... to let our light shine? Tony Campolo tells the sad story from his high school days of how he failed to be a Christian. There was a boy in his class named Roger who was gay. He was tormented relentlessly by his classmates. They abused him emotionally and physically. One day, the abuse reached an unspeakable level. Five boys dragged Roger into the shower room, shoved him into the corner, and urinated all over him. Around two o’clock the next morning, Roger went down into the basement of his house and hung ...
... of the science behind mood rings.” The plot line of one story involved a secret war between two candy companies, See’s Candies and Whitman’s Samplers. Ackerman says it takes a lot of careful editing to ensure his stories don’t stir up too many strong emotions in his listeners. He doesn’t want them to get so interested or excited that they can’t fall asleep. As he says, “I’ll be like, ‘Whoa, I got a little excited there,’ so I might try to cut that out.” He must be doing something ...
... with status which in turn often signals some kind of emptiness within. People often attempt to inflate a poor self-image by immersing themselves in positions of glitter and grandeur. The “sparkle” tends to keep them from feeling their deep-seated emotions of loneliness, hopelessness, and despair. A yearning for status. A fascination with celebrity. A longing for attention. Those who obsessively post on social media to gain the strokes that keep them feeling temporarily sated day to day. These are not ...
... story is also about a loss. But this time, it’s about a son –not a little boy gone missing in the supermarket, but a teenager perhaps who has gotten into a bit of a mess, who has bucked his parents, and has left home on his own without the emotional maturity to do so. Now that’s a great loss! Imagine for a moment that your teenage son or daughter, or perhaps grandson or granddaughter has come of age to drive. He or she takes the car and one night, you get that phone call that no parent or grandparent ...
... and other items made in Haiti. Just recently she had been called part-time to be the preacher of the Amistad Chapel at the national headquarters of the United Church of Christ in Cleveland, Ohio. The Reverend Doctor Janet Ross sang all the spirituals with an emotional exude that you just knew was authentic. One song I recall very well was “I Want Jesus to Walk with Me.” I have Janet’s permission to quote from the following email: “There always are multiple layers going on in my head when I sing ...
... longing to be seen and loved gnaws at our heart and soul. When we keep ourselves from God, we also frequently keep ourselves from others, creating not only a shameful feeling inside of ourselves but a deep longing for relationship, companionship, and emotional intimacy which can come out in other less healthy ways. It takes courage to stand before God and those we love and to admit our faults, hoping for love, forgiveness, and acceptance, especially if we are truly repenting and desiring for reconciliation ...
... If you are the Son of God. . .” The devil wasn’t ignorant. He knew exactly who Jesus is. But our values stem from our identity. One of the most effective ways to derail a person is to attack their identity, who they are at their core. That’s why emotional abuse can be as devastating to a person as physical abuse. A Canadian psychiatrist named Eric Berne had a theory that most of us develop a “core story” about who we are and about our inherent worth by the time we reach five years of age. By five ...
... years after the attack, Christopher attended a church youth event. And at this event, he learned about the new life he could find by trusting Jesus as Lord of his life. He became a Christian that night, and this started a process of emotional healing in his life. In 1996, a man named David McAllister confessed to the kidnapping and attempted murder of Christopher Carrier. McAllister had been an employee of Chris’ father. When Mr. Carrier caught McAllister drinking on the job, he fired him. The vicious ...
... s interesting. Tell me more.” “That’s interesting. Why would you say that?” “That’s interesting. Why would you ask that?” “I want to hear everything you have to say, just not in that manner.” These responses have the potential to deflate the negative emotion in the room and draw attention to the unkindness, but in a respectful manner. Nine times out of ten, these responses will help get you out of a jam. Compliment courageously. Okay, this may seem impossible to do, but it can work wonders ...
... , “True prayer means nothing else but giving the final drop of your soul’s blood to reach God.” At some point all of us are going to find ourselves in a seemingly hopeless and helpless situation. The problem, we believe, exceeds our emotional and physical resources. Other times we will be consumed by the guilt of our sin and the mismanagement of our lives, thinking there can be no redemption for our wayward soul. The situation confronting us seemingly defies a solution. Apprehensive, we await our ...
... , rules, laws, rituals, and traditions that had more to do with social and financial obligations than with true ethical considerations. He noted that often while the Pharisees accused people of not living up to code, they had little compassion emotionally for people in difficult positions, in oppressed circumstances, those afflicted with illnesses or grief, or those widowed or divorced. Jesus takes the Jewish definitions of sin, repentance, and atonement and redefines them in ways that emphasize God’s ...
... and Sadducees who took the easy path and avoided the hard times. They were going to be different than the Pharisees and Sadducees. They were going to walk back down the mountain, and they would keep walking. They were not seeking some kind of emotional, religious high. They were creating change. They were different. Some traditions say that Jesus, Moses, and Elijah talked for a while on that mountain. We don’t know what they might have talked about, and I guess it really doesn’t matter all that ...
... in front of us, especially in times of preparation or stress, like a mirage in the desert or a Disney fantasy. This is the case as Jesus is preparing for his three-year mission, a mission he knows will be hard and will require all of the emotional and spiritual strength and endurance he has inside of him. In a sense, he has been driven into the desert for “spiritual boot camp training” by the Holy Spirit, exactly because he will need to be prepared for a self-sacrificial mission, one that will require ...
... , are produced by disorder and disarray in our lives, not by order and control. Think about it. Unexpected changes of plans, unfamiliar people, unforeseen events –these generate new ideas and relationships. Disorder is integral to our spiritual and emotional health. In opposition to that, our inclination for tidiness in our lives can mask a deep and debilitating fragility that keeps us from innovating and growing. Muddiness and messiness birth new things, grow ideas, generate thoughts, create new ...
... , belief is not only about what we think. Belief resides not only in our heads, but in our hearts. In the Bible, the heart isn’t simply the physical heart muscle that keeps beating and keeps us alive. The heart stands for the entire person - our mind, emotions, and total being. To convey this larger sense of believing with our whole selves, we might say, “Trust in God, trust also in me.” Trust is not a one-time action. It’s an ongoing relationship. It’s part belief in our heads, and it’s also ...
... call it in the Christian tradition, the “Festival of the Christian Home,” many of you may be thinking about that person in your life who serves as your best advocate, supporter, booster, and truth teller. That special person has given you coping skills, emotional support, and wisdom to help you navigate life in better and more positive ways. I hope you will take today to thank them and appreciate them, even as you also take time to strengthen and renew your personal relationship with Jesus in the person ...
... ). As we said when we talked about the “Way” of Jesus, “eternal life” in this sense is not something we look for in the hereafter, but something we can have right now –a fully intimate, personal relationship with God, in which we “know” God spiritually, emotionally, deeply, and truly. We bond with God in a way that makes us “one” with God. Jesus explains to his disciples that he has had this relationship with God himself as he completed his mission on earth. He now offers that same kind of ...
... did this young couple take this action? After age 15, children age out of Ukrainian orphanages. Without social supports, some of them end up on the streets. Even though the Farrells had four other daughters, they believed God would give them all the emotional, spiritual and financial resources they needed to provide a family for this young teen. In 2015, Wendy Farrell went further. She founded the 1U Project to provide support for an orphanage in Lviv, Ukraine. [pron. LeVu, Ukraine]. When God gave her the ...
... growing up. He describes this pastor, a friend of his father’s, as “one of the kindest, gentlest human beings I ever knew.” The pastor had once confessed to Rev. Brown’s father that he had grown up with a stepmother who abused him physically and emotionally. Sometimes in her anger, she would lock him outside in the yard all night. He would bang on the door, crying and begging to be let back in. No matter how bad the weather conditions outside, she never let him in. The next morning, she would deny ...
... carry around resentments for many years—something many of us are guilty of doing. Someone has said that harboring resentments is like taking poison and waiting for the other guy to die. Someone else has said that letting hatred simmer within us, eating at our emotions and our body, is like burning down our house to get rid of rats. C. S. Lewis once observed that he had finally forgiven a man who had been dead for more than thirty years. Imagine that--carrying around negative feelings toward somebody for ...
... owner? If so, you know that cats cannot be coerced. It goes inherently against their nature. The more you try to coerce a cat, the more it will resist and demand to go its own way. You can try to entice it, lure it, or connect with it on an emotional level, but you likely won’t succeed in trying to command it. Now try to get 10 of these sweet, furry, independently minded creatures to serve a common interest! Not likely to happen! But put out 10 food bowls, and you won’t have to say a thing. Their ...
3072. What Can One Person Do?
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Maxie Dunnam
I was sitting in a restaurant recently, not eavesdropping, but I couldn’t help overhearing the conversation of a group of ladies at the next table. One said, rather emotionally, “It’s a disgraceful state of affairs, but what can one person do?” I resisted involving myself with those ladies, but I wanted to share the word of an unknown poet: There is at least one useful and highly important task in this world... which will not be done unless ...
3073. The Ease of Stress
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Maxie Dunnam
By law, the Tokyo City Zoo in Japan must be closed for two days each month. The law was necessary because zoo officials discovered the animals were showing signs of extreme emotional distress from being constantly exposed to the public. If that is true of animals, how much more true is it of us human beings? We are constantly under stress -- especially as we are exposed to the public. We need to take time -- time to rest our bodies, time to let ...
... are staying tethered to email and internet. It is simply the next extension of what I discovered about two weeks after I bought my first laptop computer some 25 years ago: because we can do work anywhere, we never stop working, especially if the work is mental, emotional, virtual, or expected of us. Let me tell you it was demanding to spend some recent time in a desert where there was little internet service, and cell phone service was available if you stood on a table with your left arm in the air as an ...
... of "peace with justice"). You don't need Jesus dying on a cross for what everyone already finds easy. We say we do it out of love. To ask more would- be to risk provoking a crisis in their lives which might blow them away. You are so morally and emotionally fragile, aren't you glad that you have a sensitive, caring, affirming pastor like me to protect you? Of course, there is a good chance that you're smart enough to see through my claims of pastoral love and protection. You know why I don't ask more of you ...