John 1:1-18 · The Word Became Flesh
Less Is More
John 1:(1-9) 10-18
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by Charley Reeb
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I want to share with you a simple biblical message about how to find contentment. So often our lives get out of control because we fall under the spell of a terrible myth. The myth is that more is better — the more we have, achieve, attain, or buy the happier we will be. This myth is no more powerful than during the Christmas season which has just come and gone. We saw all the ads promising utopia if we bought the perfect Christmas present. Many of us bought those presents and still no utopia. How long did it take those toys to break or lose their luster? Not long.

Many of us have played the “if only game” — “If only I had a new car, then I would be happy… If only I got a better job, then I would be happy… If only we could be in a bigger house, then we would be happy.” Maybe you got some of these things and you experienced pleasure for a little while, but guess what happened? When the newness wore off — when the novelty wore off — when the cool factor wore off the feelings of being unsatisfied returned. Then it was on to another goal or desire.

We spend so much of our lives thinking that happiness is on the other side of some future event. We think that once we get there we will be happy. You have probably felt that way your whole life and you are still not happy. When you were a kid you thought that when you grew up and left home you would be happy. Then you thought once you got married you would be happy. Then you thought when you had children you would be happy and satisfied. Then many of you thought or think that once you get your children out of the house you will be happy!

Some of us think we will be happy once we get through some difficulty or problem. We really believe that once we survive this hardship or jump over this hurdle or get through this difficulty then life will be just like we want it. So we fight, survive, jump, and push through. And then what do we find? Another challenge staring us in the face! That’s life.

We all want to be happy and content. David Veerman writes, “Many of us make happiness a lifelong pursuit as we spend money, collect things, and search for new and better experiences. But what happens when the toys rust, loved ones die, health deteriorates, money is stolen, and the party is over?” What happens when despair sets in once again and there is still a vacuum in our lives and we are still not content with our lives?

It is clear that learning to simplify our lives is the answer. Try to get along in life with less. The richest people are those with the fewest needs. Clear the clutter out and don’t rely on so much to make you happy. Simplify, simplify; less is more. It sounds easy. Take stock and get rid of what you don’t really need that is complicating your life. It is simple. But why don’t more people do it? Because living with less to get more and simplifying your life starts from the inside out. You could go out today and sell half of your possessions and try to live on less but unless your heart is truly changed you will go right back to trying to accumulate more and never be content.

So how do we go about changing our heart to find contentment and learning that less is more? Let me share with you an experience I had with a friend of mine a few years ago. He came to visit me. He had lost a lot of weight, and he looked much different. It all started several months back when he became very depressed. He was struggling with his job. His wife was threatening to leave him. He had mounting debt. They were about to foreclose on his house. To make matters worse, he developed a rare disease that left him al-most paralyzed and he was forced into the hospital for sever-al days. While he was in the hospital, he did a lot of thinking and praying and he discovered God again. He also became aware of all the friends he had in his life.

Fortunately, my friend recovered and he came to see me in my office. I prayed with him and, as I prayed, he squeezed my hand so tight I thought he was going to squeeze it off. When I finished praying, there were tears in his eyes. He looked up at me and said, “I’ve found the way to peace in my life. I don’t know why it took me so long to learn it. I’ve learned to be grateful, not angry.” He was right.

The way to contentment is through an attitude of gratitude. An attitude of gratitude is appreciating the good things in your life and giving thanks to God for all his blessings. John 1:16 (NIV) plainly tells us, “From the fullness of his grace we have all received one blessing after another.” How true. But how often do we stop and think about all of our blessings and thank God for them? The Bible tells us to do this over and over again. Look at Paul’s words in Colossians 3:15-17:

And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in the one body. And be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly; teach and admonish one another in all wisdom; and with gratitude in your hearts sing psalms, hymns, and spiritual songs to God. And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.

The more we appreciate the good in our life the more good appreciates and overshadows the bad things in our life. An attitude of gratitude is like a magnet that pulls in the power and guidance of God into our lives. What’s more is that an attitude of gratitude gives us a better disposition, more joy, more energy, and is just plain healthy. There have been medical studies that have proven the healing power of gratitude.

Where do we begin? Well, if you begin cultivating gratitude in three things you can’t go wrong. If you begin with these things you are guaranteed to be happy and content with your life.

First, you will never find happiness and joy until you appreciate yourself and are grateful for who God made you to be.

Back in the 80s there was a popular song sung by Whitney Houston titled “The Greatest Love Of All.” It is a beautiful song. It tells that the greatest love is easy to achieve. It is learning to love yourself. Why is this the greatest love of all? Learning to love yourself is learning to see yourself the way God sees you.

Saint Bernard lived hundreds of years ago. He was a very wise man. He took all of the lessons he had learned about faith and life and summed them up through what he called the four stages of spiritual growth. You may find them surprising.

  • Love of self for self’s sake
  • Love of God for self’s sake
  • Love of God for God’s sake
  • Love of self for God’s sake

Isn’t that amazing? The final stage of spiritual growth is loving yourself the way God loves you!

I remember a young lady in a church I served. She was active in the youth group and was president of everything in school. She had wonderful grades and everyone was so proud of her. She got into the college of her choice and I kept up with her by email. I will never forget an email she sent me that read, “Pastor Charley, I’ve just made the most important decision of my life.” She went on to tell me what happened. She and her friends were invited to a fraternity party off campus. They were not sure about going, but there was going to be a guy at the party that she really liked so they decided to go.

They drove to the party. It was on a farm and there was a big bonfire with lots of beer. She saw the guy she liked; he came up to her and started to talk to her. She was so excited. After a few minutes, he opened up his hand and there were a few marijuana joints. He said to her, “Why don’t you come off with me and we will smoke these?” She wrote, “I really wanted to do it because I liked this guy, but I knew it was wrong. Then,” she wrote, “suddenly I felt a presence come over me. It felt like there was someone above me. I knew it was Jesus. He said, ‘Don’t do that. You’re worth more than that.’ ” She then wrote, “I didn’t do it. God loves me too much and I love myself too much to do that.” And she left the party early. She concluded the email by saying, “I’ve never been happier. I’m so proud of my decision.”

Happiness is found in knowing your worth and being grateful for who you are. Happiness is found in making choices out of the knowledge that you matter to God. Someone once said that “the greatest thing that can happen is to be able to look yourself in the mirror and like what you see.”

Second, to find contentment, it is important to appreciate the people in your life. Life is so precious, so it is important to be grateful for people. Human beings are strange creatures. So often we hurt the ones closest to us.

A colleague tells of going to his doctor for a check-up. He and his doctor were friends. After the examination was over, the doctor took off his stethoscope and said, “Now, will you examine me? I’ve got to get something off my chest that is bothering me.” My colleague said, “Sure. What is on your mind?” He went on to talk about his only daughter who just went through a bitter divorce. He said that they had so much promise when they first got married, but he mentioned that the last two years they were married he never heard them compliment each other. He always heard them talk about one another’s faults. He said to my colleague, “I think it could have made a difference. If they could have looked for some-thing to appreciate about each other, they might still be married and happy.”

There is much truth in what that troubled doctor had to say. Appreciating the people in your life can heal deep wounds. Choosing to see the good in others can keep love alive. Recent research has shown that healthy married couples say something affirming to one another five times a day.

I’ve learned that criticism does not do any good. Our culture puts a high value on criticism but all that does is make things worse. Let’s face it. How do you feel when someone comes up to you and asks, “Can I give you some constructive criticism?” None of us look forward to those conversations and we usually leave those conversations feeling bad about ourselves. Criticism does not do any good. But honest appreciation works like magic. In fact, honest appreciation can change lives. So after you finish reading this chapter think of someone you appreciate, call them, and tell them why you appreciate them. You never know what a difference it will make.

Several years ago in Detroit there was a little boy by the name of Stevie Morris. He found himself in a classroom one day. A little mouse got loose in the classroom and all the kids jumped on their desks and started to scream. The teacher asked Stevie to help her find the mouse, since he had such remarkable ears. He had exceptional hearing because he was blind. It was the first time anyone had shown appreciation for Stevie. The teacher had no idea the ripple effect of that appreciation. Stevie went on to develop his hearing and became pretty well known. Maybe you have heard of him — Stevie Wonder?

Who do you appreciate? Give thanks for them and tell them thanks. You never know what a difference it will make.

Finally the one person in the Bible who can teach us a great deal about finding contentment is Paul. In fact, he actually said that he had learned the secret of being content. Have you ever heard anyone say that? Well, as Paul was on death row awaiting execution he would write about it in Philippians 4:11-13:

For I have learned to be content with whatever I have. I know what it is to have little, and I know what it is to have plenty. In any and all circumstances I have learned the secret of being well-fed and of going hungry, of having plenty and of being in need. I can do all things through him who strengthens me.

Paul’s secret had nothing to do with him, what he knew, what he accomplished, the trouble he avoided, or the success he may have attained. Paul’s happiness was found in his relationship with God in Jesus Christ. It was the depth of his relationship with God that gave him strength and contentment. Paul was wise enough to know that if you rely on circumstances to make you happy, you will always be disappointed because circumstances always change. But if you rely on the presence of God in your life to make you happy it doesn’t matter what you are faced with. You can always be happy because God never changes. God will always love you and he will never let you go.

Someone once put it this way: “Happiness depends on happenings, but joy depends on Christ.” Contentment and joy is not about what is “out there” or “down the road,” or on the other side of an obstacle or achievement. Contentment is about the God who lives within you. It is about the present moment with God who is always faithful in guiding you and supporting you. When you rely on God and make him the center of your life, you will always have joy no matter where you are in your life.

Norman Vincent Peale remembers going to hear a famous intellectual speak at First Baptist Church of Syracuse, New York. The speaker said something that shocked Peale. He said, “I’ve never been discouraged the last 25 years of my life!” Peale said that he could not dismiss him as a crank or a nut because he was this famous intellectual. In fact, he was a patron saint of Methodism. His name was E. Stanley Jones. He was a missionary to India, and his job was to convert the intellectuals of India to Christ. He was brilliant.

That night Jones went on to say that the reason he had never been discouraged is that he had discovered a simple workable secret. He said he was trying to carry everything himself, which is why he had two nervous breakdowns. One night while praying in a church service he felt Jesus say to him, “Look Stanley, are you ready to turn your life over to me? Just give it to me and I will give you peace, health, energy, and a great life.” Jones said he did it right then and he was never the same.

Are you desperate for contentment and peace? Put your life in Jesus’ hands. If your life is out of control, all you need to do is give your life to Jesus. Ask him to come into your heart and forgive your sins and put a new and right spirit within you. Then live your life in obedience to him. This is the only way to find true peace. As the old bumper sticker says: “No Jesus? No peace? Know Jesus. Know Peace.”

Perhaps you have already given your life to Christ but you have drifted away. It is time to come back home. It is time to rededicate your life to Christ and find the peace you used to know. It is time. Amen.

CSS Publishing Co., Inc., Mission Possible!: Cycle B sermons for Advent, Christmas, and Epiphany, by Charley Reeb