"I can see no trace of the passions which make for deeper joy," wrote the French writer Stendhal about Americans in his 1822 essay titled "Love." "It is as if the sources of sensibility have dried up among these people," he observed. "They are just, they are rational, and they are not happy at all," he wrote. One cannot help but wonder what Stendhal would say today. It's no secret that relationships suffer in the fast-paced, impersonal world in which we live. We might rightly ask, where has all the love gone? One commentator describes the modern situation as a "bureaucratic vision" of love. Instead of risking opening one's heart to another in hopes of a joy-filled relationship, the person becomes a skilled negotiator demanding and accepting conditions for his or her personal pleas…