Luke 14:1-14 · Jesus at a Pharisee’s House
But I Really Like the Best Seat in the House!
Luke 14:1, 7-14
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Years ago I was a director of alcohol and drug programs in a neighboring county. Sadly, I developed a new addiction. I'll put it as honestly as I can ... I became hooked on self-help books, tapes, and videos, especially those that promised if I followed their ten simple steps I would rise to the top of my field. I practiced thinking and growing rich and I studied the magic of thinking big. You name it, and sadly, I probably read it and treated it with close to the re­spect I gave the Bible at that time. I read sales books (because you never knew when you would have to "close the sale" with a cli­ent), goal setting books (the sky's the limit they told me), and tes­timonials, which inspired and convinced me that no matter what I thought was holding me back, if I wanted something bad enough, I could achieve it. I attended every workshop I could and always had an outrageously expensive tape series playing in the car. I dreamt my dreams, set my goals, became more assertive, and at times, even aggressive, in order to climb to the top of the heap. I dreamed of being at the pinnacle of my field. I was on my way ... but on my way to where?

I began working with a national consultant in the hopes of be­coming one myself and even though that didn't work out, I learned from him what I needed to do in order to make the leap. Or so I thought. I attended the right conferences, talked to the right people, wore the right clothes, and schmoozed with the movers and shak­ers. All the while I was attending a church where I heard a very disturbing message Sunday after Sunday that I had, of course, heard all my life but now began to get under my skin and bother the daylights out of me. "The first will be last," the minister would read, and "the last will be first," he went on to proclaim. "If you want to be at the top you had to serve those at the bottom. If you exalt yourself you will be humbled. If you humble yourself you will be exalted." The dissonance was so intense I could feel it in my bones.

"Well, that wouldn't work in my business," I would smugly say to myself as the readers read and the preachers preached. "You must become like a little child to enter the kingdom," I would hear. I decided that this was only a metaphor and not to be taken literally or seriously. "Give away all that you have and follow Jesus," and I would inwardly shake my head in disbelief. Jesus sure didn't grasp the ways of the world. He certainly didn't understand the twentieth century. Nor did he understand how in business the ones who were last stayed last and the ones that were first had to scrape their way to the top and keep scraping to stay there. "Give away all that you have and follow ... anyone who wants to be first must be last of all and servant of all," Jesus cried. And I wanted to cry as well, be­cause I wasn't about to be last of all. I wanted to be at the top and Jesus wasn't buying it. I struggled with this for many years and those of you who know me well are probably aware that from time to time I struggle with it to this day. Exactly how I became so cynical about this part of the gospel is the topic for another sermon with far more self-disclosure than I am comfortable with, but for now it will suffice to say that I had no interest in being last of all and of taking the lowest place at the banquet table. Nope, I wasn't interested at all. But in time I began to come around.

Consider this story: Once there was a king who threw a large banquet for his son and his son's bride. Invitations were sent out far and wide and when the day arrived the banquet hall was nearly full. A man dressed in rags, looking as poor as poor can be, made his way past the guards and was almost seated at the banquet table when the king spotted him and had this disgraceful excuse for a human being thrown out into the street. The "poor" man then went to a tailor and paid to have fine garments made. He then returned to the banquet dressed like royalty himself. At once he was seated at a place of honor very near the king. And the banquet began.

The soup was served first. The man stared at the soup for a moment, then picked up the bowl, pulled out the collar of his shirt and poured the soup down his chest. The eyes of the guests around him grew large as he set the bowl down and patiently waited for the next course. When the salad arrived he picked it up and stuffed it into the pockets of his coat. And when the main course was served he smeared the meat all over his pants and put the potatoes in his shoes. The king had had enough. "How dare you come in here and insult me and my guests! What is the meaning of this behavior?"

The "poor/rich man" looked at the king for a moment and then replied, "Your highness, when I came to your banquet dressed as a common beggar you threw me out into the street and told me never to return again. But when I came dressed as a rich man, and mind you, nothing else had changed except my clothes, I was treated with great respect even to the point of being seated in this place of honor. I can only surmise that it was my clothes that made the difference and allowed me this courtesy. Therefore it only seemed right that I should feed my clothes first."1

This story and Jesus' parable call me up short regarding my drive to be at the top of the heap. "When you are invited some­where," he says, "don't rush to get the best seat in the house. Be humble and take a lower place because you don't want your host to tell you that those good seats weren't for you but for someone more important than you."

How different this is from what we see all too often in some of our churches. If you don't think so then just wait until a visitor, especially a less than perfectly dressed stranger, sits in a matriarch's pew! They won't get tossed out into the street — we're far too polite for that — but if looks could kill! I have seen this happen often enough to know that I'm not the only one who has had a problem with the last being first and the first being last.

I remember reading about a new church a while back where their rule of thumb was that when someone expressed a desire to serve, the pastor would thank them profusely, hand them a broom, and ask them to sweep up after coffee hour. And this might go on for months! "If you want to be somebody in this congregation," he was showing them, "then you have to be willing to be a servant of all." Of course, the pastor and all the lay leadership never hesitated to sweep floors, or clean out the refrigerator, or pull weeds around the building either.

Many years ago I was talking with the storyteller, Ed Stivender, and I asked him what the first step was to becoming a professional storyteller. He told me that I should join my local storytelling guild and set up the chairs for the meetings. I waited for more "wisdom" and he didn't say anything. So I asked, "And then what?" He said, "Oh ... then when the meeting is over you put the chairs back." I had always thought that Ed was a little strange and now I was sure of it. But in time I figured out what he was trying to teach me: If you want to move to the top in the field of storytelling (or any other field for that matter), you had better be willing to serve oth­ers, even if it means setting up the chairs. I saw Ed at the National Storytelling Festival a couple of years later and the first thing he asked me was how my storytelling was going. I said, "Well, Ed, I'm still setting up the chairs." And he grinned and said, "Keep it up." Albert Schweitzer once said, "The only ones among you who will be really happy are those who will have sought and found how to serve." I'm only just beginning to understand that. But then I've always been a slow learner when it comes to some of this disciple­ship stuff. How about you?

So Jesus says to us, when you throw a party don't be so quick to invite family and friends and relatives and your rich neighbors because they might return the favor and repay you. Actually, for­give me; I've softened what Jesus said. What Jesus really said was, "Don't invite your family, friends, relatives and rich neighbors. Invite instead, the poor, the crippled, the lame, and the blind. In­vite," he is saying to us, "the broken ones of this world." Now that would be an exercise in humility!

Many years ago I was preaching on this text and as I got to the part where I said, "Into the kingdom they came: the poor, the crippled, the lame, and the blind" the backdoor burst open and in walked one of our more colorful couples oblivious to the fact that we had already started. But no one laughed at the coincidence, nor frowned at their interruption, for we all knew that it was to such as these that the kingdom belongs.

When I get off my high horse and leave my "I want to be at the top" attitude behind; when I disregard those symbols of impor­tance that I cling to in order to show myself and you that I've got it all together; when I recognize that you and I are as broken as any poor, crippled, lame, or blind person out there, then I realize that Jesus is inviting me and all of you as well to the banquet.

If I humbly invite you to my party, not because of what you can do for me, but because we share a common, broken humanity, a whole different thing begins to happen. Perhaps my guest list changes, or my motives for having a get-together change. Maybe I invite folks, not for what they can do for me or my career or my image, but in order that I might have an opportunity to serve them; to serve people who are just as broken as I am.

Over the years I have talked with many people who, like my­self, have felt like imposters in our jobs, our community, wher­ever. The higher I rose at the hospital where I worked, for example, the more I was haunted by the fear that someday I would be found out. In time I was certain that I would be exposed by someone who knew that I had absolutely no clue about what I was doing and then I would be fired on the spot, ushered to my office by security to clean out my desk, and be told never to return. Oh, the diplomas on my wall and the credentials I carried as a Certified Alcoholism Counselor were real. It was the lack of internal diplomas and cre­dentials that I was having trouble with and that made me feel like an imposter. No wonder I tried to be something I wasn't instead of humbling myself to be exactly who I was. If I tried hard enough perhaps I could convince my boss that I belonged in my job. And if I really worked at it, maybe I could convince myself!

Sometimes, though, I wonder if this attitude is such a bad thing. Maybe it's just that we take it the wrong way. Perhaps it is a small, inner voice that is reminding us to be humble and modest; remind­ing us that we don't know it all, that we're not God's gift to hu­manity, and that if we really want to be first we must be willing to be last of all and servants of all. Maybe it is saying that all this striving to get to the top could be better spent striving to get to the bottom where we might better serve others.

I know what some of you might be thinking: that if you do all this humbling stuff you'll be humbled right out of a job. But don't be so sure. Some of the most influential executives are ones who are clearly servants. It's how they choose to lead. Still not con­vinced? Then perhaps you might use Jesus' statement as a sort of mantra in your prayers this week and see what happens. "For all who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble them­selves will be exalted" (v. 11). Chew on these words for a few days or weeks and then let them bother you for a while. I know that they bothered me. And I know that they still aren't finished doing their work on me. May they never be finished. Amen.


1. I have heard several versions of this story. One written source is: Heather Forest, Wisdom Tales (Little Rock, Arkansas: August House, 1996), pp. 60-61.

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