(Mother's Day) Have you ever noticed that, across time and space, mothers everywhere share certain similarities? Someone compiled a list of possible sayings of Biblical mothers. See if any of these sound familiar:
DAVID! I told you not to play in the house with that sling! Go practice your harp. We pay good money for those lessons!
ABRAHAM! Stop wandering around the countryside and get home for supper!
SHADRACH, MESHACH AND ABEDNEGO! Leave those clothes outside, you smell like a furnace!
CAIN! Get off your brother! You're going to kill him some day!
NOAH! No, you can't keep them! I told you, don't bring home any more strays!
GIDEON! Have you been hiding in that wine press again? Look at your clothes!
JUDAS! Have you been in my purse again? (1)
Some of you had Moms like that, didn't you? Some of you still do. You may be grown-up now, but to your mother, you are still fair game for correction.
When his pager went off during a council meeting, Knoxville, Tenn. Police Chief Phil Keith was startled to see that the call was from his mother.
Concerned, he rushed to the press table and phoned her.
"Phil Keith, are you chewing gum?" asked his mom, who had been watching the council meeting on cable TV.
"Yes, ma'am," answered Chief Keith.
"Well, it looks awful," his mother said. "Spit it out."
Keith dutifully removed the gum and went back to his meeting. (2)
Just because everyone else regards us as responsible adults, doesn't mean that we can fool our Moms. They know better and sometimes they will tell us. Mothers everywhere seem to share certain universal characteristics, but the greatest and most common characteristic of mothers from Bombay to Boston is their love. Love is the single greatest defining characteristic of a mother. And that's why today's lesson from John's Gospel is so appropriate.
Jesus is facing his impending arrest and crucifixion. He doesn't have much more time to share his message with the world. Now is the time to make sure the disciples understand the basics. And nothing was more basic to Jesus' ministry than the message of love: "A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you love one another."
Jesus was saying to them that obedience to the Law was not enough. The Law required only that people not hurt one another. But Christ's new command goes way beyond the Law. This new command requires active involvement in the lives of others working to their best good. For the follower of Jesus, love is the final proof of a transformed life. As theologian Francis Schaeffer says, "If we do not show love to one another, the world has a right to question whether Christianity is true." (3) In I Corinthians, chapter 13, we are reminded that we can have every form of spiritual gift in the world, but if we don't have love, then we have nothing.
And that's why it is so appropriate to talk about love on Mothers Day. Our mothers are usually our first source of love, and for many of us, our mothers are the best representation we have of true, Christ-like love.
What are some of the characteristics of Christ-like love? What characteristics stand out as we think of relationships within the family on this special day?
FIRST OF ALL, CHRIST-LIKE LOVE IS SECURE. As St. Paul tells us, love never fails. Everything else will pass away, but not love. When love is real, the recipient of that love never need ask, "Am I loved?" "Am I loveable?" "Will I be forgotten?" Genuine love never lets go.
In his book, In The Grip of Grace, Bryan Chapell tells us about that kind of love:
"On Sunday, August 16, 1987, Northwest Airlines flight 225 crashed just after taking off from the Detroit airport. One hundred fifty-five people were killed. One survived: a 4-year-old from Tempe, Arizona, named Cecelia.
"News accounts say when rescuers found Cecelia they did not believe she had been on the plane. Investigators first assumed Cecelia had been a passenger in one of the cars on the highway onto which the airliner crashed. But when the passenger register for the flight was checked, there was Cecelia's name.
"Cecelia survived because, as the plane was falling, Cecelia's mother, Paula Chican, unbuckled her own seat belt, got down on her knees in front of her daughter, wrapped her arms and body around Cecelia, and then would not let her go." (4)
That sounds to me like a metaphor of the love of God. She wrapped her arms and body around her daughter and would not let her go. It is impossible to overstate how great is a child's need to know that he or she is loved. To know as a child that one is loved provides a lifetime of inner peace and security. Unfortunately, there are children who are deprived of that knowledge.
In Chicago there is a unique telephone service called "Grandma, Please" that is geared to latch-key kids. "Grandma, Please" provides a free number kids can call if they are home alone and need someone to talk to. Senior citizens volunteer their time to answer telephones and talk to kids who are lonely or scared and need a little adult company. The "Grandma, Please" switchboard gets about 800 calls per month. Many of the children want to share the news of their school day with someone. Some will call because they heard a noise outside and got scared. Most call simply for the chance to connect with another human being. They are so lonely. One volunteer reports that her phone calls often end with the child saying, "I love you, Grandma. What is your name?" (5)
Every child deserves someone to talk to. Every child deserves to feel that he or she is genuinely loved. Every child deserves to know that there is a bond that nothing in this world can break. THE FIRST CHARACTERISTIC OF CHRIST-LIKE LOVE IS THAT IT IS SECURE.
THE SECOND CHARACTERISTIC OF CHRIST-LIKE LOVE IS THAT IT IS SUPPORTIVE. Christ-like love offers words of encouragement and hope.
Writer Isaac Asimov once told about a terrible, but amusing episode from one of his favorite television shows, The Golden Girls. Asimov's favorite character on the program was Rose, played by Betty White. You may remember Rose. She was lovable, but completely dim-witted, and she was at her best when she was telling impossible tales of her hometown, St. Olaf's, Minnesota.
"We had someone at St. Olaf's Hospital," said Rose one time, "who had been sick for a long time and was so tired of it. He kept saying, "˜Please let me die. Please take out all these tubes. Please let me die.' So in the end the doctors did it and they let him die, and we all felt terrible."
Dorothy, the sane member of The Golden Girls, asked, "Why should you feel terrible, if the man wanted to die?"
"Well," said Rose earnestly, "we could never be sure, because in the very next bed was St. Olaf's meanest ventriloquist." (6)
I told you it was a terrible story, but it is also illustrative. The second characteristic of Christ-like love appropriate to Mother's Day is that love is supportive. Love offers encouragement. Love builds up, it does not cut down.
Author James Moore tells about K.C. Jones, the former coach of the Boston Celtics basketball team. Jones became famous for his unique ability to give his players some unforgettable words of encouragement when they needed it most. If a player scored 50 points or made the game-winning basket, Jones would not say much more than "nice game." But when a player was down and really struggling, Coach Jones would be there to comfort and help and inspire. All-star forward Kevin McHale asked Coach Jones about this one day, and K.C. Jones answered: "Kevin, after you've made the winning basket, you've got 15,000 people cheering for you, TV commentators come rushing toward you, and everybody is giving you high fives. You don't need me then. When you need a friend most is when nobody is cheering." (7)
Wise parents understand that. So do wise spouses. And wise friends. Love is supportive. Love encourages. Love uplifts. There are many parents who provide their children with beautiful homes and the finest schools, but they fail their children at this one point: They fail to recognize when their children need them to be supportive--something many of us need to think about on this Mother's Day. And just because children reach adulthood does not mean that they don't need our support anymore.
During the Civil War a Confederate Major by the name of Horace Harmon Lurton was taken prisoner by the Union forces. In prison, Major Lurton developed tuberculosis. His mother came to visit him and was alarmed by his condition. She knew her son would die if he stayed behind bars. So Mrs. Lurton traveled to Washington to beg mercy from the only person she thought could help her, the President of the United States, Abraham Lincoln. Lincoln was so moved by this mother's concern that he sat down and wrote a note to the Union forces in charge of her son's prison. It said simply, "Let the boy go home with his mother. A. Lincoln."
Horace Harmon Lurton was released from prison. He recovered from his tuberculosis and went on become a distinguished lawyer and the chief justice of the Supreme Court of his state. (8)
Just because a child is grown does not mean he or she does not need support.
CHRIST-LIKE LOVE IS SECURE. CHRIST-LIKE LOVE IS SUPPORTIVE AND CHRIST-LIKE LOVE, ABOVE ALL ELSE, IS SACRIFICIAL.
Author Jamie Buckingham tells of his daughter's anxiety during her pregnancy. She was uncomfortable with her changing appearance, and worried that her body would never look normal again. Jamie's wife, Jackie, assured her that everything would return to normal, but that she might be left with some scars. Then, she pulled up her own shirt and showed her daughter the scars from her five pregnancies. Jackie spoke of the pride and joy that those scars brought her, because each one represented a dearly-loved child. Jamie Buckingham writes, "When I think of Mother's Day, I think of Jackie's scars." (9)
There is another person whose body bears scars because of his love. It is Jesus Christ. Love was the whole reason he came. It is the legacy he commanded us to share with the world. He gave us the perfect example of love himself.
CHRIST-LIKE LOVE IS SECURE, IT IS SUPPORTIVE, IT IS SACRIFICIAL.
Mother Teresa was in Russia ministering to the survivors of a terrible earthquake. A mother and her infant had been pulled alive from the rubble after eleven days. When Mother Teresa saw the badly crushed and nearly dead woman in the hospital, she was amazed to discover a healthy-looking baby lying beside her. Could this be that mother's child? Mother Teresa asked the nurses how this could be. They told her that both mother and infant been trapped in a collapsed building. They were without food or water. The mother fed her child from her breasts. When they went dry, she sliced her finger and squeezed her blood into the child's mouth. A mother's love--God's love--shown in sacrificial love.
"A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you love one another."
1. (Adam via Mikey's Funnies )
2. The Knoxville News-Sentinel (Shared by Keith's Mostly Clean Humor & Weird List) ).
3. Francis A. Schaeffer, quoted in Cal and Rose Samra's Holy Humor, Colorado Springs: WaterBrook Press, 1997, p. 20.
4. (Baker, 1992).
5. Bob Greene, Chevrolet Summers, Dairy Queen Nights (New York: Viking, 1997), pp. 114-116.
6. Asimov Laughs Again (Harper-Collins Publishers, 1992), p. 223.
7. James W. Moore, Standing on the Promises or Sitting on the . . . (Nashville: Dimensions for Living, 1995), pp. 142-143.
8. Ewing, James, It Happened in Tennessee (Nashville: Rutledge Hill Press, 1986), pp. 63-64.
9. Bonnie St. John Deane, Succeeding Sane (New York: Simon & Schuster, 1998), p. 107.