... yourself," this law commands, making it both the simplest and the most demanding of all God's laws. This is a culture which warns us not to tell others what to think, but wants to tell us how to feel. And what we must feel above all else is self-esteem. Therapist Mary Pipher tells of some of her clients who came in for massage therapy: "I remember Bonnie, who had been in therapy with many other therapists. When we met she said proudly, 'I learned from my last therapist that I shouldn't help people. I don't ...
... heart, soul, mind, and strength is no easy task. We know that from the poor way we often treat others. When we have low self-esteem, when we do not think highly of ourselves, when we have had a bad day, when we are down in the dumps, then it ... the worries, the sweaty hands, the frightening dreams in the middle of the night, the cracks that seem more like fissures in your self-esteem, are always lurking around the next corner. Even though you can never shed them, God still loves you. God forgives you in spite ...
... denying who you are. This is our third sermon in the series Christians under Construction and in Recovery. We're talking about growing in self esteem. It's one of the biggest issues in life for all of us. I doubt if any person here has not had to deal ... though we were nothing. III. Shift gears now... to the positive and that on which we must concentrate if we're going to build our self-esteem, or actualize the fact that we are more than we think we are. If you haven't before, deep inside you -- way down in the ...
... he stood apart from those whom he knew were more righteous than he. He did not presume to look in the direction of God's dwelling place, but stood with downcast eyes. He beat upon his chest as a sign of remorse. He was one of those people whose self-esteem was out of hand in a far different direction than that of the Pharisee. This man's sense of self-worth had hit rock bottom. He had good reason to feel miserable about himself, for he was a tax collector with all the disreputable baggage that weighed down ...
... you do anything so good that would make God love you more. Because of Jesus Christ God is willing to accept you for who you are, and change you from a sinner to a saint, and take you from rags to riches. Now friend, if that will not help your self-esteem nothing else will. When you realize who you are, you're a saint; when you visualize what you have, every spiritual blessing in the Lord Jesus; when you emphasize whose you are, you've been accepted by Him and you are part of His family; you ought to be ...
... it is very real. There is no doubt that the kind of life that you live, the success that you have in life, is in large part dependent on how you feel about yourself. And it is also true that failure is not so much the cause of low self-esteem, but low self-esteem is so often the cause of failure. The Bible talks about that. In fact most of the stories in the Bible, both in the Old and New Testament, are about how God chooses those who are lowly and exalts them. He takes the oppressed and sets them free. He ...
... to realize that our negative self-image is often justified. Our lives are full of dark shadows. 1. Moses said "Excuse me!" from going to Pharaoh Looking at the full story before us in chapters three and four of Exodus, we see the great Moses suffering from low self-esteem. "Who am I that I should go to Pharaoh?" he protests. "What name or authority can I call upon that can possibly impress him? What can I do to impress him? I am not eloquent ... I am slow of speech and tongue." Moses doesn't mention it here ...
... clearly more loved and appreciated at home. In other words, tell your kids you love them. 2. The high esteemed group came from homes where the parents had been significantly more strict in their approach to discipline. In contrast, the parents of the low self-esteem group had created insecurity and dependence by their permissiveness. In other words, boundaries and rules help our kids know they are loved. They may think of them as barbed wire prisons but in the long run they are a good thing. 3. The homes ...
... to many psychologists, the key to getting people to love others is to first get them to love themselves. John Q. Baucom, in his book Baby Steps to Happiness, tells about a teacher training workshop he once conducted. He spoke to the teachers about the power of self-esteem. One of the teachers came up with an ingenious way of implementing it. At the beginning of the school year she would kneel and whisper in her first graders' ears, "You've got to be special to be in my class. I only get the really smart ...
... you come home (just a little bit).” I suspect all of us hunger for respect. We hunger for people to listen to us. We hunger for people to take our ideas seriously . . . or to care how we feel. When we are disrespected, we lose our sense of self-esteem or worth and feel dishonored as a person. Some of us are granted that respect. Others of us are not. Maybe you will find encouragement from this: even Jesus had difficulty finding respect from those closest to him. There is a bizarre statement in Mark 3:21 ...
... have a healthy relationship with God built on trust in Him? Do you have a healthy relationship with others built on love and respect? III. THIRD AND FINALLY, DO YOU HAVE A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP WITH YOURSELF? More and more we are learning how essential it is to have a wholesome self-esteem, a healthy love and respect for ourselves. If we feel good about ourselves, we are much more likely to become happy, productive persons who make this world a bright and better place. On the other hand, those with poor ...
... our generation. "A good name is more to be desired than great riches," wrote the author of the Book of Proverbs. "Esteem is better than silver or gold." But many of the major thinkers of our day have not given human beings a good name. The self-esteem of human beings has been lowered by the images of humanity prevalent in literature and drama. FitzSimons Allison is a bishop of the Episcopal Church. In 1972 he wrote a book titled Guilt, Anger, and God. In that book Bishop Allison put his finger on "disesteem ...
... -- but also his momentous, liberating discovery that, ''There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus...For God has done what the law...could not do..." No condemnation. No need for the drivel of positive thinking, rather silly acts of self-esteem building and self image polishing. We're free. No condemnation, for God has done for us what we can't do for ourselves -- namely, to love ourselves as we are -- sin and all. Haven't you had the experience, in a good marriage, a deep ...
... not stupid, and he can do better work than this. [Darn] smiley face. Draw a pitchfork and horns next time. Anything but a smiley face." "I have never taught a student like Erik," the teacher replied defensively. "I was just attempting to boost his self-esteem." "He doesn't need self-esteem," Erik's mother said. "He needs to know how to spell." That night, his mother sat Erik down and pulled out the very same quiz. With a black pen, she made him spell out the names of the pictures all over again. He rewrote ...
... with us. We have the presence of the Holy Spirit in our lives to give us a sense of identity. We know who we are. In the second place, when God dwells within us, we know how we are to live. Our sense of identity our sense of self-esteem as it is sometimes called cannot be divorced from our behavior. In Sy Montgomery's book, Journey of the Pink Dolphins, the character Necca speaks these unforgettable words, "When people forget who they are, they forget how to act." Steve Farrar tells about a young man named ...
... James we read these words: "God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble." Humility is such an integral part of what it means to be Christian, that I believe we need a clear understanding of what true humility is--and what it is not. HUMILITY IS NOT LOW SELF-ESTEEM. If you have a poor self image, if you think you can’t lift your voice because you are not as good as other people, if you cannot look others in the eye, if you let other people run over you and will not stand up for your rights as ...
... are much less likely to engage in self-destructive behavior. They don't feel the need to turn to chemical substances like drugs or alcohol for stimulation, and they don't have to take stupid risks to impress people. People with high self-esteem tend to get better paying jobs, and are more successful once they get a job. Why? Studies show it is because they expect to be successful. Martin Seligman, a professor of psychology at the University of Pennsylvania, surveyed representatives of a major life insurance ...
... her name on the top. I thought what an enormous need for a child to be loved -- to buy enough stars so that the need for self-esteem is quenched."4 The text for this morning is a refreshing breeze. It's a text from Mark's gospel, chapter one, verses ten and eleven ... ." One's immediate response is to fight it. We can fight it or believe it and/or practice it. Coming out of our low self-esteem we naturally fight it. I have a friend who, if you give her a warm fuzzie, a gold star, a true compliment, will fight ...
... no reputation or those of bad reputation, is to deny the primary reason Jesus called us into being, to seek and to save those who are lost. Jesus separates sin from sinner, and he puts us all on the same level ground around his cross of salvation, bestowing self esteem and self worth to all by forgiveness. III. Jesus Puts the Past behind Us. Move to a final truth. Jesus deals decisively with sin, puts the past behind us, and frees us for an open future. Look at another gospel story, the one we use for our ...
... Professor of Psychology at the University of California, studied 1,738 normal middle-class boys and their families beginning in the pre-adolescent period, and following them through to young manhood. After identifying those boys having the highest self esteem, he compared their homes and childhood influences with those having a lower sense of self-worth. He found three important characteristics which distinguish them: the high esteem children were clearly more loved and appreciated at home than were ...
... book titles from religious and secular bookstores that are selling like hot cakes: Love Yourself, The Art of Learning to Love Yourself, Loving Yourselves, Celebrate Yourself, You're Something Special, Self-Esteem: You're Better than You Think, Talking to Yourself: Learning the Language of Self-Affirmation, and finally, Self-Esteem: the New Reformation. Psychiatrists and psycho-analysts are now promoting a movement known as "Selfism," which elevates self to the level of God and seeks to avoid anything that ...
... sin of unbelief. We can unbind these persons who are bound in the grave clothes of feelings of unworthiness. I sat with a couple recently as they poured their hearts out in loving anguish over a fourteen-year-old daughter whose suffering for lack of self-esteem expresses itself in anger and rebellion against the entire family. The mother was very sensitive in thinking that she might have brought some of that upon the child by laying upon that child all the calls to perfection. I counseled and prayed with a ...
... our unworthiness and ask the Lord of all the universe to come into our lives and give us a new nature. A positive attitude by itself won’t make it. Neither will a new sense of self-esteem. Self-esteem is vital but it is not sufficient. Ronald Allen writes in THE MAJESTY OF MAN: "Speaking of self-esteem as man’s greatest need is akin to an observer at a funeral parlor remarking, "How wonderfully lifelike" as he views the corpse. We need to face the issue squarely: Dead people need life, not makeup ...
... , we've done fairly well as a wife, mother, father, husband, child, friend, worker, whatever - on a scale of one to ten, maybe we're not a ten, but we are at least a seven or eight, and what's so terrible about that? We have read books on self-esteem and patted ourselves on the backs until we believe most of our own press, and feeling pretty good about ourselves we look with magnanimity on others and say, "I'm okay and you're okay." True, we further defend ourselves, maybe we are a bit self-centered, self ...
... from a lack of proper self-love. Many of the sins we commit, wrongs we do, crutches we lean on, irritations we experience,… come from not feeling good about ourselves. It’s what Transactional Analysis calls “feeling not OK.” How important it is that we have a healthy sense of self-esteem! The poet put it like this: “I have to live with myself and so, I want to be fit for myself to know. I want to be able as the days go by Always to look myself square in the eye. I don’t want to keep on a closed ...