... -respect. As Richard Cabot pointed out in What Men Live By, the opportunity to work is essential to wholesome personality, and depression is most injurious when it gets inside of a man. His spirit is crushed or he develops a rebellious attitude, an "antisocial grudge," or he degenerates into a parasite living on welfare. Our Lord is concerned with this situation. "The kingdom of heaven is like a householder who went out to hire laborers." It is God’s will that every man be given the opportunity to work ...
... mode of resistance to giving up this level of consciousness that says "kill and survive" is a defensive reaction. It is a defensive retreat to the security operations that keep things as they are at any moment. It is an expression of the grudging willingness to go along with minor changes, but to resist any significant change. In the disciplines of psychology and social relations, we study about the nature of change because that’s our business. Paul Watzlawick and other researchers have suggested in their ...
... our little kingdoms of self-centeredness will be broken up, afraid our trivial concerns will be consumed in the refiner's fire, afraid our faith will snap like in the blast of the Baptist's voice. You bet we're afraid -- afraid to let go the grudges we've been nursing and hiding behind for years, afraid to confess the hatreds and hostilities we have for ministers and other church leaders, afraid to let go the defenses and excuses we've been erecting between God's church and ourselves. Yes, we're afraid ...
... who mourn and your healing power to those ill in hospitals struggling with the powers of disease. And we pray for those in all sorts and conditions -- for all children lost and alone, for families fractured by divorce or alienated by present offense or remembered grudge, for immigrants and strangers in the land, for the homeless and unemployed, for the soldiers far from home soon to be in harm's way, and for all souls longing for assurance that love's labor is not lost -- for all these and more, we lift ...
... inventions brooding within their minds for a better world. Some have had dreams for economic justice and greater equity for the poor and oppressed. Others of us have had glimmers of ideas for love better expressed in our families and we have received hints of ways of forgiving grudges so long and firmly held. In others of us there is the book or poem to be written, the music to be composed, the business to be formed, the kindly word to be said, the generous gift to be given, the friendly deed to be done. O ...
... worship and service and faith. In addition to the business side of religion, there’s also the people side. Wherever two or three are gathered, let alone several hundred, there will be a hurt feeling here, a misunderstanding there, a mistake, a disagreement, a grudge. Egos get bruised and pride gets squashed and backs bristle and lines get drawn and soon being a “professional holy person” starts to feel more like being a referee, a hostage negotiator, or a traffic cop. So, no, I’m not surprised in ...
... with what he knew of "father" in his own home. Support has to be a two-way street. Honor to parents means respect, but respect is something that must be warranted. The obedience that parents get should not be the obedience that is given grudgingly to a dictator. It should come from a realization that what the parents ask is reasonable and, ultimately, for the child's good. It means a consistency of care and concern that begins in the child's infancy and continues forever. Parents should be respected ...
... her a glass of water. They could hear the woman gurgle it down, but suddenly they heard her moaning again - "Oh, I was so thirsty...SO thirsty." Some people cannot forget. Clara Barton, the founder of the American Red Cross, was noted for not holding grudges. She was once reminded by a friend of a wrong done to her some years earlier. "Don't you remember?" asked the friend. "No," replied Clara firmly, "I distinctly remember forgetting that."(4) One wishes that there were more like Clara Barton in our ...
... storm with his father wanting him back in Cuba and aunts and uncles wanting to keep him in affluent America. Several sermons there - the importance of family; what constitutes real wealth; our responsibility to our children; the foolishness (and danger) of holding grudges; when political means lead to unjust ends (as is apparently the case in the US embargo on trade with Cuba which impoverishes innocent people). All of those will preach. There was that sad, sad story of the six firefighters who lost their ...
... reason to trust. He told her, "I had to leave. I am not yet fit to say, `Forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors.'"(1) Have you ever felt that way? Have you ever felt unable to pray that prayer because of some harbored grudge, some pent-up hurt? Or, more likely, have you just tended to mouth, "Forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors" without much thought? Forgiveness is something with which we are all familiar. We appreciate being forgiven when we have done wrong. We know that forgiveness ...
... (3) I wish all differences in the church could be resolved that easily. We are Christ’s body. If we can’t love and respect one another, what hope is there for the world outside these walls? I hope no one in this room is carrying a grudge against a brother or sister in Christ. I suspect that God not only grieves about the petty hatreds in individual churches, but also concerning the disunity among the various branches of the body of Christ. There is a deep divide among churches nowadays, a divide that ...
... dealing with an enemy ” retaliate. Another is to secretly harbor resentment toward that person. This is probably the most common spiritual problem among Christians. We are nice people. We wouldn't openly harm anyone, but, boy, can we bear a grudge! The problem with harboring negative feelings toward someone else is, again, what those feelings do to us. In 1844 Captain Robert Stockton brought his ship, the Princeton, to Washington to display her before government officials and leading social figures. While ...
... In that way you will take his life as he took your husband's." The woman quickly changed her mind, realizing that in satisfying her need for revenge, she would also be risking her life. (2) We're like that woman, aren't we? Holding our grudges. Bearing our resentments. Making our spiteful remarks. Always trying to make certain that everybody gets what they deserve. How alien pure, sacrificial love is to our lives. And so Jesus gives us a commandment ” love one another. But there is a second thing we need ...
... challenged them: "Young men, would you rather be in the light with the ten wise maidens or out in the dark with the ten foolish maidens?" I am not certain the bishop was able to finish his message. For those who stand in the shadows there is a grudging obeisance to religion, but there is also that nagging suspicion that we would rather be out in the dark with the ten foolish maidens. Is it possible in the few minutes we have this morning to draw such a sharp contrast between the world of darkness and the ...
... began by saying, "Do you have any GROUNDS?" To which the lady responded, "Why, yes we do, we have about ten acres just north of town." "No, ma'am," the pastor replied, "that's not what I mean. What I mean is do you have....well, do you have a GRUDGE?" "Oh, no," she replied, "but wo do have a nice little carport!" "No, ma'am," said the pastor, "that's not what I meant. One more question: Does your husband beat you up?" "Beat me up? Oh, no, I get up before he does just about every morning!" In complete ...
... you cannot believe that God is using some adverse circumstance to punish you. The two are mutually exclusive. There is a story about actor Henry Fonda that can help us here. Fonda's father disagreed with his son's decision to become an actor. Only grudgingly did he attend his son's debut performance with the rest of the family. After the performance Fonda's mother and sisters glowed with pride and were effusive in their praise. His father, however, said nothing until one of his sisters made a tiny criticism ...
... to the gallows he whispered those famous words, "There but for the grace of God go I." George Whitefield knew, in Barth’s words, that he lived solely by forgiveness. Many of us do not want to forgive. We nurture and nourish our resentments, our grudges. But Jesus comes to us and says, "You are forgiven," and suddenly we realize that we, too, can forgive. One of the greatest Americans of this generation was Senator Hubert Humphrey, the Happy Warrior. One of the most striking scenes of the last decade was ...
... men in the group would take turns carrying the child. The refugees had walked for three days when the terrain became more difficult. One old man became weary and unable to keep up. He begged the others to go on without him and let him die. The group grudgingly agreed and started out again. But the mother ran back and placed her child in the old man's arms. "You can't quit," she said. "It's your turn to carry my little girl." She left with the others, but looking back, saw the old man walking determinedly ...
... . In Wauconda, Illinois, (population 6,500) they have placed two large illuminated crosses on the city water towers every Christmas for 43 years! Sometime back the council received a threat of legal suit on the grounds of separation of church and state, and grudgingly took them down. But the people of Wauconda, Illinois, took the matter in their own hands. They said to themselves, "We can put up whatever we want on our own property." So all over that little community, up went crosses and nativity stars ...
... we don't have to take all our provisions with us. What is bogging you down? What excess baggage or wool might you still be carrying? Too much stuff? Too busy? Life too complicated? Is the Lord calling you to leave behind the luggage of complaints, grudges, resentments? Healing often has to do with unpacking ” shedding all those things that weigh us down and accepting Jesus' invitation to send us out as his missionaries, to fall in love again with our life of faith, to follow Jesus again with a light step ...
... flowers bloomed in profusion, but all the neatness and beauty was marred by the sign which cluttered the whole place. Apparently, the owner of the house had a bad experience with the aluminum and decided to "get even" with the company. So, holding to his grudge, year after year he ruined his own landscape in order to declare his displeasure. How sad. But it happens. Unresolved conflict brings pain ” pain on the job, pain in church, pain in spoiled relationships, pain to rob us of our peace of mind. Having ...
... for the rest of their lives. It was moving proof that they had done some things right in their lives, and it meant the world to them. (5) I don't know what kind of hurts you may have brought in with you today, but I do know this nursing grudges, harboring resentments, holding on to the wrongs others have done you will only bring you grief. Christ's death on the cross has released us from the burden of our sins. Why don't you let it release you from the burden of your grievances as well. You have been ...
... giving us a success strategy when he told us to forgive our enemies, but he was. It never pays to seek revenge. It may make us feel better, but it is nearly always counterproductive. Forgiveness is a key to a successful life. Winners don't hold grudges. Winners don't hang onto resentment. Winners don't try to exact their pound of flesh. This is a powerful principle, but there is another. FORGIVENESS OF SIN IS A PRIVILEGE THAT CHRIST GIVES HIS FOLLOWERS. Listen to a verse from our Scripture lesson-a verse ...
... . He can lift our burdens and straighten our backs. A few years ago, Lorne Adrain fell off his roof and hit his head, triggering an instant case of amnesia. Strangely, the amnesia had a positive effect on his marriage. Lorne could no longer hold grudges or nurse old resentments against his wife because he couldn't remember anything. It was almost as if they were starting their relationship over with a clean slate. Then, his memory returned. Lorne's marriage also returned to its previous state. He entered ...
... , and drug dealing dropped dramatically once the minor crimes were under control. (2) Neglect. Broken Windows. Weeds growing in the garden. Jesus told a parable about a man who sowed good seed in his field. But, in the night while he was sleeping, someone with a grudge against him came and sowed weeds among the wheat. When the wheat sprouted and formed heads, then the weeds also appeared. "The owner's servants came to him and said, 'Sir, didn't you sow good seed in your field? Where then did the weeds come ...