... more than we do, we can instead do something helpful for someone who has less. Or, instead of begrudging someone a promotion, we throw a congratulatory party for them. We do something the opposite of what the envy would lead you to do. Often, better thinking and feelings follow our actions. For another thing, we can remember that life is more than arriving at goals. Life is what we do as we head toward our goals. Life itself, not acquisition, is the main event. For a third thing, we can focus on the example ...
... kind of experience, working on another kind of problem – but witnessing to the Lord’s guidance through his previous perplexity. So most of us can remember some experience of darkness in which we were sure the light would never come – but it did. In memory we can almost feel the pain of some past experience from which we were in the midst of it, we thought we would never be delivered – but we were. It’s a tough truth, not easy to hold onto, but hold on to it we must. God will not forever leave his ...
... come here all the time with my ex. I never said you NEED a nose job. I just said it wouldn’t hurt to consider it. I really feel that I’ve grown in the past few years. Used to be I wouldn’t have given someone like you a second look. It’s been tough, but ... emotions you want to keep hidden you don’t want them to know you are angry, for instance anger is impossible to hide. If you feel it, it is registering in your face. If you do not respect someone, no matter how big a smile you paint on your face, the ...
... . It's when God breaks in, it's when we bend in front of the manger to look in and see the baby lying there and feel the full impact of the song of the angels and the worship of the shepherds. That's when it hits us. That's when the Joy ... me share a poem with you. It's titled: Cleaning Out The Heart I tried cleaning out my own heart one day. So many memories and feelings piled in the way. I knew it was cluttered but oh, what a mess, Seeing all that garbage fueled my distress. Bitterness, fear, anger and ...
... retire, I’ll probably die; I’ll probably have a heart attack!” Did you know he said that? A month, 30 days before he retired, he said, “I’ll probably die soon after I retire. Football has been my life all of my life. If I retire, I have a feeling that I may not make it.” Some of his players who heard him say that had their hearts broken. Bobby McKenna who was one of those players called Bear Bryant and said, “Bear, I’ve got to come see you. I’ve been grieved about something you’ve said ...
... for them. We don’t think enough about and pray for the translators who work diligently to make the Bible available in every language and every dialect. The Bible is a miraculous book. We should never make an idol out of the written Word, and I get the feeling that some people do but that is not our major problem. Our major problem is that we don’t pay enough attention to it. Here is God’s Word, everything we need for our salvation and the salvation of the world, and it collects dust on our bedside ...
... said, “Follow me – and I will make you become fisher’s of men.” Don’t miss this – discipleship involves accepting the task to which Jesus calls us. Note the imperative in Jesus’ call — “I will make you” —— that’s strong and direct language. Do you feel about what I do? The follower of Christ has no choice — he is a fisher of men. Jesus term in his call to the disciples. In Greek it means “to take alive.” In fishing parlance, it meant to catch fish in such a way that they ...
... I got out of his car in front of the air terminal in Lexington, and walked to my plane with a joyous stride. I can still feel the warmth of that joy four weeks later. His story is now How encouraging it would be if all of us were quick to share the story ... for love and meaning that he lashes out against society to get the attention that has been denied him. In how many w our feelings of desperation lead to destructive behavior. So can we identify? Not in the extreme of Legion, but in ways to which we’d ...
... becomes changed by our mercy. That doesn't always happen. Moussaoui is a good example. After the verdict, in which his life was spared, he gloated. He shouted out that he had won and America had lost. Not only does such an outburst increase our anger, but we may feel as though our mercy has been wasted. He didn't learn anything from our mercy. We might begin to wonder whether we can follow Jesus' teachings here. How can we let the bad guys gloat? How can we allow ourselves to appear weak? We may need to go ...
... He realized that real love is a choice, and he chose to love this woman he had married. So it is for us. We either choose to love or we choose not to. And that kind of decision is something quite apart from any particular emotions we may feel about our mate — which, as we all know, can come and go like the wind. Real love is a commitment of loyalty and faithfulness to another person, not rooted primarily in emotions. One very important adult task is coming to terms with the reality that as pleasurable as ...
... say to this woman. At last I asked if she had ever thought of going to a church for help. I will never forget the look of pure, naive shock that crossed her face. "Church!" she cried. "Why would I ever go there? I was already feeling terrible about myself. They'd just make me feel worse."1I could hardly bear hearing her sordid story. For one thing, it made me legally liable. I'm required to report cases of child abuse. I had no idea what to say to this woman. At last I asked if she had ever thought of ...
... recent years, and the internet makes defrauding easier than ever. We are too familiar with slogans such as "There's no such thing as a free lunch," or "If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is." Even when a friend gives us a gift, we feel the need to reciprocate in kind. If John remembers your birthday, then of course, you will remember his. Justification is a free gift, a gift that we receive through faith. The words justify and justification come from the court of law. Imagine a court in which a ...
... all about. Oh, yeah we visit a graveyard. And we know that at midnight or four in the morning it's dark as thunder. But the minute that sun peeks over the edge of the horizon, even when it's buried behind storm clouds or rain clouds, we can still feel its rays and we know that something is different. We know the world is somehow subtly changed. And we find that we've come not to mourn but to dance for joy because of that difference. We come because this day is "The Dawn of Forever." And difference is the ...
... Danielle ordered a Happy Meal. She got up and came back with some extra napkins. Then she began divvying up the small bag of fries into five little piles, each on its own napkin. Neumark asked her what she was doing. “My sisters and brothers will feel sad that I got french fries and they didn’t,” she explained “I’m taking them home to share.” “Sitting there in McDonald’s with Danielle,” says Heidi Neumark, “I felt rich.” (3) Little Danielle knew what is important in life and it’s not ...
... . Perhaps today, more than any other time, the Christian church needs to experience the power of our Lord's prayer for his disciples. At a dinner with some church friends, we found ourselves contemplating the violence in the world and some of us expressed a feeling of helplessness. Some of us wondered out loud if we really could make a difference in the world today. First of all, Jesus' prayer is very clear that Christians, our Lord's disciples, are in the world. We are not called to be a spiritual people ...
... he’s been to one baseball game in the six years I was playing? Never made it to the school play I was in. True, Mom was sick much of the time, but one band concert, I was the trumpet soloist! (angrily hits table) Stranger: Sure you’re not just feeling sorry for yourself? Brad: I am — I know — but I have felt so left out of his life. He played ball in the semi-pros and I tried to do the same, but never made it to first base — literally. (stifles laugh) Stranger: Say, would you like to bowl a ...
567. A Thoughtful Decision
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Dr. M. Scott Peck
... , still stands and is still exercised. Conversely, it is not only possible but necessary for a loving person to avoid acting on feelings of love. I may meet a woman who strongly attracts me, whom I feel like loving, but because it would be destructive to my marriage to have an affair, I will say vocally or in the silence of my heart, "I feel like loving you, but I am not going to." Our feelings of love may be unbounded, but our capacity to be loving is limited. Therefore we must choose the person on whom to ...
... , who wants to live under a magnifying glass? When the late Walt Disney was asked what he thought about being famous, he replied, “It feels fine when you get a choice reservation at a football game, but it’s never helped me make a good picture or command the ... Hume tells about a friend of his in Washington who woke up one morning to find his left arm paralyzed. He couldn’t feel a thing in his left hand. He rushed to the office of a neurosurgeon in Bethesda who ministered to Presidents as well as Navy ...
... their livelihood, and it was serious business. They were tired, frustrated, disappointed, and discouraged, like a salesman who has gone for days without a sale. Like a lawyer who cannot attract clients or like a qualified college graduate who cannot get a teaching job, the negative feelings run deep. When doors seem shut, know God can open them if we have faith, even if it's only the size of a mustard seed. When Peter responded to Jesus' request to take his boat out into deeper waters and let down his nets ...
... your loss. He was a good man. Good to see you. I wish it were under better circumstances." It's awkward, so you kick the ground, adjust the tie, hold a cup of coffee, or don't say anything at all. I've been to many funerals. Sometimes the preacher feels as if he must entertain us with off-color stories and funny events. At other times, the words are so flattering that you are sure that the deceased is on the fast track to canonization next to Mother Teresa. Sometimes, they don't know what to say and so they ...
... . Some sounds, of course, are neutral. Or at least situational. My spirit may always be cheered by the sound of a baby's innocent giggle, and I may always be annoyed by the shrill and strident smoke alarm; but some other sounds are more variable. They evoke different feelings on different days. Let us imagine, for example, a teenage girl, who is awaiting a phone call from the boy she likes at school. Rumor has it that he may like her, too, and is thinking of calling her to ask her out on a date. Meanwhile ...
... them all. “What’s up with the three shots?” asks the bartender. “My two closest buddies and I have gone our separate ways, and I miss them terribly,” says the guy. “See, this glass here is for Tom, this one’s Bob, and this one’s mine. I feel like we’re all drinking together, just like old times.” So every day the guy comes in and the bartender sets up three glasses. Until one day, the guy asks for just two shots. “I hate to ask,” says the bartender, “but did something happen to one ...
... souls make for an anorexic church. So – what is it that our souls are missing out on? What are we longing for that we feel we are missing out on? What is the church not offering? A recent survey revealed 56% of people are afraid of missing out on ... s life and approval. Powering down means you let go of control and relax into faith. FOMO cannot prevail over faith. People with FOMO feel like losers. People with faith in Christ know they are winners. With Christ, you are never missing out. God's grace is an ...
... Driven by a 20‑year‑old woman who was later arrested for drunk driving, the car came through the ceiling and dropped right over the bed of the couple who owned the house. “The thing was right in front of my face,” said the 65-year-old husband. “I could feel the heat from the exhaust system coming through the sheets.” Still, that wasn’t enough to wake his wife. He had to shake her awake after the crash. (4) Being able to sleep like that is a gift, and I hope that some of you are so gifted. But ...
... you are not out there looking for missing persons, you don’t have any hooks in the water, you are not trying to fish for people, or if you really do want to do what you know the Lord wants you to do and you feel inadequate, and you feel like you might make things worse, and you feel like it would be better not to try than to try and fail) then, there is a story that Jesus told His disciples that you need to hear. It puts this whole matter of missing persons and what your role is and what their ...