... spend your time either on the top or on the bottom. You seldom know what it's like to be in between. You are either the hero or the villain. You are respected or you are virtually hated. People in leadership must live on the yo-yo of public opinion, under the gun of verbal jabs as well as on the crest of great admiration. Being "in the outhouse" is a lot more difficult than those choice times "in the penthouse." It's when we are under verbal attack of the intimidating public that we show our colors. This ...
1077. Don't Let It Grow
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... punish it with fire than any other crime. I commonly find people taking the most ill-advised pains to correct their children for their harmless faults, and worrying them about heedless acts which leave no trace and have no consequences. Lying and in a lesser degree obstinacy are, in my opinion, the only faults whose birth and progress we should consistently oppose. They grow with a child's growth, and once the tongue has got the knack of lying, it is difficult to imagine how impossible it is to correct it.
1078. Five Needs to Meet
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... worthwhile goal. Recognition. Employees should feel that good work will be appreciated and praised. Self-expression. We live in a democracy, and none of us should feel that we surrender that heritage when we enter our place of employment. Employees should have the right to communicate ideas, suggestions, fears, and opinions to their superiors without fear of retribution. Self-respect. This is simply the need to be treated as an individual, as a human being not a statistic.
1079. Using Persuasion to Change People's Minds
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G. Collins
Effective Communication and Persuasion People are more likely to change their opinions if you state your beliefs than if you let the audience draw their own conclusions. Pleasant forms of distraction can increase the effectiveness of a persuasive appeal. Information, by itself, almost never produces permanent changes. In time, the effects of oratory and persuasive communication wear off. People are more likely ...
1080. The Reference Letter
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Staff
... lie, but you really can't tell the truth because it will hurt. Robert Thornton, professor of economics at Lehigh University, once composed the ideal letter to fit the situation: I am pleased to say that this candidate is a former colleague of mine. In my opinion you will be fortunate to get this person to work for you. I recommend him with no qualifications whatsoever. No person would be better for the job. I urge you to waste no time in making this candidate an offer of employment. All in all, and without ...
1081. How To Be Miserable
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Brett Blair
The following list must be carefully followed if you wish to be miserable: Think about yourself. Talk about yourself. Use "I" as often as possible. Mirror yourself continually in the opinion of others. Listen greedily to what people say about you. Expect to be appreciated. Be suspicious. Be jealous and envious. Be sensitive to slights. Never forgive a criticism. Trust nobody but yourself. Insist on consideration and respect. Demand agreement with your own views on everything. Sulk if people are not ...
1082. Under Control
Humor Illustration
... Painter Gilbert Stuart was convinced that he could look at a person's face and tell what kind of person they were. After painting a picture of George Washington, he was sure that Washington was a man with a fierce, savage temper. He revealed this opinion to General Lee, who passed it on to the Washingtons one night at dinner. "I saw your portrait the other day, a capital likeness," said Lee, "But Stuart says that you have a tremendous temper." "Upon my word," interjected Mrs. Washington, "Mr. Stuart takes a ...
1083. It's Not Nice To Call Bosses Names
Humor Illustration
A factory worker was called on the carpet by the manager for talking back to his foreman. "Is it true that you called him a liar?" asked the manager. "Yes," said the worker, staring down at the floor. "Did you call him stupid?" "Yes." "Slave driver?" "Yes." "And did you call him an opinionated, bull-headed egomaniac?" The fellow looked up questioningly. "No. . .should I have?"
1084. I'll Take the Nickle
Humor Illustration
Joey was a little slow. In fact, Joey was just plain dumb in most people's opinion. Some of the boys would play a joke on Joey. They would show him a nickel and a dime and offer him a choice of one of the two coins. Joey, being the dummy that he was, would always pick the nickel. One day a kindly lady who had heard ...
1085. Handwritten Character
Humor Illustration
... expert at interpreting handwriting. He believed that he could determine the character of a person by analyzing their script. One day an old lady brought him a little boy's homework book and asked this great writer and expert on handwriting to give an opinion of the child's potential. Balzac studied very carefully the irregular, untidy script and then asked, "Are you the boy's mother?" The old lady replied, "No." "Perhaps you are related?" he asked. "Not at all," she answered. "Then I will tell you frankly ...
1086. The Doctor's Diagnosis
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Staff
... hospital. The attending physicians told him quite frankly that he could not expect to be cured since the diagnosis was unknown. The only hope they offered him was that a distinguished diagnostician had been called in and was soon to give his expert opinion. The specialist arrived but needed only a little time to reach his conclusion. To the physicians in attendance and almost out of the patient's earshot he pronounced: "Moribundus." After some years, our patient, who did not die, called on the specialist to ...
1087. Where You Worship
Humor Illustration
... he had once served. He ran into Bill, who had been an elder and leader in the church, but who wasn't around anymore. The pastor asked, "Bill, what happened? You used to be there every time the doors opened." "Well, Pastor," said Bill, "a difference of opinion arose in the church. Some of us couldn't accept the final decision and we established a church of our own." "Is that where you worship now?" asked the pastor. "No," answered Bill, "we found that there, too, the people were not faithful and a small ...
1088. We Need to Look Within
Luke 1:26-38
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Mickey Anders
... in God. There is a distinction between belief in a set of propositions and a faith which enables us to put our trust in them. I believed implicitly in (all the right things about God). I cannot say, however, that my belief in these religious opinions… gave me much confidence that life here on earth was good… I entered a religious order and, as… a young nun, I learned a good deal more about the faith. I applied myself to apologetics, scripture, theology and church history. I delved into the history ...
1089. New definitions for old words
Humor Illustration
... like flies better. RAISIN: A grape with a sunburn. SECRET: Something you tell to one person at a time. SKELETON: A bunch of bones with the person scraped off. TOOTHACHE: The pain that drives you to extraction. TOMORROW: One of the greatest labor saving devices of today. YAWN: An honest opinion openly expressed. WRINKLES: Something other people have, Similar to my character lines.
... are such things as the treasure of darkness. The darkness, thank God, passes, but what one learns in the darkness, one possesses forever.” If you’re facing a difficult decision, here’s what to do: Pray daily. Know the Scriptures. Consult with people whose opinion you respect and listen to their counsel. Pray over your specific decision and go ahead and make it. And finally, and most important, trust God to help you turn that decision into the right decision. Even if your decision turns out to be the ...
... they hate “negative” ads. And, of course, every candidate uses them. The justification for both sides is “Negative ads work.” Surveys allegedly show that those nasty, negative, often highly personal attacks are the most effective way of swaying public opinion. Negativity, bad-mouthing, accusatory honking profoundly changes the way we think and the way we act. In a Charlie Brown cartoon, little brother Linus, looking very forlorn, asks big sister Lucy, “Why are you always so anxious to criticize ...
1092. When You Are Wrongly Criticized
Mark 3:21
Illustration
Leonard Sweet
... claim they hate "negative" ads. And, of course, every candidate uses them. The justification for both sides is "Negative ads work." Surveys allegedly show that those nasty, negative, often highly personal attacks are the most effective way of swaying public opinion. Negativity, bad-mouthing, accusatory honking profoundly changes the way we think and the way we act. In a Charlie Brown cartoon, little brother Linus, looking very forlorn, asks big sister Lucy, "Why are you always so anxious to criticize me ...
... customary and acceptable patriarchal idenity as “Son of Joseph”), and on the actual familiar status of all Jesus’ siblings who are listed (are they step-brothers and sisters, cousins or the natural children of Mary and Joseph?). But the crowd’s opinion is clear. Jesus’ authoritative wisdom-laced teaching is rejected because of his known local roots and because of his training and trade as a “tekton” a craftsman who works with his hands, not as a scribe or scholar. Jesus’ homegrown status ...
... customary and acceptable patriarchal idenity as “Son of Joseph”), and on the actual familiar status of all Jesus’ siblings who are listed (are they step-brothers and sisters, cousins or the natural children of Mary and Joseph?). But the crowd’s opinion is clear. Jesus’ authoritative wisdom-laced teaching is rejected because of his known local roots and because of his training and trade as a “tekton” a craftsman who works with his hands, not as a scribe or scholar. Jesus’ homegrown status ...
1095. The Object of Envy Is Trapped
Mark 6:1-6
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Scott Hoezee
... to the one who envies you, and this kindness will get written off as condescension and charity. Try to rise above things by ignoring the one torn up with envy and you will be written off as arrogant and rude, thereby merely confirming the envier's low opinion of you. Neither approach nor avoidance can help the envied one. It's difficult to know how much of a role envy plays in Mark 6 but surely the sneering attitude of Jesus' fellow townsfolk revealed at least a smidgen of envy-driven sentiments. Maybe this ...
... prophet's wardrobe of camel's hair and a leather belt. His speech was direct and confronting. Luke tells us that God's word came to John in the wilderness. John was convinced he had been called by God — not merely to reflect the moods and opinions of his time — but to speak the truth imparted to him by God. In his wilderness preparation, he prayed and meditated on his role. The word of God became forged into his very being, molding him into a fiery and dramatic figure that attracted crowds. When Jesus ...
... and it takes perspective to understand what they mean. Today's passage involves Jesus and a question about a current event. Instead of giving a snap judgment we shall see that Jesus brought some real perspective to the matter. When people asked Jesus his opinion of one current event, he responded by giving perspective to a political event — the rebellion of some Galileans, a common enough event in that time. He did this by pointing to another current event, the fall of a tower and the death of those ...
... ing. And in John the difference is crucial. There is no agreement either about exactly when, how, and why the gospel of John was written, but some guess that John was writing to Christians in Ephesus. The believers in that city had two radically different opinions about Jesus. There are some believers in Ephesus, evidently, who believe fully in the human Jesus and some who believe fully in the divine Jesus. John wanted these two groups to realize it's not a matter of either/or, but both/and. Both human ...
... exist and then go about the business of seeking understanding between those who are divided. For instance, as long as the issue of ordaining openly homosexual men or women is kept out of discussions with polite company, some might think that everyone holds the same opinion that they do. Or take the so-called, pro-choice or pro-life positions. If we really discussed what seems to divide us so sharply, we just might come to see how close we are to those that we so often vilify. What is often missing, when ...
... to find out the needs and wants of the people who live there before actually developing a new church. The church would then be designed around what the majority of the people in that area wanted. One such church plant took that method a bit far in my opinion when they offered a class to parents on how to potty train their toddler. I am not kidding. As they say, you can't make this stuff up. How different this is from the approaches I've already mentioned. When we design churches around what people think ...