... this to you, so that in me you may have peace. In the world you face persecution. But take courage; I have conquered the world! " The persecution Jesus reminds us of comes in many forms - but always it seeks to puncture our already leaky sense of self-esteem and to fragment our rickety faithfulness. This is why rejoicing in the Lord and proclaiming the glass half-full and the bucket fillable takes more than a sappy sense of well-being - it takes gutsy joy. Gutsy joy enables us to see the steady stream of ...
... divisive in the Corinthian church. Paul teaches that God supplies many different gifts and none of them makes the possessor of the particular gift superior to the believer who has been given another gift. All of the gifts are given by the same Spirit, not to enhance self-esteem, but are to be exercised in community for the common good (v. 7). Gospel: John 15:26-27; 16:4b-15 Jesus teaches that he will send the Counselor, the Holy Spirit, in his name. The Spirit will testify to the saving work of Jesus. The ...
... and constraint which still bind us and keep us prisoner. I have observed many people temporarily freed from a particular set of destructive habits, such as alcoholism, drug addiction, spousal abuse, marital infidelity, thievery, dishonesty, chronically low self-esteem and self-doubt, only to return to the same practices because they and those around them have not taken off the grave clothes of defeat, despair, disillusionment, and disbelief. Edwin Friedman in his work, Generation to Generation, tells ...
... of us can be as honest as Abraham? It goes against the grain, doesn't it, this spirituality of dust and ashes. It stands in contrast to the superficial piety and self-seeking silliness which too often passes for religion today. It contradicts the religion of self-esteem; it violates the "Praise the Lord and give me the goodies" religion which this self-satisfied age is content to hear. But scripture says that to everything, there is a season. There is a time to "make a joyful noise unto the Lord," and there ...
... , how do things really look? The incidences of inhuman treatment in the human family seem unending. Hatred thrives. We look out for ourselves. We batter and abuse one another. Part of this, admittedly, is due to our own self-hatred and feelings of low self-esteem. But nonetheless, our mistreatment of one another is a shocking fact and an affront to God, who dignified humanity by taking on our own condition in the person of his Son. The failure of the institution of marriage among us is beyond debate. In ...
... turban. "It means I have made pilgrimage to Mecca," he said, "and therefore can be trusted not to cheat you." Goodness even has market value. But Christians do not seek a moral life for its own sake alone. They are not anxious to be good for self-esteem or pharisaical appearances. Nor do they strive over trivialities. No, they desire to be moral in honor of God. They wish to represent him and to guard his reputation because they love him dearly. They are ashamed of themselves when they shame God's good name ...
... truth about the meaning of agape love. It is a truth we need to apply to our lives as families. Separate the action from the person. One last word. Some of us are not parents. There is no one for whom we are responsible to bolster their self-esteem. No, we are not all parents, but we are all children. Some of us bear scars from our own upbringing. Arturo Toscanini, as a child, never knew whether or not his mother loved him. When he grew up and received the acclaim of vast audiences everywhere, he ...
... at this point. THE KIND OF PRIDE JESUS WAS WARNING HIS DISCIPLES ABOUT IS DIFFERENT FROM THE HEALTHY SENSE OF SELF-WORTH THAT OUGHT TO CHARACTERIZE A FOLLOWER OF JESUS CHRIST. It is important to say this because persons with a low sense of self-esteem are often attracted to religion. Since the Bible teaches meekness and patience and love, the Christian faith has been used by many persons to justify their playing the part of the doormat. People who are constantly putting themselves down are just as far from ...
... Templeton tells about a middle-aged man who attended a men's therapy support group one evening when he felt he was at his lowest ebb. His wife was leaving him. His business was teetering near bankruptcy. He had gained weight over the last few years and his self-esteem wasn't very high. Even his hair was thinning. The moderator of the group explained that they would go around in a circle and each man would take a few minutes to explain what wasn't working in his life. On the second round, they would discuss ...
... of our time go back to our desperate fear that we are not and can never be really loved by anyone." (4) Is that the demon that is troubling you? Do you feel unloved--perhaps unlovable? A certain pastor once counseled a beautiful woman with self-esteem problems. The woman had trouble accepting her husband's love for her because she believed she was ugly. Finally, the woman traced her negative self-image to an incident that had occurred twenty-five years before: a young man had made a cruel comment about ...
... dropped like a shabby old coat at the door And never be put on again. (2) Regret is a crippling emotion because it leaves us chained to the past. Regret provides the ammunition for the twin demons of shame and guilt. It erodes our self-esteem. It is the little voice that whispers in our ear, "Remember your failures, remember your foolish decisions. Remember the kind of person you were." The apostle Paul, of all people, understood the corrosive power of regret. As a devoted Pharisee, Paul--then called Saul ...
... that is ruled by gangs and crime. In her work, she has seen heartbreaking instances of abuse and neglect in the lives of the kids she works with. Many of them have no positive adult role models in their lives. This has a devastating effect on their self-esteem. Tamara took in one nine-year-old boy who was living on the streets. She planned to adopt him, so she wanted to teach him all about her faith. She started by asking the child, "Do you know what God says about children?" The child lowered his ...
... am more than I think I am?” Listen! You are important to God. In fact you are a unique, unrepeatable miracle of God. You have that on the authority of God’s Word. If you forget everything else I say to you today remember that. Talk about self-esteem – talk about self-actualization – talk about knowing who you are. There is a place in God’s Word -- do you remember it? God said it, “Not a sparrow falls to the earth without God noticing it – and you are of more value than sparrows. Even the hairs ...
... am I that I should go to Pharaoh, and that I should bring the Children of Israel out of Egypt? I am nobody!" This is excuse number one of five that Moses dreams up. Ever felt that way? I am nobody! Fear of the unknown, low self-esteem, lack of faith are all roots to "I am nobody." You feel your mailing address only reads, "Occupant." You feel unimportant, a wallflower at a dance. You feel, "I am a zero." Perhaps Moses considered other more capable Israelites who were talented in leadership and could have ...
165. Turning Jesus Down
John 4:5-42
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John N. Brittain
... excellent gym and Nautilus-caliber training equipment; they want quality affordable day care and after school care for children; they want a variety of self-help and support groups; and they want sermons dealing with timely issues like money management and enhancing self-esteem. What they do not want are worship services where they are asked to participate or sing hymns; and they do not want sermons dealing with topics like sin, personal ethics, world hunger, or self-sacrifice. In response to such trends, a ...
... . God is not a creation of our image, we are a creation in His image. There is no such thing as a "self-made man" or "self-made men." Now that is a great statement. God made you. Therefore, you should accept you. The person who has a problem with self esteem really has a problem with God. For "it is God who has made us, and not we ourselves." c. God Is A Compassionate Father "We are His people and the sheep of His pasture." (v.3) What a staggering thought! It's not just that God created us and put ...
... to glory in or enjoy the embarrassing abundance of riches God has lavished on us. Such a diet eventually starves the capacity for grace, empathy and forgiveness right out of the body. Using right-sounding loopholes like self-preservation, self-determination and "self-esteemation," the stingy spirit hides the fact that it is really selfish. Such an attitude can never be part of a community that is struggling to fulfill the mandate of being "imitators of God." We are called to "live in love, as Christ ...
... around him. It doesn't delight in evil (is not self-righteous) when I remind my 17-year-old that he's going 83 in a 55-mph zone, but rejoices in the truth. Love doesn't give up hope. It always protects our children's self-esteem and spirit, even while doling out discipline. It always trusts God to protect our children when we cannot. It always perseveres, through blue nail polish, burps and other bodily functions, rolled eyes and crossed arms, messy rooms and sleep-overs. Love never fails. But where there ...
... sure, with his righteousness, but also with the fame and honor which attended it. People are flattered to think that the achievements and renown of their ancestors convey like qualities to themselves—and deny them to others. There is a point, however, at which self-esteem overripens into pride, desiring to prove itself better than others. It is this pride which Paul addresses in verse 2. He does not say that Abraham had nothing to boast of. If Abraham chose to present his credentials as a pretext for God ...
... various Greek words for love came to distinguish between what he called “need love” and “gift love.” Need love should be self-evident. It is the most common kind of love in our world. I love you because you meet my needs. It might be that my self-esteem is boosted when I am with you or it might be simply my need to be loved. Most of us have a need for companionship. Need love is always born of emptiness. The person characterized by need love is always grasping to attain from others things or values ...
... Bennett concerning the blemishes that showed up on his shirt under that special light, “is [the contrast] between the holiness of God and the sinfulness of man.” (3) You and I are sinners. Now please do not misunderstand. This is not an assault on your sense of self-esteem. I am not saying we are without worth. Indeed, we are of infinite worth. The Father gave his own Son in our behalf. But it is to say that we are blemished, flawed, unholy. And there is nothing we can do of our own power to remedy the ...
... risky and downright dangerous to allow children to literally govern themselves. A visit to any Juvenile Detention Center would remind us that if some kids are not taught the difference between right and wrong. If they are not given structure and self-esteem, they can be capable of terribly destructive behavior. And there are other institutions, like the military, where a more dictatorial form of governance works well. In the military following orders can often mean the difference between life and death. In ...
173. A Father's Influence
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Dr. George Rekers
A positive and continuous relationship to one's father has been found to be associated with a good self-concept, higher self- esteem, higher self-confidence in personal and social interaction, higher moral maturity, reduced rates of unwed teen pregnancy, greater internal control and higher career aspirations. Fathers who are affectionate, nurturing and actively involved in child-rearing are more likely to have well- adjusted children.
... , and reconciliation that Jesus gives to us begins with removing old grudges and eliminating revenge from our hearts, but then the process moves to higher and deeper levels. Actually, compassion and mercy must begin with oneself. Low self-esteem is far too rampant in our contemporary society. People view themselves as insufficiently intelligent, attractive, athletic, or a host of other “necessary” attributes that contemporary society tells us are essential. Too often people cannot forgive themselves for ...
... derive their sense of identity from the flashy things they own: the big house, the name clothing, the fancy car, the sparkling diamonds. Their life becomes something of a status symbol in itself for how much “they” are worth. Whether from self-esteem issues or simply loneliness, we as humans often try to “fill” the emptiness in our lives with “stuff” and more “stuff.” The more “stuff” we have, the more “stuff” we want until we are literally “stuffed” with stuff. And yet the ...