Luke 14:1-14 · Jesus at a Pharisee’s House
Kingdom Etiquette
Luke 14:1-14
Sermon
by W. Robert McClelland
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This parable of Jesus is often treated as a call for humility. When invited out for dinner, stand aside and let others be seated first. If that is its purpose it seems to be much ado about very little. But to interpret his words as a teaching on self effacement is to miss the point of the parable. Jesus told parables to describe the kingdom of God not to give lessons in social etiquette. Here, Jesus apparently used the occasion of his sabbath's dinner invitation to tell yet another parable about the kingdom of God which he frequently likened to a feast. What moved him to speak this time was his observation of how the invited guests ungraciously sought the seats of honor, and then were asked to move to make room for those for whom the seats had been reserved. The point of the parable is that in the kingdom of God we come as shirt-tail relatives to the marriage feast of the Lord and discover to our amazement that the host has saved the places of honor for us. Rather than being last on the invited guest list, we are called "friends" of the groom in the presence of all. Our true identity, says Jesus, is not that of a distant acquaintance. We are among those who sit with the most High as Christ's friends and equals.

We may have difficulty thinking of ourselves in such familiar terms much less worthy of honor in the kingdom. We have been fed a heavy diet of self-effacement. Very early in the history of the church, a personal piety of self-denial came into vogue. Indeed, by the time Paul wrote his letter to the church at Rome he was already imploring his readers not to think of themselves more highly than they ought to think (Romans 12:3). Taking up our cross daily and following Jesus came to mean emptying ourselves of all personal pride, ambition and self-worth in order to do God's will which was loving and serving others. Love of neighbor was understood as antithetic to love of self and was to be done at the expense of personal ambition. Early Christian spirituality developed an individual ethic of self-sacrifice for the sake of others and religion has been influenced by it ever since.

Consequently, as believers, we have been admonished from infancy to be "servants of God." And if you missed that one, you could not have gone to church without being addressed as a "sinner." The label was reinforced by the message we got, and gave, at home. As parents, we loved our children and did our best for them with Spock in one hand and Scripture in the other. But any psychologist will tell you that we also probably passed on to them a negative self-image as we scolded and molded their behavior to fit into socially acceptable patterns. The first words that my children learned to say were, "No! No!" As a result of a lifetime of conditioning it is hard to believe new stories about ourselves.

But that is exactly what Jesus invites us to do when he hands us an invitation to the banquet of the kingdom. We are to come as his friends and sit with him as honored equals.

Later, as Jesus gathered with his disciples for their last supper together, he dramatically enacted his own parable. He told them, "No longer do I call you servants, for the servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all that I have heard from my Father I have made known to you (John 15:15)." And then he added, "I tell you I shall not eat ... again until it is fulfilled in the kingdom of God (Luke 22:16)." It was the last meal before the feast of the kingdom at which Jesus and his friends will gather.

There are probably few words in all of Scripture that are more explosive than these. They are all the more dangerous because they appear so innocent. Less than 24 hours after Jesus invited the disciples to be his friends, they were running scared. Not one of them wanted to be known as a friend of Jesus. It was too risky. Far better to live as a servant of the Master than to be a friend of the accused. There is, after all, a certain security in being a servant. A servant cannot be blamed for the actions of the Master. A servant simply reports for duty and carries out orders. Nor does a servant have to think or make decisions. A servant bears no responsibility and takes neither credit nor blame. It was a defense often heard at the Nuremberg trials, and more recently, one used by Oliver North in the Contragate affair.

Freidrich Nietzsche drew the distinction between a servant morality and a master morality with disturbing clarity. A servant morality adopts values and follows a morality which is imposed upon us by others. It negates the self. A master morality, on the other hand, sees the self as the creator of both values and morality. It, therefore, affirms the self. Nietzsche saw religion as the great espouser of servant morality because it portrayed values and morals as absolutes given by God. He contended that to be fully human is to realize that morality is something we create. Values are not hung "out there" like stars in the sky. We are the ones who do the valuing. The clues to ethical behavior come from within ourselves and are not prescribed for us by some external authority. Values are neither objective nor carved in stone despite the claims of the church. Instead, they come from an internal gyroscope that guides the course of our lives.

Those internal proddings are what the hymn writer, James Montgomery, must have had in mind when he spoke of "the soul's sincere desire." When we learn to listen to them we begin to trust them, for these stirrings of the soul speak with an urgency and wisdom that is experienced as divine will. They tell us what is crucial for our lives to be whole and good.

Mary Richards counsels,

"We have to trust the invisible gauges we carry within us. We have to realize that a creative being lives within ourselves, whether we like it or not, and that we must get out of its way, for it will give us no peace until we do."6

Here, modern psychotherapy can help us. We begin by listening to ourselves at the deepest levels of our being: dreams, intuitive hunches, fantasies. As we come to understand the language of symbolism, decipher its meaning and trust its message, we find that, in fact, we are listening to God. We become aware that these communiques emerging from the depths of our being are the voice of Being itself speaking to us. They constitute what the Bible calls, "the still, small Voice." It was what the prophet Elijah heard (cf. 1 King 19). Not in the booming of earthquake, fire, or wind, all of which are symbols of the Divine presence and Spirit, but in the inner stirrings of intuition. Elijah only heard the Word of God when he was quiet enough to listen to the still, small voice within himself.

This is not to suggest that God cannot speak through the earthquake, fire and wind. Karl Barth once graphically reminded his students that God can speak through Russian Communism, a flute concerto or a dead dog. But the mystical tradition within the Christian faith has largely been forgotten or ignored by mainline churches. With the over-reaction of the Protestant Reformation to the hierarchial authority of the church, Protestant orthodoxy enthroned the Bible and preaching as the premier means by which God speaks to believers. As a result, the Protestant tradition has all but lost the discipline of listening to the still, small voice. When silence is included in worship as part of the liturgy, both God and the believer had better have on track shoes. The silence can be timed in milliseconds. Get ready! Get set! Go! Before we can settle into the silence, the next hymn is being announced or someone is nudging us to pass the offering plate. For the most part we feel uncomfortable with silence in our relation-ships with others, and certainly with God.

The Quakers, of course, are an exception, and have managed to continue practicing the discipline of silence. They include great quantities of it in their gatherings. They speak of this voice within as the "inner light," which provides the believer with internal illumination for seeing the direction in which God is pointing. The point to be grasped, however, is that this inner guidance is not derived from some blueprint drawn for us by others. It only comes by sensing and responding to those nudges from within.

It takes courage to heed these nudges for it means daring to affirm ourselves. To take responsibility for our lives as Jesus did is always risky and, therefore, frightening. We can understand the anxiety that overtook the Hebrew slaves after they escaped from their Egyptian masters. It produced an identity crisis. Forty years of maturing in the wilderness were required before they could accept their new identity. It meant taking responsibility for their freedom as God's people. After years of bondage they had a slave mentality and were used to taking orders. None of them had ever needed to think before or take responsibility for themselves. In the wilderness, condemned to God's freedom, they began to complain to Moses, "What have you done to us, bringing us out into the wilderness to die? Better if you had left us slaves of the Egyptians. At least, they took care of us. But out here in the wilderness, living as free people, trusting only God, that's too risky." It took four decades for them to believe the new story. Freedom and maturity demand a price. So does salvation. "Work it out," says Paul, "in fear and trembling."

Of course, we long for the security of the servant because it simplifies our relationship with God. We simply live by the law. Servants may obey or disobey the commands of their Master, but at least there is no confusion about what is required; and there is always the option of asking the Master's forgiveness when they fail. The great boon about which the church speaks is the Divine mercy made available to repentant sinner/servants. God makes everything right through the sacrifice of Jesus on the cross. The piety of a servant hinges on obedience or disobedience, and in disobedience the servant can always hope for forgiveness.

But the piety of the friend means we must accept the responsibility for our own life as Jesus accepted responsibility for his.

It takes courage to accept Jesus' invitation to the banquet. It means affirming ourselves as his equals. And the courage does not remove the guilt or despair. Courage, rather, must affirm the guilt and despair by taking them into our identity. As we have said, the piety of the servanthood offers the option of forgiveness when we fail and fall. But the piety of equality offers no such succor. To be spiritually mature means daring to accept Jesus as our Teacher and Friend, rather than our Lord and Master. It means taking full responsibility for our decisions and our actions, even as it did for him. Spiritual maturity means making choices before God and suffering the consequences before the world. The buck stops with us. Instead of forgiveness, we must accept the guilt and despair that go with the risk of trusting our own instincts and being wrong.

Discerning God's will requires developing a trust in the credibility and integrity of our own being. Very risky business indeed! There are no guarantees in advance that we will not be mistaken. We can submit our judgments to the community of faith for their support, critique, or modification, but in the last analysis we must stand alone before the throne of grace and give an accounting for our choices.

Our understanding of confession, therefore, is radically altered. We make confession of our sins, not in order to remove them and their surrounding guilt, but to affirm both courageously before God. We are invited to risk being ourselves. We must accept the responsibility for our lives and affirm, as a part of them, the guilt and despair that go with living. In this parable Jesus calls us to put a servant mentality behind us. No longer are we to think of ourselves as servants of our Lord and Master. We are encouraged to become his friends and take our place with him at the table of the Lord.

It boils down to a matter of identity. We either think of ourselves as the servants of the Lord with certain duties to perform, or we think of ourselves as his friends with certain privileges to enjoy.

The gospel, or good news, is that Christ reveals our true worth. We have value, sacred value. We are somebody because we sit with him in the places of honor at the kingdom banquet.

To realize this truth about ourselves is empowering in the face of the principalities and powers of this world. It can certainly threaten existing social structures, political and economic, and all of the prescribed roles that make their "systems" work. This discovery of self worth - grace, if you will - is dangerous to the life of any social institution because it renders relative their self-serving claims of importance. For example, the emergence of feminism in the church, with its insistence that women, no less than men, can wear the mantle of spiritual leadership, has jolted and jarred the patriarchal assumptions of ecclestiastical bureaucrats.

The results of empowerment can be seen in the restless awakening of third world peoples. They are tired of being nobodies; tired of being the servants of western capitalistic colonialism. The novelty has worn off. Many of the political leaders of these third world nations have been educated in missionary schools where they have heard this revolutionary Word. What is more, they have come to believe it. They are no longer content to be the world's second class citizens. They think of themselves as being sacred worth in the eyes of God.

During the dark days of slavery in this country, Blacks worked in the cotton fields stripped of their dignity, naked to the waist, and barefoot in the dirt. But the human spirit refuses to be broken. From deep within the Black psyche rose that rebellion spawned by Christian faith and expressed in the music of the soul; the Negro spirituals. In them the note of human dignity is never far from the praise of God.

I got shoes, you got shoes, All of God's chillun got shoes. When I get to heav'n, gonna put on my shoes. I'm gonna walk all over God's heav'n.

What does it mean to sit in the seats of honor at the kingdom table? It means dropping a barefooted slave mentality! It means putting on our heavenly shoes, and walking all over God's heaven and God's good earth, as well. To be an honored guest at the feast of the Lord is to value oneself ultimately.

The etiquette of the kingdom requires us to accept Jesus' invitation to the marriage banquet. To do so carries with it a fair amount of anxiety because spiritual growth means trusting the voice within rather than those voices which have claimed our allegiance before. It also means risking the wrath of those deposed powers and principalities.

So, we stand at the door of the banquet hail alone and knock timidly. The door swings open. The red carpet has been laid, the tables are set, the other guests have all arrived. The Host smiles warmly and comes to greet us. He holds out his hand. "Friend!" he says, "Come up here and sit with me!"

C.S.S Publishing Co., Fire in the Hole, by W. Robert McClelland