Hotel
1 Kings 2:5-6
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by James Merritt
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I want to tell you the story of an Old Testament character by the name of Joab. Joab spent his entire life as the Commander in Chief of the armies of the Nation of Israel. He was David's hand-picked general.

David was God's anointed king over Israel and, as you know, he was a type and a picture of the Lord Jesus Christ, who is also God's anointed king. Joab served David all of his life only to be slain, at the command of David, at the end of his life.

Now Joab's downfall can be attributed to one simple truth. He had loyalty to David, but he did not have real love for David. No one would have questioned his loyalty. It's a tremendous story to see how he even became David's general to begin with.

"And the king and his men went to Jerusalem against the Jebusites, the inhabitants of the land, who spoke to David, saying, ‘You shall not come in here; but the blind and the lame will repel you,' thinking, ‘David cannot come in here.'" Nevertheless David took the stronghold of Zion (that is, the City of David). Now David said on that day, ‘Whoever climbs up by way of the water shaft and defeats the Jebusites (the lame and blind, who are hated by David's soul), he shall be chief and captain.' Therefore they say, ‘The blind and the lame shall not come into the house.' So David dwelt in the stronghold, and called it the City of David. Then David built all around from the Millo and inward. So David went on and became great, and the Lord God of hosts was with him." (II Samuel 5:6-10)

Through a tremendous act of courage and bravery, Joab became the Commander in Chief. The City of Jerusalem at one time was a Jebusite city. David knew it was God's anointed city, and God's appointed city, to be the capitol over the Nation of Israel, and David wanted that city.

Now it was a very difficult city to take. Jerusalem is actually located on several mountains. They had built walls around the city and it was so difficult to take that they even bragged that their blind and lame could defend the city. David had promised that whoever would climb up a water drain to face that city, and to take that city, would be his chosen general.

Well, without even a moment's hesitation, and no equivocation, Absalom led the charge. "Now David said, ‘Whoever attacks the Jebusites first shall be chief and captain.'" And Joab the son Zeruiah went up first, and became chief: (I Chron. 11:6)

Joab instantaneously became a man renowned for his bravery and courage. Everyone knew of his loyalty to David. He would fight for the king at the drop of a hat. He defeated the Jebusites, the Ammonites, and the Edomites. He was David's right hand man. Well, then how in the world could it come to this, where David's last decree, on his deathbed, was to see to it that Joab was slain? David as much as said, "Hunt him down like the dog he is." Now to understand how this came to be, think of two parts of Joab's life.

I. Joab's Pretended Loyalty

To put it bluntly, Joab was not on the inside what he pretended to be on the outside. Oh, he had a pretended loyalty to David. In fact, his loyalty to David came naturally.

a. A Family Loyalty

Now you will understand Joab a little better if you know who his mother was. His mother was a woman named Zeruiah. In case you are wondering who Zeruiah was, she was David's sister. That's right, not only was David his king, David was his uncle.

I can just imagine growing up in that household; Zeruiah had witnessed the anointing of David as king. The prophet Samuel had been told by the Lord that his anointed king would come from the family of Jesse. Samuel had gone to that house to seek out and to search out who the new king would be.

David's sister watched as Jesse paraded son after son after son before the prophet. But each time the prophet would say, "No, it's not him." "No, it's not him." "No, it's not him." After every seeming possibility had been exhausted, Samuel asked if there was any other son left. Jesse, almost embarrassed, said, "Well yes, I have a little rutty rut out tending sheep, but he surely would not be the one." Samuel asked to see.

When David came in, Samuel laid eyes on him, he knew from the Spirit of God this was to be the anointed king, and he took the oil and anointed David before his entire family and said, "You will be God's anointed king over the nation."

I am sure that Joab's mother never forgot that. From the day that Joab was born, over and over she would tell him the story of her uncle. She taught him from the time he was a baby that David was God's chosen, God's anointed, God's selected king over the nation. All of his life Joab had heard his mother tell him, "Serve David, follow David, obey David, all of your life."

If I can give a modern day application, there are many church members who have a family loyalty. They were raised in church by a godly family. They were taught that Jesus is the Son of God, the King of Kings, and the Lord of Lords. They have the same kind of family loyalty to King Jesus that Joab had to King David.

There are so many people who think that being raised in a Christian home makes you a Christian. There are many of you who are here tonight who are following in your family's footsteps and you think you are a Christian. But you fail to realize that being raised in a Christian home doesn't make you a Christian any more than being raised in a bakery would make you a donut.

Listen to me. The key is not whether or not your mother's religion is your religion. They key is, is your mother's Redeemer your Redeemer?

b. A Fundamental Loyalty

Joab believed all of the right things about David. He believed that David was God's savior. He knew how David had defeated that giant Goliath, how David had delivered Israel out of the hands of the Philistines. He knew that what armor could not do, spears could not do, soldiers could not do, chariots could not do, God did through David. There was no question in Joab's heart that he was God's Savior.

He believed that David was a great sovereign. He knew that David was to be the king over Israel. Others tried to usurp the throne, others tried to take the crown, but all of his life Joab knew and believed with all of his heart that David was to be the king. God had chosen David and none other. So today, I believe there are many church members who believe that Jesus is God's king, He is God's anointed, He is God's chosen. They are convinced of that with all of their heart.

He also believed that David was the Good Shepherd. David's skills as a shepherd were legendary. People knew of the time that young David, just a stripling lad, killed a lion and a bear while protecting his flock. Joab knew that in all things, whether it be as a savior, a sovereign, or a shepherd, David was absolutely sufficient. He was all that Israel needed.

As a shepherd, as a singer, as a soldier, as a sovereign, David was God's man. He had the power of God on his life. There was none other like him, and none other needed, and Joab knew that.

c. A Fierce Loyalty

Joab was always on the front line of the battle fighting for David. It thrilled his heart to fight for David's honor. He loved to march under the banner of the king. He loved to fight in the name of the king. There is one thing that no one would ever question about Joab, and that was his undying, unfailing, unshakable loyalty to King David.

Likewise on the outside, there are many church members who seemingly have that same type of loyalty to King Jesus. They come to church. Perhaps they sing in the choir. They may even put money in the plate. They may even work in the Sunday School. But they are going to wind up with the same fate that Joab faced. Why?

II. Joab's Polluted Love

To put it simply, you are going to see that Joab loved the kingdom, but he did not love the king. He had a loyalty to David, but not a true love for David. You see, what man conceals, God reveals. There were at least three incidents in the life of Joab that revealed his true character. They revealed the type of relationship he really had to the king.

a. He Disdained the Mind of David

"So Abner and twenty men with him came to David at Hebron. And David made a feast for Abner and the men who were with him." (II Sam.3:20) Now Abner had been a traitor. He had spent almost his entire life fighting David, a general of Saul's army, trying to topple David from the throne and put another man in his place.

But somehow God had changed the heart of Abner. He had come to realize that David was God's choice, David was God's anointed, and David was the one that God wanted to lead the nation.

It is so obvious to see the change that came in his life by what he says to David, "Then Abner said to David, ‘I will arise and go, and gather all Israel to my Lord the king, that they may make a covenant with you, and that you may reign over all that your heart desires.' So David sent Abner away, and he went in peace." (II Sam. 3:21) You talk about a one hundred and eight degree turn, you talk about a true conversion, here was a man who had fought David all of his life, and now he was saying, "I'm going to spend the rest of my life bringing all the men and women to you that I can to serve you and to obey you."

It is a sure sign that a sinner has become a saint when he wants to be a soul-winner. Oh, that we would say today to King Jesus, "I want to gather all that I can to my Lord the King, that they may make a covenant with you, and that you may reign over all that your heart desires."

Well, peace was made between David and Abner. Then we read in v.22, "At that moment the servants of David and Joab came from a raid and brought much spoil with them. But Abner was not with David in Hebron, for he had sent him away, and he had gone in peace."

Now Abner is on his way, thinking all has been forgiven and all is well. But Joab was a fly in the ointment. "And when Joab had gone from David's presence, he sent messengers after Abner, who brought him back from the well of Sirah. But David did not know it. Now when Abner had returned to Hebron, Joab took him aside in the gate to speak with him privately, and there stabbed him in the stomach, so that he died for the blood of Asahel his brother." (II Samuel 3:26-27) Now why did Abner kill Joab? Well, you see, Abner had killed Joab's brother and he had held a grudge against Abner and was just looking for the opportunity after all these years to murder him. He did so in a cold, conniving, calculating fashion.

You see, he did not have the mind of David. He did not think the way that David thought. He did not have a mind to forgive as David had.

I want to say to you today, you have no right to cut or to stab any person that God has forgiven. I want to go further. You have no right to hold a grudge against anyone regardless of what they have done to you.

I heard one time of a deacon who had a grudge against another deacon. I don't know what caused it, and I think he had even forgotten what the problem was. But he was still holding the grudge even though he had forgotten what caused the grudge.

Everybody in the church knew that these two deacons were on the outs and hated each other, and were bitter toward one another. But then the deacon that was holding the grudge got sick. He was on his deathbed and was about to die.

Some of his fellow deacons called on him and said, "Look dear brother, you are about to die. You don't want to go out into eternity holding this grudge in your heart. You don't want to meet God with this unforgiveness eating you up on the inside. Why don't you let us go and call this deacon and tell him that from your deathbed that you said that you have forgiven him."

The deacon said, "Did the doctor say that I am going to die?" The deacon said, "Yes, he did." He said, "Is he sure that I am going to die?" The deacon chairman said, "Yes, he's absolutely sure."

This man said, "Well all right, you go and tell that so and so that I said I forgive him, but you remember this, if I get well, the deal is off."

After Jesus had taught the disciples the Lord's Prayer, He said to them, "For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses." (Matt. 6:14-15) You know why that is true? If a man will not forgive others it is proof positive he has never experienced the forgiveness of God. You listen to this: Whatever God does for you, God also wants to do through you.

God saved you so He might through you save others. God has blessed you so that He through you might bless others. God has forgiven you so that He through you might forgive others.

You better remember that when you get to the end of life's journey it doesn't matter one whit what people have done to you. The only thing that matters is what you have done for God.

It matters not if I've been hurt,
It matters not at all
That sometimes from my weary eyes,
The scalding teardrops fall.

What matters most—is if I've erred
And not confessed the sin,
And through my lack some need soul
Has failed to follow Him.

It matters not if cherished friends,
On whom I lean in vain,
Have wounded me by word and deed
And left me with my pain.

What matters is—can I forgive
again, and yet again?
It's not "have they been true?" but,
"Lord, have I been true to them?"

‘Twill matter not, when evening comes
How rough the road I've trod,
If only I have walked with Him
And led some soul to God.

III. He Distressed the Heart of David

"Now the king had commanded Joab, Abishai, and Ittai, saying, ‘Deal gently for my sake with the young man Absalom.' And all the people heard when the king gave all the captains orders concerning Absalom." (II Samuel 18:5) Now to the people Absalom was a traitor. David's own son trying to topple his father from the throne. But to the king, Absalom was just that—his son. He wanted Absalom to be dealt with in a very gentle fashion.

But we read in v.9, "Then Absalom met the servants of David. Absalom rode on a mule. The mule went under the thick boughs of a great terebinth tree, and his head caught in the terebinth; so he was left hanging between heaven and earth. And the mule which was under him went on." Here is Absalom, hanging helpless from a tree, caught by the hair of his own sinful head. Then Joab comes along and notice what happens.

"Then Joab said, ‘I cannot linger with you.' And he took three spears in his hand and thrust them through Absalom's heart, while he was still alive in the midst of the terebinth tree. And ten young men who bore Joab's armor surrounded Absalom, and struck and killed him." (vv.14-15) In cold-blooded fashion, once, twice, thrice he throws a spear right into the very heart of the son of the king. Joab knew even as he was doing it, he was also throwing those spears into the heart of the king himself.

For notice David's response: "Then the king was deeply moved, and went up to the chamber over the gate, and wept. And as he went, he said thus: ‘O my son Absalom—my son, Absalom—if only I had died in your place! O Absalom my son, my son!" (v.33) You know what Joab's problem was, he did not love what the king loved. He did not love who the king loved. Now I want to ask you a question. Do you love what Jesus loves? Do you love who Jesus loves?

If there is one saint in the family of God that you do not love with all of your heat, then I want to tell you you do not love Jesus. John said, "We know that we have passed from death to life, because we love the brethren. He who does not love his brother abides in death." (I Jn. 3:14)

I want to go further. Jesus not only loved saints in the church, He loved sinners outside the church. If you do not love the lost, and if you do not have a desire whatsoever to bring lost people to Christ, you are not saved.

When I think about the fact that 95% of all Christians have never even attempted to lead a soul to Jesus, I have to wonder how many of those 95% don't even know the Lord Jesus. Because I believe to know Him is to love Him, to love Him is to serve Him, and to serve Him is to share Him in the power of the Holy Spirit.

a. He Disobeyed the Will of David

"Now Adonijah the son of Haggith exalted himself, saying, ‘I will be king'; and he prepared for himself chariots and horsemen, and fifty men to run before him. (And his father had not rebuked him at any time by saying, ‘Why have you done so?' He was also a very good-looking man. His mother had borne him after Absalom.) Then he conferred with Joab the son of Seruiah and with Abiathar the priest, and they followed and helped Adonijah." (I Kings 1:5-7) Joab now is trying to assist Adonijah to become the king of Israel. But there was a problem with this.

"So Nathan spoke to Bathsheba the mother of Solomon, saying, ‘Have you not heard that Adonijah the son of Haggith has become king, and David our Lord does not know it?' Come, please, let me now give you counsel, that you may save your own life and the life of your son Solomon. Go immediately to King David and say to him, ‘Did you not, my lord, O king, swear to your maidservant, saying, ‘Assuredly your son Solomon shall reign after me, and he shall sit on my throne'? Why then has Adonijah become king?" (vv.11-13) David had made it plain that he wanted Solomon to be the king. It was his will that Solomon take his place on the throne of Israel. But Joab's attitude was, "not thy will, but mine be done." He didn't care one whit about the will of the king. He wanted his way. He wanted his plan to be executed. He wanted done what he wanted done.

That's why I call Joab the Judas of the Old Testament. Joab is proof positive you cannot judge a book by its cover. Baptismal certificates, receipts for church offerings, Sunday School attendance pens, study course certificates, ordination papers, do not a Christian make.

Jesus said in Matthew 7:21, "Not everyone who says to Me, ‘Lord, Lord,' shall enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father in heaven." My friend, when it comes to eternal life, it is not profession that matters, it is not even performance that matters, it is possession that counts.

Peter said in II Peter 1:10, "Therefore, brethren, be even more diligent to make your calling and election sure, for if you do these things you will never stumble." Paul said in II Cor. 13:5, "Examine yourselves as to whether you are in the faith. Prove yourselves. Do you not know yourselves, that Jesus Christ is in you? unless indeed you are disqualified." That's good advice. Charles Spurgeon said, "A thorough examination will do the healthy no harm, and it may bless the sick." My friend, when it comes to the book of your life, God won't look at the cover, He will look at the pages in between. When He does, He will look to see whether or not you had the mind of Jesus, whether or not you had the heart of Jesus, whether or not you obeyed the will of Jesus. Because friend, when eternity comes and time is over, that is all that will really count.

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