... ." Pluck a single flower and write a message about how its beauty reminds you of your love. For greater impact, have it delivered at work. Prepare a surprise candle light gourmet low-calorie dinner for two. Write the story of the growth of your relationship from your perspective, sharing your emotions and your joys. What a treasure! Make a paperweight from a smooth stone, paint it, and write a special love message on it. Promise to change a habit that your love has been wanting you to change.
2327. A Thoughtful Decision
Illustration
Dr. M. Scott Peck
Sacrificial love has transforming power. Genuine love is volitional rather than emotional. The person who truly loves does so because of a decision to love. This person has made a commitment to be loving whether or not the loving feeling is present. It if is, so much the better; but if it isn't, the commitment to love, the will to love, ...
2328. A Wise Husband
Illustration
... the subtle words and actions of a sinful world constantly assault her sense of self-worth. He remains sensitive to her needs and is always ready to offer his support. Encourage your wife verbally and demonstratively. Words of cheer and praise are high octane fuel that boost your wife's emotional fuel tanks.
2329. Living Half the Truth
Illustration
... how to farm twice as good as I'm farmin' already." Most people are not living even half the truth they already know. They don't so much need to know more as they need to be motivated more. While the principal purpose of illustration is not to excite the emotions, illustrations do help listeners feel the truth. And people mostly do what they feel like doing.
2330. Five Needs to Meet
Illustration
How do you motivate people to produce, to do a better job? The answer, say motivational experts, is by fulfilling these five needs: Economic security. Workers should feel that their time and effort will be fairly rewarded. Emotional Security. Management must create a climate in which employees "trust" their superiors, and feel that their jobs contribute to a worthwhile goal. Recognition. Employees should feel that good work will be appreciated and praised. Self-expression. We live in a democracy, and none ...
2331. Held in High-Esteem
Illustration
Dr. James Dobson
... were not enforced because no one cared enough to get involved. (3) The homes of the high-esteem group were also characterized by democracy and openness. Once the boundaries were established, there was freedom for individual personalities to grow and develop. Thus, the overall atmosphere was marked by acceptance and emotional safety.
2332. Day Care Dilemma
Illustration
Steve Farrar
Day care during infancy is associated with "deviations" in the expected course of emotional development. Infants placed in twenty or more hours of day care per week avoid their mothers and are insecurely attached; some have attachment problems with both mothers and fathers. Children placed in day care receive less adult attention, communicate less, receive and display less affection, are more aggressive, and are ...
2333. A Little Privacy Please
Mark 6:30-56
Illustration
Charles Swindoll
... under construction. Commuting time is getting longer and longer. We have even invented a new term for the stress we feel when travel time frustrates us: road rage. Driving a car, sitting in front of a computer screen, working all day long with clients. A person can only perform these emotionally and spiritually draining tasks for so long until it's time to say enough! Jesus says, Get away from the crowd for a while, find a quiet spot and rest.
2334. Thinking Out of the Elevator Box
Illustration
Brett Blair
... elevators. Drive a new elevator shaft through the building. Which solution would you have chosen? If you chose the first, second, or fourth solutions, then you chose as a traditional thinker. If you chose the third possibility, then you are aware of the emotional reasons we do what we do and act the way we act. The third solution worked. People became so preoccupied with looking at themselves (or surreptitiously at others) that they no longer noticed the wait for the elevator. The problem was not so much ...
2335. Give Yourself Some Slack
Genesis 2:3
Illustration
... they had returned from a prolonged period of ministry. And in the Old Testament, God set a pattern for us when He "rested from all His work" (Gen.2:3). Shouldn't we take His example seriously? Start by setting aside a special time to relax physically and renew yourself emotionally and spiritually. You will be at your best for the Lord if you have taken time to loosen the bow.
2336. Out with the Old Rules
Illustration
Staff
... students agreeing with these statements far exceeded the corresponding percentage of the general population," Hunter wrote. "Self-fulfillment is no longer a natural by-product of a life committed to higher ideals, but rather is a goal, pursued rationally and with calculation as an end in itself. The quest for emotional psychological and social maturity, therefore, becomes normative. Self-expression and self-realization compete for self-sacrifice as a guiding life ethic."
2337. The Namless Last Student
Illustration
Staff
... hour late. You've failed it and, consequently, I'll see you next term when you repeat my course." The student smiled slyly and asked the professor "Do you know who I am?" "What?" replied the professor gruffly, annoyed that the student showed no sign of emotion. The student rephrased the question mockingly, "Do you know what my name is?" "No", snarled the professor. The student looked the professor dead in the eyes and said slowly, "I didn't think so", as he lifted up one of the stacks half way, shoved his ...
2338. Baseball's Best
Illustration
... the ball park; the other went fishing. Both performed brilliantly in the World Series. Mack never criticized a player in front of anyone else. He learned to wait 24 hours before discussing mistakes with players. Otherwise, he said, he dealt with the goofs too emotionally. In the first three years as a major league baseball manager, Connie Mack's teams finished sixth, seventh, and eighth. He took the blame and demoted himself to the minor leagues to give himself time to learn how to handle men. When he came ...
2339. No Man-Made Substitutes
Illustration
William Temple
... God. It is the quickening of conscience by His holiness; the nourishment of mind with His truth; the purifying of imagination by His beauty; the opening of the heart to His love; the surrender of will to His purpose and all of this gathered up in adoration, the most selfless emotion of which our nature is capable and therefore the chief remedy for that self-centeredness which is our original sin and the source of all actual sin.
2340. And There Was Light
Illustration
Staff
... Haydn (1732-1809) was present at the Vienna Music Hall, where his oratorio The Creation was being performed. Weakened by age, the great composer was confined to a wheelchair. As the majestic work moved along, the audience was caught up with tremendous emotion. When the passage "And there was light!" was reached, the chorus and orchestra burst forth in such power that the crowd could no longer restrain its enthusiasm. The vast assembly rose in spontaneous applause. Haydn struggled to stand and motioned for ...
... . And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.” All of us know what it is to walk in darkness at some time in our lives. Darkness comes in many forms loneliness, pain, grief, confusion, heartache. All these emotions seem to be intensified at Christmas. It is no accident that Christmas falls just after the shortest day of our year. December 21st, known as the winter solstice, is usually the shortest day of the year because the sun is shining directly on the ...
2342. A PC Holiday Greeting
Humor Illustration
... society great, without regard to the race, creed color, religious, or sexual preferences of the wishes. Disclaimer: This greeting is subject to clarification or withdrawal. It implies no promise by the wisher to actually implement any of the wishes for her/himself or others and no responsibility for any unintended emotional stress these greetings may bring to those not caught up in the holiday spirit.
2343. How To Behave
Illustration
Staff
... was getting dressed one Sunday morning to speak at old First Church a high-steeple church with a rich history. The radio was on. The early morning service from a fast growing Pentecostal church was being broadcast. I knew the pastor. He is not a great preacher, a little too emotional for my liking. But he knows how to reach people no one else can reach. As I straightened my tie, I heard him say, "Before we begin this morning, I want to say a couple of things to you. First of all, I want to say that there is ...
2344. Forgetful Funeral
Illustration
Bruce McIver
Author and retired pastor Bruce McIver tells of a lovely funeral he once attended. The pastor leading the funeral was eloquent and full of emotion. He had quoted extensively from Scripture and preached a comforting and beautiful message. Now he was closing the message by quoting John, imprisoned on the island of Patmos when he wrote Revelation. "I can see old John now," the pastor intoned dramatically, "I can see old John now, on the ...
2345. Do Dead Men Talk?
Humor Illustration
... incision in the man's forearm. The blood began to roll down his arm and he put his finger on it and tasted it he said, "What do you know...dead men do bleed." The point? You cannot reason people out of any proposition to which they have a strong emotional commitment.
2346. Thanking Heaven
Genesis 1:1-2:3
Illustration
Brett Blair
I like the story told about Joseph Haydn (1732-1809) in his later years. On a special evening at the Vienna Music Hall his oratorio "The Creation" was being performed. As the majestic work moved along, the audience was caught up with tremendous emotion. When the passage "And there was light!" was reached, the chorus and orchestra burst forth in such power that the crowd could no longer restrain its enthusiasm. The vast assembly rose spontaneous applause in the middle of the piece. Haydn, weakened by age ...
... the fear of sexually-transmitted disease, especially the HIV virus. These risks are still with us, of course. Still, even if you are able to perfectly control these adverse consequences, there are still risks to practicing unrestrained sexual freedom spiritual risks, emotional risks. There was a sad story recently in the magazine The Week. It was titled, “Not Your Parents’ Divorce.” It was written by Susan Gregory Thomas. Ms. Thomas is a member of Generation X, that group of young people born between ...
... “Hold on, you’re falling forward!” It’s called the “Sway Test.” It has been well documented by psychologists and human behavior researchers that those who best resist all these unsolicited and unsubstantiated admonitions are those who are most emotionally mature. Those who, despite the fact that they are standing on solid ground, begin to believe the voices around them and start desperately trying to adjust their bodies according to all the directives they are receiving, are the most immature ...
... word ‘undertaking.’” José was not really excited about his job as an astronaut. If we had a job like that, we might be a bit reluctant, too. Who among us would not rather escape from, rather than face up to our responsibilities? And yet, to be emotionally mature is to be responsible. To be a follower of Jesus Christ is to be responsible. If you have read Dr. M. Scott Peck’s very popular book The Road Less Traveled, you know the emphasis he places upon accepting responsibility. Dr. Peck is both a ...
... to those who listen. Not audibly, perhaps. We worry when somebody says they hear voices, as we should. The voice of God will be an inward voice, a silent voice, a voice within the mind. God may speak through a friend. God may speak through a strong emotion. Someone says, “I felt God telling me that I should support that mission project.” And I am confident God did. The greatest untapped source of power in this world is the unheeded voice of God in human affairs. Jesus said, “This voice was for your ...