Romans 14:1--15:13 · The Weak and the Strong
Forever His
Romans 14:1--15:13
Sermon
by Raymond Gibson
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Do you remember the first time you fell in love? I do, and it was a wonderful experience, both exhilarating and painful. I was fourteen years old and a high school freshman when it happened. The young lady’s name was Joyce. She had long brown hair and dark brown eyes, and I was quite certain she was one of God’s own angels. I fell in love with Joyce the first time she let me carry her books home from school. I bought her a Pepsi Cola that day, and when she accepted it, I felt like a knight of the Round Table presenting King Arthur with the Holy Grail. The next day she wrote me a note on Blue Horse notebook paper during English class, inviting me to her birthday party. That alone was enough to send my schoolboy ardor into flights of ecstasy, but then wonder of wonders! She signed that note, "Forever yours, Joyce."

"Forever yours!" What a promise! For two days, I floated around on a cloud of bliss, as I fantasized about what it meant to have that brown-haired, brown-eyed goddess forever mine. Then I discovered that eight other freshmen boys had also received invitations to that birthday party, all written on Blue Horse notebook paper, and all ending with the words, "Forever yours, Joyce." My heart was broken and my fantasies evaporated when I realized Joyce’s "forever yours" was her usual complimentary close for every note, as meaningless as "sincerely yours" on a business letter.

St. Paul makes it clear in his complimentary close in his Letter to the Romans which serves as our text for the day that this is not true of Jesus Christ in his relations with us. Paul says that whether we live or die, we Christians belong to Jesus. In life or death, we are forever his. Earlier in the eighth chapter, Paul has confidently written that "neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord" (Romans 8:38-39). Now, as he nears the end of his greatest letter, St. Paul declares once again that in relation to the Lord Jesus, we Christians are forever his.

Everyone wants to belong to someone. None of us want to go through life alone, with no one to love us, no one to care. We human beings are social creatures, made for fellowship with one another, intended to live in a community. Without someone with whom we can share our lives and our love, our hopes and our hurts, we are incomplete. God was aware of this from the very first moment of creation. "It is not good that the man should be alone," God mused after his creation of Adam. "I will make him a helper fit for him" (Genesis 2:18) - and he did! God made Eve, the first woman, and Adam knew that he would never he lonely again because Eve was "bone of his bone and flesh of his flesh." Adam knew that Eve was forever his, and Eve knew that Adam was forever hers, and they both knew they belonged to somebody.

The problem, however, is that we human beings have forgotten to whom we belong first of all. When we are children, it is assumed that we belong to our parents. We say that John is the son of Bill and Mary, that Susie is their daughter, and that they belong to their parents. Children are taught that they are the possessions of their parents. When a marriage breaks up, one of the first questions asked is, "Who gets possession of the children?" While visiting in a home recently, a five-year-old sat on my lap. There were several adults present, two of whom I did not know. "Who is that man?" I asked the child. "That’s Henry," she replied. "He lives with my mommy but I don't belong to him. I belong to Mommy during the week, and to Daddy on Saturdays and Sundays." So emphatic is parental possessiveness that some children have difficulty developing a personality and lifestyle of their own. The late Bing Crosby’s sons by his first wife Dixie all suffered from depression, alcoholism, and career failures because they lived their early adulthood in the shadow of their famous father, and they couldn’t cope with it.

When people become adults, many assume that they belong first of all to their husbands or wives, or in these days of easy morality, to their live-in companions. A popular song of the seventies was entitled, "You Belong to Me," and its theme was that the object of the singer’s love belonged to him exclusively. Certainly this is not all bad because the emphasis is upon commitment and fidelity in marriage or in love affairs. That is why in the traditional marriage ceremony, the minister asks both the bride and groom, "Wilt thou have this man (or woman) to be thy wedded wife (or husband), to live together in the holy estate of matrimony? Wilt thou love him (or her), comfort him (or her), honor and keep him (or her) in sickness and in health, and forsaking all others, keep thee only unto him (or her), so long as ye both shall live?" Of course, the fundamental emphasis is that both the husband and wife in a Christian marriage belong first of all to God, but this is often forgotten in the romantic mysticism which pervades the marriage ceremony. Thus, when a marriage breaks up, the partners often feel a loss akin to death because they feel they no longer belong to anyone.

Ultimately, however, many people today believe that they belong first of all to themselves. We believe that we are responsible to ourselves and for ourselves. "What’s in it for me?" and "Look out for No. 1" are both the question and the slogan of our time. In these days when there is much discussion about draft registration, many young adults are saying, "It’s my life, and I’ll do with it as I please. Hell, no! I won’t go!" The 1970s were labelled "The Me Decade" because the emphasis was so great upon self-satisfaction and self-fulfillment. Selfishness is now considered a virtue instead of a sin because so many people believe they belong to themselves first of all. One of the major arguments used by those who want to legalize the use of marijuana is that if it harms anyone, it harms no one but the user. One young pot advocate told a narcotics bureau officer, "It’s my life and my body! What right do you have to tell me what I can or can’t do to myself?" To believe that we belong first of all to ourselves is to subscribe to a social philosophy of hedonism and utter selfishness.

Still, we all want to belong to someone. If we feel we have no one to love us, no one who cares, no one to whom we belong, life becomes drab and meaningless. Mary Gordon, in her novel, Final Payments, introduces a character who represents humanity in microcosm in this need. Mrs Riesart is a patient in a nursing home where she receives generous, personal care, yet she is a deeply unhappy old woman. One of the other characters in the novel, Isabel, asks her why she is so unhappy. Mrs. Riesart replies, "I’m alone I’m old and I’m dying. There’s no one who loves me enough ... What I want is to be with someone who wants me. Wants me. Or else I want to die. I don’t seem to be dying fast enough."

St. Paul speaks boldly from the pages of the New Testament to Mrs. Riesart and to all the rest of us lonely people to remind us that Christians belong first of all to Jesus Christ. As long as we live, Paul says, we belong to Jesus. "None of us lives to himself ... If we live, we live to the Lord." In other words, as long as Christians are alive, we are forever his. We belong to him because he bought us with his own blood shed on Calvary’s cross. We know that we are his because he himself said so: "I know my own and my own know me, as the Father knows me and I know the Father" (John 10:14-15). We also know that he will never desert us nor fail us, again because he said so: "I will not leave you desolate; I will come to you" (John 14:18). We know we belong to Jesus as long as we live, and that we can trust him explicitly because Jesus never told a lie, never failed to keep his word, never disappointed anyone, and is always faithful.

But what does it mean to say that we Christians belong to Jesus as long as we live? Does this mean that Christ keeps us from temptation, from sin, from failure, from falling away from faith? Certainly, Paul’s words can be understood this way. Many Christians do, indeed, believe that to belong to Jesus means eternal security, "once in grace, always in grace."

But on a much deeper level, St. Paul is reminding us that to belong to Jesus is to live forever in his presence. All life is lived in his eye. A person can no more escape from the presence of Christ than he can flee from his own shadow. To belong to Jesus Christ is to live all of one’s life in his presence. C. Austin Miles’ old gospel hymn explains it well:

It may be in the valley where countless dangers hide;
It may be in the sunshine that I, in peace, abide;
But this one thing I know - if it be dark or fair,
If Jesus is with me, I’ll go anywhere!
If Jesus goes with me, I’ll go anywhere

‘Tis heaven to me, where’er I may be
If he is there!
I count it a privilege here, his cross to bear;
If Jesus goes with me, I’ll go anywhere.

That old hymn has only one theological flaw: the word "if." Christians know that there is no "if" about Christ. He is always with his people. From the moment we accept him as Savior and Lord, he is always with us - loving us, protecting us, encouraging us, comforting us. He will never force us to obey him, he will not compel us to love him, he does not keep us immune from sickness and sin, temptation and death. But we know he is always with us because we belong to him. We know he is always with us because he said so, and Jesus is a gentleman who always kept his word: "Lo, I am with you always, to the close of the age" (Matthew 28:20). We hear those words and believe them because we know they are absolutely trustworthy. With Paul, we can affirm our faith: "I know whom I have believed, and am persuaded that he is able to keep that which I have committed unto him against that day" (2 Timothy 1:12, KJV).

But Paul also says we Christians belong to Jesus when we die. "None of us lives to himself, and none of us dies to himself. If we live, we live to the Lord, and if we die, we die to the Lord." Not only do we belong to Jesus first of all while we live as Christians, but we also belong to him first of all when we die as Christians. This sort of statement sounds strange to many people because the prevailing opinion today is that when we die, we belong first to the attending physician and then to the undertaker. When a person dies, nothing can be done until the attending physician pronounces that person officially dead. Even when that is accomplished, the physician must sign a release before anything else can be done. It is as though the dead person belongs to the doctor. Then the undertaker takes charge and the dead person belongs to him. It is the undertaker who prepares the body for burial and who makes all of the arrangements. Only when the dead person is lowered into the ground is the minister allowed to give the body back to him to whom the person belonged all of the time. The minister intones, "Forasmuch as the spirit of the departed hath returned to God who gave it, we therefore commit his (her) body to the ground, earth to earth, ashes to ashes, dust to dust ..." - and at last, the dead person is formally given back to God to whom he (she) belonged first of all.

This may be the custom in our time, but Christians know that, no matter what customs may prevail, they belong to Christ first of all, in death as well as in life. We know it is so because Jesus said so: "In my Father’s house are many rooms ... And when I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and take you to myself, that where I am you may be also" (John 14:2, 3). These are Jesus’ words. They tell us explicitly that when Christians die, they belong to Jesus first of all, even as they did in life. In the Revelation of John, there are also these words: "After this I looked, and behold, a great multitude which no man could number, from every nation, from all tribes and peoples and tongues, standing before the throne and before the Lamb, clothed in white robes, with palm branches in their hands, and crying out with a loud voice, ‘Salvation belongs to our God who sits upon the throne, and to the Lamb!’ " (Revelation 7:9-10). This is part of John’s vision in which he authenticates Paul’s words from our text and Jesus’ promises. The dead in Christ are not in the grave. Dead Christians do not stay in their physical bodies buried in some cemetery. To be sure, this is hard for many of us to believe. The undertakers do a marvelous job of trying to make the bodies of our loved ones look natural, for our comfort and peace of mind. But in reality it is all a waste of time and money. The Bible tells us that our bodies are dust and unto dust we shall return (Genesis 3:19). When we die, our soul or personality leaves our physical body and we are given a new, glorified, spiritual, incorruptible body fit for heaven. Never again will the physical body be needed. Our loved ones who died in Christ are not lying in a cemetery, but rather are in heaven, worshiping God exultantly, to whom they have belonged from all eternity. No wonder St. Paul shouted to the Philippians as he realized this, "For me to live is Christ, and to die is gain!" (Philippians 1:21).

That is why when a Christian dies, his (her) funeral should always be a joyful celebration. To be sure, there are some tears because we who loved the deceased will miss that physical presence, but the mood of a Christian funeral should always be one of incredible joy, because "whether we live or die, we are the Lord’s." This means that we are in heaven with Jesus to whom we forever belong. What is it like to be with Jesus? The Bible tells us that where Jesus is, there is light, love, life, peace, truth, and joy. Now, those are conditions for really living! In heaven, there is no night, for Christ is the ever-burning light. There is no hunger, for Christ is the bread of life. There is no sorrow, no pain, no suffering, because God himself will wipe away every tear from our eyes. Heaven is also a place of great learning, because now we know only in part, but in heaven, we shall know even as we are known. We shall learn all of the answers to the great mysteries of life, and at last we shall understand. Finally, to be in heaven with Jesus is to spend eternity in worship, forever in the presence of God, praising and singing and experiencing happiness so incredible that our mortal minds cannot begin to comprehend it. No wonder the late Louis Armstrong wanted "When the Saints Go Marching In" to be played at his funeral. Old "Satchmo" - a radiant Christian - knew to whom he belonged and where he was going.

"For to this end Christ died and lived again, that he might be Lord both of the dead and of the living." Finally, St. Paul reminds us that there is a responsibility that goes along with being forever Christ’s. "For to this end ... that he might be Lord ..." In other words, we Christians are forever his only if we are forever giving him away to others, forever exalting him with our words and deeds, forever witnessing his redeeming love, forever telling others about our Lord who wants to be their Lord as well. The hymnodist’s words must become ours as well:

Jesus Master, whose I am
Purchased, thine alone to be,

By thy blood, O spotless Lamb,
Shed so willingly for me.

Let my heart be all thine own,
Let me live for thee alone.

To be forever his means that we give ourselves to our fellow human beings in service even as Christ gave himself for us. That is how we make St. Paul’s words come true that Christ "might be both Lord of the dead and of the living." One way we can do this is using our God-given talents for the sake of others. Each of us has some talents, although we may think they are inconsequential. I remember such a lady in one of my former churches. She was quite elderly and no longer able to get about on her own. She was uneducated and was not able to teach a Sunday school class. She did not sing well, thus felt she was of no use in the choir. But she was a great talker and loved people. So Mrs. Cream spent a great deal of time on the phone, encouraging people, praying with them, and telling them how much God loved them. She often referred to herself as my "assistant pastor," and in fact she was. Still another way to give yourself away in service is to ask others the question, "What can I do to please you?" Our goal in life becomes that of making life more pleasant and meaningful for others. I saw a cookbook sometime ago, entitled, 1001 Ways to Please a Husband. Of course, the title may have sexist overtones, but if every husband and wife had such a philosophy, family life would be heaven on earth, the divorce rate would drop to zero, and homes would he truly Christian again. Another way of asking this question is to say, "How can I make you happy?" Many people today are searching for happiness, but they forget that happiness is always the by-product of service. We can be happy only as we make others happy. If we want Christ to become Lord of both the living and the dead, if we want to remain forever his, we must look for ways to bring genuine Christian happiness to the lives of others.

Since World War II, the writings of Dietrich Bonhoeffer have brought inspiration and new meaning for life for millions of people. A German pastor-theologian who opposed Hitler, he was subsequently imprisoned and died by hanging just two days before the Allied forces liberated the prison where he had been held. Bonhoeffer has been venerated by the church, written about by theologians, and quoted in countless sermons. As a result, many people today consider him to be a "Super Christian," someone who ranks with St. Paul and St. Francis, Martin Luther and John Wesley.

But Bonhoeffer did not see himself that way. He understood himself simply to be a man who belonged to Jesus first of all. This was disclosed in a poem he wrote shortly before his execution, entitled, "Who Am I?"

Who am I? They often tell me
I would step from my cell’s confinement
calmly, cheerfully, firmly,
like a squire from his country-house.

Who am I? They often tell me
I would talk to my warders
freely and friendly and clearly,
as though it were mine to command.

Who am I? They also tell me
I would bear the days of misfortune
equably, smilingly, proudly,
like one accustomed to win.

Am I then really all that which other men tell of?
Or am I only what I know of myself,
restless and longing and sick, like a bird in a cage,
struggling for breath, as though hands were compressing my throat,
yearning for colours, for flowers, for the voices of birds,
thirsting for words of kindness, for neighborliness,
trembling with anger at despotisms and petty humiliation,
tossing in expectation of great events,
powerlessly trembling for friends at an infinite distance,
weary and empty at praying, at thinking, at making,
faint, and ready to say farewell to it all?

Who am I? This or the other?
Am I one person today, and tomorrow another?
Am I both at once? A hypocrite before others,
and before myself a contemptibly woebegone weakling?

Or is something within me still like a beaten army,
fleeing in disorder from victory already achieved?
Who am I? They mock me, these lonely questions of mine.
Whoever I am, thou knowest, O God, I am thine.

Dietrich Bonhoeffer was a man who lived and died in such a way as to disclose to everyone that his Christ was "Lord both of the dead and of the living." Jesus Christ was forever his.*

He is forever ours as well; and we are forever his. Hallelujah and amen!


* Dietrich Bonhoeffer, Letters and Papers from Prison (New York: The Macmillan company, 1962), pp. 221-222. Used by permission.

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