Psalm 128:1-6 · Psalm 128
No Place Like Home
Psalm 128:1-6
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by James Merritt
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The year was 1852, and if you had been standing on the street corner of Washington, D.C., as this funeral procession made its way down the street, you would have been extremely impressed. First of all, you would have seen standing on that same street with you, with his head bowed, his hat removed, and tears in his eyes, the President of the United States.

Next to him you would have seen his cabinet, most of congress, and dignitaries from Berlin, London, Tokyo, and Africa.

The crowds lined the streets by the thousands, watching this casket, draped in the American flag, as it slowly made its way down the street. As a matter of fact, had no one told you any differently, you would have thought it was the President himself that was being buried.

Who was this man who commanded such respect and such awe? Why was this person so honored? He never held an elected office. He wasn’t wealthy. In fact, when I call his name I doubt any of you will recognize it. He was in government service and ended up overseas in Tunisia and died there. He was buried in Tripoli.

But when the news of his death finally reached America, he was so loved and so revered by Americans and by people from over the world, that they disinterred his body and brought him back to the United States to give him this magnificent funeral. Who was this man that was so revered? His name was John Howard Payne. Does that ring a bell for anyone? I didn’t think so.

Do you know what he was so loved for? Do you know what he was so noted for? Do you know why he was so honored and given such a magnificent funeral? It was all because of one simple line that he wrote in a simple song. Here’s the line:

Mid pleasures and palaces,
Though oft we may roam,
Be it ever so humble,
There’s no place like home.

For that one phrase they honored John Howard Payne.

That statement is true in so many ways; there is no place like home. I have spent over a month in both South and Central America and Africa, and I can tell you, winging my way back home after being gone two weeks at a time, I said to myself at least a hundred times, “There’s no place like home.” In fact, the title of that song that he wrote was “Home, Sweet Home.” Everybody hungers for a sweet home.

Reader’s Digest commissioned the Roper Center for public opinion research to ask 1,022 American teenagers, ages 16 to 18, several questions. The first, and the most important question they asked, was, “What would bring you more satisfaction, and is more important to you as you look to the future than anything else?”

What do you think they said? Do you think they said, “making a lot of money?” No, only 28% put that as their number one answer. Do you think “making a name for yourself” was at the top? No, only 33% gave that as an answer. Are you ready for this—the number one answer given by 94% of teenagers was “raising healthy and happy children.” The number two answer given by 91% of the teenagers was, “having a good marriage.”1

Even in the hearts of our young people, there is a hunger and a desire for “home, sweet home” because deep down we all know there is no place like home. But unfortunately, not every home is a “home, sweet home.” Increasingly, people are saying “any place but home.” Psalm 128 is God’s word particularly and specifically to fathers on how to make sure that there’s no place like home.

I. Fear The Lord In The Home

“Blessed is everyone who fears the Lord, who walks in His ways.” (v.1) The word “blessed” is the Hebrew word for “happy.” God wants every home to be a happy home, but as you are going to see a happy home is a holy home. Incidentally, there’s a tremendous difference between a house and a home. The majority of two-parent families live today in a house, but I dare say that the majority of houses are not truly homes.

I heard about a family that had difficulty finding a house to rent in a new city. They were living in a hotel temporarily until they could find a house. Well, the little girl was bored and went down to the lobby to see what was going on, and a person who was staying in the hotel at the time and who knew this little girl, said, “It’s too bad you don’t have a home.” That little girl said, “Oh, we have a home, we just need a house to put it in.”

I am convinced there is not a greater gift you can give to children than the gift of a good solid home. That’s why broken homes are such a tragedy. As a matter of fact, I don’t even like the term “broken home.” I heard about a mother who took her little boy outside one time and said, “Listen, I don’t care if our basement wall is cracking, quit telling everybody that you come from a broken home.”

God wants the home to be whole, but He also wants the home to be happy. The word is very plain on how to have a happy home. First of all, happiness comes to the home when that home finds the Lord. The happiest home, I believe, is when the entire family is saved; when the father and the mother and the children all know and love the Lord Jesus Christ.

But happiness also comes when the home fears the Lord. Now it may sound contradictory, but fear and happiness go hand in hand. In fact, when a man fears the Lord, he can be happy in knowing he doesn’t have to fear anyone else. He doesn’t have to fear anything in life or death itself, knowing that God is in control.

But happiness also comes when the home follows the Lord. Because we must also “walk in His ways.” (v.1) This is so true of my family. When I am closest to the Lord, and my wife is closest to the Lord, and my children are closest to the Lord, that’s when we are the happiest. Because when you are happy in the Lord, you’ll be happy with each other. I want to say very plainly, but very firmly, you will never have the home that you could have had, or should have had, until your home fears the Lord.

II. Feed The Love To The Home

“Your wife shall be like a fruitful vine in the very heart of your house, your children like olive plants all around your table.” (v.3) Someone has defined the home as a house with a heart inside, and there is no question that the heart of every home is the wife and the mother of that home. The way to have a healthy heart and a happy heart is to give love, dads, to that heart.

I guess the biggest thing every husband does with a good wife, and I’m talking about me, is to take that good wife for granted. I heard about two men who were talking one time, and one man said to the other man, “I just got a brand new Mercedes for my wife today.” The other man said, “I sure wish I could make a trade like that.”

Well, there is not a greater treasure a man can have than a godly wife, and there is not a greater thing that man can do for his wife than to love her. Because if he does, he will find her to be “a fruitful vine.”

Why is that so important? Well, first of all, a vine clings. A vine puts out its tendrils and wraps itself around wherever it’s growing, and clings to it. That’s what a good loving wife will do. She will cleave to her husband and strengthen him and support him.

But a vine also climbs. Once a vine is adequately supported, it will begin to grow and mature. Its roots will go down, its branches will grow out, and as it begins to grow it will cover whatever it is clinging to and make it a thing of beauty. That’s exactly what a wife does for her husband and her children.

But a vine also clusters. That is, it brings forth fruit in abundance. With a loving wife and a loving husband, together they can bring forth the precious fruit of little children. That is why the Bible says in Psalm 127:3, “The fruit of the womb is His reward.”

I do not believe there is a more powerful force on the face of this earth, than a wife and a mother that is happy and secure in the relationship she has with her husband, who is loved and beloved by her family. Someone has well said, “The rocking chair used by a hymn- singing mother has more power to rid the world of evil than the electric chair used by a justice-giving state.”

III. Furnish The Leadership For The Home

Now I have yet to identify exactly who this psalm is addressed to, but verse 2 tell us, “When you eat the labor of your hands, you shall be happy, and it shall be well with you.” Now who is the “you” spoken of here in verse 2? We really have been given the clue to that because verse 3 speaks of “your wife” and “your children.”

So obviously here he is speaking to the fathers. He is speaking to the dad. Now why is this psalm addressed primarily to the father? Because in God’s plan he is to be the head of the home. He is to give leadership for the home.

Nothing we have done in the last ten years in the Southern Baptist Convention has caused more of an uproar, and more of a debate, than when we simply made the statement that the husband should be the head of the wife, and the primary leader of the home. All we did was quote Ephesians 5:23 which says, “The husband is the head of the wife.” Now I’ve said before, “Anything with no head is dead, and anything with two heads is a freak.” God intended for the father to be the head of the home.

If I were to place the blame for what’s gone wrong with America, and for our moral disintegration at the feet of anyone, I would lay it at the feet of fathers. America will never be right until our homes are right, and our homes will never be right until our fathers get right.

Not long ago, Hallmark Cards of Kansas City assigned several staff members to go into a penitentiary to provide free greeting cards to any inmates who wanted to send one to their mothers. They were amazed by the number of prisoners who lined up to write greetings on a card to send to their mothers. That program was such a success that the company decided to do the same thing a month later and help inmates celebrate Father’s Day. Can you guess what happened? Not one prisoner lined up to send his dad a greeting card. Why? Because very few men in prison have any relationship with their fathers.

One of the chief characteristics of the God that we are to call “Father” is His faithfulness. But one of the chief characteristics of American fathers today is their unfaithfulness. Because we have homes full of dropout dads and failing fathers.

One-third of America’s children are not living with their natural fathers. Over 15 million kids are growing up in homes without any father. 70% of the men in prison grew up without knowing their father.

We are in a disaster here in the United States. Since 1920 the divorce rate has risen 1,420%. Baby boomers are divorcing at a rate twice as high as that of their parents.

The Bible says in Proverbs 27:8, “Like a bird that wanders from its nest, is a man who wanders from his place.” God says to the father who will hang in there with his wife and stay faithful to his family, “You shall be happy and it shall be well with you.” (v.2)

Town and Country magazine once made a study of the presidents of 100 top corporations in America. Do you know what they found? They didn’t find a picture of some swinging executives shuffling from one wife to another, always looking for a younger woman. They found that the successful corporate presidents had a divorce rate of only 5%. They concluded that a strong marriage and a stable family life was one of the great contributors to a man’s success.2

Dad, be loyal, be loving, be a leader, and it will be well with you.

IV. Finish The Legacy Of The Home

If you don’t think the home is important, and if you don’t think fathers are important to the home, listen to what the psalmist says: He says the only hope for the Capital of a nation is the home. “The Lord bless you out of Zion.” (v.5a) In the psalm Zion stands for the political heart of Jerusalem. It was to Israel what Washington, D.C. is to America.

Now I know some people think you shouldn’t mix religion in politics, but some people are just wrong. One of the greatest things the Congress can do, the Senate can do, and the White House can do, is to pass all of the pro-family, pro-life, and pro-marriage legislation that it possibly can, because the more you strengthen the home, the more you strengthen the nation.

But godly homes are also the only hope for the city. “And may you see the good of Jerusalem all the days of your life.” (v.5b) We’ve got many problems in the inner city. But if we will be honest, the major problem in our inner cities is not the lack of money; it is the lack of men taking responsibility for the babies they conceive; being a faithful husband; being a godly father; and rearing those children in the nurture and the admonition of the Lord.

But godly homes are also the only hope for the country. “Yes, may you see your children’s children. Peace be upon Israel!” (v.6) We’ve gone from Zion to capital, to Jerusalem the city, to Israel the country. Plato said long ago, “The life of a nation is the life of the family writ large.” The pulse of a nation is determined by the heartbeat of its homes, and the heartbeat of its homes is determined by the leadership of the father.

I want to close my sermon by telling you what three different presidents of the United States had to say about the home: Ronald Reagan was known as a president who did everything he could to limit government regulation and shrink the size of government. The reason he did that was because he knew that the stronger the government, the weaker the family. So he made this statement: “We fear that government may be powerful enough to destroy families; we know that it is not powerful enough to replace them.”

At the turn of the century, President Theodore Roosevelt said something that today would be ridiculed by the media, and summarily rejected by the educated elite, but it’s still true.

There are exceptional women and there are exceptional men who have other tasks to perform in addition to, not in substitution for, the task of motherhood and fatherhood, the task of providing for the home and of keeping it. But it is the tasks connected with the home that are the fundamental tasks of humanity. After all, we can get along for the time being with an inferior quality of success and other kinds, political or business or of any kind, because if there are failings in such matters we can make them good in the next generation. But if the mother does not do her duty [and the father does not do his] there will either be no generation or a next generation that is worse than none at all. In other words, we cannot as a Nation get along at all if we haven’t the right kind of home life. Such a life is not only the supreme duty, but also the supreme reward of duty. Every rightly constituted woman or man, if she or he is worth his or her salt, must feel that there is no such ample reward to be found anywhere in life as the reward of children, the reward of a happy family life.

So just how important, dad, is the family to you? Former President George Bush was asked the question: “What is your greatest accomplishment in life?” Now think of all the things that he could have said. He could have replied that he was a fighter pilot in World War II that was shot down and yet survived.

He could have given an impressive resume of being the U.S. Ambassador to China, the Director of the CIA, the Vice President of the United States, even the President of the United States. But do you know what he said? He said, “My greatest accomplishment in life is this—“my children still come home.” Your children will still come home too if there’s no place like home, and there is no place like home where Jesus Christ is Lord.


1. Reader’s Digest, 75th Anniversary Issue, p. 50.

2. James Kennedy, Learning to Live with the People You Love, p. 73.

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