... that we nurse, just like we would nurse a fire we wanted to keep us warm all night. It is the anger we brood over and will not allow to die. This is the anger which refuses to be reconciled. This is the anger which insists on revenge. Resentment and grudges have a way of becoming permanent if we let them fester. Do not nurse our anger, just in case it tries to go away. Again, Paul gives very practical advice. The day of your anger should be the day of your reconciliation. To be human is to get angry. To ...
... as plain as they can make it. (Shrugging) We are dealing with a divine mystery here. (Pause) Think about it for a minute. What's fire like? Woman: Well, it warms you if you're cold. Man: In some metals it burns out the dross. Woman: (Grudgingly) Well, I guess that is a little bit plainer. Leader: (To the man) What's a mighty wind like - what happens? Man: Strong - unbound - something that sweeps everything before it. Woman: Makes everything smell good - clean - fresh. You can breathe it in! Leader: So, fire ...
... three years of their marriage, he had never said he was sorry, and until he did so, she would not be friends with him. For two weeks they did not talk to each other. Then Archie brought up the subject. Edith asked, "Are you saying you are sorry?" Grudgingly, he grunted an affirmative answer. He really loved Edith, and he had to swallow his pride by saying that he was sorry. This shows us the meaning and horror of sin. It grieves and offends God, one we love with our whole being. Sin re-crucifies Jesus. When ...
... , as it is used here, suddenly made me aware that the problem is really not for the doer of evil, but for the one to whom it is done! If you hurt me and I keep that hurt, then there is trouble in it for me. I, then, carry a grudge. I, then, cannot possibly see you as a person worthy of love. I will not make peace with you ... cannot make peace with you, because I have let your un-peace occupy my being. Peace must start with the offended, the aggrieved, offering forgiveness. So it is that the apparent ...
... hatred, nursed thoughts of vengeance for every little grievance -and - worst of all -I knew that was wrong, and I hated myself for it. What transformed me? The change began when my husband wanted to be in Jerusalem for the Feast of Tabernacles. I went grudgingly, complaining of every inconvenience on the way. At the Temple a crowd was gathered around Jesus. We had heard of him as a north-country teacher with strange healing powers. In curiosity, I listened: “If you continue in my word ...you will know the ...
... service to others - actions which characterize the active will of God in our lives. Without enthusiasm, these actions never quite measure up to what the New Testament is talking about when it uses these words. Forgiveness, without enthusiasm, becomes a duty that is grudgingly done. Love becomes just another law to be obeyed. Service becomes a slavish demand, which we practice like a dull discipline - rather than it being a deed we are delighted to do. Without enthusiasm, God's will becomes a series of tasks ...
... to commit ourselves to living a life which is true to our faith, that we may be in a right relationship with you and our fellow man. We pray in Jesus' name. Amen. Prayer of Confession You ask us to be forgiving, Father, and we hold grudges. You challenge us with strong faith, and we stumble over our doubts. You call us to be servants, and we prefer to be volunteers so we can quit if the demands become too great. Forgive us for our cautious commitment and undisciplined discipleship. Guide us into faithful ...
... there is a God figure. The parable of the prodigal son--obviously the father is a reference to God. There can be no mistaking that. But in this parable the neighbor is not God. It would be wrong to assume that the point of this parable is that God grudgingly gives us what we want if we just nag him long enough, and hard enough—just like my children do with me when they want something. Nor does it suggest that God is hard of hearing. God hears your prayers the very first time. What did the psalmist write ...
... be earned, it can't be bought"? This sounds like If I sin at all, I don't love God! And since I'm human (Very!) - A real "Catch 22"! Lord, forgive me for my argumentative disobedience. Teach me to know your will Your commandments And to do them Not grudgingly Or guiltily Or in hope of reward, But out of love for you, And your Son, Jesus. Amen
... those to be baptized. If in baptism we participate in the very life, death, and resurrection of Christ, then surely we participate in the life of the Spirit which he gives. I cannot forgive on my own! My heart and mind are too prone to revenge, to hold grudges, to want "justice" (whatever that may be), to expect I can pronounce a word of forgiveness on my own. In one of her books, Corrie Ten Boom tells of meeting the guard from the concentration camp where she and her family had been held by the Nazis. She ...
... fellowships, and consummate our forgiveness in Christ, through whom we pray. Amen. Prayer of Confession As sinners, we depend on your forgiveness, Father. Yet it is that same sinful nature which makes us so unforgiving toward other sinners. Forgive us for holding grudges, and wishing for revenge against our adversaries, when you have been so free with your forgiveness toward us. Remove our bitterness; and fill us with love; that we may express true forgiveness to those who wrong us. In Jesus' name we pray ...
... . The trouble? We do not tell them how it hurt us. Instead, we avoid them or put on our "deeply hurt routine" whenever we are around them. And then, even when they ask if something is wrong, we reply, "You figure it out." The mind-reader. The grudge-carrier may simply be a variation on the mind-reader. This person secretly loves being hurt because it gives him a weapon to use against others. He has discovered that being hurt gives him power over people. He can keep them guessing. He can make them feel bad ...
... the Lord's Table this morning, we shall be completely forgiven and reconciled to God and he expects us to go and be reconciled to those who have sinned against us. That is God's will! We do not have the privilege of continuing to hold that grudge, hatred, or seething anger. We must forgive and be reconciled no matter how much we've been wronged; no matter how deeply we've been hurt, no matter how sorry we might be feeling for ourselves. Since God has fully forgiven us we have a responsibility to forgive ...
... us that our God is a God who loves us, one who wants us to live healthy and happy lives. Our God is a God who forgives us for our trespasses. The Lord desires that we be healed. What is more poisonous than the petty hatreds and grudges that we hold against co-workers, family members and former friends? How seldom are the concerns that so bitterly divide us of any great consequence? So often they are rooted in squabbles over the superficial issues of money, power and possessions. A husband said to his wife ...
... bottle was a note which read: "So you finally found me, you wealthy (blankety-blank)." You see, a worker was so filled with resentment he thought he could destroy the satisfaction of the person who had enough money to buy a Cadillac. Actually, the worker's grudges and resentments had infested his own mind and his everyday job. The satisfaction being destroyed was his own.1 Thus he made his work-life a slave to his perceived enemies. Our greatest danger in resentment lies not in the wrong done to us but in ...
... love I am nothing. If I give all my possessions and even die for my beliefs, without love I gain nothing. Women: "Love is patient and kind. It does not boast or act proudly. It is not rude, self-seeking or easily angered. It holds no grudges and doesn’t rejoice at misfortune. Men: "Love never fails, but prophecies will cease, tongues will be stilled and knowledge will pass away. We know in part, prophecy in part, but when perfection comes the imperfect disappears. Youth: "When I was a child, I talked ...
... of us handle our differences. Others of us try to handle our differences not by taking flight, but by fighting back. We clench our fists and set our jaws. We practice an eye-for-an-eye-and-a-tooth-for-a-tooth kind of ethics. We harbor a grudge. We act out our resentments, and we believe that every punishment should be equal to every offense. Still others of us try to settle our differences by traveling the path of compromise. We choose to live in the land of compromise, whose primary symbol is a very high ...
Matthew 5:43-48, Matthew 5:38-42, 1 Corinthians 3:1-23, Leviticus 19:1-37
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... of sin by the one who has been offended. Retaliation compounds sin by repeating the original offense, perhaps in a different way; one cannot take vengeance on an offensive neighbor and hope to be an innocent victim in the eyes of God. Fourth, a grudge must not be extended into a feud that begins with one person and then involves that one's children and, ultimately, the whole family. Sixth, the gospel note is sounded, "You must love your neighbor as yourself." The conclusion, "I am Yahweh," indicates that ...
... angry with a friend and not speak to that person for a while?" Ask what they feel. Ask what they also think. Do they try to get even, even if only in their heads? If they have difficulty responding, talk about reasons that adults get angry, hold grudges, won't speak, wait for the other to make the first move. Use an example from your life, and how you got back together with that other person. Conclude with: "One of our greatest gifts is to receive people back after a disagreement, argument, fight - and to ...
... way: "Welcome to the celebration of Christ's presence and power. If we've come for the right reasons today, welcome; if we've come for the wrong reasons today, welcome. And, now that we're here, how do we plan to use the time - nursing grudges, complaining silently, letting our minds wander, dragging our heels - or, expecting to meet God and expecting God to accomplish great things in us. God promises to do great things, if we are willing to celebrate God's presence and power, simply and profoundly, for the ...
... . Give the people several minutes of silence to consider their own need for forgiveness, as well as their need to forgive others. (Some Presbyterians, for example, have not yet forgiven our General Assembly for giving The Angela Davis Defense Fund $10,000.) Ask the people which grudges they still hang onto, and what kind of a payoff they get for hanging onto them. We get both a negative and a positive payoff for hanging onto the past. For the pardon, you may want to read or to play the recording of Stan ...
... folks are not in church today because God did not come through for them at some particular point. Maybe he didn’t send healing when they asked for it, or fix a drug problem, or save a marriage or prevent bankruptcy. So, these folks are nursing a grudge and are boycotting God. And the devil is thrilled. You may be in some kind of crisis today, facing some tension, criticism, or tough problem. Ask God for help! Ask big things. But don’t put demands or limits on God. Verse 19 tells us that Nebuchadnezzar ...
... what they told Paul, "many thousands" of Jews believed in Jesus Christ and were part of the Christian community, but in Judea at least they hid their faith, retaining their identity as Jews and their zeal for the law of Moses. This faction grudgingly accepted the compromise between Jewish and Gentile Christians that the council at Jerusalem had achieved. Rumors persisted in the city, however, that Paul had flaunted this agreement and had urged the Jews who lived in gentile lands to forsake the laws of Moses ...
... you when next you meet. Perhaps that person notices, as the time goes by, that you have not been talking to him. Or, perhaps by total accident, you’re thrown together with this person somewhere, and you have to deal with him. You have occasion to bring up the grudge or hurt you’re feeling - or you simply can’t suppress it any longer - so you tell that person how you feel about it. Then, to your amazement, you discover that he didn’t realize that what he had done had hurt you in the first place. Or ...
... he loved and served. Look how similar their death-prayers are as they prayed for those who killed them. Jesus said, "Father, forgive them for they know not what they do." Stephen said, "Lord, do not charge them with this sin." Christians do not hold grudges against those who injure, hurt, or even kill them. We never pray better than when we pray the prayer our Lord taught us: "Forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us." Forgiveness is a lesson and spirit which comes slowly to ...