Ephesians 1:1-14 · Spiritual Blessings in Christ
The Secret of Self-Esteem
Ephesians 1:1-6
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by James Merritt
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Chuck Swindoll tells the story of the time when his children were smaller and they were going on a long trip, and trying to break the boredom, they decided to play a game called "What if?" The question was "What if you could be anybody on earth—who would you like to be?"

Well, one of his daughters said, "I would like to be the bionic woman." The other children followed suit and thought of someone famous they would like to be. But his youngest child, Chuck, Jr., never said a word. As they pulled up to a stop sign, Chuck, Sr. looked at his son and said, "Chucky?" He said, "Yes, sir?" He said, "Who would you like to be?" His son said, "I'd like to be me." He said, "Why do you want to be you?" He said, "Because I like me better than anybody I know."

Now I like that. That little fellow understood that he was really somebody. Now every person at one time or another has struggled with low self-esteem. One of the reasons we do is because we compare ourselves with other people, and when we don't measure up esteem is gone and only self is left.

My wife, Teresa, loves Patrick Swayze. Every time he comes on television she just swoons. Well, I caught her looking at him in that teenybopper kind of way the other night, and I said, "Let me ask you a question. If you took away his money, his face, and that muscular body, what would you have?" She looked at me and smiled and said, "I'd have you."

Now you may not have good looks, a great physique, or much money. You may not wear the finest clothes, drive the nicest car, or live in the finest home; but if you are a Christian and know the Lord Jesus Christ, you should never suffer from a lack of self-esteem.

I am convinced that there are two basic reasons why people are frustrated, irritated, aggravated, discouraged, and depressed. Barring something physiological, either they do not have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, or they don't understand what having a personal relationship with Jesus Christ really means.

There are a lot of Christians who are like a man I heard about who walked into a store, and he said, "I would like an orange hat, blue pants, an orange shirt and blue shoes." Well, the clerk said, "Are you a University of Florida fan?"

The man stuck his chest out with pride and said, "I sure am. How did you know? Was it the color combination?" He said, "No, this is a hardware store." Now there's truth in that story. You need to know who you are, and exactly where you are, before you will ever have what you need, and become what you ought to be. It is all tied to a personal relationship to Jesus Christ.

If you are a true born-again believer and have a relationship with the Lord, there are three things you can do everyday that will help you to be what you ought to be, so that you can do what you ought to do, and see yourself for the valuable person that you are.

I. Recognize Who You Are

The average Christian, I am convinced, has no idea who he really is in the Lord Jesus Christ. I read the other day a true story of a United Airlines gate agent in Denver, Colorado who was confronted with a passenger who was extremely rude and demanding. A United flight had just been cancelled and this one agent was re-booking a long line of travelers who were very upset and inconvenienced.

Suddenly, an angry passenger pushed his way to the front of the line, stood before this agent at the desk, slapped his ticket down on the counter and said, "I've got to be on the next flight and it has to be first-class." The agent said, "Sir, I'm very sorry for the inconvenience we've caused you, and I'll be happy to try to help you. But you will have to get back in line and wait your turn and I'm sure we'll be able to work something out."

Well, this only irritated the man even more; and in a voice loud enough so that everybody could hear him, he said, "Do you have any idea who I am?" Without hesitation, that gate agent smiled, grabbed the public address microphone and said, "May I have your attention please?" as her voice bellowed throughout the terminal. She said, "We have a passenger here at Gate 42 who does not know who he is. If anyone can help him find his identity would you please come to the gate."1

That really is a great question. Do you know who you are in the Lord Jesus Christ? Well, let me tell you. If you are a Christian you are a saint. "Paul, an apostle of Jesus Christ by the will of God, to the saints who are in Ephesus, and faithful in Christ Jesus..." (v.1) Now we are very reluctant to call ourselves saints.

We don't mind calling ourselves believers, or children of God, or Christians, but we don't like to call ourselves saints. That's really tragic because according to the Bible calling someone a saint is just another way of calling someone a Christian.

Have you ever heard somebody say, "I'm saved, but I'm no saint?" Well, the next time you hear someone say that, you ought to ask them this question: "Why aren't you a saint? If you're not a saint there are only one of two reasons: either you don't want to be, or you don't believe that God can make you into one."2

I've got news for you. There are only two categories of people—the saints and the "aints." You see, our problem is we have the idea that saints are good people, and "aints" are bad people. I heard about two brothers who were both terrible rotten sinful men, and one of the brothers died, and the other brother went to the pastor of the Baptist church and said, "I want you to do my brother's funeral, and somehow in that message I want you to call my brother a saint, and if you do, I'll give your church $10,000."

The pastor said, "Well, you know how difficult that will be because you know what kind of a man your brother was." He said, "I do, but for $10,000 you call him a saint." The pastor thought about it, and finally the day of the funeral he got up and he said, "There are several things I would like to say about this man who has just died. He was a liar, a drunkard, a cheat, a womanizer, a blasphemer, a reprobate, and a bum. But compared to his brother he was a saint."

Being a saint has nothing to do with being compared to someone else. I introduced someone to a friend of mine just the other day. I was telling this man what a great guy this friend of mine was, and this friend looked at the man and said, "Oh, I'm just a sinner saved by grace." Well, that is true as far as it goes, but it doesn't go far enough. Because if you are saved you are more than a sinner saved by grace; you are a saint who sometimes sins, and the distinction is very important.

You do not become a saint by performance, you become a saint by birth. You see, the world defines a sinner as someone who performs like a sinner. If a person sins they say he is a sinner. But that is not God's definition. His view is that a sinner is a sinner because he was born that way, and performance has nothing to do with it.

You see, it is not sins that sends a person to hell. It's a person's sinful nature that sends him to hell. Listen, all you have to do to go to hell is just be born and get old enough to be accountable.

But when a sinner gets saved, he doesn't become just a sinner saved by grace, he then becomes a saint who sometimes sins. Now the way the world sees it, a saint is someone who rarely sins. In fact, we usually reserve the label "saint" for somebody who is too old to sin. I've heard people called "dear old saints," but I've never heard anybody called a "dear young saint." That is because we don't really understand what sainthood is all about.

When Mother Teresa died, everybody began talking about whether or not she would be made a saint. In one church tradition, being a saint means being a holy person, and a saint is a person who is declared by the Pope to have been holy and to have performed miracles. In fact, since the year 1234 more than 4,000 people have been named saints.

Now the process of sainthood is fascinating. First of all, to become a saint a person must be nominated by a bishop who initiates a formal investigation to determine whether that person's life merits the consideration of becoming a formal saint.

The bishop, and usually a group of other people, will investigate this person's life and work and collect documents which are then sent to the Vatican's Congregation for the Causes of Saints. That report is then turned over to a panel of nine theologians that judge the case, and if two-thirds approve, the Cause is sent to the Cardinals of the Congregation, who then sends it on to the Pope who declares the candidate "venerable."

Now at least two miracles are required to become a saint. If only one miracle is proven the committee can recommend that the person receive beatification, that is when the Pope declares someone "blessed" which means they have gone to heaven and worthy of special honor.

But if a second miracle is proven then that person is canonized as a saint and recognized as one by the entire church.3

Now what is interesting is to see how the Bible differs from this church tradition of sainthood. On the one hand, the church canonizes a person only after his death, but the Bible teaches that a person becomes a saint while they're still alive. The church teaching is that a saint is elected by the church, but biblically a saint is chosen by the Lord. The church says a person becomes a saint by good works; the Bible teaches a person becomes a saint by God's grace.

Now get this into your heart. As hard as it may be for you to believe, if you are a Christian you are a saint. That word saint simply means to be holy, to be separated, to be righteous. The Bible says that you are the righteousness of God in Christ—you are a saint. That is not a matter of performance, it is a matter of position, and it is only when we realize who we are that it will affect how we live.

You see, the difference between a sinner and a saint is this: A sinner is prone to sin because of who he is, but a saint is prone not to sin because of who he is. You know what's so interesting. Lost people won't get holy because they won't accept the fact they're sinners; and saved people won't get happy because they won't accept the fact they're saints. Once you recognize who you are, a saint in the Lord Jesus Christ, it is amazing how it will affect your self-image.

II. Visualize What You Have

"Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places in Christ…" (v.3) Now notice two words in that verse—the word "has" and the word "every." We are not told that God will one day give us all that we need, nor are we told that God has given us some of what we need. We are told that God has already given us all that we need.

You don't need what you already have, and in the Lord Jesus you already have all that you need. Does anyone here ever need more patience? You already have it in the Lord Jesus Christ. Do you need more love? You have it in the Lord Jesus Christ. You see we don't need as much as we think we need because whatever we need we already have.

Did you know that the moment you get saved God gives you everything that you need? He gives you every spiritual blessing that there is to be had in the Lord Jesus Christ. You see, the reason for that is this: If you have Jesus, you have all that He has, and He has everything.

A woman walked into a bank and said, "I'd like to open a joint account." The banker said, "We will be more than happy to help you. With whom would you like to open that account?" She said, "A millionaire."

Well, I've got good news for you. When you become a saint in God's fellowship, a son in God's family, a soldier in God's army, you open a joint account with the Lord Jesus Christ, who is greater than the greatest and richer than the richest. For your grief you have His grace; for your problems you have His wisdom; for your weakness you have His strength; for your needs you have His wealth; for your sins you have His forgiveness.

You see, our problem is not that we don't have what we need. The problem is we don't realize that we have it and can get it anytime that we want it.

I read a story a long time ago about a man who took an ocean voyage and it took about all the money that he had to buy the ticket for that voyage, leaving him with very little money. He was trying to go from his old country to a new country. So he packed as much as he could in his suitcase of hard biscuits and peas because they would not spoil.

Well, every day all that man would eat was those hard biscuits and those peas. He had it for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. For about five days that's all this man ate. Finally, he just got so sick of that food to the point that he just felt like he could not eat anymore.

One day he was walking past the dining room and he smelled roast beef, mashed potatoes, fresh vegetables and apple pie. He thought about how good it would be to eat that food. Finally, he broke down and went into that dining room and walked up to the maitre d' and said, "I have a little money, how much would it cost to eat in here?" The maitre d' said, "Sir, do you have a ticket?" He said, "Yes, sir." He said, "Well, don't you know that when you bought a ticket for the voyage, that included all of your meals?"

We're so much like that man. We just don't realize all that we have in the Lord Jesus Christ. Notice again he says "we have been blessed with every spiritual blessing." Have you ever been asked the question by someone: "Have you received the second blessing?'' Did you know every Christian has received the second blessing? You know what the second blessing is? The second blessing is understanding what you got in the first one.

Listen, if verse 3 is true, let me ask you this question. How many more blessings do you want? If you've got every spiritual blessing in Christ Jesus when you get Christ Jesus, who would care about getting a second blessing?

There was an old saint who loved the Lord with all of his heart, but he didn't have much of this world's goods, and he lived in one of those countries where the tax assessor would visit your house and look around and inventory everything that you had. Well, the tax assessor came to this man's house with his big ledger and his ballpoint pen, and he said, "I've come in to assess you to see how much tax you might owe." The man said, "That's fine with me." He said, "Tell me about your possessions."

The man said, "Well, I'm a very wealthy man. Even though I live in this humble home I am extremely rich." That really got the tax man's attention. He said, "Would you mind listing your possessions?" He said, "Well, I would be happy to."

He said, "First I have everlasting life," and he quoted John 3:16. Then he said, "I have a mansion in heaven," and he quoted John 14:2. He said, "I have a peace that passes understanding," and he quoted Phil. 4:7. He said, "I have joy unspeakable and full of glory," and he quoted 1 Peter 1:8. He said, "I have a faithful wife," and he quoted Prov. 31:10.

He said, "I have happy, healthy, obedient children," and he quoted Ex. 20:12. He said, "I have friends who are loyal to me," and he quoted Prov. 18:24. He said, "I have a crown of life that will never fade away," and he quoted James 1:2. Then he said, "I have a Savior, Jesus Christ, who supplies all of my needs," and he quoted Phil. 4:19.

When he said that the tax assessor closed his books and said with a big smile, "Sir, you are the richest man I've ever met, but unfortunately none of that is subject to taxation." We need to visualize all that we have in the Lord Jesus.

III. Emphasize Whose You Are

"…to the praise of the glory of His grace, by which He has made us accepted in the Beloved." (v.6) Let that phrase run over in your mind again—we are "accepted in the Beloved." You know people are hungry for acceptance. People want to be accepted by their peers and by the so-called "group." When people feel rejected, what should have been a heart soft as silk, can turn into a heart as hard as steel.

Just this past week there was another tragic shooting in a school. According to the reports the young man that did the shooting felt like he was picked on, made fun of. It's the same phenomenon they said about those two young men at Columbine High School; they were social rejects, they were picked on, they were bullied, they were outcasts; they did not feel accepted.

I couldn't help but think what a difference it would have made in the lives of those young men if they had somehow been made to understand that because of Jesus they would be accepted by God Himself. Thank God our acceptance is not based on what we do for God, but what God has done for us in Christ Jesus.

Listen carefully. Because of Jesus God has accepted us. That means that you can't do anything so bad that it would make God love you less, nor can you do anything so good that would make God love you more. Because of Jesus Christ God is willing to accept you for who you are, and change you from a sinner to a saint, and take you from rags to riches.

Now friend, if that will not help your self-esteem nothing else will. When you realize who you are, you're a saint; when you visualize what you have, every spiritual blessing in the Lord Jesus; when you emphasize whose you are, you've been accepted by Him and you are part of His family; you ought to be thrilled with who you are, what you have, and whose you are.

Dr. Vance Havner was a great preacher and he told a story of being in a revival meeting one night, and the church had invited a choral group from an orphanage to come and to sing for them. This was a Christian orphanage, and these children knew the Lord Jesus Christ. They didn't have mothers; they didn't have fathers.

As a matter of fact, most of them did not even know who their father or mother was. When they stood up to sing before that church, Dr. Havner said they literally radiated with joy, and this is what they sang:

From the door of an orphanage,
To the house of a King,
No longer an outcast,
a new song I sing.

From rags to riches,
from the weak to the strong,
I'm not worthy to be here,
but praise God I belong.

My friend, when you understand who you can be, what you can have, and who you can belong to in Jesus Christ, then you will understand the secret of self-esteem.


1. Great Stories, October-December, 1997, p. 7.

2. J. Oswald Chambers, My Utmost for His Highest, June 12.

3. Newweek, "The Path to Sainthood," November 12, 1990.

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