Matthew 10:1-42 · Jesus Sends Out the Twelve
How Jesus’ Friendship Makes Your Burdens Light
Matthew 10:1-42
Sermon
by Mark Ellingsen
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Jesus was teaching about the kind of authority he has. We need authority in our context, because to Jesus' mind we are a very confused, wayward generation. There was nothing to compare the people of his time to, nothing to compare us to.1 They and we are wayward, hardened, confused people. Inappropriate behavior seemed to be the order of the day in Jesus' view. The people of Israel were like children who were playing, but could get none of the other children to celebrate, even when they played music. But when the same children played funeral, the other kids were celebrating (Matthew 11:16-17). Stubborn, fickle children. Is that not the way it is with us? We complain about how burned out we are while enjoying the highest standard of living in the world, along with all the conveniences that minimize work, despite all our squawking about how email never lets us get off the job. And when the rap music is lamenting about the meaninglessness of inner-city life and the degradation of male-female relationships, we have a party and dance.

The people of Jesus' day had other perverse ways of living and thinking, attitudes which even permeated their religious life. It is sort of how we take our business values (the sort that created Enron) and try to incarnate them in church life. Like we take the values of the modern media and make them the criteria for organizing worship (contending it's got to be "entertaining" and "sound-bite short"). Jesus reports that the people of Israel in his day had complained about John the Baptist for living a life-denying (almost monastic-like) life, and then gossiped about Jesus for eating and drinking, and even eating with sinners (Matthew 11:18-19). No pleasing some folks. It's like today: We criticize some people who are too "extreme" in their religion, and then we gossip about those who seem to be too life-affirming to be "religious." Oh how nit-picking and inconsistent we are.

Jesus then continued his remarks by giving thanks that his teachings are hidden from the wise and intelligent (Matthew 11:25). In the final sermon he preached, Martin Luther explained why this has been necessary. He pointed out that the wise and intelligent in the world are always asserting themselves. In the Church they do things the way they want. They feel that they just improve everything God does.2

If you and I are going to submit to Jesus' authority, as he was endeavoring to have us do in his remarks in today's gospel lesson, then we need to be alerted to the sins of our times. You and I need to be made aware of the sin in ourselves. The other great Reformer of the sixteenth century, John Calvin, put it this way.

He [Jesus] tells us that the reason why most men despise his grace is, that they are not sensible of their poverty ... Let our miseries drive us to seek Christ; and as he admits none to the enjoyment of his rest but those who sink under the burden, let us learn, that there is no venom more deadly than that slothfulness which is produced in us, either by earthly happiness, or by a false and deceitful opinion of our own righteousness and virtue.3

Only when we know how sinful and twisted you and I are will we appreciate grace, God's forgiving love, and our need for it.

Despite some economic hard times and the poverty that surround us, America continues today to be the wealthiest nation in the history of the world. And wealth can be a cross to bear. The great German theologian of the World War II era, Dietrich Bonhoeffer, who died as a martyr in the cause of resisting Hitler, spoke of the loneliness and inward suffering of the wealthy. Their wealth cannot buy the most important things in life — inner peace, love in marriage, he claimed. Bonhoeffer believed that even those intoxicated with life, rushing from day to day, wildly plunge into their supposed happiness because they do not want to admit that they are unhappy and burdened, too.4

This great German theologian is right about us in our context today, isn't he? There is a lot of unhappiness out there. That is why people send much time seeking happiness, wanting to be entertained. Those have even become reasons for picking churches. Concerns about keeping parishioners entertained and happy have even come to set the agenda in many congregations.

When we become burdens to ourselves, Bonhoeffer says in a sermon on the very biblical text we are talking about today, then we need a person we can fully trust without reservation, a person who understands, hears, and bears all things.5 In other words, you and I need a friend, someone to make the burdens we are encountering right now a little lighter.

Our gospel lesson moves in this same direction. In verse 27, Jesus makes it clear that it is only through him that we can really know God. God is only truly known in Christ. This knowledge is given to all, even the poor, uneducated, and spiritually immature.

In this regard, Jesus is a real friend. He is the one who makes God known to us, and in a way that demands so little of us, just as true friends make few demands of their friends.

The idea that Jesus is your friend is a popular theme again in a lot of popular Christian literature. An entire chapter of Rick Warren's best-seller, The Purpose-Driven Life, is devoted to "Developing Your Friendship with God." But the whole idea of developing a friendship, that you "must work at developing" it, seems to make friendship with God in Christ something that you do.6 That has not been the way friendship has worked in my life. Has it been that way for you? In my experience, friendship is an unearned, joyful gift. It is that way in our friendship with Jesus. After all, he says in verse 30 that his "yoke is easy, and [his] burden is light." Developing friendship makes that yoke heavy, it seems to me.

While preaching the sermon on this gospel lesson that I noted previously, Dietrich Bonhoeffer said of Jesus that our Lord is "The one who thinks and lives for Others." In this text, Bonhoeffer claims, Jesus puts us in the awkward position of having to admit that his invitation was meant for us, too.7

What is it like to have a friend who thinks and lives for you? To some extent, friends can think and live for you and know you better than you know yourself. In Jesus, you and I have that sort of full-time intimate friend. And of course, in view of the way in which we twenty-first-century Americans are messing things up, wayward and confused that we are, we need someone to make us sane. With all our squawking despite all the things we have to make our lives easier, our moaning when we should be rejoicing and rejoicing (laughing at the Reality TV shows) over things that warrant mourning, we need a sane friend (the Lord himself) to do some thinking for us. I need a friend who will exercise authority, take charge, and lighten my burdens. How about you?

There is great comfort in having this Jesus as your friend. In a 1525 sermon on this text, Martin Luther put it this way.

Therefore every Christian, if he has accepted the gospel, may well rejoice that he is in the hands of this Christ and need not be troubled by his sins, if he has accepted the gospel, for Christ, under whom he lives, will carry on from there.8

Later in the sermon Luther made a related point about friendship with Jesus:

Moreover, he [Christ] not only refreshes us in the anxiety and assaults of sin, but he will be with us in all other troubles; in hunger, war, famine, and whatever other tribulations which may come he will not leave us....9

Our friend, Jesus, takes care of the big social problems for us, not just our own individual sins and trials.

Jesus says more about what kind of a friend he is at the end of our gospel lesson. Besides telling us that his yoke is easy and his burden is light, he wants to remind you and me that he is "gentle and humble in heart" (Matthew 11:29), that in him we can find rest. He wants to give you rest from your burdens. Again, Martin Luther in the same sermon I shared with you says it so well about this gentle Lord of ours.

And Christ makes a special point of saying here that he is gentle. It is as though he were saying: I know how to deal with sinners. I myself have experienced what it is to have a timid, terrified conscience (as Hebrews 4:15 says, "He in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sinning"). Therefore let no one be afraid of me; I will deal kindly and gently with him. I will not jump on him or frighten him. Let him come boldly to me, in me he will find rest for his soul.10

Friendship with Christ is not burden. He makes all the burdens you and I have feel so light. It is like we sing in the old hymn at several points:

What a friend we have in Jesus. All our sins and griefs to bear! ... Do your friends despise, forsake you? ... In his arms he'll take and shield you; you will find a solace there.11

How does having Jesus for your friend make the burdens light? Not only does Christ take away our sin and give us companionship as we grapple with our personal problems and with the big social issues of the day. As Martin Luther put it, "All this Christ takes from me and gives me the Spirit, through whom I cheerfully, willingly, and gladly, do everything I should do."12

Did you catch this point? Our friend, Jesus, makes life even more bearable, a little more fun, by giving you and me the Holy Spirit. Because to have the Spirit with you in the trials, challenges, and duties you encounter is on Luther's grounds to have what makes you cheerful and glad in facing them. Friendship with Christ and the Holy Spirit make life a whole lot more fun.

The first Reformer had more to say about the joy that comes with your friendship with Jesus:

And it is called gentle, sweet, and easy because he himself helps us carry it, and when it grows too heavy for us he shoulders the burden along with us. The world looks upon it as heavy and intolerable, but it is not, for then one has a good companion and, as the saying goes: With a good companion the singing is good. Two can carry a burden easily, though one alone may not carry it well.13

Singing is more fun, life is better, when you do it with a friend. Life is like a song. I told you, Jesus gives as a vision for a fun, free life. Life is play!

In the final sermon of his life, Martin Luther put these words in the mouth of Christ our friend. We can imagine him saying them to you and me.

If things go badly, I will give you the courage even to laugh about it; and if even though you walk on fiery coals, the torment shall nevertheless not be ... so bad and you will rather feel that you are walking on roses. I will give you the heart to laugh....14

Hanging out with Jesus and the Holy Spirit makes life fun. That sure shatters a lot of stereotypes about Christian living, but then Jesus was a fun guy. At least that was the gossip about him we hear in verse 19. His critics said he was a glutton and drunk who hung with a rough crowd. Well, he's still hanging with a bunch like you and me. Let's go party with him. And get the word out about this friend of ours. Why we might just get more converts if everyone knew him like we do. Amen.


1. For documentation of this point, that since Matthew abolishes the distinction between the time of Jesus and the time of the church, between his time and ours, so that the comments of Jesus in the gospel pertain to us, see page 233, nn.2-3.

 2. Martin Luther, The Last Sermon, Eisleben (1546), in Luther's Works, Vol. 51 ed. and trans. John W. Doberstein (Philadelphia: Fortress Press, 1959), pp. 383-384.

 3. John Calvin, Commentary On a Harmony of The Evangelists, Mathew, Mark, and Luke (1555), in Calvin's Commentaries, Vol. XVI.II, trans. William Pringle (Grand Rapids, Michigan Baker Books, 2005), p. 43.

 4. Dietrich Bonhoeffer, The One Who Thinks and Lives for Others (1934), in A Testament to Freedom, ed. Geffrey B. Kelly and F. Burton Nelson (New York: Harper San Francisco, 1990), p. 248.

 5. Ibid, p. 249.

 6. Rick Warren, The Purpose-Driven Life: What On Earth Am I Here For? (Grand Rapids, Michigan: Zondervan, 2002), pp. 92 ff.

 7. Op cit, Bonhoeffer, p. 247.

 8. Martin Luther, Sermon On St. Matthias' Day (1525), in Luther's Works, Vol. 51, p. 128.

 9. Ibid, p. 130.

10. Ibid, p. 131.

11. Joseph Scriven and Charles C. Converse, "What a Friend We Have In Jesus."

12. Op cit, Luther, Sermon On St. Matthias' Day, p. 132.

13. Ibid.

14. Op cit, Luther, The Last Sermon, Eisleben, p. 392.

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