John 11:1-16 · The Death of Lazarus
When God Is Silent
John 11:1-16, John 11:17-37
Sermon
by Bill Bouknight
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I recall Thanksgiving 1983 as the worst one of my life. It came about six months after the death of our younger son. It was midnight hour in the valley of the shadow of death. The shock had worn off, and I was trying to accept the unacceptable. I could not imagine life ever becoming good again. On Thanksgiving Day we gathered for dinner with relatives at the home of my wife's parents. Routinely, they called on me, as the only pastor in the family, to offer the Thanksgiving prayer. I bowed my head, but words wouldn't come. I could not say "thank you" when I was anything but grateful. Some sensitive relative understood my problem, and offered the prayer. Have you ever had such a moment when God seemed distant and prayer almost pointless? Have you experienced a time when heaven seemed to be shut up, when God was utterly silent?

Jesus had such a time. Hanging on that awful cross he cried out in agony, using words from Psalm 22 that he had probably memorized as a child: "My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?" A thousand years earlier King David had uttered those same words at a low moment when he experienced the silence of God. It may have been when King Saul was trying to kill him; or perhaps when David's own son Absalom was trying to steal his throne. "My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?"

When God is silent or absent, there are at least three possible reasons. The first is that you are deeply hurt by life and are blaming God for some of it. That was my situation in 1983. I found out that God did not reject me for treating him as my personal complaint department. God is a big God. If I want to beat up on Him a little bit, he will not reject me. He is like an earthly father who allows a daughter to fuss at him even though her real problem is that she was not selected as a cheerleader. Even though cancer and cystic-fibrosis and AIDs and death are the result of our sin rather than God's plan, God allows us to unload our hurts and frustrations on Him. "Cast your burden upon the Lord," the Bible says, "and He will sustain you."

A second reason for God's silence is our sin. In Proverbs 15 we read, "The Lord is far from the wicked, but He hears the prayers of the righteous." Some people can't find God for the same reason that a thief can't find a cop. I recall a couple who came to me in frustration because they could not get clear answers to their prayers. As we conversed, they revealed that they were living together without benefit of matrimony. I asked them, "How do you expect God to bless you when you have structured your relationship contrary to God's standards?

I have a book in my library which contains some of the most brilliant sermons and profound prayers I have ever read. These inspired materials were recorded during worship services held each week at the White House, during the presidency of Richard Nixon. But now we know, thanks to the tapes, that following those holy services each week, back in the Oval Office, God's name was constantly profaned and common standards of ethics were routinely and flagrantly violated. Is it any wonder that God's protective angels were withdrawn and Mr. Nixon destroyed himself by his own conniving? If we persist in what we know to be sin, we should not expect God to be close and intimate until we repent.

But there is a third reason for the silence of God. This one was taught to me by that inspired Baptist pastor, Henry Blackaby, the author of "Experiencing God." Sometimes when God is silent, He is preparing to grant us a greater revelation of Himself than ever before. The silence is God's way of saying, "Listen up! I'm about to teach you something really big!"

One day Jesus' close friends, Mary and Martha, were deeply worried because their only brother Lazarus was seriously ill. They sent word to Jesus to come quickly, knowing that Jesus loved Lazarus like a brother. But all they heard from Jesus was silence. Lazarus died and was buried. Still no Jesus. Finally, four days after the funeral, Jesus showed up.

Martha showed admirable restraint when she said to Jesus, "Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died." What she felt like saying was, "I can't believe that you did not come as soon as you got my message. You were off somewhere healing complete strangers while your best friend was here dying." Martha did not understand until later that Jesus' absence was the prelude to a new and greater revelation of Himself. He was about to do something much greater than healing Lazarus, much greater than raising Lazarus from the dead, which He did. Jesus was about to declare the way by which every believer can survive death and live with God forever. Jesus was about to deliver a believer's roadmap into eternity. He declared, "I am the resurrection and the life. Anyone who believes in me, though he die an earthly death, will in reality never die." Millions of Christians across the centuries, who could hardly remember who Lazarus was, have been comforted by this assurance about our eternal destiny.

If recently you have experienced the silence of God; if God has seemed distant; if God has been for you as slow as butter in a new frigidaire; do some self-analysis as you come to the Table of Holy Communion. Do you have a broken heart? Are you grieving? Turn that grief or broken heart over to the Master. Jesus understands. The Bible describes Him as "a man of sorrows, acquainted with grief."

Perhaps the reason for God's silence is your sin. Is there anything in your lifestyle that scripture and conscience tell you is wrong? Are you willing to confess it and change it, with God's help? If you do, you will find God running to meet you, just as the father of the prodigal Son came running down a dusty road to welcome home his wayward son.

But what if God's silence is caused by that third reason I mentioned? Perhaps God is about to grant a deeper, more wonderful revelation of Himself than you have ever known before. Several weeks ago I mentioned periods of anxiety in my life, the most severe being in the early 1970's. I was stressed and anxious, and God did not seem very close. But now I realize that God was preparing me to learn who the Holy Spirit is. At that time the Holy Spirit was all theory for me, with no practical reality. But then God taught me that the Holy Spirit is a real spiritual Person. But His power cannot be activated fully within the life of a Christian unless that person has a deep need and issues a continuing invitation. That is why St. Paul urged the Ephesians to "be filled with the Spirit." For the last 22 years, I have been inviting the Holy Spirit each day to fill and dominate my life. God has answered that prayer in glorious ways. I might never have learned that truth if I had not first encountered God's silence.

Could it be that God is preparing you for a greater revelation of Himself, perhaps beginning today at the Table of Communion? I never expected to get a theology lesson at the Memphis City Jail. But I did. Almost every time we hold a service at the women's prison, they insist on singing a song that is full of spiritual truth. It's a tremendous comfort to anyone who encounters the silence of God. I don't recall all the words, but the chorus goes like this: "He's an on-time God, yes He is. He's an on-time God, yes He is. He may not come when you want Him to, but He's always right on time. He's an on-time God, yes He is."

Here at the Table of Holy Communion, I invite you to meet God who even in His silences is loving and right on-time.

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