Luke 18:1-8 · The Parable of the Persistent Widow
Do I Give Up Praying Too Soon?
Luke 18:1-8
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I’ve heard marvelous stories of people who’ve prayed and found their prayers answered. I’ve heard testimonies like that from some of you. I’ve heard reports from hospital chaplains. One that sticks in my mind is of a young man hopelessly sick. The physicians didn’t think surgery would help but they didn’t know what else to do. So they tried it. The young man was up and around and out of the hospital in a week. The surgeon had seen this happen before and so he asked, "Did he belong to a group and did this group pray for him?" They checked it out and learned that was exactly the case.

When I hear of experiences like that, I sometimes wonder, "Why don’t my prayers get answered?" The doubts increase when I hear Jesus making a wide-sweeping promise such as he did in the Upper Room as recorded in John 16: "Truly, truly, I say to you, if you ask anything of the Father, he will give it to you in my name." Is that really so? If Jesus said it, it must be true. Then why don’t my prayers get answered?

There may be a number of reasons, as we see from other Scriptures. But today’s Gospel focuses on just one thing: persistence, sticking-to-it. Going by just this story - and others like it - if I want to know why my prayers don’t get answered, I have to ask, "Do I give up praying too soon?"

The parable of the widow and the judge speaks for itself. But let me fill you in on some of the background.

There was this judge. Jesus called him "unrighteous" and said he neither feared God nor regarded man. William Barclay in his Daily Study Bible observes this was clearly not a Jewish judge, since all ordinary Jewish disputes were taken before the elders and not into the public courts. Larger disputes went before a three-judge panel, one of whom was chosen by the plaintiff, one by the defendant, and one by a neutral body. Since there was only one judge here, Barclay concludes it must have been a Roman magistrate, one of those who probably was looking for a bribe or who would bend under pressure from someone with influence. The Jewish people called the likes of him "robber judges."

Then there was this widow. The Law of Moses dealt more kindly with widows than the laws of other nations of that time. But still there was no legal provision for her care, except that it was up to the family - especially the eldest son. That’s why he got an extra share of the inheritance. If he didn’t do his duty or if he just didn’t have anything, the widow had nowhere else to go. There was no Social Security check on the third of the month. She was just up against it. We may see her as the symbol of all who are poor and defenseless. No one to stand up with her before the judge, and the judge was looking for a bribe.

Defenseless - except for one weapon: persistence. For a while the judge refused her pleading, but she kept coming and she finally wore him out. He said to himself:

Though I neither fear God nor regard man, yet because this widow bothers me, I will vindicate her, or she will wear me out by her continual coming.

Since Luke says that Jesus told this parable "to the effect that they ought always to pray and not lose heart," when I wonder, "Why don’t my prayers get answered?" I need to ask, "Do I give up praying too soon?"

Luke records another parable of our Lord with the same encouragement to persistence. It comes in chapter eleven where we read that Jesus told of a friend who came to a man’s house at midnight, wanting to borrow three loaves of bread - because a friend had just arrived on a journey and there was nothing in the house to set before him. The neighbor tried to put him off by saying, "Don’t bother me; the door is now shut and the children are with me in bed." He had good reason to protest. Let me describe his problem.

He was not in a three bedroom rambler. He had just one room. One end had the floor a bit higher. You could call it a split level hut. The lower end was the winter shelter for the ox, the donkey, the goats, and the dog. The higher floor level was where the family cooked and ate and slept. At nightfall the people would unroll their mats on the higher level and lie down in their clothes. Often the household would consist of three or four generations including widowed sisters and aunts. I can understand that the man inside had plenty of reason to say, "Don’t bother me. The floor is covered with bodies and I don’t want to step on anyone. I can’t get up to get you a thing."

But the man outside wouldn’t quit. And so as Jesus observed:

I tell you, though he will not get up and give him anything because he is his friend, yet because of his importunity he will rise and give him whatever he needs.

(Luke 11:8)

Importunity means being persistent to the point of nagging. Another translation uses the word shamelessness.

In both parables Jesus argued from the lesser to the greater. He doesn’t liken God to these less than perfect people; he contrasts him with them. If the neighbor who was aroused at midnight and the judge who cared neither for God nor man - if these people would eventually give in to a persistent petitioner, won’t the Heavenly Father be all the more likely to do the same? Especially since he doesn’t regard our pleadings as a nuisance?

After the parable of the neighbor pounding on the door at midnight, Jesus goes on to say:

Ask, and it will be given you;

seek, and you will find;

knock, and it will be opened to you.

In the language Luke used to report Jesus’ words, it actually reads:

Keep on asking, and it will be given you;

keep on seeking, and you will find;

keep on knocking, and it will be opened to you.

In Matthew and Mark there’s a vignette, a sketch of how to do it: how to hang on, how to keep on asking, how to keep on seeking, how to keep on knocking.

It’s about a woman. That in itself was against her. How could a woman in that culture approach a man in public? She was from the district of Tyre and Sidon, now a part of Lebanon. An outsider. On top of that, a Canaanite, of the race that occupied the Promised Land when Joshua crossed the Jordan to take it away from them, a mortal enemy of the Children of Israel. And like the widow in Jesus’ parable, nothing going for her except persistence, in spite of the obstacles.

She was pleading with Jesus for her daughter who was possessed by a demon. I think she must have felt our Lord was ignoring her. I can identify with that. There are times when I must have given up praying too soon because it seemed God was ignoring me. But this Canaanite woman kept on asking, kept on seeking, kept on knocking. The disciples grew sick of her: "Get rid of this pest." Then Jesus said something that really should have demolished her: "I was sent only to the lost sheep of the house of Israel." That doesn’t sound like our Lord. But still she kept on asking. She came up and knelt down before him and begged, "Lord, help me." We get an inkling of what Jesus the master teacher was up to; he must have been drawing her out because the next thing he came up with was: "It is not fair to take the children’s bread and throw it to the dogs." We notice he did not say "mutt" or "cur" or "hound dog" or "mongrel" - which were the customary words for Gentiles - but that he said "pet dog," a member of the family. She noticed it too and right away she said, "Yes, Lord, yet even the pet dogs eat the crumbs that fall from their masters’ table." The apostrophe comes after the s on masters’ table. So masters is plural. A pet dog has many masters - every person in the house. It’s not hard to imagine that some of the younger masters might even have been sneaking a few crumbs to their pet dog on the sly. It was a master stroke; she caught our Lord in his own words. A dog, was she? Well, she was hanging on like a pet bulldog.

Her persistence paid off. Jesus exclaimed, "O woman, great is your faith! Be it done for you as you desire." The gospel writers report that her daughter was healed instantly.

Do I give up praying too soon?

There are some striking pictures in the Old Testament about hanging on in prayer. There’s Jacob, having run away from home because he’d cheated his brother Esau out of his birthright, now coming home after many years, bothered by his conscience. The Scriptures say he wrestled with God all night, hanging on and saying, "I won’t let you go unless you bless me."

There’s Moses who one time was holding up his rod; I suppose you could say it was a way to pray. The rod had been God’s instrument in so many acts of deliverance. Here they were now in the wilderness, attacked by the Amalekites. So Moses went on top of a hill and held up his rod, and as long as he held it up, the army of Israel was winning. But whenever his arms grew tired and he lowered his rod, the army of Israel was losing. So they gave him a stone to sit on while Aaron and Hur held up his arms, one on the one side, the other on the other side. "And so his hands were steady until the going down of the sun." Joshua’s army prevailed.

There’ve been times when you and I might also have grown weary. We thought we’d been holding up our arms in prayer for a good long time. We thought we’d been hanging on like pet bulldogs and not letting go. But we had so many reasons to give up. "That job I want: surely others are praying for it too. How can God give it to all of us?" "The money I need: think of all the people in the Third World who live on $100 a year. Why should God listen to me, when compared to them, I’m so well off?" So we get tired and discouraged and we give up. No wonder Jesus remarked, "When the Son of man comes, will he find faith in the earth?"

That’s why we also need our Aarons and Hurs to stand by us and help us keep holding up our arms in prayer, like the group surrounding the young man undergoing surgery, who bounced out of bed in a flash. That’s why we need the company of believers to encourage us and sometimes to correct us and always to take us to the top of the hill so that, like Moses, we can take in the larger view. We also need the company of believers to remind us of God’s promises and his larger plans. In the assembly of worship and in our other contacts with the communion of saints, we’re reminded of instances like that of Christ in the Garden of Gethsemane. He prayed, "Let me get out of this; yet thy will be done." Did he get out of it? No. Was God’s will done? Yes. Did God’s Kingdom come? Would we have wanted it any other way?

Do I give up praying too soon?

This isn’t the only issue involved in our prayer life. Lack of persistence isn’t the only reason our prayers aren’t answered. But it’s the theme of the Gospel for today, the reason the parable was told, that we ought always to pray and not lose heart.

And will not God vindicate his elect, who cry to him day and night? Will he delay long over them? I tell you, he will vindicate them speedily.

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