... . Douglas himself received the worst injury, a massive blow to the head. After the accident, Douglas never knew when a headache might strike. He could not work a full day, and sometimes he would become disoriented and forgetful. Worse, the accident permanently affected his vision. One eye wandered at will, refusing to focus. He developed double vision and could hardly walk down a flight of stairs without assistance. Douglas learned to cope with all his disabilities but one: He could not read more than a ...
... has faked suicide over and over. In the presence of Maud, he is able both to understand and to verbalize how he got to this point. His mother, as far as he was concerned, never had time for him. He felt quite literally that she had no regard, much less affection, for him. Then one day something happened. He tells Maud about it in these words. "When I got home from school, my mother was giving a party as she so often did. I crept up the back stairs to my room. There was a ring at the front door. It ...
... sore. (We've failed in friendship.) "Many of us have failed in marriage. Yes, part of the fault lies in the other person, but in our honest moments we know that part of the trouble is within us. We were not as loving as we should have been, and our affection grew cold over the days and years. Or perhaps we are still married, but even so we must admit that our relationship has cooled off, and the warm love is not what it once was. (We've failed in marriage.) "(And) How many parents feel a sense of failure ...
... care" has a sick quality to it. Melody Beattie has written three classic books on this subject: Co-Dependent No More, Beyond Co-Dependency and Getting Better All The Time, and Co-dependents Guide to the Twelve Steps. She defines co-dependency as "being affected by someone else's behavior and obsessed with controlling it." Do you see the possibility? Being good can be bad for you, even though the heart of Christian living is selfless love. II. That brings us to our second point: SELFLESS, SACRIFICIAL LOVE ...
... a remarkable phrase in Ephesians 1:18. "The eyes of your heart." You see, our hearts do have eyes by which we see ourselves from the very depths of our personality. "And when we see ourselves from the perspective of destructive I am's, then our self-esteem is affected from the very center of our being." (Seamands, ibid., p.157) If we think we are nothing then we will live and act as though we were nothing. III. Shift gears now... to the positive and that on which we must concentrate if we're going to build ...
... lower than outsiders do, it's a sign that there is trouble in the relationship. (4) I wonder what might happen if more parents started treating their teenagers like eight-cow teenagers. If more employers started treating their employees like eight-cow employees. Even Jesus was affected by how the folks at home treated him. If that is true of Jesus, how much more is that true of the people we interact with each day? The people around us crave to be treated with respect, dignity, love. I see families that are ...
... . That was asking for trouble. Jimmy sat next to an inmate named Liam McCloskey and said, "Brother, I want to tell you about Jesus." The mess hall was silent as Jimmy Gibson told about his newly acquired faith. Among those who were deeply affected was Liam McCloskey. A bridge was built between these two former enemies. In 1983, the two men spoke at a reconciliation conference in Northern Ireland. Once, they were sworn enemies; today they call each other "brother." (6) Friends, that is the Gospel. People ...
... understand that creation works the way it does because God structured it to obey certain laws? That is why we can expect the sun to rise tomorrow morning at just the time it is suppose to. If it did not, every molecule in the universe would likely be affected. We simply are foolish when we ask God to suspend any of His laws even for a minute. Life upon this earth depends on those laws. Intellectually I think all of us understand that. And yet, we still pray, "Please, Lord. Don't let it rain on my daughter ...
... slain with impunity. Or a culture where you were not to help the poor because they were being punished for misdeeds in a prior life. Indeed, maybe it is impossible for us to objectively view our own faith--even the standards by which we judge it have been so affected by the coming of Christ. For example, we just assume the values of love and respect for all people are true. That's how we've been raised. And we were raised that way because of the influence of Christ. Pandita Ramabai was born in 1858 in India ...
... A strong affirmation of marriage, wouldn’t you say? Marriage is serious business. Christians need to do everything within their power to help a marriage survive. But not only survive, but be a source of blessing for both partners and to all others who are affected by the marriage relationship. Today, I want to give those of you who are married a brief test. A quiz. Those who are not married will profit from this quiz, because what we are talking about are relationships and the same principles apply to all ...
... Friday morning. Yes, that would be good. Wait, I’ve got that long drive to that big sales meeting. I can’t afford for the roads to be slick so that it slows me down. Could you make it rain just enough to take care of the lawn but not affect the roads?” Hey! Who’s in charge here? It should be God giving us orders rather than vice versa. James and John are taking a rather tactless approach to our Lord. “We want you to do for us whatever we ask.” Jesus understands. He knows we’re like that ...
... from distance. But it's hard to appreciate their wisdom when we dwell in their house; and sometimes also when we are a bit older and they come to visit in ours. Very few prophets get a good hearing in their own country. We may feel great affection for the person next door, but it's hard to see him or her as an authority; however, people in another, farther place might. Jesus sensed their attitude, and threw down the gauntlet. "Doubtless," he said, "you will quote to me this proverb, 'Doctor, cure yourself ...
... of our sins; it is also a matter of thorough moral and spiritual transformation. The document stresses this point by denying that faith is mere intellectual assent and asserting that it is “an act of the whole person, involving the mind, the will, and the affections, issuing in a changed life.” It then goes on to insist that Christians are bound by their faith and baptism “to live according to the law of love in obedience to Jesus Christ the Lord. Scripture calls this the life of holiness or ...
... joy and my crown, stand firm in the Lord.” The church at Philippi was Paul’s “joy and crown.” Of all his churches it gave him the least trouble and the most satisfaction. So, Phillipians is a letter of joy, brimming over with expressions of gratitude and affection and love. The vivid story of Paul’s visit to Philippi is told not in that letter, but in the sixteenth chapter of Acts. In a few lines there in the book of Acts, the work of the Holy Spirit guiding the missionary endeavor of Paul and his ...
... Norma was fearful of bonding with anyone so young. “It was part of my denial,” she explains. “When you know what is happening to the children behind closed doors, it’s difficult to become attached to them outside.” Emily’s blatant affection, frequent hugs, and direct pursuit disarmed Norma. The little girl’s interest was all the more surprising considering Emily made it very clear that her acceptance of Norma wasn’t an acceptance of Norma’s lifestyle. Early on in their relationship, Norma ...
... preachers. A theological school to enlarge and cultivate the heart is the golden desideratum of the gospel. The pastor binds his people to him and rules his people by his heart. They may admire his gifts, they may be proud of his ability, they may be affected for the time by his sermons; but the stronghold of his power is his heart. His scepter is love. The throne of his power is his heart.” Blessings, Paul Let me share a story that brings this dual function of the prophet/priest together, speaking to ...
... ministry, is shaped by this need? Congregations can be fickle. Staff/Parish Relations Committees can be unrealistic and demanding. Too many churches demand far more of their leader than is possible. Without conscious awareness, this need for job security does affect significantly how we do ministry – it certainly impacts the prophetic edge of our ministry. I remember an occasion early in my ministry, during the racial upheavals in Mississippi in the late ‘50s and early ‘60s. I had taken a clear stand ...
... Mom had a neighbor who would stop by every few days and keep the child so she could shop. After some weeks this neighbor shared more than her time with this hard-working Mom; she shared her faith in Jesus Christ. This young mother was deeply affected by her neighbor’s actions and words and gave her heart to Jesus. The friends of the young woman objected. “Do you know what those people teach?” they contested. “Here is what I know,” she told them. “They held my baby.”’ (2) That’s what she ...
... sweat turned into marketable paper. Make a risky decision as an experiment of faith. Change your use of time and your financial commitments in the direction of the kingdom of God as best you understand it, and guess what? You will soon find new and supportive affections bubbling up from within. Jesus did not say feel-it-and-then-do-it but do-it-and-then-feel-it. In the hierarchy of human capacities, the will is the executive function, the emotions a supportive function. The modern idea that I must feel ...
... as Christ puts it “the holy angels.” But how shall we identify with Him? Some want to, are trying to, but it is so hard. You are like Peter. You have a good confession, but Christ comes to show you that your confession of Christ is lacking in your affections. Every now and then, someone talks to me about turning over a new leaf and trying to get right with God. Then, they say, they will return to church or start following Christ. But they always slip back to the old way. It is a problem of the internal ...
... If you give yourself to something outside of yourself, you get outside of yourself and you start to feel better about yourself. It is safe loving a dog, rather than your neighbor. The dog will appreciate it. The dog will return your attention and give you some affection, too. The dog will like you for doing this. So if you are severely wounded by life, start there. Raise a pet. But if you are a healthy, strong, mature adult, then it is time for you to take on something larger, like loving your neighbor, who ...
... with Rachel's death. Favoritism, even the appearance of favoritism, strikes a deadly blow to the shalom of any family. Most every family, ancient and modern, knows and has experienced the disruption from favoritism. When one child is elevated above another by affection, gifts, or honor, that is a sure recipe for trouble. Even though it's only the perception of favoritism that is present when mom or dad appears to favor one sibling over another, the results are the same. While favoritism provides the ...
... her own people. Jael means mountain goat in other languages, though, so she might not have been an Israelite. If she wasn't an Israelite, did she kill Sisera because the suffering of others got to her? In any case, she was not directly affected by the oppression of Jabin and Sisera, and she committed this messy murder to help others. Whatever her exact reasons, the narrator leaves us guessing. In any case, the Lord comes through again and overthrows Israel's oppressors. The celebration is boisterous, with a ...
... . We are not given answers to our questions of why life is that way. We are assured, however, that beyond this life, God will restore, recreate, redeem, and rectify. So, let us take heart. We have no antenna to contact those we have lost. Their absence affects us every day. We don't know exactly what their existence is like. Nevertheless, we can comfort ourselves with John's vision. The resurrection is an experience of true fellowship, of the joyous presence of God, of the healing of body and soul, and of ...
... all times and all places, and puts every living being in a new relationship with God. There was a little girl whose parents had lived in a miserable marriage and finally ended it in a divorce. Having felt they had nothing in common except for their affection for the child, they broke their covenant. One day the girl was seriously injured when she was struck by bus as she raced into the street while playing. Taken to the hospital, she was examined by the doctors but was found to be beyond human aid ...