... way we do things, and not running away from our responsibilities. We must work to enhance our relationship with God. If we are "right" with ourselves then we are moving in the proper direction for a complete transformation. Once we have achieved greater self-esteem and have transformed our own personal actions, then we must begin to transform our attitudes and actions toward others. Again, as the golden rule says, we must love our neighbor. Loving our neighbor does not mean we will be good friends with all ...
227. Growing In Grace
1 Cor. 15:9, Eph. 3:8, 1 Tim 1:15, Ps. 34:1
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... again. So too, Paul in his letters both articulates humility and breaks into doxology. Look at his three descriptions of himself quoted above, dating respectively from around A.D. 59, 63, and 64. As the years pass he goes lower; he grows downward! And as his self-esteem sinks, so his rapture of praise and adoration for the God who so wonderfully saved him rises. Undoubtedly, learning to praise God at all times for all that is good is a mark that we are growing in grace. One of my predecessors in my first ...
228. A Wise Husband
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... things (without expecting anything in return). Show her she's the most cherished woman on earth (she'll probably faint the first time you do this). Above all, persevere (you're in this for the long haul). A wise husband builds his mate's self-esteem, realizing that the subtle words and actions of a sinful world constantly assault her sense of self-worth. He remains sensitive to her needs and is always ready to offer his support. Encourage your wife verbally and demonstratively. Words of cheer and praise are ...
... of the inheritance, so I can split this lousy dump." And the rest of the story we know. You can imagine Sonny's reaction when he heard of his brother's plans: "Good-bye and good riddance!" It had been a tough life for Sonny, as far as any self-esteem was concerned. At least when he had gone off to college, he had had a chance to blossom to a certain extent without always being outshone by his younger brother. But back on the farm it was the same old story: Junior, this, Junior, that, always Junior, Junior ...
... and we say, “He seems to be carrying the weight of the world on his shoulders . . .” Before long we even start to see it in his posture. Not as badly as this woman, of course, but we see the shoulders slump and the back bend. Low self-esteem can cause a person to shrink into himself or herself. We tell our children, “Throw your shoulders back and stand proud . . .” But some children seem incapable of doing that and so a kind of life-long deformity of slumping shoulders and, even more tragically, a ...
... , performed a job that diluted his sense of right and wrong and ended in mass executions that slaughtered millions. It’s when we feel like horrible losers that we act like horrible losers. Christians don’t have to become like the ultra secularists who worship self-esteem. Yet, we must realize that humans need a sense of dignity. We’re created with it, and without it we feel, if not act, like we and others are without value. Pulitzer Prize winning author Alice Walker tells that, when she was eight, she ...
... , our workday “families” are as imperfect today as were the families of faith Paul wrote to in the first century. We all still need to offer, not a “discouraging word,” but words of encouragement. Not mindless “atta boy” platitudes and self-esteem lies, but big dabs of royal jelly, the gospel message of love and forgiveness and transfiguration, that makes our faith a real and living power. Instead of a “discouraging word” offer an encouraging word. Encourage someone to step forward alone Or ...
... do God’s bidding. At times this angel appears to be identified with God. The translation “messenger “ suits this account better because Hagar first took this angel to be a human. By speaking directly to her the messenger affirmed Hagar, raising her self-esteem. Then he gave her a divine word in three speeches (vv. 9–12). The angel first instructed Hagar to return to her mistress and submit to her. “Submit” intimates that she would continue to face mistreatment at Sarai’s hands. The messenger ...
... provide a servant who would work in this capacity, but if none were there he certainly would not take up the chore himself, as Jesus does (13:4–5). That which enables Jesus to serve like this may be described in 13:3. Jesus has perfect self-esteem: he knows of God’s love expressed in his origin and destiny and therefore can relinquish human status to become a servant. A variety of themes runs through the narrative. First, foot washing speaks of Jesus’s death. Jesus’s dialogue with Peter (13:6–11 ...
... of Christ’s return (13:11–14). 12:3–8 · Paul begins his discussion of life in the community of believers with an affirmation of his apostolic authority—what follows is not his personal opinion but the will of God. He urges believers to base their self-esteem not on secular values (such as social position, wealth, influence) but on the one faith God has given to every believer (12:3). The identity of Christians is not tied to one’s personal preferences but to faith in Christ. The church is not an ...
... did those men who accompanied him to the mountain 2,000 years ago. 1. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tiB2K_BAyAk. 2. David Allan Hubbard, Beyond Futility (Grand Rapids: William B. Eerdmans Publishing Co.), pp. 39-40. 3. Contributed. Source: C. William Mosley, Emphasis, Nov./Dec. 2000, p. 15. 4. Self-Esteem: The New Reformation (Word Books). 5. Harold C. Warlick, Jr., Conquering Loneliness (Word Books). 6. George E. Sweazey, The Church as Evangelist (San Francisco: Harper & Row).
... of “home sweet home.” Of course, home with his father is also a metaphor for his relationship with God. And the journey he takes and the means he “spends” and “fritters away” is not just his family’s fortune but his own self-esteem, identity, security, and nurture. He sells his “soul” so to speak for a moment of unfulfilling excitement. Like every fleeting thrill, it doesn’t last. As his means deplete, so does his spirit. Depleted and defeated, he returns home, humbled and broken. And ...
Every act of conscious learning requires the willingness to suffer an injury to one's self-esteem. That is why young children, before they are aware of their own self-importance, learn so easily.
Psychological studies establish that by age five a child has formed a fairly definite impression of himself. The same studies reveal that self-esteem is not closely related to social position, family work background, education or any combination of such factors. A young child sees himself from the reflections of those close to him, mainly his parents. How they react to his activities largely determines the self image he builds.
... . As the crowd opened a path and they moved toward Jairus house, someone else was moving toward Jesus. Jairus was so distraught that you can bet he didn't want any interruption. As they moved through the crowd, a woman, a woman desperate for healing moved toward Jesus. Her self esteem was so low, her sense of who she was was so poor that she didn't want to bother Jesus at all. She thought to herself, "If I could only touch the hem of his robe." And why was she so desperate? For all intents and purposes she ...
... Bueno siblings had arrest records. Unfortunately, the article failed to mention that Eddie, who had left his family at the age of thirteen, had led a morally upright life and had never been in trouble with the law. Imagine how that would hurt your self-esteem and your reputation to have your family publicly branded as the biggest crime family in your city? Eddie Bueno was so hurt by the article that he sued the newspaper under a legal precedent called a “false light invasion of privacy.” This is similar ...
... will go forward in a new life, a new direction, and a new way together. Today, I ask each of you to imagine those experiences or issues in your own lives that particularly weigh you down. Have you had past experiences that weigh heavily on your heart? Does your self-esteem suffer from past emotional or physical lashings? Do you feel grudging toward others or angry at the past? Do you feel you don’t know who you are or where your life is going? Close your eyes and ask Jesus to take all of that off of you ...
... an incredible speaker. Jesse speaks in many different settings, and one of those he enjoys the most is school auditoriums — he loves addressing students, particularly those who come from disadvantaged backgrounds, to give them a sense of their own worth, a new self-esteem, and a vision of a better future. Some years ago, he began concluding his speeches by having the youngsters respond to his urgings with a litany of self- affirmation. He would say something or ask some question and the kids would respond ...
... of “flow.” Dr. C noted that whether in individual or group flow, the state positively affected a person’s cardiovascular health, spirituality, and psychological well-being. Flow positively affects balance, happiness, and personal growth, while also raising self-esteem and self-awareness. It’s no wonder that in today’s world, medical professionals study “prayer” as a healing engagement, promoting optimism, serenity, and improved health.[1] When you are truly immersed in prayer, you are in the ...
... God instructing her to back her car out of the garage. She did. Next she decided that the open room in the garage could be made into a place to teach and nurture the neighborhood children. She invited them in, taught them about God and self-esteem, and nurtured their reading and writing abilities. Many years later those young people come back from leading successful lives and proclaim that the difference was in this wonderful woman who backed her car out of the garage and gave her love to kids who needed ...
... will quiet and comfort the most troubled heart. Hannah admitted to Eli that she was a "woman deeply troubled." She was troubled and tormented from without by the taunts of Peninnah. She was tormented from within by her own doubts of her own self-esteem that was being torn down by Peninnah's constant jeers regarding her barrenness. She had strong doubts about herself to the point that she was concerned that people would judge her worthless. She was the victim of jealousy and misunderstanding. But something ...
... an afterglow of influence. And that influence is our heritage. A heritage can be spiritual and take the form of God-fearing habits we've passed along to others. It can be intellectual in the form of education. It can be emotional -- good self-esteem, music appreciation, security. It can be a willful legacy -- discipline! It can be physical -- good looks, health, wise dietary habits. And our legacy can be material -- houses, land, money, and the like. The fourth commandment in Exodus 20:4-6 teaches that the ...
... comes a point in life where we ask: "Was there something I was supposed to do with my life?"5 Kushner writes: "The need for meaning is not a biological need like the need for food and air. Neither is it a psychological need, like the need for acceptance and self esteem. It is a religious need, an ultimate thirst of our souls."6 You and I need to know more than how to make a living. We need to know the meaning of our living, if we're to truly live. We need to know what God has in mind for ...
... we were yet sinners Christ died for us." God sent us Jesus to express the Lord's amazing divine naivet, which loves us so much that sins are overlooked enough for us not to get stuck in defensiveness and guilt, so that we might have the heart, the self-esteem, and the motivation to keep trying and keep growing in our walk with the Lord and our neighbor. Christmas, the birth of Jesus, and the Gospel he came to live and teach is, indeed, good news. It's the result, the fabulous, unbelievable result, of a love ...
... to be anti-human. Jesus always loved people and was incensed when they were prevented from realizing their full and true humanity. 3. Invidious Comparisons. (v. 12) A. Corrosive Envy. Comparison of a person's gifts with others can disrupt relationships. Persons' self-esteem can be damaged if they look at the gifts others have instead of accepting and using the gifts they have. B. Jealous of Position. Often church fights arise because people want positions of power. They resent others who have positions they ...