... of ways to justify our sinful behavior, but we know the guilt is there. And that guilt starts a vicious cycle, lowering our self-esteem and creating in us negative attitudes which ruin our relationships with others and with God. We may project our bad feelings onto others by having a critical and mean spirit, always looking for the fault and flaws in others. Or we become depressed, or we may try to legalistically conform our lives to those religious traditions we know in hopes that somehow we''ll escape ...
... morning the story you are about to see is true; the names have not been changed to protect the guilty. Christians don’t believe guilt is bad. Guilt is to our soul as fever is to our body. Sure, it doesn’t make us feel good. But it’s that bad feeling that alerts us that something is wrong and needs attention. The person who has no guilt is called a psychopath. The person who is guilt-ridden is called someone in need of God’s forgiveness. It’s a disturbing story. It’s got guilt in it. But it’s a ...
... the relationships will be based, not on ownership, but on the kind of respect that is an aspect of real love. That can make a big difference in your relationships. It can put an end to jealousy and manipulation and a lot of the hurt feelings and bad feelings that often exist between us. It can let you claim your freedom from others while respecting their freedom from you. It can let you make commitments to others that are parts of your commitment to God. Can you visualize what that could mean in your most ...
... . He is hoping to find a new job that will get him back on some company's ladder. But, right now, he is just hoping for a generous tip. The woman who is collecting dishes from the tables has bad feelings, too. She is a single mother, holding two jobs to support her family. She is very anxious because she can't give her children the quality time she knows they need. She thinks it is really unfair that some people have so much and some others have so little. No, ...
... The first one was the best one. But that isn't saying much. You remember the premise. Everybody in the family flies off, accidentally leaving a pre-adolescent boy behind. In the midst of gorging himself on everything in the refrigerator, he is left to fight both bad feelings and bad guys. He is beset by demons within ("They left me")….and demons without ("They're out to get me"). And kids flocked to see it. That's because the world is a frightening place, even when there's food for you, clothes for you, a ...
... from whom you have grown away. They are the people with whom you are in conflict over some significant issue whom you have allowed yourself to think of as enemies. That is the place where peacemaking can be most difficult because you will have to overcome bad feelings, not only in yourself, but in the other. And reaching out to try to be reconciled may result in your being hurt again. We really feel the things that go wrong in this area of our relatedness. We are tempted just to leave those relationships ...
... of framing a portrait of Cedric Clyde to hang over his couch. A cross was hung behind the pulpit. The Sunday of the dedication, Pastor Kirk preached on the cross and then added, “When we took the old couch out of the chancel we drove the bad feelings out, and the cross brought a new spirit in.”[2] The church at Clyde’s Corner had rediscovered its focus. Everyone’s ideas and gifts were valued. Now the church could concentrate on its ministry and mission. Now the church could truly be the united body ...
... staring at the gray stallion in the glass with fascination. He squealed and pawed. So did the other stallion. He was staring, of course, at his own reflection. Marianne tugged on Phar's reins, and he refused to move. Marianne was beginning to get a bad feeling. She became more forceful and tugged and slapped Phar with the reins. Then he moved all right. He swung around, and with both hind feet, bashed in the door! Glass flew down the inside stairs, the metal grillwork caved in. At that point, Marianne was ...
... furnishings in the chancel. "We had hung a large cross on the wall behind the pulpit," Jason Kirk wrote. "I preached a sermon on the cross that day, which was well received by everyone. When we took the old couch out of the chancel we drove the bad feelings out, and the cross brought a new spirit in." (4) The church at Clyde's Corner had recovered its focus. Everyone's contribution was valued. Now it could concentrate on its ministry and mission. Now it could truly be the undivided body of Christ. 1. The ...
... dying. For years he’d been at odds with Bill, formerly one of his best friends. Wanting to straighten things out, he sent word for Bill to come and see him. When Bill arrived, Joe told him that he was afraid to go into eternity with such bad feelings between them. Then, very reluctantly and with great effort, Joe apologized for things he had said and done. He also assured Bill that he forgave him for his offenses. Everything seemed fine until Bill turned to go. As he walked out of the room, Joe called out ...
... powers. Researchers use intuition continuously to sort through information, zoning in on what’s important, and discarding what isn’t. In fact, the internet is a kind of created “intuitive” medium for creative research in this regard. Ever have a really bad feeling that you just shouldn’t go in a certain direction? “Smart people listen to those feelings. And the smartest people among us - the ones who make great intellectual leaps forward - cannot do this without harnessing the power of intuition ...
... he doesn’t stick around and embarrass us with his presence when we think we don’t need him. Life in America in the year 2000 is demanding and stressful enough without making religion into another problem, a guilt trip, a source of criticism and bad feelings. So if folks are comfortable thinking of religion as training wheels, admiring Jesus as a really nice man who got a raw deal from the government (go figure), and making casual, thoughtless references to God every now and then, what’s the big deal ...
"Have you been writing any personal experience articles lately?", the woman asked the writer. "No," replied the writer. "I've been busy having them." (Ruth Peterman, quoted by Melody Beattie, Beyond Co-Dependency and Getting Better All The Time, Harper & Rowe Publishers, p. xi) Most of us have been having the personal experience I'm talking about today. We may not talk about it a lot, and we certainly may not write about it -- but it's a common experience. I'm talking about co-dependency. Let me begin by ...
The other day as I was sitting outside the pre-surgical room at the hospital with nothing much to do but wait, I opened one of the multitude of magazines there and saw this wonderful cartoon. There were two witches on brooms flying through the air. You know how we picture witches to look. Well, one looked pretty happy while the other was obviously very upset as she complained to the other, "I told you before we started out today that it was going to rain. But no, you wouldn't listen to me, you and your ...
"Mail Early" is a slogan we often see and hear during these Advent days. The Postal Service would like the four billion Christmas cards sent annually in America in the mail by this second Sunday in Advent. American families send Christmas greetings costing an average of 35 cents per card plus a 32 cent stamp to send it. This amounts to a cost of $2.68 billion. That is a tremendous amount of money, time and trouble invested in just sending season's greetings to friends and families. What message could be ...
I forget now whether it was a famous football coach, a former president, or a positive-thinking teacher who put on his wall the motto, "When the going gets tough, the tough get going" -- probably all three of them. In any case, I am aware of the fact that there are some people who pride themselves on being able to get motivated in tough situationns, to face head-on the tough issues. "Give it to me straight, Doc," they say to the surgeon, "I can handle it." They sign up for courses from the roughest ...
"I've got some good news and some bad news to tell you. Which would you like to hear first?" the farmer asked. "Why don't you tell me the bad news first?" the banker replied. "Okay," said the farmer, "With the bad drought and inflation and all, I won't be able to pay anything on my mortgage this year, either on the principal or the interest." "Well, that is pretty bad," said the banker. "It gets worse," said the farmer. "I also won't be able to pay anything on the loan for all that machinery I bought, not ...
Ordained in the Christian Church (Disciples of Christ), SUE WEBB CARDWELL served three terms as a missionary in Zaire (formerly the Belgian Congo) along with her husband, Walter D. Cardwell, Sr. She is currently Director of the Pastoral Counseling Service of Christian Theological Seminary and Assistant Professor of Psychology and Counseling. She is both a Diplomate of the American Association of Pastoral Counselors and a Licensed Clinical Psychologist. Her sermon published here was delivered at a chapel ...
Nathan, a boy I read about recently, is seven years old. His second grade teacher gave his class an assignment. They were to draw a picture and write an essay about what they would need to have a perfect life. Nathan drew a house and wrote beneath it, "My Home." Also, he drew himself and his dog. Next he drew a checkerboard with faces inside each square and wrote "My Friends" beside that. His essay was titled, "The Perfect Life for Me," and here's what it said: A perfect life for me is the life that I'm in ...
Perhaps some of you are old enough to remember one of the most popular musical groups of the mid 1960s, The Righteous Brothers. Remember "Unchained Melody"? I remember once hearing an interview with one of the Righteous Brothers, Bill Medley, when he described the significance of their name. Normally when we think of the word "righteous," we think of impeccable behavior and sterling moral character. But their name was not so much about their morality as it was about the quality of their music. In the '60s ...
Then the prophet Jeremiah spoke to Hananiah the prophet in the presence of the priests and all the people who were standing in the house of the Lord; and the prophet Jeremiah said, "Amen! May the Lord do so; may the Lord make the words which you have prophesied come true, and bring back to this place from Babylon the vessels of the house of the Lord, and all the exiles. Yet hear now this word which I speak in your hearing and in the hearing of all the people. The prophets who preceded you and me from ...
Have you ever felt "trapped between a rock and a hard place"? Have you ever experienced what we sometimes call "double jeopardy," where regardless of what you choose to do, you are "damned if you do and damned if you don't"? Perhaps you have seen a classic example of "double jeopardy." Someone is trapped high up in a burning building. They can't go back into the building because of the fire. But they can't jump either, because it will be to their certain death. Have you ever been on a frozen pond in the ...
As we remember the terror of 9/11, we long for an answer to it. As we see lives blown apart by natural disasters, our hearts cry out with it. As the economy worsens and banks fail and businesses fold and more and more people lose their jobs, our souls seek satisfaction to this enigma. It is the age-old question that haunts us: “I wonder why bad things happen to good people?” This is a burning question for anyone who has experienced the horrors of life. Churches are flooded with people asking this question ...
A doctor says to her patient, “I have some good news and some bad news. Which would you prefer to hear first? The patient says, “Tell me the good news first.” The doctor says, “All right, the good news is that YOU ARE NOT A HYPOCHONDRIAC.” Of course, the bad news is that you REALLY ARE SICK. A doctor takes his patient into the examination room and says, “George, I have some good news and some bad news.” George says, “Give me the good news.” The doctor says, “They’re going to name a disease after you.” AND ...
Nobody wants to be a beggar. They used to come to our door, when I was a child, and my mother always fed them. They must have had a special language among them, for it seemed to us children that every hungry, needy beggar finally found his way to our house. Mother never turned one away. We were very poor ourselves, and when we would protest her constant kindness to them in giving them a free meal, our mother had a standard reply: "Now children, you know the Bible says ‘Inasmuch as ye did it unto the least ...