... God all the time, and I’m here to tell you he listens! It’s been a good life, walking hand in hand with him and other folks who know him like I do.” (9) Dr. Larimore proceeds to link a personal and meaningful relationship with God to being emotionally and physically healthy. We say that a person has a healthy glow. When we are young that might be primarily physical. I suggest to you that as we age this same glow is primarily spiritual. If you live in the presence of God, it’s going to show. Living ...
... We got it from our parents. I don’t mean that it is genetic necessarily though there might indeed be a genetic component to it. I mean that some of us had parents who were not able for one reason or another to give us an emotionally secure enviroment during our formative years. This is what we learned from the highly respected psychologist Erik Erikson. He taught that during the first stages of our lives, we either developed a sense of trust or a sense of mistrust about our environment. And throughout our ...
... . Be slow to anger. It's all over in a minute, we say. So is a cyclone. But then the wreckage has to be cleaned up. All through the Bible we are warned about the sinful misuse of anger. In Christ we have the supreme example of poise and emotional control. In Christ, who when he was reviled, reviled not again, but ruled his surging spirit after the manner of a loving God. So, once again, James shares with us this earthy bit of practical wisdom: Be slow to anger. "Better a patient man than a warrior, a man ...
79. The Will to Move Forward
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Jim Peterson
... better to take some more time and answer a few questions before they proceed. So the two begin spending more time with each other. He eventually concludes that she is as beautiful on the inside as she is on the outside. Now his intellect has sided with the emotions on the idea of marriage. But the final and heaviest vote remains to be cast that of the will. It stops the march toward the altar with the questions, "Am I willing to give up this lifestyle for another? What about my freedom is it worth the trade ...
80. A Bond to Behold
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... . One of them said, "I'm just a charm on grandma's bracelet." Positive roles that grandparents play are caretaker, storyteller, family historian, mentor, wizard, confidant, negotiator between child and parent, and model for the child's own old age. When a child has a strong emotional tie to a grandparent, he enjoys a kind of immunity he doesn't have to perform for grandparents the way he must for his parents, peers and teacher. The love of grandparents comes with no behavioral strings attached. The ...
... ourselves, about the world around us and even about the God in whom we believe. And it left us with a terrible ache, an ache that expresses itself for some people through depression, and others through anger. There is only one solution to such a deep-seated emotion and that is to ask God to reach deep down into our souls and to pluck out that mistrust, that fear, that deep anger and to make us new people. Spiritual problems demand spiritual solutions. We need to ask God’s help in dealing with our anger ...
... t enough rocks.” (6) And that’s true. No matter what anyone has done to you, sometimes there just aren’t enough rocks. And that’s when we need to surrender our anger, surrender our hatred to God and allow him to replace these negative emotions with love and forgiveness. This brings us to our final guideline for today: unresolved anger is a spiritual problem. Anger not only affects our health and our relationships with others, it is important in our relationship with God. That is why Christ tells us ...
... is confident that God also knows, that he is not guilty. Job’s experience causes him to perceive God as probing mercilessly to dig up sin in his life, even though Job is not conscious that he has sinned at all. In one of the most emotionally wrenching passages of the book, Job contrasts the care with which God formed his body from the time of his conception through his birth with God’s present hostile attitude, since God seems determined to destroy him. In other words, the God who has previously shown ...
... you – here it is! Wait for it! “Your sanctification.” Okay, what is that? It means your wholeness, your growth in God’s love. It means becoming a whole human being by the power of God’s love. God’s will is for you to be well adjusted emotionally, spiritually, sexually, and mentally. So what is the first thing Paul tells us not to do if we want to be healthy and whole human beings? “That you abstain from fornication.” That’s an old fashion word! It sounds like it came out of a tent revival ...
... near me on the Monday morning after Easter. There’s a reason why I take Mondays off! Many of us experience an “emotional hang over” after being at the peak of bliss. Many new mothers experience this. There is the great anticipation and joy of ... they will haunt you until you relent. Well, in my first semester of seminary I finally relented and began to grieve and process my emotions. It was a dark time for me. However within that dark time, I found God right there with me. I discovered that we can never ...
... Purdy’s challenges could have caused her to live the rest of her life in fear, watching out for her own safety and comfort. Instead, she is investing her life in helping others. She is pursuing opportunities to do good works. (3) The saddest emotion and least productive emotion in life is fear. Amy overcame her fear and she is having a fruitful life. Think how often the scriptures say, “Don’t be afraid.” Could it be that the opposite of faith is not unbelief but fear? That command—to live without ...
... into health when we feel down or spiritually dejected or depleted. Stories, witnesses, tales of God’s real presence in our lives, help us to remember that we are not alone and that Jesus our healer is there to strengthen us and revive us. While our emotional health may require us to stand in our inner truth, our spiritual health reminds us to stand in God’s Truth. The tools that help us to do that, whether stories, songs, relationships, or rituals, are essentially our “soul’s soup.” In Africa, a ...
... to each other’s voices in ways that are much more powerful than the ways we respond to any other sounds. Our pitch, our tone, our frequency all reveal something about what we are feeling and want to convey. Scientists at Berkeley say, humans can detect 24 kinds of emotions just in the human voice.[1] We know that must be true, because when we talk to babies, we may not speak in language, but we alter our voice to initiate a kind of bonding tone. When we sing, we pour into our songs and hymns a kind of ...
... to bounce back from. While others may have left us, we remain in pain, while our grief subsumes us. We loathe grief. We hate grief. We fear grief more than we fear death. Grief provides us a unique kind of insight into what it’s like to “die” –emotionally, spiritually, and even physically. But what we often miss is that grief also affords us an insight into what it’s like to live again, to rediscover life and a new future, what it means to laugh, to love, and to start afresh. You see, the “new ...
... than anyone. John had been a social advocate, a sincere loyalist to God, a disciplined disciple, and an Oxford professor of theology. But until his encounter at Aldersgate in which his “heart was warmed” and his spirit touched by God in an emotional and spiritual way, his faith remained an intellectual endeavor. Only after his “spiritual awakening” did the movement called Methodism take off. We love a good adrenaline rush. We cherish those lovely feel-good hormones we get from running a marathon or ...
... of those outside of our own perspectives.[1] Stories allow us not only to understand what someone else is going through but to feel it. The key to human change is not through the mind but through the heart. Our minds follow our emotions. When our emotions are activated, when empathy for others kicks in, we begin to make sense of the world from a new perspective. We begin to “understand.” We also know that stories can mimic interpersonal relationships. Our empathy for others increases when we bond with ...
... most beautiful and erotic love poems ever written, says of love: "Its flashes are flashes of fire." Which is another way of saying that love is both a many splendored thing and a many splintered one as well. It is life's most enduring and rewarding emotion. It is also its most dangerous. The Greek language in which the New Testament is primarily written knows three words which are rendered as "love" in English, and each word has a specific and special meaning. One of these words, the one used most often by ...
... time -- it doesn't matter what the issue is: marriage takes patience. And these are just the surface things. Patience requires humor, a spirit of live and let live. But mostly patience takes love. Because patience is required for coping with the other's emotional habits, with the other's incomprehensible-to-you enjoyments, with the other's weaknesses. Another essential garment for a marriage is a spirit of forbearance and forgiveness. There's a lot that needs to be endured in a marriage, a lot that requires ...
... most deaths we wonder why. A death like this one causes us to ask why even more strongly, more searchingly. Why? Why did this happen? Was it hallucination? Was it mental illness? Was it a chemically induced destruction of the power of reason? Was it a love/hate emotion suddenly tilted out of balance? Was it the power of evil and sin? Was it some incomprehensible part of a plan the purpose of which may never be understood? The question, why?, taunts us. It will for years to come. We are in the depths of pain ...
... how to be civil. Apparently, she had only one thing on her mind: getting to Jesus. Why? It is rather commonly held among commentators that the fact the woman came "prepared" to anoint Jesus indicates that the incident was not just a spontaneous burst of emotion. In all likelihood, she had heard Jesus preach, witnessed a miracle, or had her life touched in some manner by him to the point of experiencing forgiveness of her sins. Full of joyful gratitude, and determined to do something for the one who had done ...
... weeks later she discovered that she was pregnant. Hoping to avoid embarrassment, she had a quick abortion. Now she keeps having nightmares in which a baby chases her. He is crying out to be born. The dreams have gone on for months, and she is now an emotional cripple. The past is killing her. A fairly recent novel, Any Day Now, by Elizabeth Quinn, tells of a Vietnam veteran who is eaten alive with guilt because he scrambled aboard a chopper when it came to lift the wounded to safety, but it meant leaving ...
... , to your next destination. Jesus exhorts his disciples in Matthew 10. If the people do not receive you, don't get stuck. Don't waste your life away crying crocodile tears; "shake" the dust from your feet and keep on moving. Don't get put in spiritual, emotional, and psychological jail by the things other people do to you. After it's done, don't give them the keys to your jail cell by living in solitary confinements of unhappiness and pain. Get out of jail, pass go, and collect two hundred! Jesus provides a ...
... trying to be "far out" or overly dramatic. You see, He was not making the statement for the benefit of others but for our own benefit. In order to be free and healthy, we must pray for those who we think are our enemies. We must channel those emotions into something positive, or like a rattlesnake we will bite ourselves to pieces when cornered. Anger is a form of energy. We can say "forget it." But no one can do that. Energy cannot be destroyed. It can only be converted into another form of energy. Secondly ...
... very biblical to say of enemies, “Let their eyes be darkened, so that they cannot see,” as the psalmist does in Psalm 69 (v. 23), but that’s what the psalmist says. Those who wrote the psalms are very human, and they know what it is to feel strong emotion. They cry in pain. They shout with joy. They praise God with trumpet, lute, and harp. In all of life, they see reason to praise God. We have talked today about our memories of **, and now we praise God for * and for the memories we have of her. We ...
... seem very biblical to say of enemies, "Let their eyes be darkened, so that they cannot see," as the psalmist does in Psalm 69 (v. 23), but that's what the psalmist says. Those who wrote the psalms are very human, and they know what it is to feel strong emotion. They cry in pain. They shout with joy. They praise God with trumpet, lute, and harp. In all of life, they see reason to praise God. We have talked today about our memories of **, and now we praise God for * and for the memories we have of her. We ...