... ? Why, then, was he angry all the time? Why the need to sit in judgment over anyone whose style or color was a little different shade? Did not Archie really hate himself and find it necessary to use fig leaves as a covering against the icy chill of his own ego, scarred by self-hate. To love one’s self is to be free from need for fig leaves and defenses and whatever style of cover-up we choose. Self-respect or self-esteem or self-love is the key to love for others. And the gift of marriage as a ...
... problems. But the problem is that the alcoholic is well aware of the truth that he is so strongly denying. He knows all too well of his drunkenness, failure, helplessness, guilt, and remorse. They have become even more unbearable and painful to his self-concept and ego. His guilt and sense of failure and god-like assurance that he can always get by with what he pleases are beaten on even further when the Enabler/Rescurer denies he/she will ever again come to rescue, the Victim denies he/she will ever allow ...
... whom she is reading.) She struck a very transcendent note one day when she wrote: There’s at least one in every crowd. The woman who does not want to bring a child into this lousy, mixed-up world. I met one the other night who said, "Children were just ego trips for parents who like to see their own image staring back at them over the breakfast table." She added, "I can’t come up with one reason for having them." What a pity! According to my children, there were a lot of reasons for my having them. I ...
... supply, for I am dwelling in Beulah Land." I can remember singing more lustily than all of my fellows, for that was the kind of safe and secure experience I wanted. It never occurred to me at that time that this was a kind of wretched, selfish, ego-centered theology, a theology reminiscent of the word of Simon Peter on the Mount of Transfiguration who did not want to go down into the valley where there were people, where there was a lad who was beset with a demon, where there were scribes and Pharisees ...
... eloquence; in chipmunks or in mountain peaks, or in human life ... God is." What I love about the conversation is Mr. D’s comparison of his own life to nature itself, "It’s just naturally that way." Erikson would love this old man’s demonstration of ego integrity, "Hello young man," he said, "do come in." Mr. D., at this moment, feels to be at home, to have returned to Jerusalem, and with him we have the privilege of recognizing Christ’s presence. Mr. D. gives us hope as Christ did for the ...
... his empire upon love, and at this hour millions would die for him.... He has won the hearts of men, a task a conqueror cannot do." The person who said that was none other than Napoleon. The very man history records as having one of the largest egos knew what tenuous grounds he stood on. You want the devotion and allegiance of men? Don’t be a Napoleon. Don’t fight to be leader of all; fight for the least position of all. Be a servant. II James and John wanted position. Secondly, they wanted prestige ...
... creative, surging, empowering Spirit which floods minds and hearts everywhere when they are open to its presence. Prophets are needed in every age -- prophets to cut through the propaganda and rhetoric; prophets to expose the deceit and hypocrisy; prophets to deflate pompous egos and to humble arrogant hearts and minds. We need prophets to tell it like it is when everyone in little sound bites tries to convince us it is as they promise it will be. When we have been lied to, deceived, defrauded, betrayed ...
... else is going on behind the mask. As one commentator points out, this kind of hypocrisy is all the more unpleasant “because an apparent act of kindness (taking a speck of dirt from somebody’s eye) is made the means of inflating our own ego.”2 That is, it looks like these people are trying to help others, when actually they are trying to feel better about themselves. They exalt themselves by pointing out something deficient about their neighbors. Then they try to help others in their weakness from ...
... plowed ahead, reciting the prayer, and touching all the bases — “In him we will be raised ... first fruits ... those who have fallen asleep....” Then, as always, he pivoted and hurried on to the next room. She knew he would be back again the next day. His ego needed it. But she would try to make him feel as comfortable as possible. If Christ is raised from the dead, so are we! If Christ is not raised, then neither are we. These ancient words are not meant simply as words of comfort in funeral settings ...
... that you are off the hook because you can blame our less-than-perfect world on the sins of others, like Adam and Eve. You and I are sinning too. Any perfect people here? Insofar as you and I keep on sinning, do what we do to satisfy our own egos and not what our neighbors need, we are contributing to all the problems in the world. In that sense, the problems in your life and in mine, the hopeless situations that you and I are in, or have been in, are our own fault. Like the people of Judah whom ...
... like the problem is that we Christians have not been exercising our freedom. Instead of exercising our socio-political responsibility or functioning as overflowing cups filled with all of God’s goodness and love, too many of us have been in bondage to satisfying our egos and desires. Too often you and I have been mired in that kind of bondage. Like the people of Judah in Haggai’s day, we have been too “busy” to care about spiritual things, too hung up on the latest trend to guard our traditions ...
... and service and faith. In addition to the business side of religion, there’s also the people side. Wherever two or three are gathered, let alone several hundred, there will be a hurt feeling here, a misunderstanding there, a mistake, a disagreement, a grudge. Egos get bruised and pride gets squashed and backs bristle and lines get drawn and soon being a “professional holy person” starts to feel more like being a referee, a hostage negotiator, or a traffic cop. So, no, I’m not surprised in this time ...
... and congregations have regarding women in the church. This problem is particularly acute in regards to female clergy and those strong, anointed, and gifted women of God whom God has appointed and anointed for service and who also pose a threat to the fragile egos of those “true believers” who deem them unfit and unworthy to be true servants of God. We see this ignorance manifested in such foolish statements as, “God did not call women to preach. If the Lord had wanted women to serve in his church ...
... more money this year over last year. We try flattery. You have the means; only you can give this amount. We try guilt trips. “You are wealthier than 95% of the worlds population. We try greed. You will get back more than you gave. We try ego. We will name the building after you if you give. We give for every reason except the right reason. Giving because Christ supremely gave. Giving, because, we are not truly human until we become a giver. Giving to keep grace alive within us. Giving because it reflects ...
... . As the lesson has it, "...David would take his harp and play. Then relief would come to Saul; he would feel better, and the evil spirit would leave him." These days we have our own evil spirits. Some are small and private and attack our egos or careers or homes. Some are massive and unbelievable like the holocausts, the genocides, the terrorist attacks. And we know music helps. You may have heard the report of the Juilliard Conservatory students who played at the Armory in New York where the families of ...
... are deemed to be the most valuable. For example, the $50-million a year professional quarterback is considered more valuable to his team than the $5-million a year offensive lineman. And, indeed, one of the problems teams have is the bruising of egos when one player finds that he is being paid less than another player of (presumed) lesser ability. In recent days, the local sports pages treated us to a running commentary on the negotiations between the Charlotte Hornets and their star center, Alonzo Mourning ...
... of his family. The four pictures that sit between these two outer pictures are of Darcy (his wife) and Karis, Cody, and Shiloh, his three children. "What we do for a living has a way of absorbing our attention," Kimmel writes. "Its demands are so great and its ego satisfaction so intoxicating that it can easily become the focus of our lives. I love my work, but I don't want it to become the heart of my existence my reason for living. That's why I have those pictures strategically placed on my desk. When I ...
... . Christmas tells us who we are, and it tells us that we're loved. We are persons to whom God sent His very own Son. We don't need to feel ugly or inadequate or insecure ever again. We don't need to try and prop up our under-inflated egos with alcohol, drugs and sex. The Son of God helps us deal with our feelings about ourselves. The Son of God gives us self-worth and gives meaning to our lives. That's why Mary's imagined words, "Would you like to hold him? Would you like to hold the ...
... he had ever knownbegan to crumble, and his wife hated him. Having lost all selfworth, one day he crawled to her, begging, with tears, that she show him some attention. In front of his friends she mocked his failure and ridiculed his impotence. Finally, his ego lay shattered, and he was without any human affection at all. A few days later, November 22, 1963, he went out into the garage, took a rifle, drove into Dallas, and put two huge holes in the head of our former president, John Fitzgerald Kennedy ...
... Ford disagreed, got rid of Couzens, and kept making Model Ts until he had nearly run his car company into the ground. What happens, even to bright successful people, to cause them to hurt their own career rather than share the glory with someone else? We call it pride, envy, ego. What it really is is a little demon within us all that says, "See, you're really not such hot stuff, after all. Look at his success. He's got it and you don't. No matter what other people think, you and I know that you are a fraud ...
... we gain, but by what we give. The second lesson is like unto the first. TRUE STATURE IS NOT MEASURED BY HOW MUCH WE PUFF OURSELVES UP, BUT BY HOW WILLING WE ARE TO HUMBLE OURSELVES. How much silliness goes on in this world because of inflated egos! I once read in a newspaper article that in 1970 two researchers for the Kinsey Institute began a rather extensive survey of the sexual attitudes of 3,000 adults. By 1980 the work was compiled and almost ready for publication. One small detail remained. Albert D ...
... in life is to be the worship of God. The worship of God is directly related to the freedom to be obedient to God. His will becomes the ruling principle of life. God's will becomes the dominating passion of life. More important than any preference, tastes, ambitions, ego, or the opinions of others is what God wants. This is the delight of a Christian. This is to be the priority of life. God's will brings life and joy. In our generation there has been a number of books published under the banner "the one ...
... through fear and intimidation. At times, there have even been tyrants in the church. We run into tyrants in every area of life. When our lives are centered in our own passions, when we refuse to surrender our lives to a higher authority, when we are ego-centered and not God-centered, we tend to spoil every relationship. A certain husband was having difficulty dealing with his wife. He decided to get a divorce and sought out a lawyer for professional advice. After telling his lawyer his side of the case the ...
... are sports fans may argue with that. At one time or another superstar coaches such as Bobby Knight of Indiana and the late Bear Bryant of Alabama have had this ability of being able to walk on water attributed to them. Various Washington politicians with big egos such as Henry Kissinger and Lyndon Johnson have also been described this way. Where was the President last night? He was out taking a stroll on the Potomac. Gen. George Patton's soldiers were in awe of him. A member of Gen. Marshall's staff once ...
... crimes result when an individual defends a bloated self-image against a perceived attack. Baumeister's study suggests that even bad behavior on the part of noncriminals temper tantrums, irrational rages, etc. may also be triggered by imagined affronts to pumped-up egos. "The dangerous ones are those who overestimate how good they are," Baumeister says. "They'll lash out to try and head off anything that might lower their self-esteem." (6) Other studies tend to support Baumeister. Positive self-love can be a ...