John 3:1-21 · Jesus Teaches Nicodemus
The Condemning Heart
John 3:1-21
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by King Duncan
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A young woman posted some soul searching thoughts on Facebook recently. Her post was in response to another Facebook post about a teenage boy in Jamaica who was beaten by his classmates. The reason he was beaten is because his father visited his son’s school and informed the boy’s peers that his son is gay. The young man’s father had already informed this young man that he was not welcome back at home because he could not tolerate his sexuality. The father said the boy should be dead but because he is his son he would spare him. Can you even imagine that?

The young woman, also originally from Jamaica, but now living in the States, was moved with indignation when she read this post. She says her tears fell freely and she gripped her stomach.  “How does a parent condemn their child?” she asked. She thought of her 5-month-old daughter who was sleeping beside her at the time she read the post. Then she pictured this young man being beaten and kicked on the floor in class as his fellow students stood by with their hearts seemingly made of stone. 

The young woman who is a devout Christian posted a Bible verse in response to this story.  It was John 3 verse 17, “For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.”

She noted that many of us have been familiar with John 3:16 from childhood, “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”  But, she notes, verse 17 is just as powerful:  “For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.”

Homosexuality is an issue that raises intense passions, but we are not dealing today with whether homosexuality is a sin. The young woman who posted this message actually believes it is a sin. She agreed with the boy’s father on this point. But it is the spirit of condemnation that offended her, especially a father condemning his son.

What does the word condemn mean? A dictionary says it means “to express complete disapproval of someone, typically in public. It can also mean to censure and/ or sentence someone to a particular punishment, especially death.”

We have seen in some countries fathers putting their children to death because of some actions that they considered sinful. Thankfully Christians live under a different standard a radically different standard. We turn to Romans 8:34 and read these words, “Who is to condemn? Christ Jesus is the one who died more than that, who was raised who is at the right hand of God, who indeed is interceding for us.” The implication is, Christ does not condemn us. How can we condemn someone else?

Remember the woman caught in the act of adultery in John 7:53-8:11? Jesus was in the temple courts teaching.  The teachers of the law and the Pharisees brought in a woman caught in the act of adultery. They stood her before the group and said to Jesus, “Teacher, this woman was caught in the act of adultery.  In the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. Now what do you say?”  They were using this question as a trap, in order to have a basis for accusing him.

But Jesus bent down and started to write on the ground with his finger.  When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, “Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.”  Again he stooped down and wrote on the ground.

At this, those who heard his words began to go away one at a time, the older ones first, until only Jesus was left, with the woman still standing there.  Jesus straightened up and asked her, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?”

“No one, sir,” she said. “Then neither do I condemn you,” Jesus declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin.”

Think about those words, “Neither do I condemn you.” Jesus was the only one here blameless, without sin, and yet he did not condemn the woman. He didn’t pick up a stone to hurl at her. Instead, he sent her away with an instruction telling her simply to leave her life of sin.  He was completely aware that she had sinned but Jesus wasn’t in the business of condemnation, he was sent to earth to save. 

It is ironic that the men who condemned this woman caught in adultery had sinned also. Jesus was quite aware of their faults when he made his statement. Why is it that followers of Jesus so often ignore this clear example?

Remember the shame that used to be attached to a young woman pregnant out of wedlock. Her sin was public. It was out there for all the world to see. But Jesus knows there are people who carry invisible sins all the time sins like envy, sins like bitterness and hatred, sins like having a condemning heart. But God sees those sins. So Christ instructed in Matthew 7: “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?  How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye?”

That is a stunning image. A speck of sawdust in your neighbor’s eye, and a two- by-four in your own eye. And you are offended at your neighbor’s speck while ignoring your own two-by-four? In other words, if you have a condemning heart, you are out of sync with the heart of Jesus.

Remember the woman at the well. She was a Samaritan and she was a woman two reasons for Jesus to ignore her. But she had a third strike against her. She had been married five times and she was living with a man who was not her husband. Three strikes a woman, a Samaritan and living with a man out of wedlock three strikes and she was out. Except she wasn’t out as far as Jesus was concerned. In fact, he had the longest conversation with her of any conversations in the New Testament. And he offered to exchange her well water for living water. He didn’t condemn her. He treated her with dignity, compassion and respect as a child of God. And he set an example for us in our treatment of others whoever they may be.

But there is a second thing we need to see. We are not to condemn others; neither are we to condemn ourselves. There are some people who do not come to Christ because they do not feel that they are good enough. You may have talked with a friend about church and you’ve heard them say something like, “I would be embarrassed to come to church; I’ve got too much baggage.” Friend, that’s the kind of person church was designed for.

Evangelical Pastor Lee Strobel tells about doing a baptism service. He told people before they came up to the platform to be baptized to take a piece of paper, write down a few of the sins they’ve committed, and fold the paper. Then he pointed to a large wooden cross on the platform. He told them that when they came up on the platform, they were to take that piece of paper, and take a pin, and pin that piece of paper to the cross, because the Bible says our sins are nailed to the cross with Jesus Christ, and fully paid for by his death. Then they were to turn and come to the pastor to be baptized.

Pastor Strobel shares a letter a woman wrote who was baptized in one of those services. She said:

“I remember my fear. In fact, it was the most fear I remember in my life. I wrote as tiny as I could on that piece of paper the word abortion. I was so scared someone would open the paper and read it and find out it was me. I wanted to get up and walk out of the auditorium during the service, the guilt and fear were that strong.

“When my turn came, I walked toward the cross, and I pinned the paper there. I was directed to a pastor to be baptized. He looked me straight in the eyes, and I thought for sure that he was going to read this terrible secret I kept from everybody for so long. But instead, I felt like God was telling me, I love you. It’s okay. You’ve been forgiven. I felt so much love for me, a terrible sinner. It’s the first time I ever really felt forgiveness and unconditional love. It was unbelievable, indescribable.” (1)

It is unbelievable. It is indescribable, but it is the wondrous love of God poured out for all who would receive it. Christ came into the world not to condemn the world, but to save it. And in return we are not to condemn others and we are not to condemn ourselves.

We keep bringing back to memory our sins of the past, holding them against ourselves thinking that God is holding them against us also. But God is not an historian or an archaeologist; he doesn’t dig up our past sins. He comes into a relationship with us, forgives and restores us. Too often we forget that when Jesus died he took our past, present and future sins with him. If you are feeling estranged from God by any past sin, I hope you will lay it down this morning and accept Christ’s forgiveness. Remember Christ’s teaching that we are to love our neighbor as we love ourselves. Some of us are too hard on ourselves. And it stands as a barrier between ourselves and others.

More than 30 years ago a Jesuit priest, John Powell wrote a book titled, Why Am I Afraid To Tell You Who I Am? The book has sold millions of copies and remains in print to this day. Powell’s simple thesis is that people hide who they really are from others because of one basic fear. He describes this basic fear in an actual conversation he had with someone.

Powell said to this other person “I am writing a booklet, to be called, Why Am I Afraid to Tell You Who I Am.”

The other person said: “Do you want an answer to your question?”

Powell said, “That is the purpose of the booklet, to answer the question.”

The other person said, “But do you want my answer?”

Powell said, “Yes, of course I do.”

The other person said: “I am afraid to tell you who I am, because, if I tell you who I am, you may not like who I am, and it’s all that I have.” (2)

Some of us are too hard on ourselves. If Christ does not condemn us, who are we to condemn ourselves or others.

Here’s the really important thing we need to see: When we accept ourselves and all other people as children of God, we reflect the love of Jesus Christ. That is when we truly become Christ-like when we can accept others as he accepted us.

Dr. Ken A. Ramsey tells a delightful story about a friend of his named Joel. He says he met Joel while attending seminary at Emory University in Atlanta. Joel was working on his Master of Divinity degree, and they were in the same ministry assessment group. Joel was a big guy. He did his undergraduate work at Dartmouth, where he played football. Their mutual athletic interests were a common bond, and the friendship grew from there. They enjoyed jogging together at a local park.

One day they were running around the small lake located there, and Ken noticed that Joel was smiling. “What are you smiling at?” Ken asked.

Joel pointed to a little girl fishing with her dad. She was imitating every move the dad made. If he cast, she cast. If he fixed his hat, she fixed hers. If he sat down, she sat down. “Just something about a child imitating her father that makes my heart smile,” Joel replied.

There was a guy in their ministry assessment group, Ken says, that for some reason, seemed to always be out to get Joel. No matter what Joel said, this guy would contradict him and take pains to point out how shortsighted Joel’s comments were. The ministry assessment group was intense and was an environment where they were to evaluate one another in many different areas. This person was continually negative, demeaning and rude to Joel.

One day it reached a boiling point, and some really harsh words were exchanged. They left the group and Joel angrily said, “That guy has pushed me too far. He makes me want to run him over like I used to do on the football field!”

Remember that Joel was a big guy. “The veins in his thick neck were bulging,” says Ken, “and it was enough to even make me shake in my shoes. I would not want to be on the receiving end of anything from him,” Ken admits.

A few days passed, and it was almost time for another group meeting. The entire group could not wait to see what fireworks might occur between Joel and his enemy.

The day before the group meeting, Joel and Ken were jogging in the park together. They were circling the lake, and Ken asked Joel, “So have you decided how you are going to deal with that guy?”

“Yes, I sure have,” Joel replied.

Ken waited for Joel to continue. “I have decided (and then he paused)  . . .  to forgive him.”

“Say again?” Ken said.

“I have decided to forgive him,” Joel stated rather emphatically.

Ken smiled.

“What are you smiling at?” Joel asked.

“There’s just something about a child imitating his father that makes my heart smile,” Ken said. (3)

It makes God smile when we imitate Christ.

A father condemns his son because he is gay. He tells the boy’s schoolmates and they give him a brutal beating. I can only hope that God is more merciful with that father than that father was with his own son. Be careful when you condemn anyone, since the Bible teaches we will be dealt with the same judgment with which we judge another.

“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.”

Powerful words. Life-changing words. Never condemn anyone including yourself. Reflect the nature of Christ.


1. Paul Pattison, http://www.sermoncentral.com/sermons/blaming-bathsheba-paul-pattison-sermon-on-gods-forgiveness-79676.asp?Page=4.

2. John Jewell, http://www.lectionarysermons.com/september_16_01.htm.

3. Daily Encourager, To subscribe, got to http://go.netatlantic.com/read/all_forums/subscribe?name=thedailyencourager. Cited at http://www.monday-fodder.com/.

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