Luke 11:1-13 · Jesus’ Teaching on Prayer
The Friend At Midnight
Luke 11:1-13
Sermon
by Brett Blair
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Paul Harvey told about a 3-year-old boy who went to the grocery store with his mother. Before they entered she had certain instructions for the little tike: "Now you’re not going to get any chocolate chip cookies, so don’t even ask."

She put him in the child's seat and off they went up and down the aisles. He was doing just fine until they came to the cookie section. Seeing the chocolate chip cookies he said, “Mom, can I have some chocolate chip cookies?” She said, “I told you not even to ask. You’re not going to get any at all.”

They continued down the aisles, but in their search for certain items she had to back track and they ended up in the cookie aisle again. “Mom, can I please have some chocolate chip cookies?” She said, “I told you that you can ’t have any. Now sit down and be quiet.”

Finally, they arrived at the checkout. The little boy sensed that the end was in sight, that this might be his last chance. He stood up on the seat and shouted in his loudest voice, “In the name of Jesus, may I have some chocolate chip cookies?” Everyone in the checkout lanes laughed and applauded. Do you think the little boy got his cookies? You bet! The other shoppers moved by his daring pooled their resources. The little boy and his mother left with 23 boxes of chocolate chip cookies.

We Americans pray, but we may not know how to pray. According to a Gallop Poll, 87% of all Americans pray, 50% use prayer for petitions, and 70% claim their prayers are answered. Although we are not allowed to pray in the classroom in public schools, it is clear that Americans do manage to pray.

But, do we know how to pray as we ought? When we pray are we just speaking to ourselves, or are we speaking to God? Do we merely ask for something, or do we ask to be transformed? If you feel somewhat inadequate in knowing how prayer works and exactly how to pray, then take heart you are in good company. For none other than the disciples felt the same way. Even Paul wrote in Romans 8:26: “We do not know how to pray as we ought.”

One day the disciples, after listening to Jesus pray, asked him if he would teach them how to do it. In response Jesus did not give an extended seminar on the subject but rather told a wonderfully human story, that was simple yet profound. It goes like this:

Late one evening an unexpected visitor came to a certain man’s home. The householder was certainly glad to see him but he was also concerned because he had no bread in the house to set before him. It is a reminder of old nursery rhyme Old Mother Hubbard who found her cupboard bare. It was the custom of the frugal Jewish mother to make only as much bread as was absolutely necessary for the day so that none would be wasted. But in the Eastern part of the world hospitality was a sacred duty. It was unacceptable to give a guest no food, regardless of how unexpected he was. But what to do? The market place was obviously closed, for it was now midnight. There was simply no bread in the house.

But the householder has a trump card. He may not have bread but he does have a neighbor. He decides to take his problem next door to his neighbor. Now, this parable has traditionally been called :The Friend At Midnight” but that may be somewhat of a misnomer. At midnight, not too many people are your friends. The man saw that his neighbor had barred the door. That was an ancient way of saying: Do not disturb. But the householder begins knocking. At first the neighbor ignores him, probably hoping that it is all a bad dream that will go away. But does this discourage the householder? Not in the least. He continues to knock. “Go away,” yells the neighbor. “We are all asleep. You have come too late.” Finally, with the persistent pounding of the householder, the entire family is awaken and probably most of the neighborhood as well. Finally, in desperation the neighbor comes to the door. I can just hear the poor man’s wife now: “Just give him what he wants to get rid of him” So, it was through this near shameful persistence that the householder got what he wanted.

Now, what is the meaning behind this parable? Jesus tells it in response to the disciples’ request: Teach us how to pray. Actually Jesus’ answer comes in two parts. He first gives them a model prayer. We call it the Lord’s Prayer and it has been our model for 2000 years. It sees to me that the Lord’s Prayer is WHAT we should pray. The second part of Jesus’ answer is this rather strange little story. It tells us HOW to pray. How to pray. Now, what in the world does that mean? How can you make heads or tales out of this? Well, that is what we are going to do this morning. We are going to attempt to unscramble this short story and see exactly what it was that Jesus had in mind.

I

To begin with, we must first understand what the parable is not saying. It is not saying that that grouchy old neighbor is God. It is true that in many of Jesus’ parables there is a God figure. The parable of the prodigal son--obviously the father is a reference to God. There can be no mistaking that. But in this parable the neighbor is not God. It would be wrong to assume that the point of this parable is that God grudgingly gives us what we want if we just nag him long enough, and hard enough—just like my children do with me when they want something.

Nor does it suggest that God is hard of hearing. God hears your prayers the very first time. What did the psalmist write: Ours is a God who neither slumbers nor sleeps. He is always vigilant. He always hears. Indeed, he knows what we want before we even ask it. Jesus himself said that in Matthew 6:8. We might ask then why bother to pray? Is it just a ritual that we must go through? No. Nor do God’s good gifts come to us simply because we are persistent. He gives to us out of his love and he gives to us knowing what is in our best interest.

II

Well, then, what does the story suggest? It speaks to us of the old-fashioned virtue of persistence. Now let us frankly admit that this is not high on our list of virtues. What parent prays: Lord, make my child persistent. Truth is that’s one virtue Satan did not rob from our children. In adults on the other hand we often associate the characteristic with the negative quality of stubbornness.

Jesus is suggesting in this story that we need to be persistent. Persistence indicates the depth of our need. If the need is great enough then we will earnestly repeat it over and over. If it is not, then why are we praying for it anyway? Sometimes we give up just because God does not meet our timetable. We must be constant in our prayers. God is not a microwave oven or a fast food restaurant. Sometimes his delay lets us realize that what we pray for is not always what he need. Prayer is not a button that we press. It is based upon our earnestness and our genuineness. It is deeper than just good intentions.

Around 1870 New York City had one of the most hotly contested mayor’s races in its history. The incumbent was Mayor John Tweed--Boss Tweed he was called. He was running for reelection. The Boss Tweed machine represented politics at its very worst. The entire administration was corrupt to the core. A number of dedicated people decided that they were fed up with this kind of politics and the good people of the city took on the Boss Tweed element. At first they seemed to make headway. But as the campaign drug on they began to feel the pressures of machine politics. Many of these good people began to drop out. When the election was held and the results counted, to many people’s disappointment, they discovered that Boss Tweed had been reelected. The next day the New York Times ran an editorial and analyzed what had happened. It said: The good people quit being good before the bad people quit being bad”

Isn’t that so often our dilemma? We are not tenacious. We throw up our hands in disgust. In our witnessing if we don’t have instant affirmation then we throw in the towel. The same thing is true with prayer.

One evening a record-breaking crowd in Atlanta, Georgia attended a special session of the Atlanta Symphony Orchestra. The audience was literally captivated with the piano playing of one gentleman. It was later written that after the performance a lady went up to him and greeted him with the words: “Oh, how I wish that I could play the piano like you.” She was rather taken back with his response. He said in a firm but gentle voice: “Oh no you don’t.”

Of course, he was right. What we desire is the finished product. Who among us would not like to get in front of thousands and display a marvelous talent and then wait for the applause? But how many of us are willing to spend the literally thousands of hours that it takes to become an accomplished pianist. Frankly, there are not too many who are willing to make that kind of a commitment. Persistence and earnestness: They are virtues too long ignored by the church.

All students want to make straight A’s. But how many of them are willing to give up extra curricular activities and study long hours in order to make those kinds of grades? We all want to be loved within our families. But, how many are willing to commit the kind of time that it takes to form a loving relationship? We all want to be faithful Christians. But how many of us are willing to read our Bibles, be an informed person, come to church and church school, and accept the responsibilities that go along with discipleship? We all want to have a meaningful prayer life. But how many of us persistent about it?

Jesus considered this such an important point that he later told another story in Luke 18 that illustrates the same thing—the importance of persistence in prayer. He told of a widow who had a court case that she wanted settled. These Roman magistrates were notoriously corrupt and since she had no power to bully or intimidate them and not money enough to bribe them she was simply ignored by the judge in her county. But she does have one weapon in her arsenal—she pestered him. She nagged, she badgered, she harangued. Now let me tell you, you get a nagging woman on your case and you’ve got a problem. Finally, Jesus said in desperation the judge decided her case. We can certainly assume that in his mind he was thinking: I’ll do anything to get this crazy woman out of my life. My judgment is for the plaintiff. Now get out of my court and don’t let me see you again. Good riddens!

Again, the point that Jesus is making is not that God is like a corrupt judge who must be pestered so that we can finally get his attention. These two parables—the friend at midnight and the unjust judge, are stories that tell us not about God but about us.

You see our fault lies not with how we grammatically compose our prayers; the fault lies not with the words used; rather, the problem is that we are not earnest enough. I tried once and gave up. That’s a description of most of our prayer lives. At the beginning of the parable about the persistent widow Luke gives us an editorial comment so that the reader will be sure and not miss the point. Luke writes: “Jesus told his disciples a parable to show them that they should pray and never give up.” There it is. Luke interprets the meaning of Jesus’ words. Jesus, Luke explains, wants us to be persistent in prayer.

The concept of prayer as struggle is foreign to many churchgoers today. We want things quick and easy. If our prayers are not served up as quick as a Big Mac we throw up our hands and say: well, I tried praying but it didn’t work. Friends, Jesus is telling us that there is only one kind of prayer and that is deep, earnest, heartfelt prayer. The problem is not the lack of responsiveness on God’s part or the words that we use. The problem is the lack of genuiness on our part.

And so when you pray be persistent. Don’t give up. Don’t lose heart. It’s a virtue and God will honor it. And when you pray, say

Our Father, [pray it with me], which art in heaven
Hollowed be thy name,
They kingdom come, thy will be done
On earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our trespasses,
As we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation,
But deliver us form evil.
For thine is the Kingdom,
And the power and the glory forever. Amen.

Amen

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