... him for thirteen years until his death. Martha could have taken revenge on an abusive, unfaithful husband. Instead, she forgave him and the sister-in-law with whom he had an affair. As Martha said in her interview, “I no longer had the strength to hold grudges. I didn’t want to waste the rest of my life on bitterness.” What’s true of forgiveness is, likewise, true of temptation. Ask the Savior to help you, Comfort, strengthen, and keep you. He is willing to aid you. He will carry you through. PRAYER ...
... Spirit said to me, “Get over it.” If everyone didn’t follow Jesus why should you think everyone would follow you? That’s grandiosity to the ultimate degree. So I have learned over the years to agree to disagree and move on without holding a grudge. I heard a country song the other day entitled, “Anyway.” It reminded me of something I’ve used for years. It goes like this: People are illogical, unreasonable and self-centered, Love them anyway. If you are good, people will accuse you of ulterior ...
... desire to hurt someone else because you have been hurt? Have you secretly delighted in the misfortune of another? Maybe delighted is too strong a word – Have you had that smiling feeling – while he or she got what they deserved? Are you still bearing a grudge against someone who did you wrong, though that one has sought to make amends? Is there still just a small fire of resentment burning inside you because you’ve not forgiven that one who stole some happiness from you or caused you some pain? Why ...
... moral for a Christian to wager, I would be willing to bet that those of you here this morning who are tithers do not feel that your giving is painful. People who tithe do not normally complain about the church asking for money. It is the grudging giver, the one who has not experienced the joy of tithing, the rewards of generosity, who register the complaint “The church is always talking about money.” My conviction, based on the witness of countless Christians, is that in order to move to the place where ...
... risen from the dead”, the valley of the shadow of death is really the gate of heaven. The darkness where God is - the darkness of death, becomes the place of light where all the trumpets sound and we are ushered with joy into the presence of the father. Tremble and grudge as we will at the darkness, we stride on in confidence, knowing that in the darkness in the light, God was and is…And underneath us are his everlasting arms.
... That’s the ultimate meaning of the freedom Christ gives: To be reconciled. Listen friends, if there is anyone from whom you feel estranged, if you are burdened by the awful feeling that you are separated from God or some other person, if you are holding a grudge, or bearing a great burden of guild for some sin or failure, you have not yet claimed the full grave available to you through Christ and his cross. Release and reconciliation is what we see from the exit perspective of freedom and that release and ...
282. Perceived Enemies
Luke 7:36-50
Illustration
Harold Warlick
... a note which read: "So you finally found me, you wealthy (blankety-blank)." You see, a worker was so filled with resentment he thought he could destroy the satisfaction of the person who had enough money to buy a Cadillac. Actually, the worker's grudges and resentments had infested his own mind and his everyday job. The satisfaction being destroyed was his own. Thus he made his work-life a slave to his perceived enemies. The greatness of Christianity lies not in its development of small pockets of congenial ...
... bin Laden. Mr. bin Laden is no mad man gone wild; he is a holy man gone fanatic. He is to the Muslim religion what the Ku Klux Klan is to Christianity. In his twisted view of God, he has declared a Holy War against the United States in a grudge match that dates back to the Crusades. For this cause his followers are willing to give their lives as martyrs. When I read the story of Mr. bin Laden, I come away pondering that statement out of Mitchner's play, “If he had a different God he would be a ...
... religious acts. Church-going, Bible- reading, careful financial giving, even time tabled prayer do not make a man a good man. The fundamental question is, how is a man’s heart towards God and towards his fellow men? And heart there are enmity, bitterness, grudges, pride, not all of the outward religious observances in the world will make him anything other than a hypocrite.” (William Barclay, The Gospel of Mark, The Daily Study Bible pp. 170—171) II That leads to the second stake we need to nail down ...
... to go to hell!" "I want you to go to hell." That's really what a relationship that has moved into conflict without forgiveness amounts to, doesn't it? Hell is the place where justice is never tempered by mercy, where relationships are never mended, where grudges grow and grace takes a holiday. Hell is eternity apart from God's forgiving love, and hell is the prison of our unforgiveness into which we lock both our enemies and ourselves with no parole hearings. It's a bit like playing Monopoly and landing on ...
... anything that could be construed as worship or absolute loyalty to any earthly sovereign. It just wasn't going to happen. In spirit they were slaves to no one; and their tenacious fidelity to their nation and their God earned the grudging respect of many of their conquerors. But if Jesus' interlocutors were talking about a spiritual autonomy and resilience6 that gave the lie to political subjugation, Jesus was talking about something deeper yet, something that challenged their confident identity as people ...
287. God's Banquet Feast
Luke 14:1-14
Illustration
Alex Gondola
... will get along famously. And that at that Banquet Feast, you and I may well find ourselves seated next to, and engaging in conversation with, people we presently can't stand (or who can't stand us). But the old anger, hurt, and grudges will be gone, and reconciliation will come. At God's Table, the barriers that keep people apart rich/poor, upperclass/lowerclass, black/white, Republican/Democrat, gay/straight, friend/foe, the dividing walls of hostility will come smashing down. The crash will be greater ...
... address, the Bank of Italy had refused to exchange his defunct lira for the new euro currency. (3) There are so many people whose lives are just like that. They are hanging on to all the old stuff of their lives. Old habits, old hurts, old wounds, old grudges. And as a result, they've locked themselves up in a tomb from which they can't escape. They are holding on to what they think is their only fortune. When in truth, there is a treasure more valuable than anything we can think of or imagine. A treasure ...
Leviticus 19:1-2, 15-18, Psalm 1:1-6, Matthew 22:34-40, 1 Thessalonians 2:1-8
Bulletin Aid
Amy C. Schifrin
Confession And Forgiveness Leader: In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. All: Amen. Leader: You shall not hate in your heart. You shall not take vengeance or bear a grudge, but you shall love your neighbor as yourself. All: We are guilty, O God, of creating burdens for others to bear. We are guilty, O God, of expecting others to do what we are unwilling to do. We do not practice what we preach. We set ourselves up as little ...
290. As Forgiving As Children
Matthew 5:21-26
Illustration
Leo F. Buscalgia
... , no recriminations," Buscalgia writes. There it was, a brief and honest exchange of angry feelings, an even briefer cooling off period, and all was forgiven. "Children are certainly much more forgiving than adults," Buscalgia concludes. "Somewhere in the process of growing up we seem to have become experts at holding grudges, cradling fragile egos and unforgiving natures."
... stories (add some stories from your own community here). There are still other stories that teach us about our family identity. Ellis Island stories, proud moment stories, scandalous secret stories, celebration stories, triumph and tragedy stories, new love stories, old grudge stories. Christians are more than just our country’s stories. Christians are more than our family’s stories. Christians have the “greatest story ever told.” We have the story of Adam and Eve. We have the story of Abraham ...
... will bring any charge against God's elect? It is God who justifies" (Romans 8:33). That was Paul's number 1 message: God is the one who justifies. Human courts may be fair or unfair. A mother-in-law may choose to forgive or hold a grudge forever. International courts may prosecute a criminal dictator but the sentence may be light or execution may be carried off clumsily (Saddam Hussein). God judges perfectly, but that is no comfort to those who see the bumper sticker, "Jesus is coming back and, boy, is he ...
... . It reminds me of the young monk who entered a monastery where everyone had to take a vow of silence. The abbot told the young monk that he would only get to say two words every five years. The young monk knew this would be a challenge but agreed grudgingly. At the end of the first five years the abbot asked him, "What are your two words?" The young monk replied, "Bed hard." At the end of the second five years, the abbot asked him what his two words were this time. The young monk replied, "Food bad." At ...
294. Live Churches
Illustration
Staff
... up with people's names; In dead churches everybody always knows everybody's name. Live churches strongly support world missions; Dead churches keep the money at home! Live churches are full of regular, cheerful givers; Dead churches are full of grudging tippers! Live churches move ahead on prayer and faith; Dead churches work only on sight! Live churches plant daughter churches; Dead churches fear spending the money, time, and talent! Live churches outgrow their Sunday School facilities; Dead churches have ...
295. All Brains and No Belief
Illustration
Hugh Ross
Einstein gave grudging acceptance to "the necessity for a beginning" and eventually, to "the presence of a superior reasoning power," but never did he accept the doctrine of a personal God. Two specific obstacles blocked his way. According to his journal writings, Einstein wrestled with a deeply felt bitterness toward the clergy, toward ...
296. The Ways of the World
Illustration
Dave Roper
... be like them. But more importantly, worldliness is simply pride and selfishness in disguises. It's being resentful when someone snubs us or patronizes us or shows off. It means smarting under every slight, challenging every word spoken against us, cringing when another is preferred before us. Worldliness is harboring grudges, nursing grievance, and wallowing in self-pity. These are the ways in which we are most like the world.
297. That's Not What I Meant
Humor Illustration
... began by saying, "Do you have any GROUNDS?" To which the lady responded, "Why, yes we do, we have about ten acres just north of town." "No, ma'am," the pastor replied, "that's not what I mean. What I mean is do you have....well, do you have a GRUDGE?" "Oh, no," she replied, "but we do have a nice little carport!" "No, ma'am," said the pastor, "that's not what I meant. One more question: Does your husband beat you up?" "Beat me up? Oh, no, I get up before he does just about every morning!" In complete ...
298. Looking with Magic Eyes
Matthew 6:1-4
Illustration
William L. Self
... our culture, although it is terribly needed. We bury the hatchet with people, but then we keep a road map of exactly where we buried it. We put our resentments in cold storage, but we're ready to let them thaw out again whenever we need them. We take grudges down to the lake to drown them, but we remember the location in the water so we can find them again. We take the cancelled note, tear it up and say, "They don't owe us anything anymore," but we hang onto the wastebasket. We talk about forgiveness more ...
... repeated reminding of the people that their ruler was in violation of God’s law may have incited local rebellion (a point made explicit in Josephus’ telling of John the Baptist’s fate — Ant. 18:116-119) Little wonder Herodias “had a grudge” (“eneichen”), or more literally, “had it in for” John the Baptist. Mark’s depiction of Herodias’ death-wish for John would certainly remind his readers of Jezebel’s murderous malice against Elijah (1 kings 19:1-3). While Herodias’ reaction is ...
... repeated reminding of the people that their ruler was in violation of God’s law may have incited local rebellion (a point made explicit in Josephus’ telling of John the Baptist’s fate — Ant. 18:116-119) Little wonder Herodias “had a grudge” (“eneichen”), or more literally, “had it in for” John the Baptist. Mark’s depiction of Herodias’ death-wish for John would certainly remind his readers of Jezebel’s murderous malice against Elijah (1 kings 19:1-3). While Herodias’ reaction is ...