... die on the cross, and the reason he came to die on the cross was for our forgiveness. "For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved." (Jn. 3:17) Jesus did not come to harbor grudges, He came to give grace. He was not interested in retaliation, He was interested in reconciliation. He could have said, "You just wait until Judgment Day, I'll have the last laugh. You put me in the grave today, but I will put you in hell tomorrow." But, no, his ...
... new humanity. In fact, Jesus even goes so far to say that if we expect forgiveness from God, we ought to forgive one another. "Forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors," Christendom prays each week. We have the power within us to give up the grudge, to lay aside the tired, old claims, to forgive and forget the wrongs done to us, especially if we are honest enough to see the wrongs we have done to others. In the movie, The Mission, one of the leading characters is converted from being a slave-trader ...
... the gate to speak with him privately, and there stabbed him in the stomach, so that he died for the blood of Asahel his brother." (II Samuel 3:26-27) Now why did Abner kill Joab? Well, you see, Abner had killed Joab's brother and he had held a grudge against Abner and was just looking for the opportunity after all these years to murder him. He did so in a cold, conniving, calculating fashion. You see, he did not have the mind of David. He did not think the way that David thought. He did not have a mind ...
... pleasure in the suffering and punishment of his people. Rather, it is his will that all people come to repentance to experience his grace and forgiveness, because the word "forgiveness" means to give the life back to start over again. Forgiveness means to release the grudges, to come back into the relationship to work for the common good. It means to let go the fears which too long have bound us. Or as Harvard's William James put it, "The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings, by changing ...
... like a shotgun with a plugged barrel. Pretty soon it’s going to go off in your face. It hurts the hater more than the hated. Tonight I have a love for Joseph Corbett that only Jesus Christ could have put in my heart.” (3) Is there a grudge or resentment or even hatred in your heart for anybody today? Bring it with you to Holy Communion, and leave it here. Our living Lord, Jesus Christ, will help you forgive. Your own forgiveness depends on it. The Lord wants to replace your resentment with his joy. TO ...
... told? And the point is clear. If God forgives us we must be about forgiving others. I once talked with a lady who had been hurt six years ago. During that time she had never forgiven the individual who'd sinned against her. Instead she nursed her grudge, schemed of glorious get even tactics, and meditated on hatred. So now she was tired all the time, her face was hard and wore a mask of bitterness. She was neurotic. My, was she neurotic - such negativism and compulsive criticism as you've never seen! But ...
... to buy her an expensive comb. Each gift then is materially useless: but the couple is exuberantly happy because they realize that each one’s gift represents a gracious act of truly unselfish love. It was Love that came down at Christmas… not insults, not grudges, not pettiness, not hostility. Love came down at Christmas…what does that mean? Well, it means that God is love and He wants us to be loving… He wants us to imitate His gracious ways. That’s what I want for Christmas… First, the good ...
... . Sharing your food supply with the poor and the alien (Leviticus 19:10). 2. Speaking the truth and dealing fairly with all persons regardless of their social status (Leviticus 19:11-16). 3. Making peace with friends, and family members with whom you hold a grudge (Leviticus 19:17-18). In our text, the neighbor is not simply a peer, or one who shares our lifestyle and value system. The neighbor includes those who are shunned by society — those on the margins — those whom we are likely to forget. When we ...
... virtues, too often revenge and pride cloud our vision, not allowing us to humble ourselves sufficiently to find the reconciliation we need, within our own person, with others and, of course, with God. Our inability to let go of past hurts, clutching on to old grudges, and desiring revenge for what others have done to us are terrible realities that unfortunately often plague us. When we have been hurt by another we hold on to the pain as tenaciously as a wild animal clutches its prey; letting go, it seems ...
... want to avoid our anger. People skirt around us, and there is no journeying into new or deeper relationships. 4. We carefully hold on to grudges. We get even, but what we forget is that by holding the other prisoner to our anger, we must be the prison guard. We ... that face us. The obstacles evaporate, and we find ourselves on the other side, moving on. As children, we let go of grudges. Disagreements from the past do not prevent us from being free to move ahead. Excess baggage is discarded. We can put our ...
... that you shall not kill. But I tell you that even if you are angry with your brother, you are liable. Get angry enough to call someone "empty-head," or in other words, "air-head," or blurt out a bold "your momma!" and you are liable. Burn inside with a grudge and you will end up thrown into the fires of the Hinnon Valley, the valley at the edge of Jerusalem that burns 24 hours a day with the garbage and trash of the city, and resembles Hell itself. "When you bring your gift to the altar, and remember that ...
... preference. He led them to the bread of freedom, tasted first in the howling desert. What marked the free man? "You shall not take vengeance or bear any grudge against the sons of your own people, but you shall love your neighbor as yourself: I am the Lord." Revenge enslaves us, so hold no grudges. As God works in our lives to remove our hatreds and grudges, we begin to learn to love ... we begin to feel free. Martin Luther struggled with boundaries all his life. God led him to the boundary of the monastery ...
... years to stumble around in loneliness waiting for some miraculous event to restore our relationships with friends and loved ones. We had best forgive and forget. Whatever other responsibilities we may have in life, our own life is primary. I do not know what grudges prevent you from accepting love from others you need. Yet my knowledge of these is not important. What is important is that you learn to forget unpleasant experiences. I guarantee you that your life will be changed for the better. It might even ...
... . Let me tell you something I have learned about bitterness. The bitter person hurts no one more than he hurts himself. Bitterness does a great deal more damage to the vessel in which it is stored, than the object on which it is poured. If you are holding a grudge, if your body contains the acid of bitterness, I have a piece of advice for you. You need to go back to Calvary. The cross is God's roadblock to bitterness. Charles Spurgeon said, "Let us go to Calvary to learn how we may be forgiven; and then let ...
... he talked about the living bread. So generous and breathtaking is this offer that we may simply fail to understand it, and fall back on our old mainstays. That's why Isaiah is doing his best to get our attention. God is preparing to abundantly pardon. Not grudgingly, stingily, but abundantly. God's Word will "not return to me empty, but it shall accomplish that which I purpose ..." (v. 11). And we indeed "shall go out in joy, and be led back in peace" (v. 12). All of nature will join in this celebration ...
... together, running over, will be put into your lap; for the measure you give will be the measure you get back." B. In my understanding there are basically three kinds of giving. There's Grudge Giving, Duty Giving and Thanks Giving. Grudge Giving is that giving that takes place out of a sense of guilt. Grudge Giving is the most negative form of giving there is. Oh, sure, the Church receives the money. People give. But it builds resentment and resentment keeps us from growing spiritually and truly experiencing ...
... of the most powerful sentences in the Bible the secret on losing your baggage, how to blow the bitterness, get rid of the grudges, and free yourself from the prison of unforgiveness once and for all. In case you are wondering what Easter has to do ... his heart as you do in yours, but for different reasons. When he met the risen Christ his hatred was replaced by God’s love, his grudges were replaced by God’s grace and his bitterness was replaced by God’s blessing. What God did for him God can do for you. ...
... . He doesn’t talk about it to anyone else. He tells me about it. He convicts me and He confronts me. What God does for us we should do for others. Today, I am going to ask you to do one of two things. If you have been carrying a grudge against someone, because they have hurt you and you know deep down you should let that offense go and overlook it, then write that offense down on a piece of paper. Then, wad the paper up and throw it away and let it go. If that is an offense that ...
... to love one’s neighbor spans two verses and requires this larger frame for an appropriate interpretation. “You shall not hate in your heart anyone of your kin; you shall reprove your neighbor, or you will incur guilt yourself. You shall not take vengeance or bear a grudge against any of your people, but you shall love your neighbor as yourself: I am the Lord. Put these two verses together and you get a good idea of what it means to love your neighbor. When conflict happens the one who is wrong has to ...
... Whatever journey you are walking with God through whatever pain you have endured, you have my admiration and respect. So here’s my question to the rest of us. What grudges are we holding that are so important that we cannot forgive or seek to be forgiven? What kind of grudge are we clinging to that matches what Mandela went through? What grudge is so much greater than what this man endured, that we don’t dare to forgive and seek reconciliation? I’m always hearing people say, “I can’t forgive this ...
... is not a wish for peace, but a declaration that peace is now within the room.2 The Greek text is a statement of fact: Jesus was making good on his statement, “Peace, I leave with you. My peace I give to you.” The risen Christ does not carry a grudge. He took away the sin of the world, lifting the poison from the earth and onto his cross. And he came to say, “Peace is in the room.” The larger point is that something had changed in the world. In the cross and resurrection of Jesus, something had been ...
... set off to avenge ourselves, and in so doing we rob ourselves of sleep, of a clear conscience. We lower ourselves to the level of our enemies. Comedian Buddy Hackett said, "I've had a few arguments with people, but I never carry a grudge. You know why? While you're carrying a grudge, they're out dancing!" The truth is: revenge is a burden. Unforgiveness ends up hurting you worse than it does the other person. Hatred is like an acid. It ends up wounding the thrower more than it does the one on whom you throw ...
... and ruthless, and somehow forgot that he was holding a sacred office, that he was God's servant, and that he needed to do what God commanded. In other words, his kingship became something that he had done rather than a privilege given to him by God, and he either grudgingly did the things he had to do, or just plain didn't do them at all, rather than remembering his call. Well, of course, that did not please God very much, and so he decided to replace Saul with a new king. God told Samuel to find a new king ...
... . But the real question for today is “What about us?” When Jesus comes and says to us, “Follow me”… how do we respond? When Jesus says, “Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you”… how do we respond? When Jesus says, “Forgive and don’t hold grudges”… how do we respond? Jesus is speaking loud and clear to each one of us right now. Can you hear Him? Can you? If you listen closely, you can hear Him saying, “It’s O.K. to love ALL the people; it’s O.K. to think; it’s ...
... truth of the cross is not contained only in the nails and the thorns and the excruciating thirst. The whole truth is he went willingly, not grudgingly. Surely Christ wants us to see this in him, that he is able to be whatever the miseries of this world call for. "You would ... real, but attractive. As we stand beneath his cross today that sacrifice will call us back from our inferior and grudging ways, making us ashamed of our narrow idealisms and urging us to occupy the larger spaces of Christian freedom and ...