... if somehow this was his fault. This is not unusual. There was a book written about a decade ago by a Jewish rabbi who noted that people in grief often experience misplaced anger. A death in the family draws out a lot of complicated emotions, putting a strain on what may already be strained family dynamics. Many times, grieving persons take out their anger on the clergy member presiding over the funeral. They complain about the music, the message, the decorations, the length of the funeral service. They may ...
... They have a purpose, a mission in life. It is therapeutic to have a mission that will give you the kind of strength in your body to bring you to healing. The conclusion is always the "male weeper" story. That is a story that is so moving and emotional, it will make men cry. It is called the "male weeper," and you always want to end your speech with a "male weeper" story. That is the motivational speech. That is the formula it follows. And I always find that interesting. But what really interested me was the ...
... men, at the top of these hierarchies, making decisions for other people, taking the responsibility for everything, being in charge of everything. Anyone who does counseling knows the toll that that takes on the mental health of people. Not only because of the emotional weight of responsibility for success or failure in your life, but because of what could be called the "apotheosis" of the individual. That means the raising up of the individual to the status of being a god. The properties of being god are ...
... with cerebral palsy. Cerebral palsy did not affect this young man’s mind, but it affected his motor skills and his ability to speak. The boy could only communicate through typing on his computer. In addition to his physical disabilities, the boy suffered emotional problems after some of his care givers callously abused him. Overwhelmed with self-hatred, the boy often hit himself. Using his computer, he wrote to his mother that he wished he could die. There was one thing that seemed to bring the boy ...
... ate the grass in the lawn and the thistles in the vacant field next door. Locusts are known to land on the clothesline and eat the green spots out of a tablecloth. Locusts scorch the earth and leave no living plant behind. A plague of locusts emotionally and spiritually devastates a community. That is how that bent-over woman must have felt. Some unnamed burden sucked the strength from her. She no longer can stand up straight. Jesus has compassion. He calls to her. "Woman, you are set free from your ailment ...
... proportions. Many of us say that we can handle anything life may throw at us except watching our child suffer. And yet many good people--people of faith and commitment--have to deal with this earthquake. Marriage. Family. There are many other emotional and spiritual earthquakes. Problems with health. Loss of a job. Betrayal by a friend. Things seem to be going along quite smoothly, but then we feel the ground starting to move beneath our feet. And suddenly our whole world is violently shaken. Where ...
... When we get to the end of our life, will we do so with a lot of regrets? What will our friends say about us? Our family? Will we have the resources to meet the challenges of our final years, not only financial resources, but emotional resources, relational resources, spiritual resources? There is a little book titled LIFEFOCUS by Jerry Foster that introduces us to a concept that I hope you will take seriously. He calls it LIFEWEALTH. Lifewealth refers to each of the important areas of our life--our finances ...
... interested in the crisis. A boy of about 12 standing on the deck remarked aloud to himself, "It’s a big ocean to be lost in." He was speaking of a physical ocean, of course, but there are many people who are lost in a spiritual sense, in an emotional sense--and what many of them discover, too, is that it’s "a big ocean to be lost in." In Luke 15, Jesus speaks to the experience of being lost. He describes three situations in which precious possessions were lost--a lost sheep, a lost coin and a lost ...
... condition when he was three years old. They loved him through the experiences of suffering until he died at the age of fourteen. They experienced the anger at the injustice of his suffering and the self-blame and the great variety of other painful emotions that go with such tragedies. They made no pretense about what was happening. Something bad and unjust was happening, something that called into question all of their beliefs about God and about life. But, in time, they were able to work their way through ...
... presence comes in the stillness of utter silence. It comes in loud, crashing, bashing, lashing tumults of life -- sickness, death, divorce, tragedies, and sadnesses. It comes in a song, a worship moment, in the sweet sacraments. The presence of God can be highly emotional or an intense intellectual searching and yearning. There's great glory in worshiping an awesome God and at the same time wrestling in the dirt with Elohim. God often is in our adversity. God is not the perpetrator of adversity and trouble ...
... . The difference between good guilt and shame is that guilt says, "I did something wrong," whereas shame says, "I am of no worth; I am no good." Good guilt recognizes the failure to live up to acceptable standards. Good guilt is an emotion of maturity. It presupposes an internalized code. Good guilt blossoms in an alive and developed conscience. Dr. William C. Menninger, late founder of the famed Menninger Clinic and a devout Presbyterian, once said about religion and psychiatry: "There need be no conflict ...
... intact. She learned what we all have to learn. Life never stands still. Whether we like where life has led us, or whether we can't wait for our circumstances to change, things just aren't going to stay the same. Whether we do so physically or not, emotionally and spiritually, we can't just stay put. Moses couldn't stay put either. By the time the scene in our passage opens, Moses has been through more than most people could take. Starting way back with the burning bush, where he first got his orders from ...
... , look back on the days of slavery with longing, and complain to Moses who God chose to lead them to freedom? Yes, of course it's possible, and we know this because we ourselves have been ungrateful and thoughtless at those times when we feel physical or emotional want. What have you done for me lately? That's the question the world asks. Don't look upon God's people in the desert with derision. Put yourself in the story and think; think hard, about how you might have reacted had you been there. Collect ...
... life and salvation. You called to Lazarus. Call to us in our worship, as individuals, and as your church. Amen. Prayer Of Confession Lord, this day we will consider the time you lost a personal friend. We will marvel at your tears. We will shudder at the strong emotions of Mary and Martha. We will stand amazed once more at this glimpse of the glory to come. May we be as willing to risk as you were that day. Amen, Lord. Amen. Hymns "When Grief Is Raw" "When Jesus Wept, The Falling Tear" "In The Garden"
... it almost appears as if greed is becoming a virtue. In the movie Wall Street, the leading character gives a speech and he finally declares that greed is good. Greed is motivation for productivity. Greed is the source of great dreams. Greed is the emotion that drives the engines of capitalism. "Individual autonomy is expressed most fully through acquisition and protection of private property. Those who own and consume the most are the most valued human beings." The desire for more, the lust for the new, the ...
... , he walked back to the monastery church, lay prostrate in front of the altar, and pledged his life as a monk to poverty, chastity, and obedience. His mother and his father were present. He served them at his first communion in that chapel. You can imagine the emotions inside of them as their son, in his father's eyes at least, threw away everything that he had hoped for his son. Some historians feel that this conflict with his father was the source of Luther's religious struggle with God. That is a theory ...
... feel insignificant. She took off from there. She recalled the days in the II World War when she was a war correspondent in Europe. She watched American soldiers visit those cathedrals in Europe. She said she saw them awestruck in Salisbury Cathedral. She saw emotion well up in them as they watched the liturgical procession in Canterbury. She watched them kneel and pray under the Great Dome in St. Peter's. She wrote, "They were not feeling insignificant. On the contrary, they were awakened for the first time ...
... death, I fear no evil; for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me. What an amazing affirmation about life. It says there is no experience that you can enter where God is not there with you. There is no condition in your life, no emotional crisis, no psychological despair, no desert of sorrow or regret that you must pass through where you will be alone. All the pilgrim psalms say the same thing. The 139th Psalm says, If I ascend to heaven, thou art there! If I make my bed in Sheol, thou art ...
... 's blessing. It is some event, informal or more often formal, like a rite of passage, which is necessary in order for the person to move into mature, responsible, independent adulthood. And if one does not receive it, then one stays in a kind of emotional dependency, waiting for the blessing, or doing whatever they can to try and earn it, trying to be perfect, trying to excel in all things. The father's blessing it is called, this archetypal experience. In the Bible it first appears in the Old Testament ...
... eastern border of Germany. It's just a small town. They've made a memorial out of the prison camp. There in that prison camp, Bonhoeffer and the other leaders of the underground resistance, Admiral Canaris, Stauffenberg and the others, were executed. It was an emotional visit for us. For my life as a young man had been shaped by reading the life of Bonhoeffer, and his writings. Some of his writings are obscure. He writes in the traditional German ponderous theological style. But he produced some of the most ...
... means that you have joined something greater than family." A larger family, a greater loyalty, if you will--nothing less than the Kingdom of God. So that's the way this passage is to be interpreted, for the first century. "Hate," as it's used here, is not an emotion, it's a ranking of priority, it's naming what you are willing to let go of. As Luther put it in his great hymn, "A Mighty Fortress Is Our God," "Let goods and kindred go, this mortal life also." That could have been taken right out of this ...
... he knew a good friend of his. But one day he had lunch with the man's son. He knew the father to be a successful businessman, the kind that is able to make decisions without thinking about it, and for whom business is business. He never let emotion enter into making decisions. Over lunch the son revealed something about the father that Ferris hadn't realized before. It seems that the son had been in the Army, and he had made a terrible mistake. He got into trouble. He was given a dishonorable discharge. He ...
... years, reconcile us to God. It has been my experience that there are a whole lot of people who haven't heard the news. They are still making sacrifices for their sins. It is usually in the form of some self-inflicted misery, either physical or emotional. Of course those things today have scientific names coming out of Vienna. But what they really are, are daily sacrifices for not being who we think we ought to be, for our mistakes. Just like the Letter to the Hebrews described it, "everyone stands day after ...
... . They don't recognize Joseph. He has grown up now. They last saw him when he was a boy. Now he is wearing clothes of the Egyptian nobility. But Joseph recognizes them. He tries to deal with them incognito, and officiously, without revealing his identity. But his emotions get the best of him. He begins to weep. He rushes out of the room so that they cannot see him. Then he comes back in, and says, "I am Joseph, your brother, whom you betrayed." Now listen to Jesus. "Tell my brethren, [who betrayed me,] that ...
... a lot of people too. Life treats them rough, and they don't feel like singing anymore. They just kind of sit and stare. You can pick them out. They have the unmistakable look of the survivor, or the victim. The vacant stare, the empty face, drawn of any emotion. There are some people who never get over the tragedies that hit them. They go through the rest of their life with that stare. You can pick them out. It serves as kind of an announcement to everybody else: life has been rough on me, life hasn't been ...