... the bandages off and handed her a mirror. Her scarred cheek was a thing of the past. Then he waited for her reaction. Many patients are overjoyed when they first see their new, improved image. But her reaction was uncertain; she expressed no real positive emotion. He waited a few seconds, then he asked, "What do you think? Do you like it?" She responded, "I really don't see any improvement." Dr. Maltz said he was stunned. His surgery had been totally successful. Her face was flawless. So he asked, "Would ...
... real sense. Not just saying, 'Hey, I love you,' and letting it go at that. The most important thing in our relationship were those talks we had...after I got to know him and we had shed a few tears and had dropped all our defenses and our retention of emotions, and could look eye to eye, man to man, and say, 'I love you.'" (2) Alan Loy McGinnis in THE FRIENDSHIP FACTOR says we should look to Deuteronomy 6 in which we are told to talk to our children "while you walk by the way." He tells of Henry Luce ...
... . The tiredness that comes from any physical activity is all worthwhile, and the spirit sometimes soars... "To help build a home for people who have never lived in a decent place and never dreamed of owning a home of their own can bring both a lot of joy and an emotional response. One has only to have had the experience to know what it meansto the one who is giving time and energy and to the one who is receiving the new home. "Soon after we began our work with Habitat, we asked Tom Hall, who had come to the ...
... . Knofel Staton in his book, HOME CAN BE A HAPPY PLACE says that the three ingredients of a happy marriage are leaving, cleaving and a united life. I like that concept of leaving and cleaving. We leave our parents. How necessary that is. Marriage provides the emotional distance from parents that is part of God's plan. Psychiatrists tell us that the loss of a parent is one of the most devastating elements in the life of a teen ager or young adult. However, it is remarkable how much less devastating that loss ...
... was Go Away, Son of Timaeus. Bartimaeus was disadvantaged. All of us are, to a certain extent. We all have our handicaps. They may not be physical, they may be emotional. They may be handicaps of attitude. Perhaps one of the most dangerous handicaps is that of living a privileged life, because we never develop the mental, and emotional, and spiritual toughness that is required for dealing with life situations. In Jerry Kramer's book, DISTANT REPLAY, he tells about his days with the Green Bay Packers, the ...
... so afraid they cried out. In order to calm them Jesus spoke those words that are so common in the New Testament: "Have no fear." ONE OF THE KEY MESSAGES OF THE GOSPEL IS 'HAVE NO FEAR!' Don't be afraid. Fear is, of course, an universal emotion. Everybody is afraid of something. We are born with two fears already present according to psychologists fear of loud noises and fear of falling. It does not take us long, however, to accumulate many othersfear of the dark, fear of lightning and thunder, fear of dogs ...
... is a very appropriate response to perceived injustice. Robert Polhill, when he was released by his kidnappers in Lebanon last April, said that he maintained his sanity by striving to maintain his anger at these terrorists who had abducted him. Polhill knew that he needed the emotional and mental energy from that anger if he were to remain sharp under such trying conditions. His anger was most appropriate and he used it in a positive way. Of course, now that he is home, he will want to let go of his anger ...
... support of a groupa group in which she shared with others about her eating problems. Soon she was inviting her overweight friends over and pretty soon they were meeting every week and bringing friends with them to give and receive emotional support. That was the beginning of Weight Watchers International, Inc. The rest is history. Group support is a valuable resource. Group support is what the church is all about. One of the greatest of New Testament scholars, Dr. C.H. Dodd, said that as the years came ...
... stress. Many very ordinary people do as well. St. Paul writes, "So we do not lose heart. Though our outer nature is wasting away, our inner nature is being renewed every day." He means by the "outer nature wasting away," that life is taking its toll--physically, emotionally, mentally. St. Paul knew what it was to face hardship, and he knew what those hardships could do to us. As someone has said, "If no one knows the trouble you've seen, you've had a face-lift." And it's true. Life takes its toll ...
... life was still empty. The second little pig read in the newspaper that a famous pig was coming to town to deliver a series of sermons on the subject of love. The second little pig attended all the sermons and was filled with enthusiasm and emotions. His emotional high lasted four days, and then his life became pretty much as empty as it had been before. The third little pig invited two other pig families over to their house one evening and all the little pigs began to share their life stories, continuing ...
... . They can’t enjoy today for worrying about what tomorrow will bring. If it’s sunny today, don’t enjoy it too much. We’ll pay for it tomorrow. Some of you may be married to somebody like that. Hugh Missildine says that fear is one of the earliest emotions that a baby experiences, and that all fears tend to be variations of three basic ones: the fear of falling, the fear of loud noises, and the fear of being abandoned. Most of us learn to deal with the first two. Some of us have problems with heights ...
... of excuses to justify his failure to act. Camus writes, "He did not answer the cry for help. That is the man he was." (3) We would have done better, we tell ourselves, and yet all around us are people in need. Not just physical needs. Emotional needs can be more devastating than physical needs. The most serious disease in America today according to many experts is loneliness. Many of us could hear cries for help right in our own neighborhood, if we would listen. Or our own families. Why do we not listen ...
... Our prayers are not that bad, of course. But few of us are willing to settle for our "daily bread." Simple petitions, "Give us this day our daily bread and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us...." Of all of our emotions there are two that are the most destructive to us; two that keep us in bondage; two that keep us from achieving our noblest aspirations and grandest dreams. The two are fear and guilt. That's what psychologists tell us. Notice how Jesus deals with both of ...
... He had the shades drawn. He turned inward. He was feeling sorry for himself. He could not sleep at night. Just to pass time he would sit and watch television all night long until he couldn’t hold his eyes open any longer. He would fall asleep from emotional as well as physical exhaustion. A close friend came to see him. Bruce said, "I don’t want to see anybody. I don't want to talk to anybody." This friend walked in anyway, looked at Bruce and said three words, "Reestablish your faith." That’s all he ...
... tell him how grateful we are? Will you thank him for us—thank him for giving me back my son?” (1) Mrs. Alvarez wanted to say thank you, but she was understandably overwrought with emotion. Surely that was true of some of these lepers whom Jesus healed. They would have said “thank you” but they were too caught up in the emotion of the moment. So only one of the ten returned to express his gratitude. Why is it important to take the time to say thank you? There are some practical lessons here that some ...
... a note: NOW YOU KNOW. There is not much in life that is free. Most of us have to work. That is the first thing to be said. Here is the second. WORK IS NOT ONLY ESSENTIAL TO OUR PHYSICAL SURVIVAL. IT IS ALSO ESSENTIAL TO OUR MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL WELL-BEING. As one author has pointed out. "Work you enjoy is the best guarantee you can find for a long, happy, and healthy life." The magazine NATION'S BUSINESS did a survey asking its readers to select the ten top business people America produced in its first 200 ...
... did. Maybe Joseph wanted revenge when he was first sold into slavery. Maybe he thought of ways to get even with his brothers. But as years passed he saw God's hand at work in his life and his anger began to subside. All his buried thoughts and emotions surfaced the day his brothers stood before him. They came in desperate need of his help. Some suggest that in Joseph's long conversations with his brothers, he was trying to decide what to do with them. Should he get even or should he forgive them? He was ...
... questioned the strength of each person's faith. One night during the revival while, he was sitting on a wooden bench with his grandparents, the preacher had worked himself up to a furious pitch about their shaky loyalty to the Lord. At the height of emotion the preacher reached behind him into a chest, grabbed two snakes and tossed them into the crowd. Apparently, the preacher thought the snakes would be the perfect object lesson. People in the crowd couldn't tell if the snakes were poisonous or not by just ...
... growth.(4) Valerie Carnes had a similar experience. She attended a worship service for the first time in many years. As the service began, she began sensing God's presence in a way she never had before. She began to feel lost. Waves of emotions battered her so strongly that she felt she was drowning. By the time the Old Testament lesson was read Valerie was hiding behind her sunglasses. She realized by now that she was broken, burned, bruised, and that she could not save herself. Valerie was sensing ...
... circle and each participant was asked to say what he or she was especially thankful for. Many of the usual blessings were mentioned, but a small, timid, pale-faced young girl said, "Oh, I'm just thankful that I am thankful." (2) That seems like a particularly healthy emotion to me. We ought to be thankful that we are thankful. FOR ONE THING, WHEN WE ARE THANKFUL WE ARE AWARE OF OUR DEBTS. Years ago the English poet, Laurence Binyon, wrote about the dead of World War I. "They shall not grow old, as we that ...
... an IQ of 81. He was withdrawn from school after three months ” and was considered backward by school officials. The child enrolled in school two years late due to scarlet fever and respiratory infections. And he was going deaf. His emotional health was poor. He was stubborn, aloof, and showed very little emotion. He liked mechanics. He also liked to play with fire and burned down his father's barn. He showed some manual dexterity, but used very poor grammar. But he did want to be a scientist or a railroad ...
... named Bartimaeus. He's a nice enough fellow, but I wish he wouldn't get quite so carried away with the hymns. Particularly when we're singing "Amazing Grace" and he comes to that part about "I once was blind, but now I see..." Really, that kind of emotional expression is out of place here. Next to Bartimaeus sits a woman. Her clothes are a little too gaudy. She could use some lessons in good taste. I don't mean to gossip, but I understand that sometime back she was caught in the very act of adultery. Jesus ...
... and forth, trying to avoid these huge linemen, you suddenly heard a voice call out from the sidelines, "Sidney, let them have the ball. I'll buy you another one." (6) We can appreciate that. We want to protect our children not only from physical hurts but from emotional hurts as well. And yet we realize that where there is no hurt, there is no growth. If you learn to roller skate, you're going to fall. If you learn to deal with people, you've got to learn to deal with criticism and sarcasm and demeaning ...
... not take a holiday. And a funeral is not the best time to talk about anything meaningful. Our minds are too filled with the emotion of the moment. Thus, we confront our lesson for the day from Paul's Epistle to the Thessalonians: "But we do not want ... Christian and a pagan way of dealing with death. St. Paul does not tell us not to grieve. Grieving is the most natural of all human emotions. But we do not grieve as those who have no hope. HOPE IS THE CHRISTIAN'S WAY OF DEALING WITH LIFE. You lose your job. If ...
... the rules." But David is not satisfied. He meets an older student from this neighborhood who also has been deeply influenced by the system. He cannot leave the school, much as he would like to, because his father is a trustee. But he says with deep emotion to his younger friend: "Don't let it happen to you, Davey! Get out! Get away from this dish towel religion!" As Stan Mooneyham says in his book, DANCING ON THE STRAIT & NARROW, Orthodox Jews are not the only ones with a suffocating, legalistic dish towel ...