A Gallup Poll asked Americans what they try to do when they are wronged? Forty-eight percent said they try to forgive; eight percent said they try to get even. In our minds at least, forgiveness outdoes revenge six to one. Forgiveness—what a wonderful idea!

Forgiveness is the oil that lubricates the human machine. Without it, all of life becomes hot and squeaky. Or as my favorite author on the subject Lewis Smedes says, “God has invented forgiveness as a remedy to the past that even He could not change.”

Jesus said, “Forgive and you will be forgiven.” (Luke 6:37) So, if we want to move from the house of hurt and hate to a home of love and grace, we must learn the fine art of forgiveness. Here are some places where we can start.

Forgiveness is first of all an experience. Only the forgive…