... but I do remember coming up the stairs one time and seeing aunt Viola looking at us when the back door opened. I don't know what Bruce or Danny saw but I swear that as she looked at us, she grinned and winked, almost as if she were saying: "Compliments of the House." That's just one of the memories I associate with Home. II. The Desire Home. Remember Dorothy from the Wizard of Oz and ET the extraterrestrial? All either one of them really wanted to do was go home. Home and that sense of home is so important ...
... at church. A gentleman commented to her afterwards, “I liked your song for two reasons. You sang it well, and you didn’t sing too long.” (Ann Abernathy, Colonial Heights, VA) A man named Rich told about working for a demanding and difficult boss who never complimented his employees. One day, Rich corrected a problem with one of the factory’s machines. The best praise Rich’s boss could offer was to say, “Rich, you’re stinking less at this job all the time.” (R.P. via rd.com) And a woman named ...
... husband makes her believe she is. Listen to the way the writer of Proverbs 31:29 praises his wife. He said, "Many women are good wives, but you are the best of them all!" Don't you know that lifted her spirit and made her feel great? Husbands, do you compliment your wife? Do you let her know how beautiful you think she is? Do you tell her how much you love and appreciate her? What husbands and wives say to each other is very important. As we read in Proverbs 25:11, "A word fitly spoken is like apples of ...
... mosquito in the room! Actually I told the phone researcher that a city without the church would be like life without salt. Why do I say this? In the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus said to his disciples, "You are the salt of the earth." That was quite a compliment in Jesus' day, for salt was very rare, yet highly prized. Greeks called salt "the second soul of meat." A half pound of salt was worth more than a human being. Soldiers were often paid in salt. The word "salary" is derived from "salt." This is where we ...
... . He scored very high on his S.A.T.s. And he kept active in church. The youth leaders asked him to lead some Bible studies for the middle school group. Once again, almost by popular demand, he was asked to preach on Youth Sunday. Once again, the compliments came rolling in. You should be a minister, said one of the dear saints of the church. An older gentleman, one of the patriarchs of the church, said he had a gift for preaching. Perhaps he ought to consider the ministry. The boy smiled and thanked him. I ...
... see brief messages to feed your ego and boost your mood. Who wouldn’t like to be told things like “Your prom date still thinks about you all the time”? Or “You are someone’s ‘the one that got away.’” (1) You’ll find it there: “Emergency compliment.com.” The truth is that all of us need a little “pick-me-up” from time to time. Well, how about this little verse from St. Paul: “For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for ...
... on the rear of a Honda and head west, but rather to come to the font and look into those graceful waters. The reflection of yourself which you see there is who you really are."8 Believe it. "You are my Beloved!" I'll never forget the backward compliment I received from my father once. My boyhood neighbors and I had been rascals, playing jokes and pranks until one day we went too far ... Dad was furious with our behavior and he exploded and said to my friend, "This I would expect from you, but [looking at ...
... I Want to Get Off," who wears a cross, a Star of David, a star and crescent, AND a lucky rabbit’s foot. You have to be sure you have all the bases covered! Having gotten the attention of his audience with his left-handed compliment about their extreme religiosity, Paul starts to set the record straight about this "unknown god" of theirs. Paul’s style is flawless. Knowing that many of listeners are educated, scientifically-minded men, and knowing of their interest in where the human race came from, Paul ...
... . The Athenians had inquiring minds; they wanted to hear something new. Paul was standing in the place where the famous Greek philosophers once stood to address the crowd. He began by telling the crowd how much he had enjoyed walking through their city. Paul complimented them, "I see how extremely religious you are in every way." It’s important for us to see that Paul didn’t condemn the Athenians for worshipping idols. He was smarter than that. Paul knew from experience that the best way to win people ...
... into the living room, his face contorted with misery. "Don't you realize, Mom," explained Bob, "that when I say those things, it's just like saying ˜I love you'?" Bob had reached the age when it was hard for him to say, "I love you." His compliments were simply an attempt to communicate his love. (1) The resurrected Jesus was walking along the seashore with Simon Peter. Jesus asked Peter, "Do you love me?" This was a hard question for a fisherman from the docks. Peter wasn't like the goofy fellow in the ...
... , especially when someone says that he or she really needed a particular sermon we have preached. At those moments, we begin to believe that our work and struggle have paid off. We wonder, though, about the compliments we receive at the end of the service. A friend of mine noted wryly that he has had parishioners compliment his sermons even on Sundays on which he had not preached. After a guest preacher had spoken, or the choir had led a hymn sing, someone would shake his hand on the way out, saying, "I ...
... , summer and winter, day and night, shall never cease." That's a promise. So when we receive the gift, and abuse it, or misuse it, or are ungrateful and do not recognize the Giver, what does God do? God returns it to us with renewed compliments. That is why sensitive, faithful people celebrate Thanksgiving. But sometimes it is hard, because sometimes life is hard. The world is dependable, not only in terms of seedtime and harvest, but you can depend also on the world bringing us sorrow and pain. That makes ...
... . Most of us resolve that little quandary by resorting to a kind of false humility. We are masters at appearing to humble ourselves only so that we may enjoy the praises and exaltations that such behavior elicits from others. Fishing for compliments, ingratiating oneself to powerful, transparent self-deprecation these are all marks of false or bumbled humbleness. The great Russian author/playwright Anton Chekhov, in a letter addressed to a younger brother in 1879, gave the classic response to the phenomenon ...
... in a restaurant who was furious when his steak was brought to the table and it was too rare. All red in the face he said, "Waiter, didn't you hear me say, ‘Well done?'" The waiter said: "Thank you—I haven't had a compliment all day." I tell you the compliment of all compliments is to stand before the God who made you, and the God who gifted you, whether you are a five talent man, or a one talent man, and hear Him simply say, "Well done, you good and faithful servant." This all leads me to ask every ...
... in the home. The Bible instructs us to "Be careful how you live," and to "Live as wise people." That certainly applies to what comes out of our mouths. Among the things I ask a couple to do when they come to be married, is to write down three compliments they have each received from each other during the past few days. If they can't remember anything positive their partner has said even that early in the relationship, it is not a good sign of building a solid relationship, is it? It reminds me of the story ...
... what Paul says the church is to be? “For we are to God a sweet smell of Christ” (2 Corinthians 2:15). In fact, is there any higher compliment to a person than this one: “I smell Jesus in you.” Is there any higher compliment to a church body than this one: “the bouquet of Jesus is all over your church.” Or how about this compliment: “the bouquet of Jesus just gets stronger and stronger in your church.” In today’s epistle lesson, some of the ingredients of the aroma of Christ are spelled ...
... temper tantrum. A beastly feeling of injustice surges within us when we are not treated as we feel we should be. That beast is always crouching at the door of every human heart, ready to pounce. Ready to strike us down. We love, Love, LOVE to be given compliments. We all do. Of course. Who doesn’t love a compliment? We love to be looked upon with favor. We love to be told we are kind and beautiful and loving. We love it when people like the gifts we give them, and the things we do for them. And the more ...
... more annoyed and slightly angry without knowing why) “Would you like to clean your room?” “No! Leave me alone!” (bubbling over and throwing a stuffed animal across the room) In the magazine Psychology Today in an article from 2012, “The Art of Complimenting and Criticizing,” the author notes that humans have two primary needs: to feel important and to feel loved. When we don’t feel important or loved, we feel badly, and those feelings affect both our self-perception and self-esteem. The author ...
... . He said, "Rabbi, we know that you are a teacher who has come from God. For no one could perform the miraculous signs you are doing if God were not with him" (John 3:2), thinking that Jesus, like most people, would be impressed by a compliment. He came wanting to discuss theology, assuming that Jesus would be interested in a good give-and-take battle of the mind. Before he got very far, Jesus interrupted him with an astounding remark which shook his foundations: "I tell you the truth, no one can enter ...
... attract!" people say. At other times we are drawn to those who share our interests, our outlooks, and our Christian commitment: "Oh, they're like two peas in a pod!" Almost all relationships are a combination of both: reinforcement in some areas and complimenting in others. In marriage more than in any other human relationship, our human needs to give and to receive, to love and to be loved, to be appreciated and to be grateful are present constantly. There are few things worse, the pop psychologists ...
... and moral superiority can come easily. The judgmental approach costs nothing and is worth as much. To hunt for ways to praise others can do far more good. It has been said, “A compliment is verbal sunshine.” Praise awakens hope and the desire to be. Mark Twain once remarked: “I can live for two months on one compliment.” “Each tree is known by its own fruit,” said Jesus. Behavior is the natural expression of the basic self. A person’s life cannot be evaluated in any other way than by his ...
... seems more appealing and popular. In the Antioch of the first century, they even resorted to calling such people “Christian,” a derogatory name if there ever was one! Paul, they called a fool, which he took to be a compliment, even naming himself a fool for Christ’s sake. And what a compliment! Is there a higher one? To be called a name that distinguishes you from the world and names you as an imitator of Christ. The next word for movers is this: spread the word! From the beginning of his ministry ...
... him back down to the only place where he can truly receive Jesus – as one of the lost, a sinner. In effect, what Jesus says is, "If you don’t know that you’re lost, you don’t need me." And that "son of Abraham" thing? It wasn’t a compliment. Think about it: who were the children of Abraham? They were Israel, all those wayward sinners who time after time turned their backs on God, proving that they were sinners in need of a savior. Being a "son of Abraham" isn’t a claim to fame. It simply makes ...
... ..." "Aren't you grateful?" I asked again. "Of course, but he didn't do any more for me than he did for the others. They left. I'm going too. There are so many things to do ... so many people to see ... Besides he's got plenty of people to compliment him." And off he went. I ran back, sick inside about the others. "Look what God has done ... Look ..." I shouted to all I saw. Then I saw him again ... He was surrounded by a crowd, but you could see him plainly ... so much like the others ... yet so different ...
... is no way we can repay our benefactor. It may be more blessed to give than to receive, but we often find it most difficult to receive a gift graciously when we have no hope of returning the favor. Just as a performer must learn to accept a compliment graciously with a simple "thank you," unemcumbered by a heavy dose of false modesty, so too we can only accept God's grace like a gleeful child and go on our way rejoicing. (Incidentally, one ramification of what we are saying here about the various aspects of ...