... the Lord. The logic usually runs like this: "I don't like me. And God is my creator. Therefore, I will have nothing more to do with God. He messed me up the first time. I won't give him a chance to foul me up again!"\n Low self-esteem can also adversely affect your family life. A teenager who has difficulty with self-love might begin to overdress and run up some high clothing bills. Or she might begin to "underdress." Her dad begins to notice and complains, "You're not going to school dressed like that, are ...
... the innocent comment to a six-year-old plinking away on a church piano: "Not bad, honey, but you'll never be a concert pianist." Other internal roadblocks pop up like dandelions in spring. Self-doubts and temptations to abandon that quest abound. They appear as low self-esteem or self-deceptions, as a voice that says, "Ahh, I'll never play Carnegie Hall, so why play at all." (As if Carnegie Hall is the only place worth playing, and a living room isn't okay or enjoyable.) Sad to say, some of these roadblocks ...
... . What the ancient storytellers were trying to get across is that total preoccupation with self leads to destruction. However, there is another kind of self-love that is desirable. It is called self-esteem, self-respect, and acceptance that we are persons of worth because God is our Father and we belong to God's family. In his book Self-Esteem (Waco, Texas: Word Books, 1982, p. 91), Robert Schuller provides a litany of what this discovery means: I may be young; I may be old, But I am somebody, For I am ...
... need is pride in being human - "Don’t worry about humility," he says. It is pride that you need. Here again there is a certain amount of truth in the claim, for we all need a certain amount of self-respect and a healthy self-love. But self-esteem without wisdom ends up as pride, arrogance, and egotism. This is strongly condemned by Jesus, for he taught many times that whoever exalts himself shall be humbled. So we are forced to the conclusion that Solomon was truly wise when he asked God to give him ...
... better than I do now."1 III. There Is an Inward Love That Should Be Energized Jesus closes by saying, "You shall love your neighbor as yourself." Now there is a difference between self-love and self-worship. There is a lot of talk today about self-esteem, and self-esteem is certainly important. But I am convinced that when a person loves God the way they ought to love God, and then loves others the way they ought to love others, then they will love themselves the way they ought to love themselves. You see ...
... . Even though the 128 people studied had identical religious education, their concepts of God differed markedly. The researchers found that people with high self-esteem ” those who liked and trusted themselves ” had loving, accepting images of God. Those with low self-esteem ” guilty, pessimistic people ” had punitive, rejecting images of God. (5) The value of a doctrine like the Trinity is that it gives us a universal concept of God that is not altered by subjective experience. Still, we have to ...
... of inferiority demanding compensation. He had come from a poor family and had grown up with a determinator to prove his worth. His wife was from an old, aristocratic family; and without meaning to do so, she was continually needling his self-esteem. This led him to say things about her and her family which in term pricked her pride. Small things, ordinarily passed over lightly, were magnified all out of proportion. Discussions became quarrels and the quarrels left deep, smoldering resentments. Resentments ...
... do it." So it is that despite all the evidence to the contrary a man moves out of his weakness, doubts, and excuses and does more than he formerly believed he could. Dr. Samuel Johnson provides us a powerful instance of how love bolsters self-esteem. "He expected everyone he met to be disgusted or terrified by his looks and his nervous mannerisms, his convulsive starts and twitches. For such a young man, the approbation of an experienced and still attractive woman can be a lifesaver."* * John Wain, Samuel ...
... rate usually fostered by poverty if we want to defend it. We must pick and choose some good examples of people who have come out of poverty and "made good" so that we can hide the hundreds and thousands of people unheard of who die in misery and without self-esteem in their distress. What is happening here? Have I changed my mind and even my sermon title before we have hardly begun? Have I talked myself out of the truth of the text? Not really. But we must be plain from the beginning that when we speak of ...
35. In Search of Self
Judges 2:6-3:6
Illustration
Larry Powell
... on Sunday morning, and if it goes beyond that, we begin shaking our watches. It is as if we believe we must have our food, news, entertainment, and religion in short doses. 2. We have apparently fallen victim to a low self-esteem. Robert Schuller has written a new book titled Self-Esteem: The New Reformation, in which he proposes that the reason we are willing to settle for second and third best is because we have such a low opinion of ourselves. We will not pursue that observation here, but will simply ...
... us. We are God~s own children. We can throw back our shoulders and walk proudly and vigorously in the world. We no longer need to be dominated by our fears but by our faith. Our level of energy is related to our attitude and to our feeling of self-esteem. AND FINALLY, OUR ENERGY LEVEL IS RELATED TO OUR SENSE OF PURPOSE. If we are involved in a cause we really believe in, we find the energy to see it through. The best way to cure drooping arms and weak knees ” in St. Paul's picturesque language ” is to ...
... are so valuable that I died to save you." Let me tell you about a young man named Michael. Michael had real trouble accepting himself. He didn't get the respect he needed at home. He never fit in with any particular group. He had trouble making friends. His self-esteem was in the basement. One day in high school, Michael recalls, he looked in the mirror and realized that he hated himself. He writes, "That day, I made a decision to just exist in this life, to get through it, and to spend the rest of my time ...
... , and therefore, better feelings for ourselves and others.[1] This is however easier said than done. For generally, not just in our culture, but in any culture, critique elicits critique. Praise elicits praise. Critiquing well therefore requires maturity, forethought, self-esteem, and a non-angry approach. Being a kind person doesn’t mean never critiquing what feels wrong or upsetting or never expressing one’s disapproval if one feels slighted or hurt. But it’s vitally important to learn the ...
... God’s assessment of us. Here is where the disciples’ strength lies. They may be going into the blue yonder as innocent lambs. But these are powerful, strong, secure lambs, blessed by the Lamb Himself and powered by the Holy Spirit of God. Their feelings of self-esteem, of success, of mission, of peace come not from their success or failure in the field, but from their relationship with the One True God of all people. When God fills your heart with love, peace, and security, you can go out into the world ...
... call to the Kingdom, you, literally, supply all of the needs and the hungers and the emptinesses of the self. You make yourself fit to live with yourself, because you are lifted out of the trivialities and into significance, and, therefore, into self-esteem. For no man can esteem himself unless his life is significant. John Wannamaker of Philadelphia, who became one of the nation’s greatest philanthropists, looked back over his life and confessed: "The most important lesson I learned is that I have the ...
... world but wise in the sight of God. Paul has made this point repeatedly in chapters 1–3, but he reiterates it here in rhetorically deliberate summary fashion to call anyone who confided in anything other than the saving power of God and who derived essential self-esteem from anything other than God’s care (seen in the cross) back to an absolute trust in God. 3:19–20 The initial word, For, indicates that Paul is offering an explanation for the command and advice he gave in verse 18. Although the NIV ...
... horrible reputation. It’s all over town… We’re worried sick and we’re scared. We’re at the end of our rope. We don’t know what to do with her. She’s emotionally ill. She needs help.” Well, I met with Betty and they were right about her self-esteem. It was non-existent. She walked all slumped over. Her hair was dirty and scraggly, her clothes unkempt and out of style. She wore no make-up. She could not look me in the eye. Most of the time she stared at the floor and when she looked up, her ...
... joyful response to the truth: that the King of kings notices our work and responds "Well done, thou good and faithful servant." Work is part of the plan of God. Work is essential not only to our financial well-being but also to our sense of self-esteem, our feeling of satisfaction with life in general, and as therapy in times of great distress. Our work allows us to be partners with God in the provision of the world's needs. It is important then that we enthusiastically give our best, whatever our task may ...
... slink up to Jesus, as would be appropriate for an outcast and unclean person. He jumps up and stands tall before the Messiah. He throws off anything that would stand between him and the Savior. As pastor David McKenna says, "Posture always gives clues to self-esteem." (2) Bartimaeus had probably spent most of his life sitting by the side of the road, begging for charity from passers-by. But when he hears that Jesus wants to see him, he stands up in full dignity before the Lord. I believe there is something ...
... rest of the hierarchy of needs are unimportant. BUT HE DOES SAY TO US THAT TRUE FULFILLMENT IS FOUND IN MOVING BEYOND OUR OWN NEEDS TO THE NEEDS OF OTHERS. The best way to boost your own self-esteem is not to walk around with your chest puffed out. The best way to bolster your self-esteem is to bolster the self-esteem of others. This is what humility is all about. It is not about how you feel about yourself as much as how you make others feel about themselves. Jesus made everyone he came into contact feel ...
John 3:16-17, 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a, 1 John 4:7-19
Sermon
Billy D. Strayhorn
... apparent. And friends, that's exactly how God accepts us and loves us. "As Is" no strings attached, "with all faults", whether or not immediately apparent. This past week there was a Ziggy cartoon in the paper which was great. Ziggy is standing in front of the window of the Self-Esteem Clinic and the nurse says: "We'd like to help you sir, but we have to draw the line somewhere." (3) You'll never experience that with God. God knows our name and calls us by name. And God's love is an "As Is" love. God's love ...
... .” Henry J. Kaiser looked the young lawyer squarely in the eye and answered, “I wasn’t there.” Do you think that Henry J. Kaiser found fulfillment in his work? Of course he did. It was an extension of his personality. Work is important to our self-esteem. That is one reason we need to help young men and women from difficult backgrounds to find jobs. Work helps give us a sense of identity. Work is important to our sense of personal dignity. Work is also related to our sense of satisfaction about life ...
48. Held in High-Esteem
Illustration
Dr. James Dobson
According to one study, young men with high self-esteem shared some common childhood influences. There were three major characteristics of their families. (1) The high-esteem group was clearly more loved and appreciated at home than the low-esteem group. (2) The high-esteem group came from homes where parents had been significantly more strict in their approach to ...
... burden would ultimately weigh us down and defeat us. And it was never Christ’s intention that we would think of ourselves with self-disgust worms of the dust, of no value, hopeless sinners. We are of ultimate worth. Christ gave his life for us. This is where positive self-esteem comes from. It comes from knowing that even though we are not perfect, we are loved. We are loved by the Creator God who sent His son to die for us. There is a story of a young boy from the slums of London named James, whose only ...
... to always have to sit alone in the congregation amid all those families." A single person needs to know that what he or she is doing and being here is worthwhile. Singles need married people who can share their joys, sorrows, and reinforce their self-esteem and vice versa. Paul speaks of the church as Christ’s body in which "if one member suffers, all suffer together; if one member is honored, all rejoice together." Singles need to share their lives with marrieds, and marrieds need to share their lives ...