Dr. Tony Campolo is a well-known and highly-respected, inspirational speaker. Over the last several years, Tony Campolo has spent much of his time traveling around the world on speaking tours.
Meanwhile, his wife, Peggy, has chosen to stay home and give herself and all that she has to the "Bringing Up" of their two children, Bart and Lisa. On those rare occasions when Peggy does travel with Tony, she finds herself engaged in conversations with some of the most accomplished, impressive, influential, sophisticated people in the world.
After one such trip, Peggy told Tony that sometimes as she visits with these powerful people… she finds herself feeling intimidated and sometimes even questioning her own self-worth. Tony said to her: "Well, honey, why don't you come up with something you could say when you meet people that will let them know that you strongly value what you do and you feel that it is dramatically, urgent and crucial and important.
Well, not long after that, Tony and Peggy Campolo were at a party… when a woman said to Peggy in a rather condescending tone, "Well, my dear, what do you do?" Tony Campolo heard his wife say:
"I am nurturing two Homo Sapiens into the dominant values of the Judaeo-Christian tradition in order that they might become instruments for the transformation of the social order into the kind of eschatological utopia God envisioned from the beginning of time."
And the other woman said:
"O, my, I'm just a lawyer."
I like that story because it reminds us that there are a lot of important jobs in the world today but not one of them is more important than the job of being a mother. After all… who has a better opportunity to shape and influence and impact young lives… than a mother? Today, we celebrate Mother's Day and the Festival of the Christian Home so let me share with you something that's been making the rounds recently in anticipation of Mother's Day. It's called "Somebody Said" and it has these words:
Somebody said it takes about six weeks to get back to normal after you've had a baby…
Somebody doesn't know that once you're a mother, "Normal," is history.
Somebody said you learn how to be a mother by instinct…
Somebody never took a three-year-old shopping.
Somebody said being a mother is boring…
Somebody never rode in a car driven by a teenager with a driver's permit.
Somebody said you don't need an education to be a mother…
Somebody never helped a fourth grader with her math.
Somebody said you can't love the fifth child as much as you love the first…
Somebody doesn't have five children.
Somebody said the hardest part of being a mother is labor and delivery…
Somebody never watched her "baby" get on the bus for the first day of kindergarten or on a plane headed for military "boot camp."
Somebody said your mother knows you love her, so you don't need to tell her…
Somebody isn't a mother.
Now, of course, the common thread that runs through all of these sayings is obvious. They are all about the love of a mother… and how that love can be expressed in words, attitudes and actions.
Now, that is precisely what we see in our scripture lesson for today in Mark 7 as this Greek mother comes to Jesus for help. Her daughter is sick, she has heard about Jesus and His power to heal. So, as a loving, concerned Mom, she comes to Jesus. She kneels before Him and asks Him to heal her daughter.
At first glance, it seems like Jesus is being a bit harsh with the Greek woman because He says: "Let the children first be fed for it is not right to take the children's bread and throw it to the dogs…"
What in the world does that mean?
Well, the word "children" refers to the Jews… and the word "Dogs" refers to the Gentiles. The Jews regarded the Gentiles as "unclean"… and their most notorious term of contempt was to refer to the Gentiles as the "Dogs"… the wild, filthy, flea-bitten dogs of the street.
But, interestingly, (don't miss this now) Jesus does not use that word. In the original Greek text, He does not use that word "dogs." Rather, He uses the diminutive word which described not the filthy dogs of the street, but rather the little pet dogs of the house, the family's beloved puppies.
When He did that, the Greek woman realized immediately that He was speaking with a smile… and that she was with a friend… and that help was on the way. The woman was a Greek… and the Greeks back then had a great love for conversation, dialogue, friendly debate. They loved banter, repartee, mental sparring. Not only that, but back then… men did not discuss theological issues with women. Women back then were treated as inferior, as mindless, as things to be used, as chattel to be owned and discarded.
But, look at this… Jesus honors her by including her in a philosophical, theological discussion… the kind that was so important in the Greek world of old. Because of this… the Greek woman understands that Jesus is befriending her… and she skillfully rises to the occasion with a brilliant response. She says: Yes, I know the children are fed first, but surely, I can have the crumbs under the table which the children have thrown away.
Jesus loved her response. He liked her spirit. Hers was a sunny faith that would not quit, a persistent faith that would not take "no" for an answer. Here was a mother with a sick child at home who was willing to take a chance and go out on the limb for the sake of her child.
When tested, she responded with grace and grit, with charm and insight. And, Jesus was impressed… He liked her. He liked her boldness and her commitment to her child. And He answered her prayer. "You have answered well," He said to her. "And now you may go your way because your daughter has been made whole."
The Greek woman returned home quickly and found that indeed her mission had been accomplished. Just as Jesus had said, her daughter was completely healed. The illness was totally gone. He had, indeed, made her well!
Now, this is a fascinating story and at this point we could go in a number of different directions. We could look…
At the power of Jesus to heal
Or the impact of the woman's bold persistence
Or we could talk about how the Greek woman symbolizes all the Gentiles and their inclusion in God's Kingdom.
But, for now, let me invite you to look with me at the poignant portrait of love painted here. In this Greek mother's encounter with Jesus, we see three of the most important ways to express love.
I. FIRST, WITH WORDS.
Love can be expressed with words. The Greek woman came to Jesus that day to express in words her love for her sick child. Also, don't miss this… in the whole Gospel of Mark, she is the only person who lovingly calls Jesus "Lord."
It seems like it would be so easy to express our love with words, but the truth is that precious few people do that well. Why is that? Why do we have trouble speaking the words of love? If we only realized how powerful words are, I think we would work harder at the task of expressing our love with words.
Some years ago, a woman was dying in a local hospital. She was in her mid-80's. Her son flew in to be with her. I happened to be present when he arrived and entered the room. He walked over to the bedside of his dying mother. He leaned over and kissed her on the cheek. Then, touched by that tender moment of seeing her so weak and vulnerable and dying, he said to her: "Mom, you have been such a good mother to me. And, I want you to know I love you."
And, through tears, she said: "Son, that's the first time you've ever told me. Last Friday was your 63rd birthday and that's the first time you ever told me." Isn't that something? It took him 63 years to say "I love you" to his mother.
Let me ask you something. Is there a word of love you need to speak today?
Those of you fortunate enough to still have your parents… how long has it been since you told your Mom or Dad how much you love them and appreciate them?
Or, how long has it been since you told your mate? I don't mean a quick, routine, matter of fact "I love you"… but a real heart-to-heart expression of your love in words.
And parents, how about you? How long has it been since you told your children how proud you are of them and how much you cherish them? Let me suggest something. For one week, write down every word you say to your children and then ask: How many of these words are words of love, encouragement and appreciation… and not just words of correction or discipline? I know as parents we have to be referees sometimes and that is a loving thing to do, but also we need to be cheerleaders. We need to say "I love you."
There is no question about it. One of the best ways to express love is with words.
II. SECOND, WITH ATTITUDE
We can express our love with our attitude toward life. One of the things about the Greek woman that impressed Jesus most was her attitude. She was committed to her child and she was willing to do whatever it took to get help for her sick daughter.
She was bold, determined, persistent and courageous because she lived by the attitude of love. She would not be put off. She would not be discouraged. She would not give up because she lived by the attitude of love.
Some years ago in a mining town in West Virginia… a 17-year-old-boy took a summer job in the coal mines. Being a "coal miner for the summer" sounded adventuresome and macho.
However, the second week on the job, he got lost deep down in the mines. He had been working with a group of veteran miners. They had warned him. They had cautioned him. They had told him to stay close to the group because it would be so easy to get lost down there in the numerous caves and treacherous passageways of the mine.
But he was 17-years-old… and one day he, absent-mindedly, wandered away from his work-team… and he became lost… completely lost! He screamed for help, but the miners had moved on to another location and no one could hear him.
Then, suddenly, his light went out and he was in total darkness. He was absolutely terrified. He began to cry. He thought to himself:
"This is how it all ends for me.
I'm going to die down here.
I don't know which way to go.
I don't know how to get out."
He dropped down on his knees to pray:
"O God Help Me!" he said out loud.
"O God Please Help Me!"
Then he noticed something. As he was kneeling there to pray, he felt his right knee touching something hard. He felt it. It was a railroad track. He realized that if he kept his hand on that track and followed it, it would lead him out!
That's what he did. He held onto the track and followed the track and eventually it brought him out of the dark, out of the depths of the mine… to light and safety.
That's a parable for us, isn't it?
If we will hold onto the track of love and follow wherever it leads,
If we will make love our attitude in life, no matter how dark some moments may be… the love-track will bring us out and lead us to the light.
As "cliché-ish" as it may sound, it is still profoundly true… "Love is the answer," so we would do well to hold onto that track… and live by that attitude. As Christians that is our calling… to live always by the spirit and attitude of love. We can express our love with words and with attitude.
III. FINALLY, WITH ACTIONS
That Greek mother in Mark 7 put her love to work. She acted it out. She expressed her love with actions. How important that is!
Some years ago, I went to college with a girl from Sarawak, Borneo. Her name was Annie Wong. Her grandfather had been a head-hunter. When she was in high school, Annie Wong went one night to a youth program led by a Methodist college student. That night she was converted. She accepted Christ as her Saviour and dedicated her life to him.
But then she had a problem. How would she tell her parents about her new-found faith? She decided to not tell them in words, but rather to show them in deeds of love.
Here's how she described what happened. She said:
"Before Christ came into my life, I was spoiled and selfish. I was irritable and impatient. I was disrespectful to my parents. My room was a mess and my attitude was worse. But after Christ came into my life, I changed. I was kind to my parents. I cleaned up my room. I helped with the house-work. I spoke with tenderness and respect to my parents. I was loving toward everyone.
My parents noticed and they said to me: ‘Annie, you are different! Why? What has happened to you?'
She said to them: ‘Yes, I am different because I have been re-born! I have Christ as my Saviour. I am a Christian now and Christians always live by the law of love.'
And her parents said: ‘Tell us more of this religion. Tell us more of this Christ. If He can change people like that, we want to be Christians, too!'"
Well, that's the way it works. We can express our love with words, with attitude, but most powerfully, most dramatically, most meaningfully with actions!