2 Samuel 18:1-18 · Absalom’s Death
What Is God Like?
2 Samuel 18:1-18
Sermon
by Edward Chinn
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When Harry Truman was President of the United States, his daughter Margaret gave a concert in Washington, D.C. The next day Paul Hume, music critic of the Washington Post, gave her performance a bad review. Characteristically, Harry Truman did not let that slight of his daughter’s singing pass without comment. He wrote a letter to Paul Hume. In that letter, Truman wrote: "I have read your lousy review of Margaret’s concert. I’ve come to the conclusion that you are an ‘eight ulcer man on four ulcer pay.’ Someday I hope to meet you. When that happens you’ll need a new nose, and a lot of beefsteak for black eyes ..." Truman was the kind of father who stood up for his children.

Is God like that? Harry Emerson Fosdick, in his book Dear Mr. Brown, wrote these words: "We cannot possibly jump outside of our human experience and find any terms with which to describe God except such terms as our day-to-day living provides. All our thinking about God has to be done with pictures, symbols, images, drawn from human experience." One day Frederick Myers, the English philosopher, was asked, "If you could put one question to the great Sphinx in Egypt and be assured of an answer, what would that question be?" After a moment’s thought, Myers replied with this question for the Sphinx: "Is this universe friendly?" That is the question, isn’t it? People have argued whether God exists. If, when you use the word God, you mean power, creative power, then there is no argument about the existence of that. Everywhere you can see the evidence of creative power sweeping through our universe and out beyond the margins of the stars and the frontiers of thought. The haunting questions that confront us when we look into the face of a newborn baby or into the blackness of an open grave is this: Does that power care about us? What is that power like?

In answer to that question, Christian faith accepts Christ’s word: "You have a Father ..." (Luke 12:30, NEB). We can explore the implications of God as father by looking at three persons in the Bible: David’s son, Absalom; David himself; and David’s greater Son, Christ.

I

First, look at David’s son, Absalom, and see what God as father has to deal with. Absalom was David’s third son. He had a sister named Tamar. She was a beautiful young woman. Tamar’s half-brother, Amnon, fell in love with her. His desire for her was so great that he became ill. His cousin, Jonadab, told him to pretend he was sick and to ask his father David to let Tamar bring him food. Amnon followed his cousin’s advice, asked David for that favor, and it was granted. When Tamar came to his room, he raped her. Absalom was infuriated at what Amnon had done to his sister, but he waited to take his revenge. Two years later Absalom gave a party to celebrate the time of sheep shearing. He told his servants to wait until Amnon was drunk, then to kill him. When old King David heard that his son Amnon had been murdered at the direction of his other son, Absalom, he was broken-hearted. Absalom ran away and lived for three years in self-imposed exile. Then, David’s friend and general, Joab, interceded for him with the King. David gave permission for Absalom to return to Jerusalem, but refused to see him. Two years passed, then David relented and welcomed Absalom back.

Absalom used his favorable standing with the King to begin a new strategy. He stood at the city gate. As people came to plead their cases before the King, Absalom met them and said, "I can see that you are right in this matter; it’s unfortunate that the King doesn’t have anyone to assist him in hearing these cases. I surely wish I were judge; then anyone with a lawsuit could come to me and I would give him justice" (2 Samuel 15:3-4, The Living Bible). By this approach to the people, Absalom undermined his father’s position. In a memorable phrase, the scripture says: "So in this way Absalom stole the hearts of all the people of Israel" (2 Samuel 15:6, The Living Bible).

Gradually, Absalom built up a following in the nation. Then, he declared open rebellion against the king, his father David. He organized the army of Israel and led an attack against David who was forced to escape from his capital. Among the trees of the forest of Ephraim, the two contestants found their final battlefield. Isn’t that what God as father has to deal with? He, too, has had to face his rebellious offspring. In the imagery of the Book of Genesis, there is Adam in the garden, standing by the tree of the knowledge of good and evil and shaking his fist at the heavens. Adam rebelled. Sin is rebellion. It is obstinate resistance. It is a refusal to do what God has commanded. Again, in the imagery of the Gospel, there is the Second Adam on the tree of the cross as the descendants of the first Adam are gathered around that tree to challenge God’s authority.

When we think of Absalom’s rebellion, we understand the personal nature of sin more clearly. We see what God has to deal with. When sin is described as "transgression," it remains impersonal. It is the stepping over the line drawn by the law. But, to think of sin as "rebellion" involves thinking of sin as a revolt against a person. In his autobiography Treasure in Clay, the late Roman Catholic Bishop Fulton J. Sheen wrote: "No one who exceeds the speed limit ever leans over the steering wheel when he drives into the garage and says an Act of Contrition. But, when we compromise, in any way, the love of Christ in the soul ... we then know sin as hurting someone we love."

II

Secondly, look at David himself and see how God as father cares. In the forest of Ephraim, David stood ready to confront his son Absalom and the Israeli army whom Absalom had won to his side. Listen as David speaks to his generals: "Deal gently with the young man Absalom for my sake" (2 Samuel 18:5, NEB). Critics of David say that David was wrong in his concern for his son. Some Bible commentaries say that David was putting the interests of his traitorous, rebellious son ahead of his duty to the nation. They say that because he was the king he should have not been so kind to Absalom. Other critics of David say that he could not have disciplined Absalom as he should, because David himself had lost his moral authority when he sinned with Bathsheba. When we have granted these critics the validity of their statements about David, can’t we still sympathize with a father’s heart here? Despite the fact that his son had committed murder and led a rebellion against him, this father persisted in caring for his son: "Deal gently with the young man Absalom for my sake."

Among the Psalms which are related to David and to incidents in his life is Psalm 103. That psalm praises God for his mercy and unchanging love. Maybe David had learned the lesson of God’s fatherly care in the absolution he had heard pronounced by Nathan, that word of forgiveness to David for his sin with Bathsheba. Anyhow, the author of that psalm surely expressed David’s feeling when he wrote:

As far as the east is from the west,

so far does he remove our sins from us.

As a father is kind to his children,

so the Lord is kind to those who honor him.

He knows what we are made of;

he remembers that we are dust. (Psalm 103:12-14, TEV)

III

Thirdly, look at David’s greater Son, Christ, and see what God as father is like. In first century Rome, an Emperor celebrated a victorious military campaign by leading his troops through the streets of the capital. Along the route, a platform had been erected where the Empress and the Emperor’s family could sit and observe the procession. As that procession approached the platform, the Emperor’s little son jumped down from the Platform, squeezed through the crowd, and started to run out on the road to meet his father’s chariot. A Roman soldier who was guarding the road spotted the boy, did not recognize him, held him back, saying, "You can’t run out there! Don’t you know that’s the emperor?" The boy laughed and replied, "He may be your emperor, but he’s my father!"

In this old story, retold in a book by William Barclay, is an excellent example of Jesus’ attitude to God as father. When Jesus prayed to God, he called Him by the Aramaic word Abba (Mark 14:36). This word abba has a warmer shade of meaning than merely father. It is the word that a little child in first century Palestine would use when he was addressing his earthly father in the intimacy of the family. "There is," wrote Dr. Barclay, "only one possible English translation of this word in any ordinary use, and that is ‘Daddy.’ " No Jew in Jesus’ day would have dared to use that word Abba for God. Ponder, then what this word says about David’s greater Son, Jesus, when you realize that Jesus called God Abba and taught his followers to do the same (Romans 8:15; Galatians 4:6).

Christ told a story about a rebellious son who was like Absalom. In that Parable of the Prodigal Son, he sketched a portrait of another son who misused his freedom, rebelled against his father’s ways, left home, and spent his substance in riotous living in the far country. When that son came to his senses, he started back home. "He was still a long way from home," said Jesus, "when his father saw him; his heart was filled with pity and he ran, threw his arms around his son, and kissed him" (Luke 15:20, TEV). When the older son, who was working in the field, looked up, he was dumbfounded. His father had thrown all sense of dignity to the winds. Look at that father running - his robe flapping in the breeze, his beard bouncing on his chest, his sandals smacking the road. Christ’s meaning is crystal clear. If David could ask his generals to deal gently with erring Absalom, how much more does the love of the heavenly Father know no bounds. In effect Jesus was saying: "What I do represents God’s nature and purpose. I am acting as God’s representative." If it seems undignified to see Christ associating with prostitutes and racketeers, that’s how God’s undignified love always looks. It looks as undignified as a king like David, who had to flee as a fugitive, but was forgiving as a father. It looks as undignified as a father running wildly down the road to welcome his returning son. That divine love comes running down among us into the most undignified places! That love came running down to a shepherd boy named David and made him the shepherd of Israel, forgiving him his failures and using him for divine purposes. Centuries later, in the fullness of time and at the crossroads of the world, God’s love came running down into a foul stable at Bethlehem and ended up naked and writhing on a cross at Calvary to show us what Abba is really like.

A few years ago there was a letter in Ann Lander’s syndicated newspaper column from a woman who signed herself, "78 And Still Praying." She wrote:

For years, I have been horrified by a children’s prayer that has become part of our culture.

"Now I lay me down to sleep,

I pray the Lord my soul to keep.

If I should die before I wake

I pray the Lord my soul to take."

I doubt that a small child relates "Lord" to God, nor would he have any concept of what "soul" means. What’s more, suggesting to a child that he might die in his sleep seem unnecessarily cruel. I have written an alternative prayer that Ifeel has more merit. I can think of no better way to spread the words than through your column. I hope you will deem it worthy.

"We’ve come to the end of another day,

Hear me, dear Father, as I pray.

Thank thee for all the blessings we share

And keep me in thy loving care."

That modern prayer comes close to the way a little Jewish child in Jesus’ day addressed God at bedtime. Before that child closed his eyes in sleep, he would say these words from Psalm 31:6 - "Into thy hands I commend my spirit." When David’s greater Son, Christ, was ready to close his eyes in the sleep of death as he hung on the cross, his mind went back to that childhood prayer. Again, he quoted those words, but with one significant addition. He prefaced those words with his favorite name for God, the name Abba, dear Father: "Father, into your hands I commend my spirit."

When we look at David and hear his plea, "Deal gently with the young man Absalom for my sake," we have a glimpse through a father’s heart at the great heart of God as father. When we see David dealing with his fatherly love and his son’s misused freedom, we recognize how deeply the cross is imbedded in the grain of personal life as a heartfelt experience, as well as an historical fact. As believers in a heavenly Father, who has not been perplexed and pained at evil? There are the natural evils of cyclones, cancer, birth defects, earthquakes. There are the moral evils of pride, anger, lust, indifference, envy, greed, and gluttony. An old Greek philosopher, Epicurus, stated the problem well when he asked, "Is Deity willing to prevent evil, but not able? Then he is impotent. Is he able to prevent evil, but not willing? Then he is malevolent. Is he both able and willing? Whence then is evil?" In this episode in David’s life and in the cross of David’s greater Son, Christ, we see the awful mysteries of human freedom and the love of God as father.

What is love? Love is the power to grant freedom without desiring to limit or inhibit its exercise. It is the power to give freedom without any will to take it back. And it is only Omnipotence that can refrain absolutely from trespassing upon freedom. Only God can give and not take back ... He suffers within Himself the entire consequence of allowing man absolute freedom. That is His Love ...

Thus the existence of evil and suffering in the world is a proof not that God is either Good but powerless, or All Powerful but not good. On the contrary, it is a proof that God is both loving and omnipotent. Only absolute love could grant unhindered freedom, and only omnipotence could endure the operation of that freedom.

- D. R. Davies

CSS Publishing Co,. Inc., Questions Of The Heart, by Edward Chinn